608: Everything You Want To Know About Twin Flames with Oceana

This is what makes them, like the ultimate conscious relationship, is that we're always, like, worried, are they healing with me? Are they going to grow with me? Yeah, your twin flame is always going to that. You're one at the core, and they will always reflect your healing. It's not something you need to worry about. Whether they're doing the work or how far along you are in your spiritual journey, they're going to meet you in that place. Regardless of how it looks on the outside and what the divine masculine's doing, whether you think he's doing inner work or not. Your twin flame is.

Welcome back to the Highest Self podcast. My name is Sahara Rose, and on this podcast I love to talk about spirituality, matters of the heart, the divine feminine. But make it modern, fun, grounded and relatable so it can actually serve your needs. And if you've been on the spiritual journey, you know that love is gonna get thrown up in there. You know, I was someone that was like, you know, some people have problems with love, but not me. It came to me so easily, and truth be told, it actually did until it didn't. And. And I went on this journey, you know, after I was with my ex husband from the time I was 24 years old till 31, and after an unexpected divorce, thrown into the abyss of sing of learning about myself, my shadows, my intergenerational trauma. And for the first time, I would say it was actually after that journey of my heartbreak that I actually opened my heart more than ever before. And I would say before that I was like, yeah, like, love came easily to me. I didn't really think about it. I was actually more focused on my dharma, my purpose, my career. I feel like spirit, like, gives us, like, certain lessons that are highlighted in our soul's curriculum. So, you know, we have these kind of, like, areas of our lives that it's like, it's going, it's flowing. We're not really focused on that. And then spirit's like, you're going to focus on this now. And so I feel after my divorce, I went into the love school. And I'm so grateful for that experience because if it wasn't for that, I would have never become a love devotee that I am today. I genuinely believe that it put me on the path of being a love goddess and that not depending on being in a relationship, but really honoring love, like capital L, universal love. So I have spent a lot of time, hundreds of hours, contemplating love, learning about, you know, different experiences from twin flames, past life, connections, soulmates Karmic relationships, and then also all of the psychological sides of trauma bonding and, you know, our childhood and how we replicate what we've normalized in relationships and attachment styles. And, you know, I kind of love looking at all of it, both the spirituality and the science. And, you know, I've always heard the concept of twin flames. And, you know, I would say, like, every relationship I was in, I was like, this is my twin flame, you know, but truth be told, I never felt like they were, like, my soul in another person's body because they. I mean, I would have never broken up with them. Right. I'm just so amazing. So I never felt that. But I was like, you're so. I was like, maybe you're my soulmate then. And it's interesting, like, I had, like, different readings, and some people were like, you're not going to meet your twin flame in this lifetime. I was like, okay. And then, you know, other people say, everyone has a twin flame, and some people say, cern. And I just. I didn't really know. Right. And then more recently, I, you know, I'm a spiritual girly. So I was like, maybe this person who I dated over 10 years ago was my twin flame, and I just started going down this rabbit hole. And, no, I don't. I don't think he was. But it actually made me start going into, you know, not. I feel like a lot of us were like, the twin flame thing is just trauma bonding, and we just, like, kind of judge it based on that. I know they made some documentary or whatever on it, but it actually made me realize, like, there is something so magical to the journey of souls coming together and the preparation that it takes. And trut be told, I am so grateful that I have not gone into a relationship before this moment of time. And I know that my spirit guides are so deeply protecting me. And because every single month, I'm having these new initiations and realizations and lessons that I'm like, oh, thank God I didn't meet someone last month, because I would have gone into this limiting belief or hadn't done this level of healing. And truth be told, I think that that happens for the rest of our lives. But I just trust that it's like, a certain level of readiness that we need to hold the kind of relationship that we want. And then when you jump into a relationship simply because, let's be real, as women, we want to love. We want to be loved. We don't want to be alone. It's, like, the hardest thing for us. Like, Biologically. So I'm sure you've seen friends who got out of a big breakup or divorce and then very quickly meet someone and it's all these sparks and fireworks and it feels so amazing. And then a year later, they're really unhappy, right? So if you have been single for a long time, trust that you are being protected. And even if you've gone into some of these, like, karmic maybe loops, trust that they were still lessons your soul needed to prepare you for this big capital L love that. I genuinely believe we are all here to have. And I really feel that we are kind of going into unchartered territories, right? Because, like, our parents, for the most part, we're definitely not living with their twin. I mean, like, maybe like twin enemies, but like, I don't know. That's when flames, though, it could have been quite fiery, but a lot of our parents settled, right? That's just what they saw. So we are going into unchartered territories of, like, someone who really meets us emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, financially. But then when you've never seen it, you're like, am I crazy? Like, am I, like, believing in some Santa Claus thing that doesn't exist? Like, can I actually deeply be met on a soul level? And I feel for a lot of a spiritual woman. We're, like, so used to having to water ourselves down, dim our light, minimize our expression to make these men feel more safe, not intimidated by us. But then you just enter into a relationship where you're not being yourself, and then you're going to end up being resentful. And I have found, as I've shifted these beliefs, for me, it's just been a lot around, you know, surrounding myself by, like, beautiful male friends that I'm like, oh, this exists, right? And then once you have the belief that something can exist, only then it can start to show up into your field. So I feel for a lot of us spiritual women, like, our desire to love is so immense, but then what we see around us is. Is not met, you know, with that same, you know, devotional soul depth. So then we either feel like, okay, if I want to be in a relationship, I kind of gotta, like, jump ship and, you know, play musical chairs and just get with one of these people before it's too late. Or, you know, we might have these list of standards that are, like, impossible to meet because our standards, for the most part, are focused on physical and material and, you know, think the 6, 5 Blue Eye Finance, that kind of thing. And before we drop into this episode, be sure to hit subscribe wherever you're listening to this podcast. That is the best way to stay up to date on the latest episodes. We've got this in video format, so if you're just hearing my voice, be sure to also watch our fabulous outfits on video as well on Spotify, YouTube, or the Apple Store. This is the best way to stay in the flow with future conversations and also allows the podcast to reach more people. So hit subscribe so I can keep vibing with you on all future episodes. Now, let's get into this one. I'm excited to have this conversation because, truth be told, I don't know if I have a twin flame or not. So let's get into it. In this episode, I found this incredible queen on Instagram, and I'm so excited to share her with our audience here. So welcoming Oceana to the highest self podcast. Welcome.

Hey. Hi. It's nice to meet you. And being here with you feels kind of like. It's like a full circle moment, because I actually found you on Instagram last year. I came across you, and the first reel of yours that I found was I don't believe in twin Flames. And I remember watching that reel, and I was like, I'm like, what? She doesn't believe in divine love? I was like, you know, you were saying how, you know, it's a trauma bond and you don't believe in twin flames. And I remember even, like, commenting on it and just kind of sharing the truth about twin flames. And so to be here now with you talking about twin flames is, like, the funniest thing to me.

I love it. I mean, girl, I want to believe. Like, please give us some.

Yeah, yeah.

I want to believe in the light. But, you know, I thought, like, recently when I reached out to you, I was like, you know, I think sometimes the spiritual girlies were like, let's go through. My exes have been my twin flame.

Yeah.

I'm like, I think my one in college, like, that must have been it, because it was a beautiful relationship, right? It was a beautiful relationship. And, you know, it brought me to so much of my Dharma and my path. So I was like, maybe that was my twin flame and he needs to go on his conscious journey. And I've been on it, but I'm just like, I think not. So I'm curious, like, does everyone even have a twin flame?

You know, I love this question because there are so many people in the twin flame community that will tell you that not everyone has a twin flame. And I feel like I'm constantly kind of having this, like, back and forth conversation that, like, no, everybody does actually have a twin flame because it doesn't make any. For starters, it wouldn't make any logical sense if God only created certain people with a twin flame. It wouldn't, like, only certain special people get a twin flame. And then you're just kind of left with nothing, right? That doesn't really make sense. And so I believe and what the teachings of Union teach and my spiritual teacher share, Jeff and Shalia, is that everybody was created with a divine counterpart with a twin flame. And it's not only for special people. Like, I'm married to my twin flame. I'm not special because I'm with my twin flame. It's something that everyone can have. And, you know, everyone, I think that, you know, those that do kind of perpetuate the story that, oh, not everyone has a twin flame. It really, really just comes from, like, separation consciousness. And those that, you know, they don't believe in love or they don't believe that, you know, only they can have that too, you know. And so, yeah, everyone was created with a twin flame. Everyone has one. Everyone's meant to be with them. Is everybody choosing to be with their twin flame at this time? No, not everybody's choosing to be with her twin flame. And that's okay. Everyone's on their own journey. But yes, everybody has a twin flame.

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Everyone. Yeah, everyone's twin flame is on this planet. Those that you know, like babies, of course, like, or like really old people. But everyone's twin flame is here. Like, if you feel that calm and that desire in your heart to be with your twin flame, like your twin flame is here and on this planet and you can attract that and you can have that.

What is the difference between a twin flame and a soulmate?

This is a really good question. I feel like I get this question asked to me all the time on my Instagram. This is my most asked question, is always this, like, what is the difference? So I want to first start out by saying with soulmates, you know, that's the most commonly coined term that we hear all the time that we've grown up. I'm going to find my soulmate. I'm going to attract them, I'm going to be with them. And I first heard that when I was a teenager and I remember hearing that and I just never resonated with that, I was like, it's not because I didn't want divine love or a relationship. I just did not resonate with that. And when I came across the teachings of union, I really started to understand what a soulmate really is. And so for a soulmate, usually it's a relationship. It starts out really hot, really spicy, feels really hot, and then it kind of fizzles out over time, kind of fades away that. That energy, that spark. And the reason is because a soulmate is not someone you were designed and created to be with or not your perfect divine counterpart. So you can usually have more than one. It can be a best friend, it can be an animal, it can be a teacher, could be your kid. It's usually they're like your brothers and sisters in spiritual truth, that's what a soulmate is. Ends up happening when you have a relationship with a soulmate is that you start to recognize that you're not aligned in everything that you desire. So your core values, like the deal breakers, the things that are extremely important to you, that you value deep in your heart, you start to learn that you're not aligned in those things. You start to learn that your lifestyle choices don't align. And soulmates, they won't. They won't align with your dreams and your vision that you have for life. And you won't share a life purpose together. They won't complement you. Something else about a soulmate is that in society, we're taught that it's normal to like, compromise and sacrifice in relationships. And that's what happens in soulmate relationships, is that you're. You're sacrificing and compromising so much of yourself to make the relationship work. And so, yeah, as you go along with a soulmate, like, that's really what it is, is someone that, you know you weren't designed and created to be with. And you're gonna not be aligned in your core values or not gonna be aligned in your dreams, your visions for life. And you're going to find that you're going to hit a wall with them as you try to go deeper with them. So this is like emotionally, sexually, you're going to find that you're going to kind of hit a wall, especially intimately, where you sort of max out on your sexual connection and you can't really expand and go deeper, and the love doesn't expand and grow. It just kind of fizzles out and fades. And with a twin flame, that's your perfect divine counterpart. That's your ultimate lover. So Your twin flame is your greatest teacher, your best friend first before the lover, before the perfect partner. They're these two things. First, your teacher and your best friend. I mean, I feel like it's going to sound like too good to be true when I start talking about it, but they're your perfect divine lovers, and they're really everything that you would ever desire in a partner. Like, they match your deepest core values. They feel like home. They feel familiar to you, more familiar to even your family, your best friends. Like, they feel so incredibly familiar to you. And they are aligned in your lifestyle choices. So the way you want to live your life, your values, the things that you really value, they're going to align with that. So, like, if you, you know, if some of your core values is that you, you know, they take accountability, they don't blame, they support you emotionally, physically, spiritually. Like, whatever your core values are, they're going to match that and they're going to align with that. They, you know, they're. They're everything that you've ever desired in a partner. And really they're here to teach you how to get closer to God, how to get closer to yourself, how to connect with yourself on a deeper level. It's really a spiritual relationship before anything else. But it's also the most ultimate divine romance of a lifetime. And it's something that, yeah, like, I have that married to my twin flame. And it's a really amazing. And you know, you'll find, when you do find your twin flame, that they do, like, they connect with you on these levels that you've always wanted a partner to, you've always wanted somebody to. And I think that in the collective consciousness, everybody feels that they want a partner that is aligned with them, that they share those values, they're in harmony with what they want in life. It's just something that, whether everyone wants to admit it or not, it's something that everybody craves and it's something that everybody desires. And so your twin flame is that they're the perfect divine counterpart created just for you by God. And you do something that I didn't mention, but you do share the same soul blueprint. So your soul is not like split into two different bodies. That's not what that is. It's really like, you can think of it as like the yin and yang with your twin flame. So you are one at the core and you share the same soul blueprint. But you're like two wings of the same bird essentially. So you share the same blueprint, essence and they really complement you. Like the Yin Yang symbol. That's a really good. Like, that symbol is a good representation of twin flames is like the divine feminine and the divine masculine energy. And that's what the twin flames are.

So is it like in every area that you're more in your feminine, they're more in their masculine and vice versa. Like, you're always going to be like, counterparts to each other or is it more that you are similar to each other?

Okay, so that's a good question. So with your twin flame, you. Yeah. Like, one of you is going to be in your divine masculine to divine feminine energy. So for me, I'm a divine feminine at my course, not just my body. Right. But it's energetically and it's, it's not. It doesn't have anything to do with like, the outside body. I think a lot of people get on that. It's. It has nothing to do with the outside. But yeah, it's about relaxing into your feminine and they're into their masculine. And that's where you come together in this dance in harmony. And something that, you know, I used to struggle with, actually, is that I used to hold on to a lot of masculine energy, especially when I was younger. And that was something that I had to learn how to, like, release and like, let go of. I think there's this kind of sort of thing where you have to balance masculine and feminine energy. And like, you may feel that masculine energy, but it's actually just your twin flame. You feel like you're feeling that divine oneness that you share with them, and you can relax into whatever energy that resonates with you most. So whether it's your feminine or whether it's your. Your masculine.

So would it be like, for example, if you're the feminine counterpart, you're into spirituality and arts and music and dance, would they be into those things too? Or would they be into, like, the opposite of those things? Like, they'd be very logical and maybe into building.

Yeah, I love that, like, your twin flame is going to be your perfect compliment. It doesn't really necessarily, I think, because it's kind of super, not superficial, but it doesn't really matter what things they're into on the outside, but it's a matter of how it feels on the inside in your heart. You know, for example, like, I am an artist and I love to dance and I love to sing. And my twin flame, he doesn't, he doesn't like dance, but he's like an artist in his own unique way. So he's like, I consider him like a comedian. Like, he's my own personal comedian. And so that's an art form in my sense. And so. But he compliments everything that I do. And it doesn't necessarily matter like how it looks on the outside with your twin flame, what's going on, whether they like to hike just like you, whether they're an artist just like you, but it's okay. How do they feel on the inside though? Like, go deeper, like, what is, what's there? How does that feel? Like, how do you guys connect? Right? And so whether you do those things or whether you, you dance or you paint, like whatever you're going to do, your twin flame is going to complement that in some way. They may not necessarily like to do the same things as you, but they're going to complement your lifestyle and everything else that you do and do you.

Feel a big part of the twin flame is a shared life purpose, like it being a dharmic relationship.

Yes, yes. That's actually, that's the whole point of coming together with your twin flame. There's literally no point in being with your twin flame unless you want to live out your life purpose together. Like you're meant to do purpose work together. And that's what makes for really, really juicy relationship. That's actually where deep romance blooms from, is from living your life purpose together. Twin flames share a life purpose and they are meant to like, every union has its own, like, gift purpose that they are meant to give to the world. And so when you come together with your twin flame, you're meant to share that and to partner in that and give that gift to the world and do purpose work together. And you don't have to like, wait on your twin flame to live your life purpose. And you know, oh, once we're together, we'll live our life purpose. Like you can live your life purpose now. And that's actually part of attracting your twin flame is living your life purpose, is feeling good, is enjoying life, doing what you love, doing what you know brings you happiness. Like, that's part of attracting your twin flame, is living your life purpose. It's not like, you know, what are you doing on the outside and are you, you know, doing whatever it's about, how are you feeling and following your bliss and giving that gift to the world. And so when you do come to your come together with your twin flame, it's really juicy. And living your life purpose together and creating heaven on earth together through your life purpose, doing purpose work together is really essentially the whole point of being with your twin flame.

Yeah, it's interesting because I want to say, like six or so months after my divorce, I was like in this very deep meditation and I felt the energy of this man, and it felt like he even looked like me. Even like, I feel like he was Persian. And it literally felt like that, like, exactly like my divine counterpart. And that we were here to create this beautiful dharmic mission together. But at the time, he said, you're still not ready for me because you don't trust men. Which was definitely true at that time.

Right.

And then, you know, over a year later, when in my San Pedro ceremonies in Peru, that same person came through and he said, I see myself as a father. Do you see yourself as a mother? And that was actually the code that I still hadn't integrated and embodied within myself. Because, you know, a lot of people become parents and accidentally they're not ready for it or they're just unconscious of it. And for him, he said it's so important for. For both of us to like, be already in father, mother, energy before even meeting each other to co create. And that really sent me deep into this, like, embodying my inner woman, you know, moving from girl to like, like woman, mother, archetype without even having physical children. And so I've, like, different times, like, felt his frequency. But then sometimes I'm like, maybe this is like my fantasy. You know, like, the human mind is so amazing. Like, maybe this is like the thing I'm, like, making up to keep me going.

I'm delusional.

So it's like, how do you. Because I've still never met him. So it's like, so how do you know?

Yeah, so how do you know you've met your twin flame?

I'm curious, like, why do some people meet their twin flame or not? What is the difference of the journeys that one takes to actually unite with their twin flame versus not?

Yeah, so it's a spiritual journey. Everyone has to. You want to meet your twin flame, you got to take the spiritual journey. There's no way around it. And yeah, some people meet their twin flame because they're ready, and that's something that they're calling in. But in order to call in and like, meet your twin flame, you have to take the spiritual journey that it takes to get there. And that was something that, like, I had my spiritual awakening when I was about, like, 17, I think. Like, I was 17 years old, I had my spiritual awakening and I had that call and that desire in my heart to find love. It was like, I'm like, am I crazy? What is this? I feel like there's somebody I don't know, but they're with me like in my heart. Like, I, I can't really explain it. Like, I feel like I know them and I feel them, but I've never met them and I don't know what they look like. And it was, it was like that. And so I just went on my spiritual journey and you know, as I went along, I went through like false twin flames. Got a lot of false twin flames. And as I went along, I realized that, you know, especially with the teachings of union and coming across like Jeff and Shalia on YouTube, I realized that this is, this is much more like I have to learn how to really love myself on a really deep level because this is such a, A, like a high vibrational love to have in your life and to call in. And I think that a lot of people, you know, they want their twin flame. They hear, oh my God, I want my twin flame. Like, they love the sound of that because they want, you know, romance. But it's really important to get clear. Like, okay, why do you want your twin flame? Like, what's the purpose? Why do you, you want your twin flame? But why? Like, what, what's the reason? Because, you know, if you're gonna have your twin flame, you're gonna attract your twin flame into your life. Like, be ready to go on the spiritual journey. Be ready to, you know, you need to have like a good foundational of like, inner work, like a good foundation of inner work to be able to attract that and to sustain that kind of relationship. It's having that foundation of inner work and building that relationship with God is really important when it comes to like attracting and having your twin flame in your life. Because, you know, if you don't have that foundation in your life and you want to call in your twin flame and you're not really clear as to why, like, well, might feel a little bit intense. It might feel, you know, gonna be. You're gonna get triggered, you know, and obviously you're gonna get like triggers and stuff are gonna come up regardless, you know, when you're in a relationship with your twin flame. But, but it's important to get clear why, like, you want to live your life purpose with them or you just want them because you want a warm body next to you. You got to get clear. And so obviously you're meant to be with your twin flame and have that, but you Want to make sure that you're really learning to love yourself on a really deep level. And something that I want to share is that when it comes to attracting your twin flame and sustaining that relationship, having harmonious union with them is. It's about claiming your divinity and recognizing that you're divine. And when you start embodying that and really you start recognizing that you're divine, that's what gets you closer to your twin flame. It's not like anything that you do on the outside. I think there's a. There's, like, a lot of people. You got to do this. You got to be this. You got to make sure you have this together. This is an inner journey. This is like a inside job attracting your twin flame flame. And so really recognizing that you're divine. Like, you know, you could be broke and you have no money. I am divine, right? You. You're in a box. I am divine. Like, it's just seeing that you're divine, no matter what situation that you're in, no matter where you are, loving and accepting yourself for who you are in this moment. And when you claim yourself and you recognize that you're divine, that gets you closer to your twin flame. That helps you attain harmonious union to keep that with them. And that's something that a lot of people struggle with, is seeing their divinity and recognizing that they're divine. And it's actually something that I really like. My teachers, they've always, you know, said this to me, is that it's actually arrogant to not recognize that you're divine, because what you're doing is you're disregarding the truth that God. That God created you as is which. Which is your divine. You're divine, nothing more. And if you deny that, then you're denying the way that God created you. And so it's arrogant to deny that. And so when you start unraveling these parts of yourself where you don't believe that you're divine and that you don't believe you're good enough, and you allow yourself to find deeper peace there, that. That's the thing that helps you get closer to God, because that's what it's about. It's not really actually about your twin flame and wanting twin flame, because you know, you're gonna. You're gonna get them in the end as you go on the journey regardless.

But you think everyone will.

Yeah, that's the goal, right? I mean, my world is.

It's like. It's the goal. But do you think everyone gets there?

Everyone eventually does get there, yes, everyone will eventually. That all twin flames eventually reunite.

So you would say all couples right now that are together are twin flames?

I wouldn't say all couples, no. No. Because, you know, there's a lot of people that are settling in relationships or, you know, staying together because of the kids or staying together because of whatever reason. But not every relationship. Not everyone know. And I can't say whether, you know, they're twin flames or not. That's not my. That's not my job. You know, it's between them and God. But that is the goal actually is for everyone to eventually be with their twin flame. Because the purpose of twin flames on this planet is to create heaven on earth. And that's something that a lot of people want and desire. How beautiful would the world be if everyone was with their twin flame? How beautiful and harmonious the world would be because they're in a healthy relationship where it's not just like, about love and romance, but it's about them getting closer to God and their divinity and really learning to love themselves. Because that's the purpose of the relationship with your twin flame is that they're your perfect, divine mirror, and they're going to mirror to you the relationship that you have with yourself and with God. And if everyone was with their twin flame, they'd be able to go deeper in that with themselves. And twin flames are here to bring heaven on earth to create that it would create. That's like the new earth, essentially, right? The new earth, and we're already living in it. Like, the heaven on earth is not like somewhere else. Like it's here, here, now. And, you know, the whole point is, you know, with your twin flame, you do that, you come together to create your own heaven on earth and then share and expand that with the world. Not keep it to yourself, but share it with the world. And yeah, like, if everyone was reunited with their twin flame, they'd be able to, you know, live their life purpose as one, not separately. Because you're meant to come together to live your life as one, as one unit in every aspect, in every area of your life. Not just a little bit over here, a little bit over here, which is where, like, in a lot of relationships today, it's like the man goes to work and the woman, she goes to work here. Or, you know, they have, like, separate lives in a lot of relationships today. And twin flames, you are meant to live your life as one unit in every area of your life. Like you're. You're there doing it together. As one. And it's. It's beautiful.

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Ooh, love this one, because I've been through quite a few false twin flames actually. So a false twin flame is obviously someone you're not going to be aligned with like, at all. And one of the things about a false twin flame is that it's gonna feel like, yo, yo, they're my twin flame. Like, you're gonna feel like so sure, you're gonna feel like they're it. And. And as you start to go into the relationship, you're going to find that, like, it's hard to go deep with them. Like, they'll try, for example, no matter if you corner them or try to persuade them, they're not going to share their deepest parts of themselves with you, they will not do it. No matter if you corner persuade them, whatever it is, they just will not do it. And they're not going to be aligned with your values. Like your twin flame will what you desire. So, you know, whatever your core values are, they won't be aligned there. They won't share the same life purpose as you and they won't feel like your perfect divine complement. I think that's really, really important. And when you feel insure your heart like, they don't feel like a perfect vibrational match in your heart, I think the most important thing about a false twin flame, like, compared to a true twin flame and a false twin flame is that that with a false twin flame, when you go on your healing journey, your spiritual journey, because this is what the twin flame journey is. As you heal and you start focusing on yourself and you get closer to God and you get closer to peace, your false twin flame, a false twin flame is not going to reflect that. So they won't reflect your healing like your twin flame will. They won't reflect your choices, new choices that you're making. They're not going to reflect that. They won't come closer to you as you heal. They just get further and further and further apart. And that's really one of the biggest signs of a false twin flame is that they will not. They just don't reflect your choices. They're not your perfect divine mirror. So they're not gonna. They're not gonna align with you in that place. They're just gonna get further. And whereas with your true twin flame, they align perfectly with you and they will. Whatever's rising, whatever things happening, they always eventually meet you in that place.

What if a woman is in a situation with someone where she may feel that they're her Twin flame, but they're not as deep in their healing journey as she is. Because women, we tend to dive into this stuff more, you know, earlier on. There are definitely men doing it, just not as many. Right. So how do you know when it's like, this is your twin flame and hold on and be patient and wait for him verse, this is a false twin flame. Look how far apart we are in our consciousness. And I can't be his teacher.

Yeah. So I think that a lot of women, a lot of divine feminines, you know, they kind of focus a lot on like, what's going on with the masculine. Like, is he healing? Is he doing the work? Right. And whether you feel like they're your twin flame or you feel like they're not, you're not sure. There's no way around that. You have to go all the way. You have to love all the way. That's the only way to know is to go all in, to figure that out for yourself with God and, you know, with your twin flame is that whether they're. Whether you're deep in your spiritual journey, your healing journey, you know, your twin flame is going to reflect your healing always. So this is what makes them like the ultimate conscious relationship is that we're always like worried, like, is, you know, in the relationship. Are they healing with me? Are they going to grow with me? Yeah, your twin flame is always going to. That you're one at the core and they will always reflect your healing. It's not something you need to worry about, you know, whether they're doing the work or how far along you are in your spiritual journey. Like they're going to meet you in that place regardless of how it looks on the outside. And you know, what the divine masculine's doing, whether you think he's doing inner work or not. Like your, your twinflame is like, they're. They're healing with you always. They're always healing with you.

I love that so much. And I feel that it is important that he is healing with you. Because I see a lot of us women were so good at getting things off the ground, making things happen. And then we're like, okay, he has all the potential here. So I'll just, you know, play spiritual teacher, life coach, muse, cheerleader, you know, all of the things.

Yeah.

And then I'll get him there, you know, And I've seen that pattern in myself, massively.

Right.

It's control. Yeah. Well, I think it's this. I don't know if this person who's already Found their way on the journey exists.

Yeah.

So most of the straight men I see, you know, just haven't gone as deep. There definitely are some in the conscious community, but then that tends to have its other shadows.

Yeah.

Right. A lot. A lot of polyamory, you know, and just not really wanting to settle with one person in general.

Yeah.

Or just, like, a feminization of men that often happens when they go, like, super deep in their spiritual journey or, like, like always seeking, like, the next medicine journey or the next. It's just. And again, there's shadows to every single community. Right. I'm just very in the spiritual community, so I. Yeah. So it's almost been like, I want someone who matches me in my consciousness. Most of the people who've gone as deep as I have are, like, Mensworth coaches who, you know, has its own set of shadows and almost just feels like we're so similar then, like, what would we even, like, teach each other? I think a lot of women feel that way of, like, yes, I want to be with the conscious, embodied, masculine man.

Yeah.

But it feels like I either got to go with, like, the Muggle man and teach him all the things, but, like, maybe he's embodying spirituality in, like, his daily decisions and his integrity and things like that.

That.

But then he's maybe not done, like, trauma healing work and things like that that we know if we don't do will end up being the detriment of a relationship. Right. So I'm curious your thoughts on that.

It's really important not to put up a wall on how your twin flame is supposed to act and look, and whether they're, you know, you know, doing work or doing yoga or they're a vegan and they're, you know, doing all these conscious things. I think it's really important to relax. And your twin flame, like, like I said, they're going to meet you in that place. And I think a lot of women, you know, they do, especially in the spiritual community, they're like, oh, like, what if he's not doing the work? And, you know, how can I know if he's gonna grow with me? And really, like, what I say to that is, just relax. Like, you can't control how your twin flame's gonna look. Look, you don't get to choose, like, what. Like how they're gonna be, what patterns they're gonna come with. You don't get to choose that. You don't get to choose that. But you do get to, you know, decide, like, in your heart like, what are your values and how, like, what do you want your partner to be like? Because your partner will be like that. Something that I, you know, teach my clients and that the teachings of Union teach is that your twin flame is going to match everything on your love list. So this is a method, this is a tool. And I think this is going to help a lot of women get clearer and help them, like, attract their twin flame. Is that when you have a love list that's going to help you attract your twin flame and get really clear if they are your twin flame, what.

Is a love list?

So a love list, this is gonna sound like you're trying to control and create a partner. I just want you to know it's not. This is not. That's not.

I mean, I'm already mentally doing my own.

It's a really powerful tool. So a love list is when you write down all the things that you desire in a partner. And, you know, it could be anything. Like, the way that, you know, they love you, the way that they carry themselves your values. Put that on your freaking love. Listen, like, the way they are with their sexual energy, you know, whatever it is, are they, you know, an embodied masculine who feels his feelings like, put that on your love list if that's important to you. You know, your love list is part of attracting your twin flame. And the reason why a love list works and a reason why a love list is so powerful is because you already know who your twin flame is in your heart. Heart. Because you were created as one. And so all those things that you feel, all those qualities and aspects that you desire in a partner, like your twin flame, is going to match those things. They're going to match that, and they're going to meet you in that place. And here's the catch, though, about a love list. So this is the catch. Everything that you put on your love list and everything that you desire right in a partner, you have to learn how to embody those things and be those things for yourself first. Like, you have to be those things and treat yourself that way and learn how to become that person for yourself first before you could even attract your twin of lame or be with them. But they will match and align with everything on your love list. Like, some things maybe they would be growing into, right? Like finances. I think that's something a lot of women, they kind of struggle with. They're like, well, what if I'm wealthy and, you know, he's not? How do I deal with that? Like, you know, there will be Things that your twin flame is growing into. And if you've mastered, like, finances, for example, if you're really abundant, then yeah, maybe your twin flame will be in that same energy too. But it's just important to, like, let go of expectations. I think that's really, really important. A lot of women hold expectations and like, like, standards are important. Right? Have your standards, but, like, let go of expectations on how your twin flame is supposed to act, how they're supposed to be. Because you recognize your twin flame from your heart. You recognize who they are deep within your heart. The more that you align with peace, the more that you align with your divine self, the easier it is to recognize your twin flame. And your love list will be a tool to help you recognize them and see them more clearly and yeah. For who they really are. Like, that's your perfect, divine lover.

I have found that, like, you know, for example, I wrote a list, drew a picture, and that's when I, like, a month later, met my ex husband. He really was everything on that list. But then, you know, after seven years, it didn't work. Right.

Yeah.

And so I'm curious if even like, trying to be like, it's this. And that is like using manifestation to try to make something happen as opposed to just like surrendering to God of, like, whoever it's meant to be.

Yeah. So that's the whole point of this journey, is about surrendering. It's not about trying to control the journey. It's not about, you know, trying to control. It is about surrendering. Right. You can create your love list, but I mean, after that, you gotta surrender. But at the end of the day, like, they will match those things. And like I said, some of them they'll be growing into, but you know, you know who your twin flame is in your heart. And this is like, you know, I think sometimes it is part of manifestation. Right. It is a manifestation tool because it's a tool that will help you attract your twin flame if you write your love list. But it's important to get to know yourself because you could put things on there that you're like, well, I don't really align with that. That's not actually who I am. Right. Your twin flame recognizes divine you and you choosing to embody that. And so when you get clear on who you really are, what's really important to you, like, really sit with yourself, like, what. What do you want? Right. Put that on your list. And after you do that, like, yeah, you have to take the journey. You have to relax. And it's going to be a revealing process that you go through with God is revealing. Are they my twin flame? Do they align with me here? Right. You're going to, like, go through this process of revealing whether they're really aligned with you and whether you are in harmony in this place.

Do you find that it's always the journey of you meet your twin flame and then you go through the separation and then you need to do your individual healing and come together, or do some people just meet their twin flames and are together from then on?

Yeah, well, everybody's journey is different. Everybody has a unique twin flame journey, and you're all gonna go through your own challenges. And for me, I didn't, you know, I didn't, like, come together with my twin flame. And then we, like, broke up and come together because it's that pain of.

The separation that most of the content is about.

Yes. It's like, how do I end this pain of being in separation? And yeah, you're. Some people do go through that where they're in these challenges with their twin flame, where, you know, maybe there's a third party or maybe there's. There's, you know, communication blocks or whatever it is. And on the outside, that just seems crazy, right? Like, oh, they don't love me because we're going through this. But the thing that everybody has to realize about twin Flames is that. And this is why a lot of people get triggered about twin flames and why, you know, some people give up on the twin flame journey is because they're going to reflect the relationship that you have with yourself and with God. And so wherever you're not in alignment with love within yourself, right? Wherever you're not choosing love within yourself, they're going to reflect that. And that's why it's important to really have that foundational work that I said inner work of learning to love yourself. But, yeah, some people go through that separation phase and some people don't. But regardless, it's not a matter of, like, whether you do or whether you not whether you don't. You know, it's about, are you loving yourself? Are you choosing to come into union with yourself and with God? And if you are in separation with your twin flame, like, that pain that you feel in your heart, like, that's where you have to. That's where you need to go. That's where you need to look at, because you're not meant to be on this journey and feeling all this pain and feeling all this suffering, that's not. This journey is not about suffering. Like you're going to go through challenges. It's not always going to be easy. I think that's really important is that it isn't always butterflies and rainbows. But this journey is not about you suffering. And so wherever you feel that pain, that's where you have to love yourself. That's where you have to learn how to give yourself what it is that you're seeking from your twin flame. What, what is it that you want from them? Right. You want love, you want romance. Learn how to give that to yourself. Learn how to be that for yourself. Be that with God. At the end of the day, like God's your ultimate lover. Before your twin flame, it's God, you and then your twin flame, your God's your ultimate lover. And so when you start doing that, like you work through that pain of separation, that that's what gets you closer.

Yeah, I've noticed that for a lot of people in the twin flame space, like the pattern is, you know, they meet each other, it's this beautiful love. The man isn't ready for a relationship. A lot of people, the man's married to someone, you know, and the pain of like he can't be with me and then this feeling of not feeling chosen and I wonder how much of that is like that person's just the most heightened experience of love that you have had.

Yeah.

So you're really holding onto it rather than like just choosing your own self worth of. I don't want to be with someone who's not choosing me or waiting for someone to divorce their wife to be with me. But I feel sometimes we just to want, just want love so badly and that's the closest experience that we've had to it. And it is that journey of like capital L love, choosing the, the love for self and trusting that, you know, it only gets better. Like every love always gets deeper. Right. And I feel that holding on might actually be preventing you from like actually meeting your twin flame, which may come from the self worth that you get from being like, no, I'm not going to wait around for someone.

Yeah. When you choose. And this is a huge block, by the way, within the divine feminines that I, even with my clients and you know, divine feminines that come with me is they have these deep blocks of like respecting and valuing themselves and really like committing to themselves on a deep level. And when you commit to yourself, so anywhere you're not committing to yourself in your life, whether that's your life purpose, whether that's, that's you know, feeling your feelings, not honoring yourself. Like, your twin flame will choose you in those places, right? Like they're going to reflect you choosing yourself. They're going to reflect you committing to yourself on a deep level. And when you respect and value yourself as the divine feminine, that brings you close to your twin flame. You don't have to wait to for them to love you and feel like it's not about sitting around and waiting for them. It's about you going out and living your life and feeling good. And that's where you attract your union. That's where you attract your twin flame. But yeah, there are instances where, you know, one twin flame, maybe they are married or maybe, you know, they're. They feel like they're waiting, right. And all of these different things. And on this level, like, I can feel like, oh, I'm disrespecting myself because I'm waiting for my twin flame, or we have a third party situation or whatever it is. But everyone's challenges will be different. Everyone's challenges will be unique. And whatever you're going through with your twin flame, you can overcome that. You can move through that. And this is something that we do with like the mirror exercise in the teachings of Union is utilizing the mirror exercise to heal whatever block that you're experiencing with your twin flame. And when you heal that within yourself and you move through the emotions and the feelings that are arising about what you're experiencing with who you believe is your twin flame, you start to come to a deeper place of peace. You start to relax in who you are. You start to, you know, see results with your twin flame. They come closer to you, they commit to you, they give you all that love that you're desiring because you're learning how to work through the block that you're experiencing with them.

Yeah, I guess it's hard to know because as the feminine, one of our shadows is fantasy. And I see myself going into it. And so it's easy to fantasize is an ideal relationship with someone we've never been in a relationship with, right?

Yeah.

So it's like, that's my twin flame. I know it, I feel it. I've definitely felt that before too. But it's like, because I didn't really know them, right? And then it's like oftentimes you get to know them and it's like all of a sudden, oh, he actually has this and that and that and that. And I feel sometimes men are a lot more logical with that as well. Like, I Feel oftentimes I've noticed, like, women, we can be the love bombers. We can be the one who are like, oh, my God, you're it.

Da, da, da. And the romance flower, right?

And like, why aren't you fully choosing me right now? And if you're not choosing me, you're a fuck boy. Like, I've noticed that we can do that shit, you know? And it's like sometimes the men are. They've probably had this done by different woman before that they're like, I can't jump head first into a relationship with you because you might decide in three months you actually don't like me. And now I've opened my heart again.

You know, that's funny. I used to be like that on my twin flame journey. I would like, oh, my gosh, every man I meet, like, is this my twin flame? Is this my twin flame? Like, I'd go places, I'm like, I think he's my twin flame. Like, my next boyfriend, I'd feel like he was my twin flame and I'd just be like, passion, love, romance, like, give it to me. And feeling all these different things and realizing this feels really bad. Like, you don't actually want to be with me and you're just using me for sex. Like, you know, so that was something I did experience a lot. But yeah, with the Divine feminine, you know, it's not about seeking something outside of yourself to feel good as a woman, to, you know, feel good and to feel that love and romance, but it's really learning how to embody that with yourself. Like, you're. It's about having a state of love and romance with God and like, experiencing that with yourself. And from that place, you get to have that with your twin flame. And then they get to reflect that love and romance that you give yourself. I think this is really important to touch on here. Is that all that love and romance that you desire? Like, they'll give that to you. They'll. You'll. They'll mirror that to you, but you need to first have that with yourself, right? And I think sometimes the divine feminines on the twin flame journey, there's kind of like this pinning energy. Like, you're my twin flame and I need to get you now, like, be with me now. And yeah, some divine masculines do that, but it's a lot with the divine feminine is that pinning energy of like, let me try to get something from you and I want to be with you now, and you're going to give me that love now. And that is extremely like, repelling to attracting your twin flame. They won't come closer to you if you do that. You have to relax and be in that divinity and that love and romance with yourself. Yeah.

My journey has definitely been about really learning and then loving how to be alone. And something that I actually saw in my medicine journey was that no woman in my family ever knew how to be alone. So they were attracted to men who only wanted to be alone. Right?

Yeah.

And you often see that happen of the woman is like, clinging, when are you coming home? Why didn't you call me? You know, and in modern day, like, I see friends are like, why is it? Why doesn't he like my pictures on Instagram anymore? And it's like that, like, wanting more, wanting more. And then obviously staying in relationships because you're afraid of being alone. And so my journey that God has assigned me is like, go so deep into being alone. Like, get to the bottom root of like, any of your fears around being alone, like, and realize that you never really are alone because you're always with God.

Yeah.

You're always with Source. You're always with the mother, you know, and it showed me. It was like all these magical things that have happened in your life that wasn't from a human man making that happen. That was from God.

Yeah.

You know, it's like things that, like, I mean, things as silly as, like, I went to this, like, supposed to go to this festival, Lovers and Friends in Vegas, that was like all these like 2000s R&B hip hop classics. And it got canceled the night before. So I'm in Vegas and it was like, horrible. And then God hooked it up. I went to a Snoop Dogg day party. I went to to see Java, Shanti and Nelly. And I was like backstage with them all for free. Like, it was just such a vibe. And God on the medicine was like, you think a human could have done that for you all in one day? That was me.

I did that.

I was like, daddy. You know, So I feel we, like, often are trying to replicate our relationship with God into another. Right. And like, truly, it's our relationship with God that sets that cornerstone. Like, insert whatever you want to use God, universe, spirit. But to know that we are, are so divinely guided all the time. And something else like, oh, my God, there was this one crush I had a couple years ago. It was so insane and all encompassing because it's like, right after my divorce, I had all this love that I didn't know where to direct it.

Right?

So it was like limerence, you know, when you're like infatuated. I was like a kid in middle school again, you know, and I never ended up even meeting this person in real life, you know, but I was like projecting all my love on them. Then later on I found out he had like a wife and a kid, you know, that I didn't know about from his social media. Anyways, I'm like. But it was, it was like God protected me from actually like meeting this person and trying with this person because it knew that sometimes these things need to be like a fantasy or a muse. But we can't always get what we want.

Right.

I think a lot of us want this thing, but it's not what we need. It's not for our growth. I think most of us, we want to be in relationship right now. What we need need is how to be alone longer. What we need is to self soothe, you know, to self source to, you know, because otherwise you'll just end up in a relationship where you still. No ma. Like, that's the thing about the feminine. It's like no amount of closeness is ever enough for us. We'll always want more and more and more until we're able to like nurture ourselves and tap back into, you know, universal source consciousness. So for people who feel like, like they're at this place, maybe they've interacted with some false twin flames and they're like, I'm ready to like drop what I've been doing. Not continuing to date the same pattern again and again. Like, what do you think are those like final tune ups that happen before the twin flame union?

So before, like meeting your twin flame is, you're going to feel a deep peace within yourself and in your life. I think that's really like key here, is that you just feel lots of peace and joy in yourself and in your life. And you know that like you've chosen to be with your twin flame and now it's God's job to help you get there. Like, you've made the decision and you're firm in that decision and you are moving forward in that decision. I think another really important thing is that you're not attached to who it is, like who it's going to happen with and how you're not attached. Like, it's really like big disclaimer here is you're not attached.

So we have to stop doing the specific person meditation on YouTube. Yes.

Yeah. I mean, if you feel like he's your twin flame, like, obviously follow that feeling Right. Like, follow the feeling, but you have to still be unattached at the same time. You got to be okay with that they could be your twin flame and that they could not be your twin flame. It's like, like, both of them at the same time. And, you know, one thing is that you are choosing to just do what feels good in your life. You know, you've got a good foundation for yourself, and at the same time, you know, the foundational aspect, I think that it's important to, like, like, prepare yourself right, for your twin flame and have a good foundation for inner work. But, like, like, just, like, love and accept where you're at. You don't need to have all these things or do all these things to, like, attract or be with your twin flame. Like, obviously just have the teachings of union. Like, I'm just gonna say that. But loving and accepting where you're at. Like, when I met my twin flame, I didn't even have, like, two pennies to rub together. Like, I was. I was 21. 20, 21. And I did not have two pennies to rub together. And I had a lot of trauma and I was. Yeah, like, I had a lot of baggage, but I still knew, like, I'm so worthy of experiencing love regardless of where I'm at in my life.

And how old was he?

Oh, so we have an age gap. This is. This is fun. We have a 21 year age gap. Wow. Yeah. So we have a big age gap.

How long have you been together now?

We've been together about five, six years.

Okay.

Yeah. And he's. He's 47. I'm 27. And age gaps are really. They're really, like, taboo things still in society. The whole age gap thing, I think it's like, a lot of people get really, like, uncomfortable with it and. Oh, that's weird. And, you know, how does that work? And for me, like, that was definitely. That was a big trigger for me. Like, I knew he was my twin flame. Like, after going through all these false twin flame experiences and, you know, having the Jeff and Schley's book, Twin flames, finding your ultimate lover, and, you know, moving through the feelings and the revealing process, like, I experienced so much contrast that when I met him, Like, I was like, this is, like, me in another body. Like, this is a male version of me. And it was those. That age gap thing, it was a lot of feelings. Like, I felt like, like, is he just with me because I'm a younger woman? Is he just, you know, like, all these different things? You know, around age gap, but I had to heal and I had to move through those feelings to recognize, like, no, it's okay. Like, I'm safe to love. These. These are just triggers. These are just feelings. Like, does it matter if you have an age gap with your twin flame? You can. You can be with your twin flame.

Do you feel like sometimes that obstacle that gets in the way of love is like that thing that you need to overcome? Like, whether it is the woman making more money than the man or. Or someone having kids or, you know, something like that. Do you feel like there's often, like, some big obst.

You're going to have challenges on this journey and you will experience those for sure. But you have to. The key here is that you have to face your greatest fears about love. And that's what the twin flame journey is going to push you into, is facing, like, what my teachers say, the cave of fear. Like, what's your cave of fear? Right? You got to go there. You can kind of like dip your toes in and kind of peek and see what's in there or you can really face it.

It.

But you have to face your deepest fears about love. And when you face those, that's part of getting closer to your twin flame. And so whether it's, you know, you have fears about feeling like you're going to be abandoned or, you know, fears about commitment issues or fears about whatever it is, like, you have to face those things. You have to heal them. Otherwise, like, yeah, it's going to be really hard. You're not going to have fun unless you face things. Those things. But I feel like, you know, every union you have challenges. And those. Those were my challenges. It was the age gap and it was self worth. I struggle a lot with self worth and really, like, respecting and valuing myself as a divine feminine. And I think that was like the key to just like, attracting my twin flame was like this. These massive, like, hurdles. It felt like around just self worth and respecting and valuing myself because I didn't have a. My mom wasn't a good example of, like, a healthy feminine. She was very toxic. I had, like, really abusive parents. Like, it was not fun. And she was very narcissistic, so it was hard to. And I just ended up growing up thinking I had to use, like, my sex appeal to attract a man. I was like, I gotta be sexy. It's gonna attract a man and all these different things and give the. The honey away. Like the goods, right? Give the honey away. Don't let a Man, earn it. Don't let him work for it. I didn't have that mentality. My mom didn't teach me that. And so that was something I had to learn how to master eventually. When as I learned to, you know, I matured and moved through these feelings of like, well, hold on, if I want to attract my divine lover, like, I need to really respect and value myself here and love myself where I don't feel like I matter and like, I'm not good enough. And that instead of giving this, you know, all this beautiful honey to the men, right? Allowing myself to be with myself here in this place. And so. So those were my biggest, like, hurdles, you know, before meeting my twin flame is like, well, I'm worthy enough too, regardless of where I'm at in my life. So what? I'm. I'm poor, I have no money. I'm still worthy of having love, right? And that was me. I was like, I can still have that. I can still be that. You don't have to, like, be a certain way or specific way to attract your twin flame. But, yeah, everyone's going to have these certain, like, challenges that they've got to move through that get them, you know, that final challenge or that final block or whatever before coming into union, you know, with their twin flame.

Yeah, it's exciting once you've arrived there to like, reverse engineer and be like, oh, is this this and that. But when you're in it, you don't know because you could be at the, you know, right before the finish marker. There could be, like, a couple years more of lessons. So who freaking knows? Well, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us. And where can listeners connect with you further?

Instagram. Eternal Devotion. That's where I post a lot. And yeah, you can connect with me there.

Great. Well, thank you so much for sharing with us today.

Thank you so much for having me.

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