Day 10 - The Missing Key to Manifestation

Hello, welcome to day 10 of The Missing Key to Manifestation. I'm Susie, and this is Susie Unshaped, where we peel off all those pesky belief systems and unshape all the emotional shapewear that we've been wearing so we can live the life of our dreams and manifestations and all the fancy things and fun things. And I'm rambling already. Um, okay, so yesterday— well, actually not yesterday, the day before I recorded And I caught myself being a judgy mcjudgy, judgy bitch, um, when I was saying about the friend who is the difficult one and always makes a fuss about what restaurant— not this one, it's too expensive, not that one, it's too this, it's too— it's anyway, it's always a complaint about something. And I found myself judging that because There was a part of me that was jealous. Jealous Susie was going, I want to pick the restaurant one time. Not all the time, just maybe occasionally. And so I thought that was a really interesting place to start today's conversation with. If you're new here, I highly suggest you go back to the beginning of The Missing Key, and so you'll understand what we're talking about. But I'll just give you a quick recap. It's based on the, and I still haven't looked it up, the Hoponoponono prayer. That was the inspiration. That and Edward Mannix's, Edward Mannix's The Compassion Keys, um, made me realize that there is more to manifestation than we have been putting together as a process. We have been grateful, like I have been grateful. Till the cows come home. I, you, you, you find me something and I can be grateful about it. You find me something, I'll show you the good in it. Like that part I have down. And even the love, I have the love down. Like I do feel the love for myself. And if you haven't done the Living from My Heart Challenge, I highly recommend it. It's free, but it will show you why you're deserving of the love. So we've got the gratitude, we've got the love. The parts we're missing is the compassion, the I'm sorry, and the please forgive me. So the ancient Hawaiian prayer, the Ho'oponopono prayer, whatever, that was not right, is they used to repeatedly use the phrases I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you, over and over and over. And this has been used for a very, very, very long time. And to me, it is the missing key to manifestation because if we have parts of ourselves that we've disowned, e.g., the Judgy McJudgy, that I literally just was being the Judgy McJudgy and then judging myself for being judgy, they're the secret key. Those parts of ourselves that we have shoved in that closet Are the parts that we haven't integrated within ourselves to feel deserving. And it's to— if those parts do not feel deserving, then you can be grateful and love yourself till the cows come home. But if you've shoved poor Judgy McJudgy Susie in the closet along with her friends Greedy, Selfish, and Lazy, then you still have parts of you that you don't feel are deserving. And so this is all very well and good to say that. So today I really want to talk about, well, how do I know which parts need to be welcomed to the table? Like I likened it to, we're all sitting at a round table and everyone gets a seat. Every single bit of your character. Judgy gets a seat. Happy gets a seat. Selfish gets a seat. Generous gets a seat. So all the parts of you need to have a seat at the table, and they need to have a voice. And how you will know if a part of you does not have a seat at the table, and instead you've jammed it in the closet because you've deemed it as bad, is when you. Like, like when I got like annoyed about the difficult friend— look, I'm too— so many inverted commas— the difficult friend. I was like, oh yeah, we all have that difficult friend. And I caught myself judging her for being difficult. And the reason I was doing that is because I'm just jealous that occasionally I might like to be difficult too. So all these characters, we don't need to give them Like, it doesn't have to be like a 50/50 split. You can be easy and you can be difficult, and it can be at 50/50, and then you'll be balanced. It doesn't work that way. And so that's what I was talking about the— in the last recording was how do we identify when we're out of balance? And it's judging, but judgy will come up, or jealousy will come up, or like bitterness, pissed-offness, irritated Susie will come up. And that's showing you that you're out of alignment with your own, like, all of the different parts of you. You're letting people pleaser Susie take over too much. And so then jealous Susie is starting to, like, like the anger is boiling and boiling. Well, the jealousy, sorry. Angry, angry Susie has her own, has her own anger to boil, but jealousy is like, Starting to boil, and then you'll lose it over something that actually didn't really matter and was probably like 1% of the jealousy that you've been accumulating over time until you've burst. So what does that look like in everyday life? And I want to tell you why I wasn't recording yesterday, because it's very good to show these characters. It was my dear friend Maureen's being the best mentor to me ever. It was her birthday yesterday, and she is 81. And I am not in Australia, so I can't go and see her. So I thought, what could I do? And so I decided to write her a song and then use Suno AI to make the lyrics for it. And yes, I use AI for that because I physically couldn't create a song. And for someone so special that it means so much, for using AI allowed me to put it to music and vocals as opposed to just giving her some words on a sheet. So, um, I love AI for that. And I know that it has taken away from a lot of artists, and I don't need to get political about AI in this chat, and I don't know why I am, but for me it's enabled me to be able to give you things that I wouldn't like feasibly be able to produce So I've created so much music using AI, and for me, music is really at the core of my heart. Like, it lights me up. It can get across hard topics. It can— you can— like, I made my son— sorry, so I'm telling you, I also then made my son, because it was his birthday today, I made him a, like, a rap song because he's going to compete in the national championships for basketball. And I wanted to like, I can't make him like a sappy mum song because he's a teenage boy and they don't like things like that. So I thought, well, what, what music does he listen to? So I listened, looked at his playlist and found some music and I was like, okay, I'll make— so I made him like a pump it up like rap song and then I put it with his footage of him playing, um, and it was really cool. And so then I didn't stop there, then I turned one of the poems I'd written when I was struggling with the— in the darker times. And like, how do you surrender when you've got so much at stake? Like, the act of surrendering and with no expectations for the outcome, like, how do you do that anyway? So I put that to music too. And anyway, my point being is that I knew I needed to record, but I was having so much fun making the music, and it was for people I love, and it was just bringing me so much joy. And normally Guilty Susie would be like, oh hello, we need to do that recording. Remember how you said you were going to do it daily? Well, recording hasn't been done yet. Stop having fun. Not that this isn't fun, it is fun, I absolutely love it. But, um, stop doing that because you said you would. You should record. So I said, look, I love you. What is it called? Where— who are we? Guilty. I love you, guilty Susie. Come and sit next to me, and I see you, and I hear that you're feeling guilty because we said that we would do this daily. And then I was like, but currently, like, which Susie? It's like sort of like remembrance Susie and nostalgic Susie and, and the Susie that wants to make something beautiful for someone else. She's currently just She's in the driver's seat for a bit now, and you know what, she often doesn't just play like this and do stuff for fun because she wants to and because it's going to make her feel good and she's going to make other people feel good. So not that recording isn't, it is, but at the time, especially with time zones, etc., I wanted to get it done. So I was like, yes, guilty Susie, I see you. And normally I am quite used to you driving my life, but how about you come up here at the table with us? And we are going to create this music. And you know what? She did, and she was fine with it. Because like, I can't live in guilt all the time. Like, joyous, want to do something for fun, want to do something because it's giving something to someone else, but from the joy of it, not because I should. I didn't bash myself through with, I should make this music. I was having the best time doing it, like mixing sounds, changing sounds, like Like, you can't imagine how many songs I've generated. A lot. But finding that right sound that just like made me go, yes, and I've got my arms in the air and I'm singing along to it, tweaking the lyrics to make them feel better and have better like, um, landing on the syllables and all of that. I was having so much fun. So breathe. So that's why I didn't record yesterday. And yes, that was a really long way around it, but Guilty Susie would have normally taken over and won that argument, and then that would have thrown me out of balance because then I would have been resenting filming this just slightly. As I said, I love filming these, but at the time my focus was elsewhere and I was really enjoying doing that task. And when you rip yourself away from one task to do something else because you should, you're going to feel irritated. And it's that feeling that we've got to start checking in and being aware of, because when you get that feeling, it's a sign that you've just thrown yourself out of balance. Like, for example, I was just gonna— I was gonna bring up another example. Okay, so what about Lazy Susie versus Fit Susie? Like, we're talking about going to the gym Gym and motivation. Um, now for me, I actually have a character that is higher than Lazy Susie or Fit Susie, and that is Sleep Susie. Um, now as you can imagine how I go on tangents and, um, segues and digress whilst I'm talking to you, that's how my brain operates all the time. And I don't mean just now, I mean at 1 o'clock in the morning and 2 o'clock in the morning and 3 o'clock in the morning. So Sleep Susie wins over nearly any other Susie that there is, and I do not feel like she does. She is the boss. If she says we're sleeping, we are sleeping. Because I average— my best night is 7.5 hours. I average about 6 hours a night, but I probably need 7 to 7.5. So We can't have Susie running on 6 hours sleep all the time and do all the things. So if I've had a bad night, Lazy Susie, Gym Susie, Fit Susie, they go all— they go, look, I'm tucking you in over there because Sleeping Susie is the priority right now. And I suppose that's a really good indicator of how I've become to, like, know myself. And no, if Sleep Susie doesn't get the 6 hours, or at least 6 and a half, she is gonna be Grumpy Susie all day, and also Foggy Head Susie, and I can't get any work done. And what's the point of all of this? Like, she literally may as well just lie on the couch and watch TV because that's about as productive as she's going to be. And yes, we would love to be Napping Susie. You could just have a little nap in the day and to build up that sleep again, but We are not. Thank you, brain. So I don't know if I'm being really clumsy in describing this, but you've got to know yourself and start being aware of when you're throwing yourself out of balance. Like I know that if I go to the gym and I've only had five and a half hours sleep. I'm outta balance before I even get there. Like, I am better off even to put a meditation on and doze than try and get on with it. And it is just gonna, it's gonna fail me down the line. And that's a really like dramatized example, but it's quite good because sleep can really show you like the drain on your energy. Mm-hmm. Because it's a physical requirement for our bodies to have enough sleep to function. So the other emotions I'm talking about, they act in the same way, but they just aren't linked as closely as sleep is to their physical effect on your body. Stress might be one, but still, stress is probably— sleep is the number one thing. So I hope you can understand what I'm trying to explain here. Sorry, Yoda, try. There is no try. Do or do not, there is no try. What I am explaining in round and round circles is if I didn't let Joyful Fun Susie have her play with the music yesterday and I let Guilt Susie take over, that would have actually depleted my energy and I would have been slightly irritated. At myself for not doing what I wanted to do. This is the core of what we're getting to. It's like learning what you actually want to do and using like triggers. But I can't tell you what yours are. Like, you might work fine on 6 hours, 5 hours sleep, and, and off you go to the gym. It's the best thing for you. I've got other friends that if they don't get 8 hours of sleep, then they are toast. For the whole day. Um, you know what is going to throw you off. You know when you're in the flow of something, you're just like, pot, like you're just doing it, you're in it, and then something pulls you out of it and then you completely lost where you're at and you're over there now. You don't even know what you're doing over there. It just throws you off and it just makes you feel a bit off. You don't get that nice, like, I suppose, and I know it's a real cliché word, but you're in the flow and you get taken out of the flow and it's jolty and annoying and it doesn't feel as good. It doesn't feel as good. So that's what we're trying to get. It's like, what are your answers to situations making you feel? Do you feel good? Great. Do you feel, mm, like sometimes it's so subtle and it has to happen quite a few times and then you're like, oh God, why don't I ever get to choose that? But so maybe that's it. Like jot down the times that you can remember. Let's start with the big doozies. Like when did you really lose it? Like a, like bananas lose it. And then just have a look at why you lost it. And then just have a look where you might have been abandoning yourself to lead up to that culmination of like steam coming out of your head. Um, and it can happen with emotions and losing it like that, but I can also— you can also notice it with your physical self. Not sleep— sleep aside, you ever had that where you sleep for as long as you can and you wake up and you're still exhausted, like bone tired, weary, that is another indication that you're abandoning yourself in some areas and it is literally draining your, your body. Like your— as they say, another cliché, here we go, the body keeps score. The body will keep score and it will tell you, like, are you People pleasing too much that it's becoming a detriment to your energy levels. Guilty, guilty. I can tell, like, I send myself into catatonic states where I literally cannot even think. I cannot make a decision. I go to supermarkets and I walk around with absolutely no idea what I'm supposed to get, why I'm there. I walk out— I, I often, when I'm like that, will walk out of the supermarket not having bought anything because I can't even choose, like, Are we going to have spaghetti? Are we going to have tacos? Are we going to have fish? Are we going to have prawns? Like, I cannot choose. My brain is literally fried. And it's funny, actually, I have this fantastic friend in Australia called Melissa who does this amazing, um, practice called BodyTalk. And so many times I would go into her and she'd be like, ha ha, funny there. And she'd call me Princess. Okay, princess, um, you've been doing a bit too much thinking lately. And she's like, your prefrontal cortex, I think that's it. She goes, totally fried, totally fried, like completely wiped. Like, and so I would actually get myself into such a state that I would just completely wipe my ability to use the front of my brain. And that happened regularly. And it was from self-abandonment. And not protecting my energy. And and actually interesting, beautiful Maureen. She'd say to me, "So when did you last have a rest?" And I'll be like, "Oh yeah, I lay on the." I see I love lying in the sun. I lay on the sun lounger in the sun. She said, and she looked at me, and she was like, "Mm." And what was your brain doing? And I was like, "Mm, okay, yep, round around around around around around around around round." So. When you're like me, rest is difficult. I think I'm resting. Here we are. This is nearly. This is a great example actually because resting Susie's doing a good job. I'm having a rest. Maureen will be so happy with me. Meanwhile, productive Susie is like, ha ha ha ha! You might be lying down physically, but we can still do stuff up here. It's like productive Susie's thinking like. Ha, I've got this one. I'm gonna get some work done while she's still and doesn't notice. And Maureen is right, and I do find it very hard to switch, to switch my brain off from thinking. I, I actually need to use other people talking to stop my brain from thinking. So I like listen to— I love listening to tarot on YouTube. I love listening to, um, even just watching TV. Like, watching TV for me, and I have to really be careful When I'm doing it because I like this. I'll literally be watching TV. I'll have my laptop open at the same time and doing stuff on my phone, and I'll be like, okay, you need to put that away, put that away, and it's just like, and just watch the show that you're watching. That seemed like a really big digression, but I'm talking about protecting our energy and protecting our energy. Like when you see where it's leaking, that those leaks are the key. Gotta love this key. They are the key. The leaks in your energy are the key to the areas that you are abandoning of yourself. So take a breath. I know I go round and round in circles, but somehow I seem to get where I need to be by the end. And there will be a book. Written from these recordings, and it will not go round and round in circles. So I can promise you that there will be Cliff Notes in the form of a book with practices that we can get to in a lot faster practice. But I need to do this process, and I need to go round and round because that's how I figured this stuff out. And if you're here along for the ride, welcome. And if you're still watching at 22 minutes, like, I commend you for sticking with me. Must be going, what is this girl talking about? But I'm trying to figure it out in my own mind. Like, it's all well and good to say, okay, I'm so sorry, please forgive me, thank you, and I love you. Like, they're all great to say, but if we can't find the areas of ourself that need us to say it to them, like, it's just It's just like sticky taping the words over us, like here right now. But that's not going to do anything. I can't sticky tape I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, and I love you on me, and all of a sudden that fancy car I've manifested is sitting outside. Can I? Well, I could try, but I don't think it's going to work. I've been writing those things— I've been writing those things down for a long time and it still hasn't worked. Um, not that it hasn't worked, actually. I'm going to tell you a really funny story, and if you want to leave, please do, because this is a total dive Um, but it's about being in the energy and doing what you feel like, feel like doing, even if it makes no logical sense. Okay, so I was at Bunko the other day with my Bunko ladies. I love Bunko more than life itself. Bunko nights are the highlight of my month. Anyway, we're sitting around talking at the end and they were talking about getting a kitten, and then they were telling me about the animal shelters and how The animals will not be there if if people don't adopt them, etc. And and I was like, oh no, I can't get a cat. I can't get a cat. We left our cat in Australia. We love you, Zelda. Um um anyway, I just opened my phone yesterday morning. I thought I'll just have a little look. Which where is this shelter? Let's just have a little look at some of the cat. Anyway, this cat caught my like its eyes. Just looked straight into my soul, and I was like, "Uh oh, uh oh." Anyway, I sort of like no, you can't get a cat like this. Where we live is not suitable for a cat. There's no partition. There's no doors. Like everything's open, so we can't like couldn't even get out the back door to do the laundry. It'd be very difficult. Anyway, I then did a meditation in the afternoon because I was actually really tired. I'd had a late night from Bunco because it was so much fun, and I was really tired. So I thought I'll put a meditation on. Anyway, okay. Who entered the chat in the meditation? Cat, cat, cat, cat, cat, cat, cat, cat, cat. I was like, are you joking? Like, are you serious? This is like it was like the cat was not the cat, but it was like get the cat, get the cat, get the cat, get the cat, get the cat. And I was like, hang on a second. I'm supposed to be like in alignment and zen and talking with my higher self. And they're like, and I have this guy called like you know Spike from Notting Hill, and he's like, yep. You're getting the cat. And I was like, oh my God, the bloody cat. Anyway, I thought— I actually stopped the meditation. I thought, I'll ring and just see if the cat is still available. Anyway, they were closed. I'd already stopped the meditation. I was like, okay, I'll ring them in the morning and see what— anyway, so morning comes around, I ring. The cat's available, it's got some slight issues. Anyway, I go, okay, And she told me the visiting hours, and I was like, mm-hmm. And then I was like doing my work and actually wrote my sister a beautiful birthday song. You can see them on Susie Unshaped. All my songs are under Susie Songs. Really original. Um, but her birthday, because everyone else got a song, so I had to write her a song as well. Um, so I wrote her the song, and then in my back of my head, I'm just like, we're going to see that cat, aren't we? And it was like, yep, you're going to see that cat. And I was like, makes no logical sense. It makes no rational sense. We're going to see the cat. Anyway, off we went to see the cat, and it turned out the cat actually had a sister, so they don't like to separate them. And the cottage cannot do 2 cats because when 2 cats get together, they crazy. And it— they'd be darting around. I've got beautiful big mirrors standing up against walls and things, and those cats would have them smashed in about 2 seconds. I just couldn't have 2 cats. That's crazy. Anyway, I did go around and I was looking at some other single cats, and yes, I did find some beautiful ones. But then I had a friend actually on my way to get see the cat. I had a friend message me and say, "Hey, I've got these this lady I'd love to introduce you to. She's got an event near you on like next week." And I was like, "Okay, great. That sounds awesome." So I contact. So anyway, so. I've come out from the cats and the lady— so I've sent her a message and the lady calls and she has got this most amazing event Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday next week. And, um, I'm going to be like her, like, helper for it, basically a volunteer. The 2 I see, the person that helps her make everything run smoothly, and it's all in alignment with all female empowerment and female entrepreneurship and how can people live their most joyous and purpose-filled lives. And so here, so all of a sudden this opportunity has just come out of nowhere to be in a room with fantastic speakers. She's got the most amazing speakers. And yes, I'll be helping in the breaks and stuff, but while the speaking's on, there's not much helping needed, so I can actually attend the event as well. And I was like, okay, wow. And only in hindsight this afternoon, I was telling my sister Cass the story about the kitten About the kittens. Anyway, um, I was like, I get it now. I understand why I had to go to look at the cat. It actually wasn't about the cat at all. It was actually about me opening myself up to new possibilities that didn't make sense, that weren't logical. That weren't practical, all of those things. By going to visit the cat, I had actually opened myself up from my heart and hadn't let the logical brain run the show with all of the reasons why I couldn't do it. Don't worry, there was some arguments. We were like back and forth and back and forth and back and forth. We were like, okay, we're going to see the cat. My brain was like, "What do you mean we're going? We are not going to see the cat. We cannot get a cat. Uh uh. Not getting, not getting a cat." So it was literally like we had sensible and like we want the cat, Susie, fighting it out across the table basically. And like from my living from your heart challenge, if I hadn't done that challenge, I would have let my brain win. No, we're not getting a cat. We cannot get a cat. Sensible Susie would have been like, not happening. And little heart Susie would have been like, oh, but you never let us go and look at what we want. We want a cat. Anyway, I told you, if you hadn't clicked off, I did warn you that that was going to be a serious digression. But the point was I didn't make Sensible Susie feel bad for giving me all the reasons why we shouldn't. And I did question Not Sensible Susie, or Cat Cat Cat Cat wanting a cat Susie. I did question her, and I was like, oh, are you sure about this? And she was so sure. Like, she was so sure. And maybe she's not even— she's like, take a risk. Like, Let's just see where it goes. And I did do that because it did feel like, oh my God, what am I just signing up now? I'm gonna come home with a cat carrier and I've got no like cat-proofing and no like anything like that. And I'm just gonna have to figure it out. But instead, take a risk, Susie. We did it. And then this amazing opportunity landed in my lap. And I believe it was because Take a Risk Susie was wide and open and in the driver's seat at the time. Anyway, on that note, 30 minutes is way too long. Um, and I hope if you didn't click off, you liked my cat story. Anyway, I love you lots, and I'll see you tomorrow. Bye! Bye!