In this monologue, the speaker challenges the common belief that marrying for money is immoral. He recounts his own experience of "marrying into money" through a business partnership, where he was in debt and his partner provided capital for property purchases and a training venture, resulting in a £250 million revenue business. He argues that the ethical line is crossed only when one seeks money without offering value—i.e., gold‑digging—whereas a mutually beneficial exchange, whether in a romantic or commercial relationship, is legitimate. The core premise is that money follows value: identify the needs of a wealthy individual (financial, emotional, logistical, or entrepreneurial) and provide the corresponding contribution. He critiques entitlement and “woke” culture that devalues money, emphasizing that money is essential for freedom, family, and philanthropy. The speaker also promotes his mission to improve financial education, offering a free "financial toolkit" and access to courses on multiple income streams and asset building for viewers who comment "toolkit". He invites discussion on the morality of marrying into money and encourages sharing the video.
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How to marry into money. Now, I'm probably going to get a lot of stick for this video, but bear with me because everybody assumes that it's wrong and evil to marry into money or marry someone for their money, and I'm going to challenge that belief right now. So I married into money when I met my business partner. Now, we're not intimate in that way, but I was in debt. I was £50 grand in debt, and we partnered buying properties together, then setting up a property training business. We grew the training business to a quarter of a billion pounds in revenue, uh, and we started that where he put £200 cash in and I put minus £200 in because I had to put it on a credit card. So I married into someone who already had money from a commercial business point of view. Then we bought 20 properties in our first year together, and I married into money with him because he put the deposits down. Then we borrowed money from his mum and his stepdad, and so The first 20, then 50, then 100 of the properties that I bought and owned were all none of my own money down. Therefore, I married into money in business. And there's one reason why my business partner married into me in business when I didn't have any money, and it's the same reason why marrying someone or marrying into wealth is not as bad as everyone says. Now look, if you're a bit like Amber Heard, you know, and if you want to marry someone just for their money so you can clean out their billions, you know, that's gold digging, and I'm not personally a fan of that, though I'm not going to judge anyone. However, someone who has money has needs, and if you find out what those needs are and you meet those needs, you add value to them that they don't get, where they're prepared to be the money person in the relationship. So let's say being a parent to the children full-time. Let's say supporting them, you know, as they're an entrepreneur taking risks. But I know because I've got money, I know that there are needs and wants that I have that aren't money. I don't need to marry into money because I've got money. I have other needs that are more important to me than money because I've sorted my own money out. And if a business partner or a life partner can meet those needs, there's value there, and we become a team. And this is the key to marrying into money— by offering value. Now, by the way, I've never married into money. And in fact, before anyone criticizes us, My wife didn't marry into money because she married or got with me before I had money, um, and she always reminds me of that. But marrying into money, whether it's commercially in business or in a relationship, is about offering value that is equal to the money to the person who has the money. Now, Nick has said money means nothing. Sorry, Nick, that's not true. I love you, I love all my people who comment on my videos, but that's wrong. Money means a lot. If money means nothing, then give it all away, Nick, and have none of it, and let's see how you get on in life. Of course, the things in life like love and family and freedom, they are the things that we value the most, but we need money to be able to get them. To look after our family, we need money. To have freedom, we need money. To be able to give back or start a charity, we need money. So we need to get rid of this nonsense myth that, you know, money isn't important. Money is important. Um, as I think it was Zig Ziglar or Jim Rohn said, money isn't everything, but it's right up there with oxygen. So I don't judge someone if they want to find someone who's got money, because if you think about it, it's quite a smart shortcut. But here's the thing, you need to know what you bring and what you offer, and if you offer nothing, you ain't getting the money. And that's short term. So work out what the person who has money needs, and then can you fulfill those needs in a business? Could it be that you do the work and they put in the money? That's quite common, isn't it? You know, many startup companies, for example Clubhouse, they built the, the platform and they got the investors' money so you could start the business. You could manage the properties, you could manage the business, you could build the software or the app and you create value, and that will attract money. Money always attracts value. This is the thing that the world is forgetting right now, and it makes me a bit crazy, but people think they can work less and earn more, or be more entitled and earn more. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. The government think they can tax us more and it's okay. No, no, no, no, no. The fundamental rule of money is is value exchange. You will get money equal to the value that you provide and offer. So whether it's in a relationship or a business, if you provide value, you will get money. Now you need to be clear on what that value is. There's no point providing value that isn't needed by the client, the business partner, or the potential husband or wife. Christopher is advertising himself as single here. I love it, Christopher. So what value does the millionaire you want to marry, or the millionaire financier that you want to borrow from, or the billionaire investor that you want to invest into your business— what value do they need that you can offer? Find out that value, offer that value, and when you do that, there's nothing wrong with marrying into money. And marrying into money isn't just in a consummate relationship. I'm married to my business partner legally. I'm probably more legally married to him than I am my wife with all the ventures we've got. So I just want to bust this bullshit myth. Money always follows value. It doesn't follow demands and being a diva and entitlement and wokeism and leftism and shouting and screaming and trolling and begging. Money follows value. What you create, what you produce, what you do for people. Now I was taught, always do more than you're paid to do. And don't just do the job you want right now. Don't just do the job you've got right now. Do the job you want. I was taught these fundamental rules of money and people have forgotten that in today's society. In this rather entitled culture. And it needs to frickin' change. But I'm just gonna say this. Yes, some people marry into money, money into marry. Marry into money because they're gold diggers. Whatever, not gonna judge. Don't know any of the history or the past. But you can actually marry into money, find love, and offer really good value and build a great team. You know, as someone who has money, I know that in my relationship there's things that I need that make us a great team. Need support, help in the house, help with the kids. Not saying I don't do any of that stuff, but, you know, I really value that, you know, love and accepting me for who I am and, you know, going with me on the roller coaster of ups and downs of being an entrepreneur. Not trying to change me. You know, all these things I value, I don't need the money from anyone, and I'm quite happy to provide the money. In fact, it makes me feel very good and grateful, but as long as my needs and values are being met. So find out a business partner, a financier, an investor, or a potential suitor, husband or wife, find out their needs and wants and values. And as long as there's some needs and wants and values you want to meet, you'd like to meet, go for it and let them chuck the money at you. Nothing wrong with that. So let me know what you think about that in the comments. I'm sure I'm gonna get a freaking backlash for this. Rob said it's okay to marry into money. Well, if they actually watch the video, they might learn something. So hit the share button. And by the way, I'm on a mission daily to help people get better financial education and knowledge, and I'm going to bring a gift to you today. So if you type toolkit into the comments, do that right now, just the word toolkit, I'm going to give you a financial toolkit completely for free. So we're in this cost of living crisis, the soaring cost of inflation and food and energy and all that stuff, and it's a bit scary for a lot of people. So I wrote a deep dive article for mainstream media publication on up to 30 ways of saving up to half your salary in costs. If you write toolkit in the comments, I'm going to give you that completely for free. I've also got 2 courses, 2 keynote speech courses I did that are recorded on how to create multiple streams of income and how to build assets. If you type toolkit, toolkit in the comments, then, um, you're also going to get access to that. You'll also get access to weekly money resources from me and entrepreneur-type resources to start and scale a business and to not just survive, uh, survive but thrive in this cost of living crisis. My mission, my life mission, I've been doing it for 16 years, I want to do it for another 50 plus, is to help as many people on this planet get better financial education and knowledge. Because the education and knowledge is schools, I don't believe prepares you for the real world, and that's what I want to do. So just write 'toolkit' in the comments. What I'll do is myself or one of my, um, team will reply to you, give you access to the link. You just need to put your email address in, then you're going to get the weekly email, you're going to get access to the digital immediate downloads and video courses, uh, and that also means we can stay in touch in case I get banned from social media, which, let's be honest, it's possible. So let me know what you think. Is it okay to marry into money, or is it completely wrong? What did you think of my context, um, and explaining it a bit more? And please hit the share button because you can do your bit too. I'm trying to do my bit, right? Toolkit in the comments, I'll give you loads of resources for better financial education and knowledge to make some money, um, but you can help me by hitting the share button. Let's get the discussion going. Is it okay to marry into money, or is it just an absolute no-go? And like I said, you can marry into money not just by consummating the relationship but in a business partnership, or an investor, or a lender, and essentially you offer value, they will want to bring the money to the table. And I think if you offer value in a, you know, an intimate relationship, your marriage, you offer really good value, and your partner, their value is money, among other things of course, but money, I don't see anything wrong with that at all. In fact, you can make a great team if they bring the money and the business and the entrepreneurship, and you bring all the other things that are useful to you and useful to them, you can actually make a great team. So Agnes has said, did I miss how to marry into money? Quick, I'll give you the quick, um, soundbite. Find out what's most important to the person with money, meet those values and needs, and they will want to consummate with you commercially or intimately. There you go, that's the secret. I can't wait for the backlash. Bring it on. Bring it on! Hit the share button. Remember, if you don't risk anything, you risk everything. And just put toolkit in the comments for some free financial resources from me to you.
