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Have you ever felt stuck in a difficult conversation? Not sure how to move forward? I got your back. Today I am going to share three simple yet super powerful steps to help you break free and turn those very stuck moments into your nourishing moments. If you're ready, let's begin. Are you ready to shine? Come on, it's a shiny one. You got it. Welcome back to the Shiny Minds Show. I am Dr. SHINee. Today we're talking about conversations, difficult ones, and how to get unstuck in difficult conversations. Because we are humans, we are social beings, we are always in conversations, we communicate and then we experience miscommunications, misunderstandings and misalignments. My goal today is to get rid of all the miss stuff, you know, the miscommunication, misunderstanding and misalignment and turn those around and help you break free and make you feel aligned with your truths, with who you are. So that you can speak from your heart, so your heart can be in your tongue, your heart can be seen, heard and felt through your language, through your words. How does that sound for a change? Wouldn't that be lovely and delicious? So I would love to begin with analyzing how we get stuck and how we can get unstuck. Okay, that's one way and one perspective and the other way, the other perspective to look at this topic is difficult conversations. How do we define a difficult conversation? Right. A difficult conversation is a conversation where you are not feeling comfortable because of various reasons. Perhaps you are not feeling. You have all the resources to cope with that person, that emotion the person brings. The conversation is out of your forte. You have no clue what is being discussed about. Perhaps you're not in your mood. There might be so many reasons why you call a conversation a difficult conversation. Right? We can actually look at it as something you are uncomfortable with. Okay, so let's label it as that. And then let's move to the part where we look at stuckness. You know, how and why we get stuck and how and why we can get unstuck. If you also look at the word stuck, that brings the energy of not moving, not moving forward, not progressing, instead feeling stagnant, not being able to move. Like something is making you stuck, you are somewhere and you don't know what to do. And it almost implies something that comes with lack of awareness and perhaps also lack of willingness too, which is going to remind us the transformational formula of neuroshine technology, which is change equals awareness multiplied by willingness. Right? If you don't have awareness, how are you going to get unstuck. First, you need to become aware of what gets you stuck and what gets you unstuck. And then with that awareness, you also multiply it with the willingness to make yourself unstuck, and then you get unstuck. And that willingness to get unstuck is also gonna have to uncover the part that makes you uncomfortable. Okay. You're gonna realize, oh, okay, this is. This is also why I'm being super uncomfortable. Hey, am I willing to go through that? Yes. So with that awareness and willingness, you are actually going to turn your difficult conversations into your powerful, nourishing moments. So for those of you who don't know what a neuroshine moment is, let me also clarify that before I give you my three powerful steps. An early shine moment is the moment of truth, where you are in alignment with your truth, where you absolutely come from, your mind and heart and soul alignments. You are totally authentic. You can actually speak from your heart, and then you can honor not only yourself, but the people that you are having a conversation with. Okay. That is the nourishing moment. That is the moment of truth that you may call it as aha. Moments. I call them aha Moments. Nourishing moments of truth. Okay, so put that in the pocket. And now let's talk about three very simple yet super powerful steps that you can always implement when you feel kind of stuck in difficult conversations. All right, number one is going to be uncover. What are you uncovering? Obviously, there are some things that you are unaware of. Right. Why are you feeling stuck? Let's begin with that. And before you judge yourself or judge the conversation you are having or the person you are having the conversation with, let's just move the judgment on the side, which is super difficult. I know, but is it possible? Yes. So let's put the judgment on the side. Let's step into our detective mindset and go with the curiosity. I always talk about detective gadgets in my coaching education programs. So, you know the cartoon movie that we used to watch years and years ago, I don't know how old you are, dear shiny minds who are watching this show right now, but if you are like me, even if you are in your 30s, you may remember, but in your 40s, definitely Detective Gadget is this cartoon character which has a hat in his head. And this hat is absolutely very creative. It is something that is very technological. He has all kinds of tools and resources within his hat. He just needs to remember what is in his head so he can tap into his resourcefulness, and then he can Analyze, organize, fix everything. And that's why I always remind my coaching students in my nourishing technology coaching education programs. Think of yourself as a Detective Gadget. Okay? You have all the tools, all the strategies, all the power, all the resourcefulness that you need within. You just need to remember that we have fish memory. We don't remember everything all the time. We are programmed to survive, survive any moment. And because of that, the human brain is going to delete whatever is not important. Well, the biggest thing to focus on is the survival. And if survival is the most important, then you're going to forget about your resources, you're going to forget about your tools, you're going to forget about your values, your strong beliefs about yourself, your identity, who you really are. And because they get deleted, you forget. And you are kind of in the dark. When there is a difficult conversation, when there is a difficult person in the dark, it is uncertain, it's unknown. And then you're like, what is really going on here? There is certainly something off here. You start with that. You get curious, just like a detective. You're analyzing, okay? You're not getting into it just yet. You're just observing. You're collecting information, you're collecting data because you need to uncover. Why are you uncovering? Because when there is something that is not in your awareness, which means it's hidden, and it implies the need to uncover that whatever that is hidden, whatever is not in your awareness, you gotta uncover that. So that's why you're uncovering it. All right? So that is, number one, the first step. Step number two is detach. You're gonna need to detach from whatever you find from your investigation, Detective Gadget. You're gonna absolutely look at it from another perspective and you are going to say, oh, okay, this is on me. I didn't realize that I was using some language that might be triggering other people, that might be making people uncomfortable. No wonder why. I also feel uncomfortable because the words that I am selecting is creating tension between people and I. And I wasn't even aware of that. Now, let me make it super clear. This type of revelation, that nourishing moment of truth, is not always easy to admit to digest. It takes a lot of courage because it's painful. Your ego is gonna hate it. Your ego is never going to be wrong about anything. Your ego is not gonna love being wrong. Yeah, not gonna love. Not gonna love at all. And that's why it is super rare. You're gonna be a super delicious communicator. When you are Able to admit where you're wrong and learn from your mistakes and just look at. Just look at them as things to learn from. And it's just poof. In the next moment, it's gone. That's why you need to detach from it. If you. If you get married with all your ideas, your emotions and your opinions, life is going to get hard. Don't you think so? You don't want to get married with them. You want to actually let them go. Detach from that, whatever that is. You're okay. You live in the ocean of uncertainty. You are absolutely okay. Whatever life throws at you, you are taking it in. You are absolutely okay with it. And this is your mindset. Mindset is everything. And that's why detachment is one of the hardest skills. That actually also implies mental flexibility. That's why it is our step number two. Okay, so first we uncovered and then we detached from whatever we found. Because sometimes what you're gonna find is gonna kind of hurt your ego. All right, so now step number three is the most delicious part because you're gonna set them free and you'll be like, what? Yes. You're gonna set everything free, including yourself. Here's what I mean by that, my dear shiny mind. You know how in our conversations we tend to share what we think. We wanna kind of tell people what to do, what is right and what is wrong, what they should be doing, what they should not be doing, and why. We are super correct about our perspective. You know how it goes. So that's what I'm talking about. When you do that, you're not making people free. You actually are controlling them. Let me say it very clearly to your beautiful face, to your beautiful ear, if you're listening to me. Because we live in a totally different Paradigm today in 2025. We live in a world of freedom. People want freedom more than anything. People want freedom for their ideas, opinions, beliefs, values, expectations, lifestyles, everything. Don't you want to be free? How about yourself? Don't you want to be free? Don't you want to have a conversation where you walk away feeling so spacious within yourself because that conversation made you super free? Don't you want to feel that way? I bet you do. That's why you want to give the same to others. Stop trying to control people. Stop trying to tell them what to do. Stop trying to judge them. Stop trying to fix people's problems. Perhaps you trying to help them is exactly what they don't like. And that's probably why you are feeling awkward in that Difficult conversation. And then you're feeling stuck. Why are you stuck? Because something is not moving forward. Why is that? Something is not moving forward. That is not flowy. Some force. There's an enforcement. Like when the energy is too big, you're forcing it. It's just not moving in a natural flow. You are trying too hard, you're pushing too hard. And that is control, that's force. And that's why you need to detach. You need to let it go. When you are able to let go, only then you will be able to remember you want freedom as much as everybody else. And that's why you want to give people the freedom that they crave. Okay, let's recap everything that we covered. We talked about how and why we get stuck. And we talked about the definition of difficult conversations. We talked about three simple yet powerful steps to help you break free in those difficult conversations. So you can turn those into absolutely delicious nourishment moments which are uncover, detach and set them free. Okay? If you want to be free, you want to make others free, we live in the paradigm of freedom. All right? So hope you loved these three powerful steps, my dear shiny minds. If you did, please put a like on this video. Share with your friends. Let's change our conversations. Is it a time to change our conversations? Is it a time we start talking a little bit more consciously? We start connecting a little bit more consciously, deeply, not at the surface level, but at the deep level? Isn't it time we begin to ask each other how they really feel, what they really want? Not just to talk a small talk. You talk about cosmos. You want to talk about what's going on in the universe. You want to talk about metaphysical stuff. I mean, for me, as a geek who did two doctorate degrees in metaphysics, obviously that's what I would want to talk about. You talk about whatever you want to talk about, okay? And when you realize you're ready to talk about your mindset, your absolutely delicious conversations with your coaching skills in the blend of neuroscience, heart science, positive psychology, cosmology, metaphysics, quantum physics, leadership communication strategies, emotional intelligence. When you are ready to combine them all with neuro linguistic programming, with advanced ICF coaching skills, and my delicious neuroshine technology, then I have an invitation for you. Please join us. We talk a lot about mindset, language conversations and how to get unstuck in difficult conversations. We talk a lot about our goals. We talk a lot about human psychology, what is behind human behaviors. Because I am somebody who created the Academy of neuroshine technology based on my truth, seeking for my truth, studying several different disciplines and creating my own curriculum Technology for truth neuroshine technology and because I talk a lot about the metaphysical psychology behind human behaviors and because I talk a lot about mindset language, how one word that you say matters, how two words that you say can change a life, how you can change a life by just being a little bit more heart centered. These are the conversations we have in our academy. So join us. When you are ready you can go to my website shinyinstyle.com and then you're going to see there is a free PDF download. You can just put your name and your email and then you can receive the PDF download. You can look at it and then you can actually begin to look at the world of freedom coaching and nourishing technology. And whenever you're ready, you come join us and you turn yourself into a skillful, confident and transformational coach. So that's it for today. I would love to see you in my my next episode. My dear shiny minds, thank you so much for allowing my light into your neurons. And until next time, keep shining your light. Go galactic. Then you're in the right place. Let's go, let's go.