udge: Too Many Divorces in Court 😳

Too many divorces are wrongly ending up in court. This is not from me, this is from a top divorce judge. I've wanted to speak out on this for a long time because I have quite a strong belief about divorces and how they're handled, and it's very emotional and not easy And unfortunately, the legal system is set up to encourage you to go to court, to spend a load of money, and for it to take years to divorce, when in reality this is not best for you or your partner or your children. So I'm so glad a judge has come out, stood up and spoken out about this. Most judges wouldn't do this. This is a very rare thing, and I'm going to report you on the news and have a discussion with you. So according to a top judge, Sir Andrew McFarlane, he's head of family courts in England and Wales, he believes that one-fifth of of divorces, marriage breakups, shouldn't be in the court that they're in. He says they are not a legal issue, they are a relationship issue. Now, he acknowledges that sometimes a divorce is a legal issue and is there for the protection of one or both of the partners and the children. But in a rare public open intervention and discussion, he believes that one-fifth or more of divorces are wrongly in court, should not be in court, should be settled by the partners before court, and are a relationship issue, not a legal issue. Let me quote you what he said: the law provides a structure to resolve the dispute But in the end, it's not a legal issue, it's a relationship problem they have. We are seen at the moment as the first port of call, but we should be the last resort for them where there aren't issues of domestic abuse or protection or safeguarding. My feeling is about 20% of the families who come to the court have a dispute about their children would be better to be served by at least first of all trying to sort the relationship issues in other ways. I think this is brilliant that Sir Andrew McFarlane, head of family courts in England and Wales, has come out and said this. Kudos and hat tip to you, sir, because I've always thought if you end up in court in a separation, the lawyers will win, you will lose, and your partner will lose. You will pay tens or hundreds of thousands, your partner will pay tens or hundreds of thousands, which will affect you and your partner and your children, the lawyers win no matter who wins or loses. And the legal system is set up to drag it out. Here's why. In a divorce case, it is not a per-job rate. I believe it should be a per-job rate. Okay, you want to get divorced, it's $25,000 per partner. That's what it costs. It's a set fee, but it's not. It's an hourly rate. So lawyers, as well as many other contractors, are incentivized to drag it out, to drag it out, to drag it out, to drag it out. If it takes 2 years or 3 years or 5 years or 10 years, the lawyers are rubbing their hands together. And of course, you know, some lawyers would defend that, you know, it's about protecting the children and protecting one or more of the partners. And yes, of course, if there is abuse or neglect or anything like that then the law is there for a reason, and I acknowledge and accept that that's a good thing. But I do think the legal system in many cases is set up wrong because it's not incentivized to get a good job done quickly and fairly. It's incentivized to do a job as long as it can possibly take to drag out the fees. A friend of mine is going through a divorce The other side aren't incentivized to get the divorce done for various reasons, so they're just dragging it out and dragging it out and dragging it out. It's already taken 2 years and it's got virtually nowhere. It will take another 2 or 3 years or more, and the lawyers just make all the money. So let me know what you think, by the way. So, um, I would send you a plea for your benefit And of course, this is easy to say when it's not you and when emotions aren't there, because when emotions are there, or your, your partner has sort of somewhat grown horns or another head, I understand that this is easier in theory than in practice. But everything's easier in theory than in practice. But if you're going through relationship troubles or even a divorce, do your absolute best to not go to court. Have an agreement with your partner that you'll settle it before court and you won't get the lawyers involved. Only at the last minute, at the 7th hour to actually get the agreement signed and done. Because obviously, if you're going to divorce, you've got to have an agreement, and that might need some professional help. But anything else, negotiate between yourselves. Try and stay reasonable. Even if you have an intermediary or you get arbitration, do your absolute, absolute best not to go into courts and not to have a legal fight with a divorce. Same with the business partnership that might partner. Do your absolute best, try and get your ego out of the way. Again, easier in theory than in practice, but look, I'm here to help you, and I really hope that, uh, you don't have to end up in court in a divorce. Any of you that have, you'll know how much time it costs, how much, um, hate and animosity is brewed, how much the lawyers can stir that up, the huge expense So let me know what you think, by the way, in the comments. I just think it's really good that Sir Andrew McFarlane, who is the head of family courts in England and Wales, has actually spoken out about this, because you don't normally hear, um, judges speak out about this, or lawyers. Why would they? Um, but he says that at least 20% of the cases he sees in court shouldn't be in court. They're a relationship issue, not a legal issue. Of course, if there's abuse or neglect or anything like that, And then, of course, the legal system is supposed to be there to help. So, um, I hope this is helpful and useful to you because here's the thing: you work hard to make your money, you work hard to build a life, to build a business, to build a career, and to build a life, and you don't want a divorce stoked on by the lawyers to last years and cost you hundreds of thousands of pounds. And that's where it usually goes. And if you win, the lawyers win. And if you lose, the lawyers win. The lawyers have a win-win. You know, they say no win, no fee. It should be, uh, win-win. I win, you lose, I win. And that is the reality of it. You will save yourself tens or hundreds of thousands of pounds if you can remove your ego and have a logical, um, exchange and negotiation with your partner in any kind of, um, marriage or divorce. And have an agreement with your partner while you're married. Just agree, um, that you won't get lawyers involved if things go wrong, no matter what goes wrong. Um, and by the way, if any of you've got experience in divorce, do let me know. Um, because, you know, I know so many people who've just— one divorce has just absolutely, like, virtually ruined their life and cost them millions. And I'm not just talking about what you've got to give away as your assets. I'd rather give away more of my assets and pay the lawyers less. So don't waste your money on hundreds of thousands of pounds in legal fees. Now here's the thing, the way that you can do this is manage your emotions around money, is to be good at negotiating logically and fairly and creating win-win scenarios around money, and it is to understand money and the value of money and educate yourself around relationships and money. And so if you'd like to do that then why don't you go and join Rob.team? 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I hope not, but I might. I've already had this pact with my wife, and hopefully we would stand to it if things did go that far, which I hope they wouldn't. Um, and ultimately, um, the only winners are the lawyers. And I also know relationships, by the way, that weren't— they were splitting up, but they weren't that acrimonious, and they were getting on. And then the lawyers get involved, and then the lawyers stir the pot and stoke the fire, and the lawyers turn it into a massive fight. I'm not saying all lawyers are necessarily going to do that, can't judge, but I have seen that happen quite a lot. Why? Because that's the lawyer's incentive if they want to make the maximum amount of money. I think certain legal work should be a per-job rate, not an hourly rate, and then the lawyers are incentivized to get it done quicker, not slower. The quicker the lawyer gets it done, the more the lawyer makes. That's how it should be, but it's not at the moment. It's the slower the lawyer gets it gets it done, the more money the lawyer makes. That's a completely backwards system. So I hope you found this information useful. Please do share this, even if you're not yet divorced or you've been divorced or you're not yet with someone. This could be valuable knowledge for you to bank. So save this video, you never know when you might need it, and share it because you never know who you might be helping and giving a gift to by sharing it. And by the way, this can be a partnership and a business relationship, not just an actual, um, physical partner relationship or marriage. And remember, if you want to get better financial education and knowledge and make more money and, um, learn to make, manage, and master money and build recurring income streams and manage your emotions around money and be a money master, that's what rob.team is all about. Go and join rob.team by typing in, in the internet, R-O-B dot T-E-A-M. It's an online digital platform you can join in any country in the world. There is instantly accessible content going back 3 years, hundreds of hours of masterclass courses, Zoom masterminds, live events, blogs and articles and physical resources and interviews and uncut raw, um, censored content we couldn't post on YouTube. You name it, it's all in Rob.team for start and scale-up entrepreneurs. People want to get better financial education and knowledge to develop their career, live a better life, make more money, have freedom. So open up a new page, type in rob.team right now. Go there. If you don't risk anything, you risk everything. Don't get divorced. A top— well, the head of a family, of the family courts in England and Wales, Sir Andrew McFarlane, is saying don't go to court unless there's abuse or neglect, or, you know, it's completely untenable. But he said at least one-fifth of divorces in court are actually not a legal issue. They shouldn't be in court. They're a relationship issue. And I just believe that the legal system is set up for the profit of the lawyers and not for the benefit of the people in the courts— you and I, the ordinary person. I believe lawyers should be paid on a job rate whereby they make more money the quicker they get the deal done and they make less money the longer it takes. But instead it's the other way around, so you don't want to be in court and you don't want to have to have lawyers where possible. Sorry, but that's just the cold hard truth. If there's any lawyers that want to discuss, debate, and disagree with me, by all means. If there's anyone who thinks that it's a bit of a naive fantasy and a delusion for me to say that you shouldn't be going to court and you shouldn't need lawyers and you should be able to do it amicably, let me know in the comments. If any of you have experienced a divorce, however it was for you, share your experience in the comments. As you know, I love to engage with you. 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