DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY

Name: DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY
Uploaded: 2022-10-24T18:06:03+00:00
Duration: 43 s
Channel: Sol Brah
Description: In this brief self‑help monologue, Sol Brah argues that offense is not something that can be imposed on us; we only allow it in when we choose to take…

24 Oct 2022 · 1 min

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In this brief self‑help monologue, Sol Brah argues that offense is not something that can be imposed on us; we only allow it in when we choose to take things personally. He explains that others' hostile comments are reflections of their own ego, insecurities, or unhappiness, and that assigning personal value to those outbursts only gives them power. Brah advises listeners to avoid dwelling on others' opinions, to view criticism as a projection of the speaker’s inner state, and to respond with compassion and a calm smile. By not reacting with equal hostility, he suggests that people often recognize their own foolishness and back down, leading to healthier emotional boundaries.

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Don't take it personally. Offense cannot be given to us, we can only take it. Whatever someone says about you or to you, whatever BS they say, it can only affect you if you let it inside. Taking it personally is assigning value to the emotional outbursts of other people, which always have nothing to do with you. They are triggered by their own egos, their own emotional state, or you as a scapegoat because you're highlighting their insecurities. Because of this, never dwell on what others think or say about you, and don't take it personally. Have compassion for those feel the need to bring others down. Usually it's because they're unhappy with their own life and need to feel better about their own choices. When met with a smile and without an equally hostile reaction, people realize their own foolishness and back down.