Sandi L Boucher (speaker) explains Personal Power Principle #10: celebrate every success by yourself, for yourself. She shares an anecdote about her mother’s empowerment approach—asking questions to help others discover their own answers—and gives practical suggestions (ask loved ones how they will celebrate, model celebrations, prefer low-cost or healthful rewards like naps, walks, music, or cooking). She warns against using expensive purchases as default celebrations and closes with a CTA and a preview of the next principle.
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Foreign. Hi, everybody. It's Andy Boucher here once again for the last time to talk about personal power principle number 10. And like we have done every month of this year, in this last video, we talk about how do you pass these principles on to those people you want to empower, whether it's your students, your partner, your children, or yourself, if you're talking to yourself in the mirror. So before we jump into that, just a quick review. Here is personal power principle number 10. So you remember what we're talking about. Celebrate every single success by yourself, for yourself. High five. The air scream with glee. You earn the applause, so learn to give it to yourself freely. Now, I don't know if you know this, but I've mentioned in several videos in the past that my mom, a beautiful Anishinaabe Kwei from Kuching First Nation, she was the master of empowerment, even though she never would have used that word because that was a $15 word in her books. But she knew that if she gave us the answers, us being her children, when we went to her with a problem, if she gave us the answer, then that would increase our belief in her and her wisdom. But. But if she helped us figure it out for ourselves, then it increased our belief in ourselves and our wisdom. And with that comes a sense of confidence and peace. When you start believing in your ability to solve a problem, then you don't get so freaked out when a new problem comes along. You may not have experienced this specific thing before, but you know how to solve problems, so you start believing in yourself. It's that kind of thing that we're going to be talking about this week. If you want to teach your loved ones to celebrate their successes and not be dependent on someone else noticing or someone else thinking it's worth celebrating, ask them. It's simple enough. In the same way that my mom used to ask, what do you think? To empower us, I want you to ask your loved ones. So how are you going to celebrate? Ask them how their day at school went. And when they tell you they got a really good mark on a math test. Yay. Awesome. How are you going to celebrate? Or how did you celebrate? Just finished cleaning your room. It looks amazing. How are you going to celebrate? You just spoke up for yourself in a challenging situation. How are you going to celebrate? Now, watch carefully how they choose to celebrate. For so many people, they think that means spending money, that they now have full permission to go out and buy themselves something new. And trust me, I'm speaking from experience. I used to do that all the time. I happen to think that a bad day can be made totally better by buying a new purse. And a great day can be celebrated by. By buying a new purse. It took me years to break that habit. The reality is. And if you have the extra disposable income to buy yourself something, feel free. You earned it. But if you're bankrupting yourself because you're telling yourself, I deserve this, then the only one you're hurting is yourself. Guess what? Taking a nap. Taking the time to go for a walk. Taking. Taking an hour just to listen and enjoy your favorite music. Hitting the gym instead of doing something else for someone else. Those are all ways you can celebrate your successes. By honoring you. Here's the thing. Your celebration shouldn't set you 10 steps back. It should still be helping you move forward in the same way that your success helped you to move forward. Does that make sense? Celebrate those successes. Have your loved ones see you celebrate your successes when they walk in the kitchen. What are you making? My favorite meal. Why? Because I worked really hard this week and I deserve it. That's an example you're setting for them. And then ask them what are they doing to celebrate their successes next week. Personal power principle number 11. There is only two more to go. I hope this makes sense to you. Send me an email. Let me know what you think I'm dying to hear. And in the meantime, take the time to celebrate every single one of your successes this week. I love you. Take care. Bye. Bye, Sam.
