Sandi L Boucher explains how people project their opinions onto you, dimming your sense of self-worth. She shares her own decade in domestic abuse after her father died, when she started seeking validation from others instead of trusting her own value. You don't need anyone's approval to matter.
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Foreign. Hi, everybody. My name is Sandy Boucher. I'm Red Thunderbolt, woman of the Loon clan, a proud member of Seine River First Nation in Northern Ontario. And I'm here to expand upon the second of the 12 principles of personal power. Now, as I introduced to you last week, the second principle is pretty straightforward. And here it is. Another's opinion, past or present, is just that it does not in any way diminish your value. Now, this week's message is a personal one, and it can be summed up in three words. Beware the projectors. Now, when I say the word projector, it really helps if you work in an industry where you attend training seminars. The projector I'm talking about sits on the table and, and it shoots the image from the laptop up onto the screen for everyone to see. So what you see is the image that the projector projects. That's what's important. Now, I was raised by an absolutely loving, caring, beautiful set of parents. And my dad was my biggest fan. My dad would tell everyone that I was going to be Prime Minister one day. He was my first projector. Sadly, looking back, I can now say that I was an outgoing, successful young woman, straight A's in school, not because I believed in me, but because I believed in my dad and he believed in me. Unfortunately, at the age of 17, my father passed away. The projector went out, and with no one around to tell me that I was beautiful and intelligent and strong, I suddenly felt invisible. So I made the mistake that way too many people do. Instead of working on believing in myself, I went looking for another projector. When you do that, when you are looking for someone to hand you your value, you are setting yourself up to meet some incredibly scary people. I've always joked around that with that mindset, you could end up with Jack the Ripper. I ended up pretty close. Anyone who follows my career knows I'm a 10 year domestic abuse survivor. From one projector to the next I went, always trying to become the person that they told me I should be, the person they wanted me to be. I was in my 40s before I realized I could be the projector. I could decide who I wanted to be or creator could be the projector and I could become who he designed me to be. Whichever one you prefer is up to you. But stop looking for your value in the hands and the opinions of other people. Why? Because another's opinion, past or present, is just that. It does not in any way diminish your value. By the way, it doesn't increase it either. You're going to be amazing, and you are amazing, whether people are telling you that or not. And if someone new comes into your life, you were amazing before they got there, and you'll be amazing after they leave. In whatever way, your value is a constant, and it's something you need to start believing in. So there you have it, my friends. This week's personal power message. Remember, another's opinion, past or present, is just that it does not in any way diminish your value, because your value is. Is immense. Until next week. I love you. Talk to you soon. Bye. Bye.
