27/31 Ways To Be A Happier Parent - Taking Happiness OFF Hold

Hi, good morning everybody. Today I want to talk to you— sorry, today I want to talk about taking happiness off hold. So what do I mean taking happiness off hold? So this is something that I used to do and sometimes I still do it. I kind of put some sort of delay mechanism on my happiness rather than just letting it out straight. Because it's inside us already, guys. Yeah, I forget that too. So taking happiness off hold. So this was one of the first coaches I worked with, and he, a really great guy, guy called John Maranka. And this was going back, I don't know, probably 13, 14 years, 14 years ago. And he, you know, he was one of those guys, you know, set out your vision. If you You know, vision for the future. And the vision that I came up with, which cost a lot of money to come up with that vision for him to ask me questions, was Smiling Simon leading sustainable success. So Smiling Simon leading sustainable success. So this was a vision for the future. Well, why did I just why didn't I just make that a vision for now? You know, um, why was this a vision for the future? Why wasn't this— why didn't I just see that as something that I could do just there and then? In our conversations with, uh, with— in my conversations with John, in the conversations with the rest of my team, in the rest of my business life at that time. Um, so I was running a publishing business, education publishing business, but I was putting it on hold And so many of us do this, don't they? Another thing that I put on hold was I thought that I had to wait until I was making the sustainable income. The sustainable success for me was about having ongoing revenue coming into the business. And I wasn't in that place in that time. The revenue was very— was fits and starts. So one month you'd have a great month, the next month it'd not be so good. Not that kind of recurring business model that everybody craves, like your Netflix, £7.95 a month, whatever it costs you, and Sky. Everybody is looking for this nirvana of a subscription business. And I guess it's a bit like salaries, isn't it? The money comes in month in, month out. We crave certainty, don't we? And we get very scared about uncertainty. And that sometimes keeps us in the rut. And it kept me in the rut for an awful long time, in the certainty rut. But that's a different story. So this is really about letting the feelings out that are already inside us rather than putting happiness on hold until something happens. So the I'll be happy when trap. And a lot of parents come to me saying, well, I can't be happy until my kids are happy. And they can't be happy till I'm happy, and I can't be happy until I'm making this, or I'm— and I, and I so get that because that's what I did, um, I did for so long. So I put happiness on hold, um, and I still do sometimes, you know. I still think, well, maybe I'll be happier when I'm helping a million parents a month, um. But then I see through that. I see through that, that putting that old habit that I have of putting happiness on hold. I see through that, and I just want you to maybe have a if that makes any sense to you whatsoever. What about taking happiness off hold? Because the happiness is right inside you right now. Like it's right inside me, right, right inside me right now. I don't need an excuse. So much of my life I've spent looking for an excuse to be happy. There's just, you know, we don't need an excuse. That's just me. Let's just be happy now, eh? Yeah. I'll leave, I'll leave you with that thought and see you soon. Bye-bye. Bye.