Sandi L Boucher walks through a four-step process for handling mistakes: accept what you did, take responsibility, identify what went wrong and what you'd do differently, then extract lessons for next time. She argues this beats self-criticism and living with regret.
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Hi everybody, Sandy Boucher here. I seem to be on a mission this week. Let's see how many different locations I can shoot a video from. I'm at a friend's house today and he's off busy conquering the world. So I thought I'd take a few minutes and send out this video to you. If you've looked at my website www.sandibusche.ca, that's s a n D I B O U C H E R and you click Motivational Seminars I believe you can see that I offer many different seminars and one of the topics or one of the seminars is entitled the Toolbox and it teaches people how to recognize and collect tools in their lives to help them meet and deal with the challenges that come up in our day to day lives. Well, today in my daily inspiration I speak to one of what I consider my most important tools and that's how I deal with mistakes. For lack of a better word. Sometimes we do things and we hope for a certain outcome and it doesn't turn out that way. Now if you in the past I would have beat myself up for taking the action in the first place. My little voice in my head, that self talk we hear about all the time. Yeah, probably would have been pretty negative. Would have called myself a choice name or two. Stupid comes to mind. And after beating myself up and putting myself into a really low place, I really wouldn't have accomplished much. I just don't do that anymore. I still make mistakes. That's a given. But the process is entirely different now. First off, I accept that I did take the action. I take responsibility for whatever I did. Secondly, I tend to look back and try to decipher two things. The things I know for sure that were either definitely wrong or definitely right. And what could I have done differently? What could I have done better? What could I have done slower or faster or whatever the case may be. And with those two lists in mind, I can easily determine what I learn from every action. I learned something the outcome, good or bad, teaches me valuable things I need to know for tomorrow and the days to come. So there really is no need to beat myself up. And there is no need for you to do that either. Bottom line, I live by one simple motto that I would rather attempt something and find out it doesn't work for me positively than to waste my life wondering what if. And on my final day, my kids and friends will know without a doubt. I never wasted any time on what if. I hope you take some time and look at how you deal with the mistakes in your life, figure out what your process is, redefine it so it's something that nurtures you and feeds you rather than condemning you, and then add it to your toolbox. Have a great day, everyone. Bye. Bye.
