Sandi L Boucher introduces Personal Power Principle #7: be your best self, always, and if you fail, do the next task better. Drawing on her experience as a 10-year domestic abuse survivor, she connects self-judgment to intergenerational trauma from residential schools, then shows how to improve without self-condemnation through a heat-wave story.
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Foreign. Hi, everybody, it's Sandy Boucher here once again. I'm Red Thunderbolt, woman of the Loon clan, a proud member of Seine river first nation in Northern Ontario. And I'm here this week to introduce personal power principle number seven. So now, before I say anything else, I just need to share one that I'm having like, the best day ever. And when I realized why, it is totally in line with this month's principle, which was just too perfect not to share with you. So to kill the suspense here and let you in on what the principle is, here it is. Personal power principle number seven. Be your best self, always. If you fail, do the next task, conversation or day better. How absolutely amazing is that? And I'm going to get incredibly personal for a minute, which only makes sense because these personal power principles are the principles I live my life by. Anyone who knows my career, knows my story, knows my history, knows I'm a 10 year domestic abuse survivor. And for one, I hope you have no idea what that experience is like. Nothing would make me happier than that being the case. Unfortunately, there's probably quite a few of you who do know what, what that's like, and I'm sorry that ever happened to you. But one of the consequences of those relationships, even after they're over, we have learned to judge ourselves because we were in an environment where we were judged. By the way, think of those children that survived residential school while we're at it, all those things you see in the community, learned behavior based on how they were treated for generations. But back to you and your story, and me and my story. What I have seen among many, many survivors of domestic abuse is the judgment. We beat ourselves up for making a mistake, or we can even admit we made one. It's like our survival disability depends on never admitting that, because once upon a time, it did. We were physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, financially abused for making a mistake. When you're out of that relationship, you need to now give yourself full permission to make mistakes without condemnation, without beating yourself up. And guess what? How is this relevant? It's really hot here right now. We're in the middle of a heat wave. And I gotta admit, yesterday was the hottest of the days. I didn't do yesterday very well. I saved physical activities for the afternoon when it was the hottest. It was not pleasant. If you saw the Facebook lives I did for my book launch yesterday, you would understand what I mean. I was looking pretty scary today. I'm showered, I'm dressed nice and cool. I got my workout in first thing in the morning. Why I looked at yesterday without condemnation, but to learn from it so I could do better today. And that is principle number seven. So here, one more time is personal power. Principle number seven. Be your best self always. If you fail, do the next task, conversation or day better. Now. I thought I was doing a good job yesterday, but in reflection I realized I could do better. Not to beat myself up, but just to live a better life. That's what I want for you. For the month of July, I'm going to be expanding on this principle. So. So I will see you next week. Don't forget to download your workbook and talk to you soon. Be kind to you. Don't beat yourself up. Just learn from those mistakes and yes, it's okay to make them. I love you. Talk to you soon. Bye Bye.
