19/31 Ways To Be A Happier Parent - Less Anxiety

Hi, good, good afternoon to you. I hope you are well today. So today we're going to be talking about anxiety. Anxiety. So this is a subject very close to my heart, uh, anxiety. So I used to worry about worrying, and I believe that that's what some people call anxiety. It's worry on top of worry on top of worry on top of worry, and so it's the worries stacking up, stacking on top of each other, or it's a vortex. We're in a tailspin of concerns and emotions. And I saw a question on Facebook, so how do I tackle that? How do I— what do I do about anxiety? So here's the thing that I find helpful about this, and I'm just sharing that in case it helps you. So I tried to do stuff about worrying. I tried to do stuff. So you're looking for actions, and you're kind of like you're fighting the anxiety, you're fighting the worry. And this, in my experience, just makes it worse. So I saw this post about dealing with anxiety, and everybody's jumping in with stuff, actions for this person to do. And in my experience, doing doesn't actually solve it. It doesn't solve anxiety. So by doing more, by looking for a solution, then we just— I found for me that just, it just, it made my tailspin get faster. If you know, you know, a tailspin. So when a plane's going into a tailspin, it's out of control, it's going faster and faster and faster. So doing stuff doesn't really help with anxiety. Um, it's— it tends to just make it worse. So what's the answer? Well, first thing is there's no solution really to a feeling. Solutions are real-world. Solutions are what we do to answer real-world problems. Real-world problems. So what do we do about COVID Do we wear a mask or not? Yes. We wear a mask. Solutions are things, answers to solving real-world problems, problems that are out there outside of us. What helps with anxiety is seeing that there isn't anything there. This is a thought or a feeling that we've made into a thing, but it isn't a thing. It's not real. There's nothing actually there other than this old memory and old thought patterns and beliefs. And but they're all made of nothing. They're just— they're not made of anything other than random bits of thought. And they're not us. They're not us. You know, we weren't born with this. We weren't born anxious. We weren't born worrying about stuff. We were upset when our When we were tired and when our nappy needed changing, and when we wanted something to eat. But those thoughts aren't us. Those feelings aren't us. We are the we're the the person having the thought that the spiritual being having a Human experience. They're not us. We're taking them. We're taking what is just a random set of thoughts and old stuff, and we're making that a thing. We're thingifying it. See, I've worried about being worried, but I wouldn't. I haven't really called that anxiety. But anxiety—it sounds like we've got something even more to. So it's another thing to worry about. So we're worried about anxiety. And it's just this constant escalation of the problem. But here's the thing, you know those moments where you just catch your child, um, sleeping and you are over— you are You quieten down, you, you become overwhelmed sometimes with that feeling of love that you have for your child, or you have that, that minute of peace in the day when you hear a bird singing and you see something takes your breath away, a view takes your breath away when you walk the dog. And you have that, that moment of, of quiet inside. That's who you are, not your anxiety. So focus on who you are rather than who you are not. Hope that helps. Bye-bye.