Change is a Four Letter Word

Change is no big deal. To some people, it's the absolute worst thing in the world. To others In Newsflash, if you're going to reconcile, whether it's your personal intimate relationship or a country like Canada, change has to happen. So let's talk about change and whether you consider it a four letter word or not, let's talk about it. Hi everybody. My name is Sandy Boucher. I'm Red Thunderbolt, woman of the Loon clan, a proud member of Seine River First Nation in Treaty 3 Territory in Northern Ontario. And as I promised, this year, we are hardcore focused on reconciliation. You using the reconciliation equation. But before we jump into that, we have to talk about change and how some people embrace it. And some people it's the worst thing that could happen. It makes them very uneasy. Now, one of the things I wanted to share with you this morning is a couple images and some information from one of my favorite seminars, my My Personalities 101 seminar. It's what I got to do last Friday. It was my first full day seminar of the year and I got to work with an amazing group that was really open to learning and understanding how their colleagues and coworkers look at things, especially when it's different from theirs. So just like with any other personality seminar, there are four personality types of in my session, the four types go on a road trip and where they're sitting in the car tells you a lot about their personality. So the first personality type is the driver personality. This is the give me the keys and get out of my way. This is the boss mentality. This personality type loves making decisions quick, fast, not detail oriented. So they're okay with change, especially if they initiate it. And they often do. The next personality type is the navigator sitting next to the driver, usually with the map or the map on their phone. This is the detail oriented person. This person doesn't want quick change, but if they have enough information that can justify the change, they'll be okay with it. Next is the mom personality and her main focus is how people feel. This personality type tends to put themselves last. It doesn't matter if they're unhappy as long as everyone else is. This is the person. When you ask them what they want to do this evening or this weekend, the response is always whatever you want to do. The mom personality doesn't like change at all. They adapt to it very slowly because they want things never to change. These people are going to have a hard time with changing things for reconciliation. And then we have the fun guy personality. The last one who loves change and is all about change and just accepts change as a constant. Not necessarily detail oriented either, but they think change is fun. So what I wanted to focus on today, by the way, which one of those personalities are you? If you're interested that, the Personalities 101 seminar is actually part of my membership. You should definitely check it out. Now, as I mentioned at the beginning of this video, change is required for reconciliation. But change that serves you change for change sake doesn't help anybody. And now what I'm referring to is more our routines. We all have them. You do the same thing every single morning. Or maybe you have the same routine before you go to bed at night or whatever the case may be. But does that routine serve you? Now, recently, over the break, I came face to face with a new routine that I've definitely embraced for 2025. So first off, I'm going to share with you what my old routine was. And we're talking about my morning routine. So first off, I. I haven't used an alarm clock in 15 years. It's never going to change. So I wake up, got to go to the bathroom. Then I'm usually waking up because the cat has announced that it's breakfast time. So I head to the kitchen. I would make breakfast, I would head into my gym to do my morning workout. And then after my workout, I head downstairs, shower, get dressed, make a coffee, and head into my office for the day. Something is tickling my eye. Sorry about that, but the itch is driving me insane. Anyways, then I would get here into the office and start my day. All of that sounds well and good, and 99% of my my routine service, 99% of my to do list, it worked. It worked for me that the one thing that it didn't support is me doing some reading every single day, which I identified as something I want to do, to grow as a speaker, as a facilitator, as in my own personal growth. For whatever reason, this office, this desk, this chair, it just wasn't conducive to reading. And no matter how I tried, it wasn't working. And by the way, I used to have the same struggle with my workout. I would try putting it in in different places during the day and the routine did not work until I put it first thing in the morning. Now I do it every single day and I feel like I'm winning every single day because I already got my workout in by the time I get to my office. So do you see what I mean? Your routine has to fit what you want to do. If you're just doing a routine and it means you're disappointed with yourself every day, change the rout. And that's what happened over the Christmas break. So I have made a promise to myself that I wasn't coming into my office, that I was staying downstairs. I was going to enjoy my break. And if you watched my January 1st video, you would have seen that. I filmed that in my sunroom. I have another computer sitting down there, and that is literally where I spend my Saturday Sunday morning. So the routine on the weekend or over the break was wake up, feed the cat, or go pee, feed the cats, head downstairs to the kitchen, make a coffee, head into my sunroom office, open up my computer, do some things off my to do list, do my reading. And then when the caffeine hit, I would head to the gym, I would do my workout, shower, get ready, and then start my day. And I realized, wait a minute. Not only does that routine allow for creativity, because the books I read always spark new ideas, video ideas, or seminar ideas. So not only is it very supportive of my creativity, but I was getting my reading in and my workout. One guess which routine I followed this morning. Now that I'm back in the office and the work week and work year for 2025 have started, you bet. I started out in my sunroom office. I adjusted the routine to support my goals. So the question is, what kind of routines do you have going on and do they support what you want to accomplish? What is going to make you feel good about yourself? So that's your personal routines. That may be the routine you have with a specific individual in your life. When you contact, like in my case, I have adult children. How do you contact them? When do you contact them? Do you text? Do you call? Do you email? Whatever the case may be, and is it working for you? Maybe you have to change the method. Call instead of text or text instead of call. A lot of our younger people do not like calls out of the blue. We have to respect that. It's not about forcing them to do it our way. That's not reconciliation. Professionally. What are your routines? Are they supporting you? I know. I have a friend that's struggling with their diabetes diagnosis. Change the routine to get in the workout. Trust me, I struggled for the longest time. And by the way, what you do as a workout, you got to find what works for you. The treadmill totally works for me. My brother finds it boring af, so it's not going to work for him. You're not going to do it if it doesn't work for you. But do something. Keep trying until you find something. So personally, what are your routines? Do they support you professionally? What are your routines? Do they support to. And then of course we're going to start talking nationally in Canada, your routines of the way you negotiate or contact or engage with first nation communities. There's some change that's going to happen and if you push back on that, then you're not ready for reconciliation because nothing changes if nothing changes. So I hope that made sense. Food for thought. I hope you take this video and take a minute to sit and look at your routines. Don't be beating yourself up on a regular basis because you didn't get around to that walk again. Change the routine so that fits what you want to do. You're in charge of the routine. You can make it a new one anytime you want. I know my new routine is making me very happy. Until tomorrow. I love you. Take care. Bye. Bye.