A short, unscripted members-only video by Sandi L Boucher reflecting on her long-standing teaching that women wear long skirts at ceremony. After watching an Alex Hormozi interview about unapologetic authenticity, she questions following practices primarily for social acceptance or rebellion. She invokes Anishnaabe teachings (that children reveal who they are) to encourage individuals to choose ceremony dress from authentic identity rather than conformity or reaction.
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Okay, so in case you didn't realize, my member only short and member only videos are not pre planned. You get me with no makeup on me, just thinking thoughts and sharing them with you. And this one's going to be controversial. This one is definitely going to be a members only. I will own the fact that four years I have been adamant that women wear long skirts at ceremony. That's what I was taught. I'm not going to go into the teaching as to why, but it was not restrictive. Our teachings are not restrictive. If it feels that way, I guarantee you the teaching has been colonized in some way. But the reasoning for it was incredibly powerful. It is a teaching that I have passed on to many, many, many young women. But I was just watching an Alex Hormozy video. He was being interviewed by another dude. I will put his name in the show notes because it's rude not to put his name. But Alex was talking about being unapologetically authentic. And he was saying that every single time we do something and the only reason we're doing it is social acceptance, then that act is like an act of a mini rebellion against ourselves, against our true selves. So for example, and I'm not talking about like, I don't like doing the bookkeeping for my business. I'm going to do it because it's in my best interest in the long run. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about his example was if you have a pair of cowboy boots and you know your running shoes are so much more comfortable, you enjoy wearing them. The cowboy boots are painful, but you wear the cowboy boots out in public because that's your reputation. That Alex said he would call you a fraud because you're just doing it to live up to the image or social acceptance. And that got me thinking because like I said, our teachings are empowering. And if there is one base teaching for Anishnaabe teachings is we believe that we don't tell a child who they are, that a child reveals to us who they are. So why does that stop when you're an adult? It shouldn't. So if you want to wear a long skirt to ceremony, knock your socks off. I bet it's beautiful. I can't wait to see it. But if you don't, if that is not your identity, that is not who you are and you want to be your authentic self, you're not doing it just to be rebellious because that's still putting someone else in charge of your life. You do, you boo and if authentically, you wouldn't wear one, don't. The challenge is for you to figure out who you are and to be that person. Not in reaction, not in rebellion, not in conformity. You. There's your homework. Until next time. I love you. Bye. Bye.
