484: How To Heal After Heartbreak - My Step-By-Step Process with Sahara Rose

I have up leveled in ways that I could have never imagined. I have truly fallen in love with who I am. I am more open to experiencing the love that is inside of me than ever before. I notice the romance in everyday life. I am channeling poetry. I am more connected to people around me. I've traveled the world for the past few months in Egypt and Dubai and Bali, and I feel this renewed sense of my dharma, my soul's purpose on this planet. So I'm going to be sharing with you in today's episode what my healing journey looked like and how you can heal over heartbreak. Whether it was a short term relationship, a long term marriage, or any other form of heartbreak that you might experience. Because what I've observed is that heartbreak is quite universal. Hi, it's Sahara Rose and welcome back to the Highest Self podcast, a place where we discuss what makes you your soul's highest evolvement. 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This is a place where we dive deep into spiritual topics, from finding our soul's purpose to living our most embodied and sensual lives, and even topics like overcoming major life obstacles such as heartbreak. So wherever you are on your journey, whether you've been listening to this podcast for a long time or it's your first time, I'm so grateful to have you here. And this is a really honest and vulnerable conversation that I'm gonna share with you about my own healing journey through my recent heartbreak. As some of you guys may know, I got divorced a few months ago and the process of doing which has been the ultimate catalyst of my spiritual growth. And I've been doing this podcast for almost seven years now, and this divorce has just taken me to another initiation of my spiritual journey. And I'm so grateful for all of the lessons that it has taught me and more importantly, who I have become as a result. In the past few months, I have up leveled in ways that I could have never imagined. I have truly fallen in love with who I am. I am more open to experiencing the love that is inside of me than ever before. I notice the romance in everyday life. I am channeling poetry. I am more connected to people around me. I've traveled the world for the past few months in Egypt and Dubai and Bali. And I feel this renewed sense of my dharma, my soul's purpose on this planet. So I'm going to be sharing with you in today's episode what my healing journey looked like and how you can heal over heartbreak, whether it was a short term relationship, a long term marriage, or any other form of heartbreak that you might experience. Because what I've observed is that heartbreak is quite universal and sometimes you have these feelings that you feel like no one else feels this way but me. But the truth is all of us are very deeply connected on an emotional level. And the emotions that you may be experiencing right now are ones that I and many listeners out there have experienced as well. So I'm gonna be sharing with you my journey. And of course, this is not the comprehensive heartbreak guide there. I could do 10,000 episodes on this topic and I will be continuing to share about it, not only on the podcast, but in my next book. But I wanted to, while it's still fresh and new for me now three months out from this, this situation, share with you how I have truly quantum leaped and everyone who sees me is like, you are glowing at another level than I've ever seen you before. And sometimes life needs to sweep the rug underneath your feet to realize that you actually would prefer a sandy beach. And sometimes you don't realize the ways that you have been limiting yourself in that relationship, in that life, in that way of being, until it all crumbles down and you really ask yourself, who am I and what do I care about? So all of these are different contemplations we'll be exploring. And I'll also be sharing with you kind of the step by step tools that I used. So the first step for navigating heartbreak is to process together as a couple what you can. Now this really is going to depend on your relationship and whether you guys are on good enough terms to be speaking or not so. If you are in an abusive situation, a very toxic situation, then I highly advise to just leave to preserve your mental health and well being. However, if you are on speaking terms and are able to have a conversation without really being attacked, then I recommend processing what you can. Because oftentimes we leave those words left unspoken and they can really haunt and torment us for a long time. I noticed for myself after our split, we were able to be so much more honest with each other and share with each other the ways that we were not fully met and also be honest in the ways that we could have shown up in a better way. And it was honestly so beautiful to have these clearing conversations because sometimes when you're in the relationship, you are so focused on preserving the relationship that you're not fully honest with each other. So what I have found, not just in my situation, but universally, is sometimes your most honest and vulnerable. And real conversations happen after you decide to no longer be together because there's no longer any incentive to try to hide any part of yourself and you can fully be open. So whether it is through a therapist or by yourself, again, depending on the situation, I recommend just speaking your truth. And your truth doesn't need to be this like blatant, blunt, harsh thing. Your truth can be wrapped in love, so it can be received by the other person, but it also doesn't need to be watered down. So processing what you can together. And I feel that this really helps you later on because yes, there's always going to be more words left unspoken. And I'll be sharing with you how you can write letters to this person that you never share with them because you're going to have to do some of this healing on your own as well. But while you guys are still in communication, when it's still fresh and you've decided to no longer be together, I recommend really opening up and sharing. You know, here's how I've been feeling, here's what I've been journaling about, here's how I didn't feel met, here's where I felt lonely or I felt unheard, and it can be really valuable feedback to that other person of how they can show up differently in their future relationships and then also for you to receive. And of course it can make us get really defensive to receive this kind of feedback. So knowing that it's ultimately here to serve your highest good, and if the situation is feeling really heated and you're not able to be in the conversation, then removing yourself from which. So this isn't to re traumatize you. But this is while you guys are still on speaking terms to get the juice of what you can and the nectar of the lessons in the relationship. So the second step for healing through heartbreak is to get a therapist. I recommend working both with a couple's therapist as well as your own individual therapist. And they can be the same person depending on your relationship with the therapist. So a couples therapist is really good to be a mediator between the two of you so you can have those trickier conversations that you're not able to have on your own. And oftentimes when you're working with a couples therapist, it gives that person a sense of safety to say something that they just may not feel comfortable to tell you. So a lot of truths can come to the surface and it also prevents it from escalating too much because you have a witness. So I highly recommend before making any radical decisions to go to a couples therapist, because some issues in relationships can be resolved and it doesn't necessarily mean you have to break up or divorce. However, sometimes going to a therapist can bring issues to surface that actually are really big deal breakers for you and are situations that you cannot recover from. So it is helpful to have a third party simultaneously do your own therapy. For me, I love visiting somatic therapists that what the word somatic means is to be in the body. So with the therapists that I go to and any healers that I go to, they always have a somatic approach. So we are feeling our feelings, we're connecting into where do I feel it in my body and we're emoting and expressing it. So if it's a feeling of anger, she will actually guide me to punch a pillow or wring a towel and fully feel and express that emotion. Or if it's tears, she'll invite me to really cry and hug that pillow and let myself soften into my inner child. So for me, having that somatic approach allows me to go into the emotions that I have been neglecting and avoiding. And oftentimes these emotions come from our childhood, these unprocessed emotions that didn't get to fully be lived out. So, for example, with a friend of mine who's a somatic coach, we went back into this. This feeling that I had of just like feeling like something was taken away from me. Like I had this beautiful thing, it was taken away from me. And I went back to when I first felt that. And it was when I was around seven years old, I had this dog and it was like Our family dog. And I loved him so much. But my aunt who was living with us, she moved to Los Angeles and she took the dog with her. And my parents didn't really even want the dog, so they were like, yeah, you can totally take the dog. And she was, you know, doing a lot of the responsibilities for the dog. So again, from a mental level, right, it can make sense. But when I was 7 years old and I came back from camp and my dog was no longer there, it was like the thing that I loved the most in life was taken away from me. And it created this trauma response in me of like, something I love can be taken away at any moment. So I went back to that memory and I let myself just like scream into a pillow and cry and let that inner 7 year old in me grieve. And that lifted so much weight in me now to realize it is safe for me to love. And the things that I love won't be taken away from, from me. So these are things that you can really dive into through a somatic therapist, a somatic coach, and also through your own processes as well. So I highly recommend working with a couple's therapist, your own therapist, and going for a somatic approach to really process any emotions that you may be holding onto. Because let's be real, breakups bring up a lot. There are elements of anger, rage, disgust, but also grief, loneliness, feeling unforgotten, unchosen, feeling unworthy. The fear of, will I ever find someone again? Will I ever find someone who loves me like that again? What if I missed my chance? The overwhelm of dating and oh my God, there's all these people out there and none of them are my type. And it's a miracle to even find someone you want to go on a date with, let alone a relationship with, let alone marry. Like, how does that even happen? Like, I'm speaking from experience of how I have felt through this. So I know many of you have felt the same. And, and it's like a whirlwind because then, and then on the other side, you're like, I feel so much freedom. I feel the sense of joy. I feel like I'm on the other side of this thing. I see my future and I can do all these things I wasn't able to do in the relationship. And there's like simultaneously, like, moments of deep celebration of like, yes, like, I love the new me. I'm falling in love with myself. This is amazing. And then a friend of yours visits and you go back and you tell the breakup story of what happened. And he said this, and I said that, and there you are, back in the trauma again. So I'm gonna weave this into number. Well, number three, I will say somatic approach. But step four is be mindful of how you tell the story. So I'm someone. I have a lot of friends. Like, I probably have, like, 20 best friends, and I keep in touch with people, and community is very important to me. So when this happened, I found myself talking to so many people, and at first, that felt really good of, like, I didn't feel alone, and people are checking in on me, and I'm going through this with other people. But then I would see them, and I would have to retell the story and retell the story and retell the story. And there was a point. I'm just like, I'm so sick of the story, because the story's not me. It's not what happened to me. It's, like, what happened is who I became as a result of the story. And sometimes we keep telling the story to other people, and it's, like, really more for them than it is for us. So be mindful of your energy as you're telling your breakup story. You know, at the beginning, I think it's really helpful to process it and hear other people's reflections, and it may give you a perspective on the situation that you hadn't thought about on your own. I know for myself, especially at the beginning, just like feeling heard was so important, because the first two months of this breakup, I was traveling on my own, so I was in different time zones and literally in countries, in hotel rooms by myself. So being in touch with people and talking about and hearing their feedback and voice, noting with them was really helpful for me to feel connected. However, then coming back to the US and then, like, making the rounds of seeing friends and then telling them the whole story again, that started to feel like, okay, I'm kind of over it. I'm not holding onto this anymore. I want to move forward, and I have to keep going into my past. So knowing where that is for you, because it can become this addiction, maybe, of, like, retelling the story and making that our whole identity. And the thing is, your breakup is not your identity. Like, your breakup is just this moment in time that feels like forever, but it's just a moment in time. Every person on planet Earth has gone through at least one big breakup. And when you can alchemize it into art, it's no longer this, like, victim story, because you are not the victim of your breakup. You are actually the person who was set free. You were set free from a timeline that was not serving you. And if this relationship was meant to work, it would. So don't look at it as something was taken away from me. Don't look at it as I was. You know, whatever the story is that makes it feel like you're the one who lost. Yes, Someone may have lied to you, Someone may have betrayed you. Someone may have treated you in unfair and unjust ways. And that's not okay. And you're so much more than that. And that's not your entire identity, and that's not how you have to introduce yourself for the rest of your life. And sometimes we carry shame around our breakups of, like, now I'm this person. Now I'm the person who dealt with this. I'm the person who dealt with that. And you're not. You're the person who rose above it. You're the person that, when you got the information, you took the action that you needed to take. And every breakup is so different. And sometimes I know some people who maybe go back and forth with their partner of breaking up and getting back together, carry the shame of, like, why didn't I leave them the first time? But the thing is, you just weren't ready to. You just weren't ready to. And that's part of your. Part of your story as well. But you don't have to hold onto that forever. When you were ready to leave, you left. When it was ready to end, it ended. Everything needs to happen in divine timing. So don't look back on the past and wish, why didn't I leave sooner? Or how did I miss these red flags? Or why didn't I see the signs? Or how could it have gone differently? You'll drive yourself crazy trying to come up with these solutions. Because the truth is, you'll never know. You'll never know totally what was going on in that person's mind. And you'll never know totally what could have been differently. Because ultimately, there's one path that has happened, which is the path that has happened. So while, yes, there are times that you can go back into looking at conversations and looking at them in a different way and how you could have responded differently. And there is a healthy time and place for that. But ruminating over the past is when it's too much. So I would say when you're with that coach, when you're with that therapist, that is the time for you to look into maybe Conversations that you could have approached differently, or times that there were red flags that you could have done something about or ways that you are maybe not fully met or showing up for yourself, but if you're constantly going through it and every thought and every memory is that, then you're not gonna be able to see the bigger picture and you're not definitely gonna be able to move forward. And that's what we really need in these breakups. It's not to be stuck in the past and figure it out and have a dissertation in why the breakup happened, but it's to take the gems of it and integrate them within your being and move forward. So if you're finding yourself ruminating, this is when you need a pattern interrupt. And that's gonna be my next point. So the next step is the pattern interrupt. And I believe that this is essential for breakups. Now, this doesn't necessarily have to mean that you traveled for two months like I did. Luckily, I have a business that's online that I have been building for the past 10 plus years because travel has been a huge cornerstone of my life. So, yes, for me, it looked like leaving the apartment and going to Egypt and grieving and mourning and dying in the temples and writing poetry and coming back to life. But I'm also a very mystical person, and that can be what it looks like for you, or it can look like something totally different. A pattern interrupt could also just mean that you go for a week out camping by yourself and surround yourself by nature. A pattern interrupt can look like you completely change up your furniture so your home looks totally different. It could look like changing your schedule in the day so you're not doing the same things. I highly recommend it looking like, taking space from that person because it's very hard to heal from a relationship that you're still involved in. So while the beginning stage was to process what you can, there needs to be a separation stage. And I'm a huge fan of the Clean Break because, you know, I've read books, Conscious Uncoupling and things like that. But in my own journey and my own process of, you know, trying those things and starting with those things, for me, I'm someone that needs to really find what I feel outside of the other person, because I can. I'm such an empath, and I just feel what they're feeling, and then, then I'm like, trying to just, like, process their things for them and, like, understand. And then I'm like, so focused on their journey that I'm not focused on my own. So for me, after, you know, the initial conversations, and there were definitely some ongoing, like, deep conversations that we had, but between them, I wasn't staying in touch. So now when I would, you know, have thoughts and write poetry and downloads, I stopped sending them to him. And instead I would just keep them in my notes or sometimes I would read them to a friend if I really felt like I needed to express it. But taking that space allowed me to really land into how I felt about the situation without the other person involved. And that was so helpful for me to see things from that higher level perspective that I just couldn't see when I'm in that dialogue. Because when you're in that dialogue, you still remain that version of you. So, yes, if you're able to remain in complete, great communication and you're not really trying to move forward and it's okay if it takes a really long time, then yes, maybe you remain in contact the whole time and you process the whole time through it. But what I've observed now, talking to many friends going through breakups is you do need a period of time that you're not communicating to just be able to move on. Now, I totally understand if you have kids and you need to remain in conversation, but the conversation can just be about, you know, the custody and the things that need to be done rather than your emotions or checking in. And I think one of the hardest parts of a breakup is that person was your best friend. And you probably have so many inside jokes and things that remind you of them and, you know, little things that you want to message and text them. But breakups really are like ending an addiction. Your brain is addicted to that person because the level of grief we experience is related to how much that person was in our lives. So when, when you go through the levels of grief, it's like if your barista that you sometimes saw at the coffee shop died, like, you would be sad about it, but you wouldn't, like, have to go to Egypt over it, you know, like, you would be like, oh, that's really sad, and be able to move forward. Now if it's someone that you saw every week, you would be even more sad. If it's someone that you saw at your work every day, even more sad, someone in your family even more sad. Now the person that you lived with shared life with, shared, maybe children with, shared all of these things with the person that you were the most connected to, the most your nervous systems were entwined. That's the biggest grief possible of losing someone. And when you have a breakup, you are losing that person. Even if they're alive, you're losing them in your life. And it really is like grief. Now the difference between grief in the death realm and grief in the breakup realm is grief in the breakup realm. Sometimes you hold onto those more negative emotions. And to me, sometimes it's harder because that person is still living. So you're thinking about the bad times, whereas sometimes when someone passes away, in my experience, I only think about the good times. So there were times that I was like, wow, this feels even harder because instead of thinking about the beautiful years that we had together, I'm so focused on these bad memories. And it does take that reprogramming. So for me, it was helpful to create that space and create that separation. When I would notice, I would want to reach out to write it in my phone or to send it to a friend to break that addiction. And I found after about three weeks, the addiction, you know, they say it's about 21 days. And I found that to be accurate within me too. After about 21 days, I no longer felt the need to reach out or seeing if he messaged or that twine was really dissipated. And I was able to finally see a reality that we weren't in communication. So it's gonna look different for every single person. Do I believe it's like half of the amount of years you spent with that person is gonna be the time to get over them? Absolutely not. Because is it true that someone who's been with their husband for 40 years is gonna take them 20 years to get over their husband? No. Then they would never find love again. And it's been beautiful to see people in their 80s and 90s find love again. And, you know, they had these decades long relationships, and after a year, two years, three years, they find someone again. So I don't believe in that age old antiquity of like, it's gonna take half the time to get over someone. That's not true. And the more you actually feel and you dive into your emotions and you allow yourself to fully process them, the quicker this journey goes. You know, my friends that I see, they're like, holy crap. Like, I'm amazed by how quickly you were able to transmute this. And I wasn't trying to do it quickly. In fact, when I was in my next stage, I'll share with you about, it was just the grieving process. But when I was in my grieving process, which we'll just go into that next step now to grieve to let yourself fully grieve. So when I went to Egypt, I was so sad, you know, I was just heart truly heartbroken. And it was the perfect place to go because Egypt is all about death, you know, it's all about dying and the afterlife and Ma', at, the goddess of justice. And when you die in Egyptian mythology, Ma' at takes your heart on a scale against a feather and weighs. If your heart is lighter or heavier than the feather, and if your heart is lighter than the feather, then that means you don't hold onto a lot of heaviness in your heart and you go forward to the afterlife and the next incarnation. Now, if your heart is heavier than the feather and you're holding on to a lot of anger, shame, guilt, resentment, grief, suffering, then you no longer go on to the next lives. It's not that you go to hell. You just stop living. And seeing those hieroglyphics, they were speaking to me and like, you don't need to be Ma'. At. You don't need to be the one to serve justice. Ma' at will handle it. You just focus on loving yourself and healing your heart and being exactly where you are. And just that trust in the divine and that trust in something greater than me was so healing because it allowed me to soften into knowing that I don't need to figure everything out myself. I don't need to have all the solutions. I don't need to know what's going to happen next and where am I going to move in. Because there are so many questions that come up after, especially a divorce, you know, when there's like a lot of big shifts happening. But it just allowed me to trust into. It's all taken care of. It's always divine. I'm always supported by the seen and unseen beings around me and allowing myself to fully grieve. So I would go to these tombs of like a wife, and I would just grieve for my identity as a wife and let myself just cry and let that go. Tomb of a Mother and grieve my identity of, you know, thinking that I was going to become a mother in the next few years with this person letting that version of me die. And everywhere I went, I would just let a part of me grieve. And I remember telling my friend Allie, who came with me, I was like, I don't know if I'm ever gonna dance again. I don't know if I'm ever gonna like bright colors again. I'm definitely not gonna be the same Sahara that I once was. And I don't know what my audience is gonna think. I don't know how I'm gonna show up on social media. I don't know when I'm gonna show up. I don't even know when, if I can work again. But I'm gonna let myself be here in this death as long as it takes. And not death. So I can rebirth, not die, so I can be the phoenix rising from the ashes right now, but just fully let myself die, period. And not force a smile and not think about the other side and not try to make a happy story around it. Just being in the death portal. And that, to me, was the key. Because when I let myself cry and grieve and not hold onto any version of what this is going to look like later, and being totally okay with all versions of the former me completely being gone, the dancer me, the bright me, I'm okay with it. Whatever God wants me to do next. Spirit, lead me. And there's this beautiful song that I. I continue to listen to and sing called Spirit Lead Me. I'll link it below. And that was just my mantra the whole time. Spirit, lead me. Spirit guide the way. I don't know. I don't know. I could have never imagined this would be my reality. I could have never seen any of this coming. So, spirit, lead me. And I truly believe the fact that I let myself fully die without agenda is why I'm able to be here sharing with you today as a new version of me. Everything about me has shifted. I feel like a different person. My voice is different. I look different. I show up in the world a different way. My mannerisms are different because that version of me no longer exists. And when we can let go of that version of us fully, we create that space for the new version of us to birth through. But you can't simultaneously be holding onto the old you while wishing for the new you. It's not how it works. You need to have the winter and for all of the leaves to shed and to ice. Like right now, I'm here in Austin. It's like an arctic tundra. Everything's iced and cold. But that's necessary for the spring to bloom. You can't hold onto it forever. And we're so attached. We're so attached to our former identities, our relationships, our sense of belonging in another. We think that love can only be experienced through the eyes of another, that we don't want to let go. But the thing is, that love that you experienced when you were with that person was always inside of you. What you were experiencing with that person was the love that you are. It was just amplified through another. And I know for me, the thing that I grieved the most and was the hardest to let go of was that feeling of feeling at home with another. Like, that person that you're in their arms, and you just feel like, I'm home. Wherever I am in the world, in their arms, I'm home. And that was the thing I grieved the most of. Like, wow, I don't have that anymore. Because, yes, I have friends and family, but you don't, like, melt into their arms, you know? And as someone who holds a lot and runs a business and podcasts and all these things, I'm like, wow, I don't have anywhere that I can, like, melt into. And that was the thing that I really needed to grieve. And while I don't have a clear solution to that, I'm letting myself be single this year and find that love within myself. I know that ultimately I am my own home. And that love that I was experiencing through him was the love that was always inside of me. And, yes, sometimes it's easier to feel that love mirrored back when it's through another. And I do believe that love is why we're here and that relationships are our ultimate mirror and catalyst. And I'm a huge romantic. I've been, like, writing, like, now, like, romantic novels and stuff through this experience. So, like, totally, this has made me open my heart more to love. And I know that I can only fully experience that love when I find it within myself, and not from an intellectual place, but from a truly embodied place. So those times when you feel lonely, those times when you feel unchosen, those times when you feel forgotten, those are the times to really give yourself that love that you wish someone else could do. And I notice it in myself and in my friends when we're in those, like, lonely states. It's like you reach for your phone, you reach to see if someone texted you, or you go on a dating app or you go on Instagram, or you. You're reaching to something. And that's the addiction right there. That's the love addiction of, like, give me a hit of that. Good, good. You know, like, get me out of this feeling of feeling so lonely. But when you can really lean into that and breathe into it and let yourself emote it, like, what does it feel like in your body to feel lonely? Where do you feel it in your body? Is it in your heart? Is it in your belly? Is it in your womb? What texture does it feel like? What quality does it have? What sounds does it want to make? And letting yourself just fully emote and express it. Maybe it's like this deep wail of an elder woman who just feels, like, completely lonely and forgotten on top of a hill and that no man will ever meet her. And it's like this, ugh, wail. Or maybe it's this, like, I don't know, like, the scream of, like, I can't take it. Or maybe it's this, like, deep cry of like, again, I can't believe I'm in this. Or maybe it's this anger, this, like, no, I will not be in this situation again. And it might change. But going into that emotion and letting yourself just lying in your bed and feeling it and sounding it and emoting it fully, and you might feel like, well, if I start really feeling that feeling, it will. I'll never get to the end of it because there's so much grief, there's so much anger, there's so much sadness within me. I'll never get to the end. But the thing is, that emotion doesn't want to be felt forever. That emotion is just a warning sign that just something's off, that something needs to be felt. And the truth is, you know, they say we can only feel our emotions up to 90 seconds fully, but to me, I feel like I could feel them a little longer, but letting yourself feel them for however long that you need. So when I do this practice of, like, letting myself feel. So maybe I will, like, scream into a pillow or punch it or just cry, like, my teenage self, like, crying into my pillow or whatever it is. Normally, like, after I would say, like, three minutes, I'm like, okay, Like, I don't really want to feel that thing anymore. I'm. I'm sort of, like, ready to move on. It's just that emotion just wanted to be felt and clarified. And then what I do is I actually muscle test after, like, have I process this emotion fully. So I'll, like, put my two fingers together like this, like a little. Okay. And I will use my thumb to test. So if it's, like, weak, then you know that there's still more to do because your body's not strong. And if it's strong, then, you know, you fully tested it. And there's a whole practice, like, called spiral. And I'll be bringing on a facilitator of that something that I was trained in by him while I was in Bali and it's been such a powerful practice, but really doing that muscle testing on yourself because for me I feel the feelings and then I muscle test and then I see if I've cleared that feeling. And most of the time I have and I'm like, wow, literally in three minutes I cleared like the sadness or the rage or the disgust or the whatever it was and now I feel free and I can move forward and I, I'm just like so much more open hearted and I'm like so grateful and I literally get like lovegasms and joy gasms and blissgasms in my heart and I'm like so grateful to be alive. And I'm like smiling and laughing and it's like coming from this like, holy fuck, we're alive, like genuine space. And I wouldn't have been able to get there had I been holding onto this like rotten fermented energy of the unprocessed emotions. So grief is the ultimate portal to joy. And it's funny because for the past like two years now, I have been slowly writing my next book about joy and it hasn't been coming through. And I would write and then I would read through it. I'm like, this is just too simple, you know, like it can't just be do a joy practice and dance and listen to music and be in community and go in nature and yes, all these things bring us joy. But I'm like, I feel like everyone knows these things, you know, we're not doing them for whatever reason, but like, there's gotta be more. And the book just wasn't hitting. I feel like I wasn't like making a very clear point. And now I see why. Because I needed to go through the depths of grief to know what joy is. There's this very famous poem by Kahlil Gibran of grief and joy. And I'll share a link to it below. It's a stunning piece of poetry and I remember someone giving me his book the Prophet and has that poem in it a few years ago. And my resistance was like, can we just have the joy? I don't want the grief fart like grief. Because I'm someone who used to very much be only in the joy, in the light, in the celebration. And that is part of who I am and part of me was avoiding pain, which I'm gonna go into that too. So I realized that I had this resistance and aversion to pain because to me pain is like the antithesis of what I wanna experience in this lifetime. Like I Wanna experience joy, I wanna experience bliss, I wanna experience celebration. And this is a huge part of my dharma to bring these frequencies into the world. And that's why I'm also majorly stepping into my DJing even more so this year. But you literally can't experience those emotions without the grief, the pain and the suffering. And intellectually, I knew that before. Like, I knew you needed to have both. But I was like, can I, like, create a new reality when I just have the joy part, please? And I was really trying. I was really going for it. It was working for some time. But then God came in and was like, no, we gonna give you the whole range. And I'm very grateful for that. Because what I recognize now from it is that if you just try to be in one emotion, even if that emotion is joy, and you don't experience the opposite pull, then that emotion becomes neutral because it no longer has its opposite pole. So just what you thought was joy just becomes neutral. And then you're no longer actually experiencing joy anymore. So you actually need the pool for the opposite to exist. Because whatever you experience on a day to day will become your neutral. So for me now going into pain, I'm able to experience the pleasure, the release, the gratitude on the other side. And when you're living what is your worst nightmare, you know, and I will share that in the mornings are the hardest. So if you're feeling it in the morning, you wake up and you're like, holy shit, this is my life now. Yes, the mornings are when it all hits. But it's about building yourself back up from that. And thank goddess for that too. Because when you're able to tackle like your deepest pain first thing in the morning, you're unfuck withable for the rest of the day. And then you start to know, how do I build myself back up from there? I'll share with you some. Some specifics of what my practice looked like as well. But I really want to go into this relationship with pain because this is a very important step. So after grief, pain, I know we, we really getting in there. So I realized personally, I was running from pain my entire life. Like many of us are, you know, who wants pain, right? But I realized that if I can choose to go into pain from a safe and conscious place, then it no longer has this hold over me. So I was in Egypt. It was one of our last days there. I had processed and grieved so much. And the hotel that I was staying at had an ice plunge. And I normally do not do the cold plunge. Like, I won't even go into a cold pool if the pool's like 65 degrees. I'm like, too cold for me. Mm. Mm. Can't do it. And I just decided to go into that ice plunge. And as I was in there, I was just telling myself, it's just sensation. It's just sensation. It's just sensation. And I would breathe even deeper and just relax into it, letting my breath get slower and letting my body relax and telling my body it is safe. I'm safe. It's just sensation. And I probably stayed in there for one minute, which to me felt like a lifetime. And then getting out of that cold plunge, tears came streaming down my face. And I just looked in the mirror, and for the first time, I truly understood what self love is. And I just looked in the mirror in my eyes, and I was like, wow, I am so proud of you for the way that you are navigating through this. I love you so much. I will always have your back. You are never alone. I am here for you. I am here to give you your dream life. No one else. I got you. I just looked in the mirror, in my eyes, just telling myself all of the words I wish someone else had spoken to me. Just really looking at myself and telling it to myself and feeling that bliss take over my body. That happens after you leave a painful situation that you're like, oh, not only am I safe, I'm better than I ever have been before. And that, to me was a huge turning point of like, oh, wow. I finally, on a deep, embodied level, understand what self love is. So after that, I started making cold plunges, my practice. And I would seek out places that had them, and I went to them in Bali, all over the place. I would do the cold, hot. I would be in the cold, and then I would go into the hot sun. I would go back into the cold in the hot sun, go back. And I would notice, like, by the third time, the cold was easy. By the third time, I didn't need to tell myself, I'm gonna get through this. It was. I could just be in it. In fact, I looked forward to it because I knew how good I would feel on the other end. And this just became such a huge part of my practice which leads me into from pain. Next step is cold hot therapy. And if you don't have access to a cold plunge, you can take a cold shower. You can just do a cold shower. Do it for a minute, starting, and then as you get better at it you can do two minutes or longer and then switch to hot and then go back to cold. And what it does is it tells your nervous system that even when we are in uncomfortable states, we are safe. And when your body has gone through such a huge shift in temperature, it needs to acclimatize and it becomes stronger. And that's why your immune system gets stronger, your nervous system becomes stronger, your body adapts to big life changes. And that's what life is, that's what heartbreak is. It's a huge life change that you didn't plan, you didn't see coming. And here you are in it. And can you adapt? Because resilience does not mean you build a hard shell around yourself. Resilience means that you are mobile like a rubber band, and you can stretch all the way this way and all the way that way without breaking. And that's what these practices like cold hot therapy help us do. How cold can I be? And how hot can I be? How uncomfortable can I be without breaking? And the more you do this and the more you stretch your limitations physically, the more that you can do it somatically. And then the next time you're in a shitty life situation, you're not like, this is the end. I'm never gonna get through this. I'm dying. My body's falling apart, I can't feel my feet. You're like, oh, it's just sensation, it's just hurt, it's just sadness, it's just anger. Let's be with it now because it will pass. And on the other end, I'm going to feel so much more at home with myself than ever before. And, like, one of the greatest feelings to me is coming out of that cold and being into the hot and feeling the support of the heat. Like, feeling the heat literally hug you and have your back and just engulf you and help you feel just so protected. And it's just such a beautiful reminder that we're always held by the elements, we're always held by the sun. She'll never fail us. And when we're able to go from that cold to the hot and just let ourselves rest, then when we get out of these fights with someone, tricky situations, et cetera, and we're like, back to normal, we can finally exhale. We don't hold onto that. Whereas what most people do is they get into a fight with someone, they hold onto it for the rest of the day. It's like when you get into, like a traffic jam, someone honked at you and they swore at you. And then like the rest of the day, you're feeling that energy. That's not how you want to feel. That was just a moment in time. It's not personal. So when you're able to move from the cold, the challenge, to the hot, it's like that happened in a moment in time. And now here I am, I'm chilling in the sauna. It's all good, but it's also not being in that sauna forever because then that sauna is going to get uncomfortable too. Then it's going to get too hot, and then you're going to need the contrast. You're going to need the cold again. And that's life. We need the pain because that's what allows us to experience the joy. We need the heartbreak because that's what allows us to experience the heart opening. We need to learn to be strong because that allows us to be soft. We cannot be anything that we want to be without the contrast. And that truly is the ultimate medicine of heartbreak. So the next step I'm going to share is to surround yourself by family, friends, and people that you love. Often when we're in a heartbreak, we want to self isolate because we don't want to burden people with our worries and stress. And we feel like we're not high vibes, so why would anyone want to be around us? But it's really important, especially the times that we feel really dark and really low, to surround ourselves by people, even if we're not talking about the thing, but just to know that physically we're not alone. Because when we're going through a breakup, not only are we mourning the loss of the relationship and the loss of that person as our best friend and the loss of our lover, but I think one of the biggest things we're actually mourning is the physical presence of that person, of having someone sit on the couch next to you, sleep in the bed next to you, wake up and drink your coffee next to you. We're so used to just having someone around that when we're alone, it's like, holy crap, my nervous system, my body, like doesn't know what to do. Being on my own. And that can be really jarring. So to even just have someone around, staying with a friend, staying with a family member, just making sure that you're not completely isolated and by yourself. I know for me, when I went to Egypt, it was so beautiful. Two of my friends flew to Egypt to be with me. And that was so helpful because I was processing and going through things with them. But then I noticed, like, I felt bad at a certain. Like, after, like, three days, I was like, I feel bad. I feel like I'm talking too much. And I just, like, got really quiet. And they noticed that I got really quiet. And they're like, sara, it's okay. You can talk. And I'm like, I don't want to bother you guys. Like, you guys are in Egypt, too. Like, I don't want to, like, keep talking about, like, what's going through in my head. And I felt a lot of guilt because a lot of my. My work has been around. I don't want to bother people. And they're like, that's why we're here with you. Like, we're here to process this with you. And I was like, well, I don't want to annoy you guys. And I'm thinking about this constantly because I feel like when you go through a breakup, it's like, especially at the beginning, it's pretty much all you can think about. And I'm like, I don't want to be, like, dictating every thought I have to you guys. And they're like, it's okay. Even if you repeat yourself, it's okay. We're here to listen. And that was so healing, because I noticed I've never allowed myself to truly, like, be vulnerable with friends. I've always been, like, the one who creates the rituals and who brings people together, who sets the vibe, who asks questions. Like, I'm always the one who's, like, making sure everyone's good and setting the energy for everyone else. And I love being that person. But here I was, like, not. I was pretty low vibe, you know, And I felt unworthy of people being around me. When I was low vibe, I was like, why would anyone want to be in my presence? And that was an important thing for me to heal, which I'm still really sitting with, of, like, not playing the role of being the entertainer or being the coach or being the. Whoever you are. And, like, just letting yourself sometimes just be sad, be uninteresting, be a fly on the wall. You don't always need to be, like, adding in. And I'm not saying always be like this, but when you're going through a heartbreak, it's normal to feel like that. So letting yourself be like that and of course, cultivating friendships when you're not in your heartbreak as well. My friends wouldn't have flown to Egypt with me if I was like, wasn't talking to them or hanging out with them. And Building a connection with them for many years before that. These are people. For me, friendships is, like, a very, very high core value of my life. So for me, I'm always checking with people and building memories and, you know, making friendships a priority. So then when I was in a situation like this, I was able to have friends to lean in on. So even if you're not maybe right now going through a breakup, really invest in your friendships, because relationships often come and go, but friendships can really stay in your life forever. And if you are in a heartbreak right now, be friends with other people who are going through heartbreak who are single, because these are the people who you can often have these, like, really deep, honest conversations with. Like, a friend of mine, Anna, who I'm staying with here in Austin, she's also recently single, and we're able to, like, have these conversations that just like, only people single in their 30s would get and, like, noticing our patterns and, like, what's showing up from our. In our teenager self. And it's been really healing to have that. So it doesn't necessarily mean, oh, my God, if I didn't. If I don't have really, really good friends from before, like, I'm screwed. I'm not gonna have friends for this heartbreak, but make for other friends with heartbreaks, too. Post on social media, you know, even under this episode. Comment under this episode on my Instagram, hey, who wants to be heartbreak buddies and, like, talk about what we're moving through and find a friend and reach out, you know, because there's a lot of support that is needed and so many ways, too, that we can learn through supporting other people with their heartbreak. And it's such a beautiful moment to come together. So I would definitely make a step surrounding yourself by friends, family, and making new friends. Now, the step after that, which will sound contradicting, is to be alone. So I noticed in myself, I was the first two weeks with friends all the time, and then I felt this call, like, okay, I really need to be by myself to integrate and process. And the times that I was alone, for example, in the cold plunge and the sauna, I was answering a lot of my own questions that, like, I would immediately speak out with a friend or share a voice note or something. And I'm like, I already have the answers that I'm looking for. Like, I already give myself the best advice. I'm just not giving myself space to hear my own intuition. So if you are someone that's really quick to reach out to someone for advice or surround yourself by People and always have people around or you're in communication with, texting with, Instagramming with. To be alone and listen to your own inner voice. Because when you're alone, you're able to heal things that you honestly couldn't heal with a friend or even a therapist or coach. You can go places that you can only go on your own. Maybe that's like the really ugly whale that you would be too embarrassed to do in front of even your coach. Or maybe it's like, really letting yourself think and go through thoughts that you would have. Just. It would be too much to explain to someone. It's like too many missing links and things going back to different memories or letting yourself journal and be really honest with yourself. Because sometimes that, like, brutal level of honesty we'll only have with ourselves. So letting yourself be alone. You know, when I was in Bali, there were some times, like, the beauty of it is I didn't really. For Bali. I didn't really plan any friends coming, but happened to be different friends were in Bali. So I would see a friend for a day and, like, have a beautiful experience with them and go to the water purification temple. And then the next, like, three days, I wouldn't even see anyone. And I would be like, perfect. This is what God wants me to do. Wants me to be alone. And I would just, like, sit in nature and just, like, look out in the leaves and just be and think and feel and just be with myself. And then I would meet people and be with them, and then. And then I would be alone. And I was never seeking. I was never like, okay, today is a day, you know, unless I felt really low, I wouldn't really make a plan. I would just more so feel how I felt that day. Because when you're going through a breakup, you're going through so many waves and so many different portals. So there are days that you're just gonna want to be more social and feel that energy and that excitement or just feel like you need to be around people. And there are days that you're just gonna wanna be alone. And then sometimes there are times that you wanna be around people, but what you really need is to be alone. So give yourself both, because they both contain their own medicine. And certain things you can really heal through relationship and through community. And certain things you can only really heal through being with yourself. Okay, now let's get into some specific practices that I was doing to help myself heal. So the first thing that I would do is every night, I would write my dream. Because for me, my dreams are the ultimate decoder of how I'm subconsciously feeling. So I would notice. I would have dreams of, you know, family members, like, morphing into my ex. And I would, like, notice, like, what's the relationship between my dad and my ex and how are they related? And there was a lot of healing that was done in the dream realm. So first thing, just writing it down so you're. You bring it into conscious awareness and noticing what are my dreams telling me. The second thing was movement. Exercise. So movement has been a huge part of my life for many years now. But especially the beginning, like, two weeks, I didn't want to exercise. I was like, I just wanted to lie on the couch and cry. But I got myself to continue working out. And every single time, I would feel so much better. I would put on my bad bitch playlist. I have a gym playlist. I'll link that below as well. It's pretty fire. And I'd put on some tay money. I'd put on some 2000s hip hop. And I would just feel so strong after. Because when you're going through a breakup, part of you feel so weak, feels so fragile, feel so vulnerable. And that's a beautiful, tender part of yourself. But you're also a fierce, empowered, resilient person. And physically showing that to yourself through exercising helps you embody that. Because your strength is also your power. It's also your boundaries. It's also your sacred, yes. And your sacred, no. And I think that's what breakups really show us. It's that nuance between here are my boundaries and here's where I'm gonna step foot versus the unconditional love and the compromise and the forgiveness that simultaneously needs to happen. The fire and the water. So for me, exercising, even if I didn't feel like it, when I would go, I would feel so much better just putting on some music and working it out. Going on walks, hot girl walks, hot boy walks. Listening to again, for me, it was mostly music or a podcast or book that was, like, really speaking to how I felt. So I would want to listen to things about breakups, about grief, about, you know, I don't really care at this point what's happening. I didn't have capacity to care about what's happening in the world or how to talk to spirit guides. It just. It's not even in your realm when you're going through a breakup. Like, so if you're listening to this, you probably know what I'm talking about. So those were the Ones I would listen to, but then also giving myself, like, for example, after this episode, I recommend just listening to music for some time and letting yourself just process your own. Like, what did this episode bring up in you? Because it's really easy to cloud our minds with like, the next podcast and the next book and the next thing. And it's like we don't even know how we feel because we're processing so much of like, other people's information. So really sit with, what did you gain from this episode? And just listen to music and let yourself go on a walk and clear it. And that's such a powerful way for it to really anchor down and encode into your being. The next is journaling. So for me, I am constantly journaling and writing down notes on my phone. Like I'm in the car and I'm writing something down. I'm processing because I just get things as they come and every single person is different. Some people really like to do like three pages every day and like writing it with their hands. But for me, I feel like I'm always sort of channeling. So I'm. I have so many notes on my phone of just like revelations that I had and turning into poetry. Turning your pain into poetry has been very alchemizing for me because it's taken like, what is alchemy? Alchemy is turning bronze into gold. And that's what in Egyptian mythology, goddess Isis was all about. So turning that bronze, turning that lower vibration emotion into gold, into poetry, into wisdom. So let's say I would be journaling. Like my journal is just more how I feel and what's showing up. But then naturally a poem would come through from it. And oftentimes I shared those poems, even on social media. And some of the poems are too personal and I don't. But to be able to take something like that and turn it into art to me feels so worthwhile and so rewarding. And it's like, ah, like, even if this is the only reason why I've gone through it, it's worth it. So journaling, writing and transmuting that into art. And it doesn't even need to be poetry. It could be songs. Maybe you write beautiful songs from it, maybe you paint. So maybe you paint your emotions is something I really want to do when I'm settled back into a home again, of just getting the colors that my heart is feeling and painting those colors and painting my expression. Maybe it's sculpting something, sculpting how you feel and sculpting the embodiment of this moment. Maybe it's drawing it, maybe it's weaving baskets through it, and your baskets are weaving in prayer. But art is the ultimate healer. So how can we bring more art into our lives, which takes us naturally into higher vibrational states of being and allows us to get out of the stickiness of the situation and see it again from that bird's eye perspective where it's all perfect and it's all divine. So the next tip I suggest is just being in nature. So if you live in the middle of a city, go to a park, drive to a local national national park, go camping, do something that you're surrounded by nature. Because when we're so in the matrix, there's wi fi and 5G and buildings, and there's like all these structures happening. And it can feel really hard to tune into your soul self when there's just all this noise around you. So going into nature is so decompressing and letting yourself be held by the wisdom of the mountains and the fluidity of the water and the suppleness of the air and the heart of the fire, and letting these elements heal you and taking the lessons that each of these elements have for you, asking, fire, what can you teach me? Air, what wisdom do you have for me? Water, how can you bless me? How can you purify me? You know, every single time I go into the water, I consider it a baptism. I'm purifying the old energy and allowing myself to experience more. I'm literally washing off the old. Also, Watsu water healing is a practice that I did several times, which was beautiful, which is to allow yourself to be held in the water and let yourself go back to the womb of your mother, which we were floating in that water naturally and letting yourself just completely surrender into the water. So working with the elements and being in nature is so healing and helpful. And the last thing I want to share is that you don't have to figure it all out right now. When you're going through a breakup, there are a lot of questions. Where am I going to live? What are we going to do with our things if there's a divorce involved? What are the papers going to say? How am I going to tell my family? What are we going to do with the pets, the kids? There's so much. And our rational mind wants to figure it all out right now because we feel like that's what's going to help us be safe. But the thing is, you're going to change so much. Every single day you're going to show up as a new version of you and your desires, your wants, your needs are just beginning to become unraveled because you've been tied up into this former identity, this former illusion that no longer is. So don't rush the process. There were times that I'm like, okay, I'm signing this lease in la, this building, I'm doing it and then I'm like filling out all the paperwork and then an hour later I'm like, I don't think I want to do this, I think I want to travel. And then they're like, I'm moving to Changu, Bali and like that's happening and I'm going to like get an Airbnb and I book that and then I'm like trying to cancel the Airbnb and I've noticed, I'm like, don't book anything because I'm probably going to want to cancel it. So if possible, let yourself be in this void. As long as you can, let yourself, if you're moving, book short term stays because you don't know if you want to sign a one. You might think you want to sign a one year lease somewhere right now because it feels safe for you to have this. Like, okay, there's so much uncertainty in my life, this one thing is certain. But I'm so grateful I didn't like sign the lease for the first place because I wouldn't even want to live there anymore. And still for now, the next few months, I'm just staying in different Airbnbs. I'm traveling, I'm here in Austin, I'm going to la. Then, you know, I'm doing a lot of my bucket list items right now too, that I have this like space and this freedom. I'm going to Trinidad to dance in the Carnival. Like this has been a lifelong dream of mine. I'm a bucket wine, bucket wine up, can't wait, front line. Then I'm going to Costa rica where I'm DJing at Envision Festival, which has also been a dream of mine and like happened so serendipitously in Bali through this conversation I had with these people who like became my besties and they had a stage in Envision and here I am. And then I'm going to Sedona for this like week long soul adventure that I'm like going really deep into my healing. And then I'm going to be in LA for an Airbnb. And I'm part of me so badly wants to Cling onto, like, oh, my God, I need to find a place. Like, my stuff's in storage. I don't. I have. I literally have one suitcase of belongings and that's it. Like, I was just like, you can keep the furniture, you can keep everything. I need to also remove myself from the material way of living, of like, feeling security from material possessions and homes and having furniture and having this. And I'm like, I am surrendered to the unknown and I'm married to the divine. And wherever spirit leads me, that's where I will go. And it's fucking scary. And so freeing. And I know everyone's situation is different and not everyone's can look like this. And I invite you to really lean into how much of the unknown you can invite in your life because you don't need to make huge, major life decisions right now. You are changing. You are blossoming. The version of you today is gonna be vastly different from the version of you one month from now. Think about where you were a month ago. So let yourself be in this unknown, this cusp, this, like, edge of, like jumping off of a plane where you don't know what's gonna happen. Let yourself be there for as long as you can, because you're gonna find yourself again in life and relationship, in home, instability. Those things are gonna come. Don't worry about it. But this moment right now, this really excitement, unknown, mystical, mysterious moment right now, you don't know when you're ever gonna have that again. And even though it's scary and your ego likes certainty and is trying to push it away, you're gonna look back on these days 1, 2, 5 years from now, and they're gonna be some of the most freeing days of your life. Terrifying, but freeing. And you're gonna look back on them with such a warm heart and so much compassion, love for yourself and everyone I spoke to, they're like, I wish I like, fully let myself be single. And I wasn't worried about who was texting me and my next relationship and what was gonna happen. I wish I let myself fully enjoy it because eight months later I met my husband or five years later, whatever amount of time later and that was coming. But I wish I let myself fully be in that single journey and the excitement and the self love and the wisdom of it all. Because it really is a time that you quantum leap and you metamorphosize and you truly get to know who you are. So I hope this episode was helpful for you. I invite you to share it with anyone you know in your life, navigating heartbreak. This is one that maybe you'll come back to time and time again. So be sure to share it. Share it on social media. It's interesting. I polled my Instagram audience. I'm like, who else is going through heartbreak right now? And it was like, 70%. Yes. I'm like, wow, Astrologically, it's like complete Phoenix rising from the ashes right now. And so many of us, I feel like, who were really strong on our spiritual journeys, especially in 2020, and we were holding space for others and we were like, it's go time. It's like right now we've gone through this dark night of the soul, and we're coming through with just such wiser and more open hearts. So wherever you are on this process right now, it is perfect, it is divine. It is exactly where you need to be. And whatever has been removed from your life was removed for your life from for a reason, because there are such greater levels of alignment, joy, love, and clarity on the other side. So thank you so much for tuning in. I'm so grateful to share this space with you, and I hope to see you on the next episode. If you loved this episode, please leave a review for the podcast on the itunes store. It really helps this episode be seen far and wide. And as a free gift, I will send you my womb meditation. So this is a meditation that you can connect to the wisdom of your womb, your sacred yoni portal, and ask it questions such as, what do I do next? You know, from this heartbreak, where do I move? What's the next decision for me? Is this person right for me? How can I fully heal? So this beautiful meditation practice allows you to listen to your womb, your body's wisdom, and hear her answers. And I'm sending it to you absolutely for free for leaving a review for this podcast. So all you gotta do is head over to the iTunes Store, Apple Podcast, leave a review, take a screenshot before submitting for that review and email it over to me@saharaiamsaharrose.com Again, that's saharaimsaharrose.com and you can find that email in the show notes. Thank you so much for tuning in today and I'll see you on the next one. Namaste Jam.