Shame, Self loathing & Money

Shame, self-loathing, and money. I felt intense shame around money probably until I was about 30 years old. I became a millionaire just before my 31st birthday, and the shame and loathing I felt around money my whole life didn't go away, but it made it a lot better. You know, they say money isn't everything. Well, it is when you haven't got any. And I want to share a story about my own shame around money and self-loathing, because a lot of people don't know this about me, and I think it could really help you. Because really, it's the story we tell ourselves about money that has a big impact on whether we make any. And it's the environment that we were raised in and whether money was abundant or scarce. And, you know, our formative years growing up and our experiences with money which shape, you know, how the relationship we have with money. You know, money makes a brilliant servant but a terrible master. And I think that's worth remembering. So when I was in my early 20s, I was dating this girl and I really liked her. And I was so broke I couldn't even afford one dinner. Like, I couldn't even afford afford mine or hers. I couldn't even go on a date with her and, and have nothing and let her eat and pay for hers and not have anything because I couldn't even afford half a dinner. And, um, I didn't tell her for ages. I just avoided going out with her and just, you know, went to my— came to mine or, or whatever. And then one day I opened up to her and I said, look, you know, I'm struggling financially and I felt deep intense shame when I did that. And she said, "Look, don't worry, you know, I earn good money. I can pay for everything." And that just doubled down on the shame and the self-loathing. I understand maybe some people would like to hear that, but you know, as a man, you know, who's supposed to have something about him, that just made the self-loathing and the shame worse. But, you know, I wanted to be able to do things with her. So I remember she took me to Ireland on like a, you know, weekend trip away and she bought everything and paid for everything. And for maybe 6 months of us dating, she paid for everything and I hated it. I hated it. And I felt such deep, intense shame and self-loathing that I was broke and failing. And she seemed to enjoy it, I think. I don't know why, but anyway, so the relationship didn't work out. And I started my own business. And fast forward to now, I've done more than a quarter of a billion in revenue sales. And things are much better. And about 9 months, I think, after us splitting up, I remember walking to a house with an envelope and posting a check in her letterbox, and I'd worked out all the money she'd spent on me. It was a good few grand, and because I'd done all right and made a bit of money, I wrote her a check. She bloody cashed it, and then afterwards later said, oh, I realize now that the relationship is over, um, and, uh, you know, we didn't talk about it anymore. But to me, I had a debt to her. I actually didn't. She was generous. And she didn't, she was just generous. But I had a debt to her because I wasn't self-sustainable. And I felt such shame and such self-loathing and hatred for myself for not even being able to go out and pay for a date for a girl. And actually that was a really good thing now because like, for example, I went out to a lovely restaurant just recently, and tiny sliver of sushi is like £9, and if you just have the starters, it's like £300. And I just felt such great gratitude that I can afford to do this. And if any of you ever know me or meet me, I'm always the guy paying for the dinner for everyone. Very difficult to buy me dinner because of that formative experience. And I don't feel the shame and the loathing anymore because I'm financially well off. And I've earned it. I didn't get given it. I've earned it. And so much so, I was impelled— is that a word? Impelled? Compelled to pay a debt that wasn't even mine. So if you have any shame or guilt or loathing around money, the best way to get over that is to make some. The best way to solve most of your problems is to be good financially. Because there's too many people saying that money doesn't matter, money doesn't make you happy. Well, maybe you'd love to take your family abroad. You know, your aging parents, you'd love to give them some great experiences before they pass away. Well, that costs a lot of fucking money. Or maybe if someone you know is ill, you can pay for their treatment immediately. Or maybe you want to be able to see your kids all the time and therefore not work all the time, and that costs a lot of money. And people are so lefty and wokey and inaccurate about the reality of the importance of money. Money is the tool we've universally agreed exchanges value. Money is the single most important tool you're ever going to use in your life. And by the way, people say, oh no, no, any tools for health is more important. But money buys the tools for health. So hopefully me sharing with you my, um, shame and loathing— and by the way, I have much higher self-worth now. I still have my own personal issues, we all do, but There's nothing like being wealthy for your self-worth. It's one of the best things to build your self-worth up is to earn well, learn while you earn, know that you're valuable, know that you can give freely without asking for it back, and you can, you know, you can be valuable to your society, to your family. And this is actually why I have the Moneymaker Summit event, to help you make, manage, multiply, and master money. So give me a yes in the comments if you'd like to make a lot more money, and not necessarily just for greed, but for contribution, to be able to do more, be more, have more, get a greater, fuller life experience. You know, I've got to go abroad, and I'm fortunate that I can afford the business class. And you know, that means I get a night's sleep, means I'm fresh the next day. It's quicker, it's easier, it's convenient. Money buys speed, money buys convenience. And by the way, I won't post about it on social media and brag because those people Probably got it free with their air miles or using clients' money to do it. But the point is money reduces friction and increases speed. So give me a yes in the comments if you'd like to be better off financially, make, manage, multiply money, build multiple streams of recurring income, get your expenses down, your cash flow up, your earning power up, get your tax bill down, learn how to invest in assets that pay you. Okay, so for all of you that are saying yes in the comments or thinking yes, I recommend you join the Moneymaker Summit. Got 2 new dates for 2025, and I've managed to get 1 billionaire and 1 nearly a billionaire to keynote speech, speak at each one, and 6 of my best multimillionaire friends who've been doing this decades to help you start a business, scale a business, build multiple streams of income, get your tax bill down and your income streams up. And as it's New Year and as it's my birthday really soon, really, really soon— thank you, I like Patek Philippe in case you're thinking of buying me anything— I want to celebrate with you. So I'm going to subsidize 15 of you. My charitable foundation will pay for venue, speakers, everything. You just have to get there. And then if you're not in one of the first 15, just pay a small upgrade, less than £100, for the special VIP and super VIP tickets, which I'll explain in a moment. So you're gonna have to go quick right now if you want to be in one of those first 15. I can see quite a lot of you messaging yes. So the link is robmoore.live/money. Simple as that. robmoore.live/money. I can see Simon has said yes, Ian has said yes, Mark has said yes. So go on over right now to robmoore.life/money. If you feel guilt, shame, pain, self-loathing around not having enough money, and whether that's from you, your parents, your environment, or whatever, Moneymaker Summit is definitely the place to go. Because it's not just the strategies and tactics of making money. I mean, it is that. You know, I'll teach you the 8 stages of going from zero to millionaire. I'll teach you my 5-step framework of going from 6 to 7 figures. But it's also the mindset, the emotion set, dealing with your money emotions. You know, knowing how to keep going in uncertain times, dealing with critics and haters, managing those emotions that erode your wealth, short-termism, not feeling enough. You know, a lot of people can make quite good money but they just squander it all. You actually don't have to earn millions and millions and millions to make good money. You just have to keep more than you spend. And what a lot of people do is have lifestyle creep, whereas they earn more, they spend more because they have guilt. So they just give it all away unconsciously. This is common. They have a fear of success. They have self-sabotage. This is all common. So we have bonus money mindset sessions in each morning hosted by different millionaires. To teach you the mindset and the emotion set of money as well as the skill set of money. So if you go to robmoore.live/money, I'm celebrating my birthday, I'm celebrating the new year with you. I'm donating tickets from my foundation to you. You just have to get there. And then if you just pay a small upgrade, you can get the VIP tickets, dinner with the millionaires. One of the tickets enables you to have dinner with all the millionaires and about 30 other peers. You get the How to Raise Money 15-module masterclass online completely for free. I've created this online so I can give it away because it's online. It doesn't cost me to give it away. But people always say to me, Rob, this is all fine, but I don't have much money. Well, I didn't. I was £50 grand in debt when I started, so I know the feeling. I've been there. And actually, raising money isn't your biggest problem. That's why I've put this 15-hour How to Raise Money masterclass in with the special VIP upgrade ticket. Just to be clear, you need to go to the link robmoore.live/money, put your details in, your personal phone number. This is important because you're not actually in until you confirm with my team. They're on hand to give you— if you want dates, details, locations, information, it's all on the page, robmoore.live/money. I'm looking forward to helping you hit all your financial goals in 2025. My mission is to help as many people on this planet get better financial knowledge. And I'm going to do this for another 50 years. I've been doing it for 20, and I know I can help you because I've overcome my own shame and self-loathing. Couldn't even afford to go out on a date, hated it. Paid my ex back, probably paid her interest and inflation on top, but that was a cathartic moment for me to release a lot of that emotional baggage. And I can tell you, of all the things I've done in my life, what gives me one of the greatest sense of self-worth is the net worth. And self-worth is linked to net worth. Make no mistake. So I'll see you at robmoore.life/money. Really appreciate you. Happy New Year. And remember, if you don't risk anything, you risk everything.