Has your child lost their confidence?

Hi, good morning to you. Good morning. I hope you are well. I hope you're very well this morning. So I haven't been live with some videos for a while. I don't know quite why, but I'm back. I'm back. So today I want to talk about confidence because a lot of parents are telling me at the moment that their kids have lost their confidence. So Confidence. I used to think that confidence was a thing that I could lose, like my phone. I'm always losing my phone and my keys, and I used to think confidence was the same as that. There's something that it could be lost, and that's a pretty common thing, isn't it? We think that confidence is a thing. Here's the thing though. It isn't a thing. It's a feeling. And our feelings, they always come from our thoughts. So the feeling of confidence, the feeling that we've lost our confidence means that we've got a thought in our head like, I can't do this, or I shouldn't try this. Or this won't work out. Here's the thing about that. We don't know how anything's going to work out. We don't know whether we're going to succeed or not, but somehow we've got this feeling that if we don't succeed, then that's a reflection on us. And this has become— so we become afraid to try stuff, try new stuff. We're afraid that failure means a failure in a new activity, in a new venture, in a new area of our life. We think that that means that we're a failure. So the biggest thing that you can do for your child is to get them to see that that isn't the case. Because it's not about whether we can or whether we can't do something at the moment, it's whether we want to be better at it. And the best practice a lot. They learn a lot. They train a lot. They're not— nobody's born to do this stuff. Nobody's born— nobody's born with a skill like the greatest footballers. They may have a natural aptitude for football, but the ones that get really great at it train along. So it's— if we can get across to this to our kids, it's not about how good you are at something, it's how good you want to be. And the old thing about unconditional love, the fact that you're gonna love your child whether they score that goal Or whether they don't score that goal. The whole thing is about unconditional love and you getting your child to see that. Now, sometimes people ask me, how do I do that? Well, it depends. I can't give you an answer on that. You know your child best. I'm not a parenting expert. Expert. I'm just a guy who's figured out a way to help kids be confident, resilient, and happy. So I'm not gonna—I can't tell you how to make your child feel that unconditional love that you have for them. That's down to you. But if you want to find out more about building your child's confidence, then that's down to—that's something that I can. that I can help with, so get in touch. And just remember that, you know, confidence isn't a thing, it's a feeling, and feelings come and go as thoughts change. So sooner or later, your child's probably going to get their confidence back. See you later. Bye-bye. Bye.