Tami GrgasI help homeschooling Mili-mums who have ADHD to manage PCS moves and move their business.

ONE OF MY MANY LESSONS LEARNED IN LIFE

21 Apr 2024 · 3 min

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In this spoken personal reflection, Tami Grgas recounts her remarkable life journey, beginning with her move from Canada to the United States, marrying her ideal partner, raising a son, traveling with the Air Force, and homeschooling him through high school. She emphasizes that this fulfilling life was not always the case. The pivotal memory she shares is from May 1983, when, as the first in her family to graduate high school, she encountered her mother drunk and emotionally volatile. Tami set a firm boundary, refusing to engage with her mother while intoxicated, and left the house. This decisive moment taught her to release the burden of responsibility she felt toward her mother, to forge a new path guided by her faith, and to make choices that created a safe, loving home for her own family. The narrative illustrates how confronting a painful family dynamic catalyzed personal growth, spiritual alignment, and the foundation of the dream life she now enjoys.

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I'm still blown away that I have moved from Canada to the United States, married my dream man, then we had a baby boy, traveled the world with the Air Force, and we homeschooled our son right through to high school, and have been living a dream life together. For 20+ years now. It's been fabulous. However, it was not, not always like this. So it was late May 1983. I, I was going to be the first to graduate from high school in our family. It was kind of exciting, and I was getting my stuff ready in my room, and I looked out the window and I saw my mom pull into the driveway. You know, it was after work, so, you know, that was normal. All of a sudden, I hear a commotion downstairs, and she came blasting in the front door and started yelling for me, "Tami, get your damn ass down here!" I was like, "Uh-oh, what, what did she think I did now?" So I gingerly went down the stairs. And when I got to the bottom, I said, "Yes, Mom." And she like seriously like reached out and grabbed me and pulled me into her and hugged me so hard. She was sloppy drunk again. She started crying about, you know, "Oh, my baby's graduating from high school, blah blah blah blah," and just like Uh, so I got out of her death grip. I pushed her away and I told her, no more, no more. I don't want to talk to you or spend time with you when you're drunk anymore. I threw on a jacket and I left. That moment in my life, it taught me how to release my feelings of responsibility for my mother, how to forge a new life for myself and to follow God's plan for me. And I ultimately made better decisions and created a safe loving home environment for my family. And that's why I am where I am now.