Conquer The World With Confidence

Welcome to the Soul of Innovation podcast. I am Thomas Anglero, and times are hard. Things are extremely difficult now. I look around and talk to friends, and people have lost their jobs and are hiding a bit. They're looking for jobs, but they're embarrassed. I'm starting to see grown men walking the streets being overly scruffy. What I mean by that is unkept, unshaven. They look like not zombies yet, but definitely their minds and their hearts and their egos have been destroyed. Time is hard today. There are people who are keeping their job, but they have to take on the role of 2, 3 positions that versus the one position they had before. That's what you got to do to just keep the job, and you don't say anything to anybody, just keep on going. You maybe complain when you come home if you have someone to listen to you. Time is hard. Who do you have to talk to? Who's your outlet? We all need an outlet. Even if it's a dog or a cat who doesn't understand us, or latest studies say they actually do understand us, but that doesn't help. You want somebody to listen to you, you want somebody give you a hug, you want somebody to help you, you want somebody just to listen. Time today is hard. And I want to tell you a story about myself a bit, just to give you an example, not how to get through it. I'm not saying I'm an expert, but I'm gonna tell you how I walked over the coals of fire and found myself that I'm still walking over the coals of fire. What I mean by that, time stays hard, but you don't give up. You don't stop walking over those coals of fire. Let me tell you a story. Going back about a year and a half ago, I woke up to— well, let's put it this way. I woke up on vacation and thought, first day of vacation should be great, gonna be a nice 10 days. And an hour later, I was on the side of a mountain with my arm twisted, broken in more places. The doctor said that when they put my elbow back together, it was like playing Lego, trying to find all the pieces. My elbow was shattered, the tibia and fibula completely shattered, and The next few weeks, 2 surgeries and the arm. And they said a 2-year recovery time. I'm still in the recovery, but it's back. Thank you. Got lucky. But a couple of months after that, I got Lyme disease. After that, Bell's palsy. After that, something else. I've lost track of all the things I got that hit me. And you know what? It's not the list. That's just a list of bad luck. I mean, stuff happens to people, right? Lyme disease has gone to Bill's balls. I am 99% or 98% through with that. God bless that too. Things happen. Things happen to you. Things happen to us. And it's how you take it. You cannot avoid stuff happening to you. You cannot avoid the things that happen to you that frustrate you that drive you out of your mind. But the question is, what do you do when you're in it? First of all, when you're in it, it is impossible, or close to impossible, to look outside of it. You think everything's falling apart. If your health is horrible, it is really hard to fix that. With me and my situation, I just kept on waking up to situations where I hear, what, I got a problem now? What's happening now? It was just one thing after another. But what I did was I kept my confidence. I got this, I would tell myself. I got this. I got this. Now, I know that attitude doesn't work for everybody, but you have to believe in you. You wake, you wake up, you go to work, and you find out that you lost your job. A regorgue, or they change their mind or something. After the initial shock wears off, there's only one thing you say in your mind: I got this. It's not that you're going to conquer the world, is that you're not going to let the world conquer you. Things will always happen to you. And these times, it is so hard. It's almost so easy to be frustrated and upset. I walk around the streets and people aren't smiling less and less. It shocks the hell out of me because we just finished, what, 11, 12 years of the stock market— 12 years of the stock market going up, 12 years of people having plenty of employment, which means they have plenty of money, which means they have plenty of food, which means they had shelter, which they probably had vacations and they probably had fun. But yet people are smiling less now than they did in the last 12 years. People have gone the opposite of "I got this," and they've gone to "feel sorry for me." Feeling sorry for yourself when you're in the middle of hell does not help you. You have to say, I got this. Now, how do you say I got this? You say I got this by every day doing something, succeed in doing something, even if it's as small as doing the dishes, putting the dishes in the dishwasher if you have it. If you don't have a dishwasher— I remember when I first came out of school, didn't have a dishwasher for 15 years, didn't want one. You know why? My best ideas Or while doing the dishes every night. So don't be embarrassed if you got a dishwasher. You're probably more innovative than 90% of the people walking the planet. Start putting away the dishes every day. Start making your bed every day. It is these small successes that you are now retraining your mind and yourself that you are a winner, that you complete things. See, the thing is, is when you're in the middle of hell, you have forgotten what it is to win, to succeed, to be victorious, to be on top of your game. So when you're at the bottom, you have to retrain yourself with the simple steps. This advice comes from what I did. Of course, with all the things I had, challenges I had, I felt sorry for myself. But then I said, let me start doing these things every day. It's about a consecutive series of successes. I successfully put away the dishes. I successfully made the bed. I successfully went for a walk today around the block, even though I was in pain. I successfully went shopping. I successfully turned on the PC and checked my email. Take every little checkmark you can. The mind leads to depression, which leads to massive insecurity, which leads to a place that you don't want to go to. So the way you turn it around, or one way you turn around, is by turning around your habits and doing those little things that are actually really, really big things, because the mind doesn't know the difference between a small success like making your bed or doing the dishes and winning lotto, they're both, you know, an endorphin kick. Of course, winning lotto is a big endorphin kick, but it's the successes, it's a series of endorphin kicks, the series of winning, of doing things, of accomplishing things that actually is bigger than one big lotto check. Though we all want the big lotto check, let's be realistic. Do not give up on yourself and do not look at other people. One of the things I'm seeing here when I talk to people is that they are— they start their sentences, or the opening paragraph always includes someone else, like the grass is green over there. But I just finished talking to the person that you're talking about, and that person's life is crap. Everybody's having a tough time now. There's no one to look to to envy. You have to look to yourself. You have to say, I got this. No girlfriend or boyfriend. Okay, I got this. No job, just been fired. Okay, I got this. Money's running low, trouble paying the bills. I got this. Train your mind, no matter what the situation, no matter the level of the difficulty, train your mind to immediately say and be convinced and know, "I got this." And you will come up with new solutions, you will change your perspective, you will flip the model, You will see things differently, and you'll find a way, and a new way will appear. Go forth and spread beauty and light. I'm feeling the pain. Even people who are so-called happy don't seem happy. Times are different. But you got this. I know you do. It's easy to say that. It's easy to ask you to believe in yourself. It's really hard when you're down. God, I know so many people who are down right now. But I want you to look in the mirror. First few moments will be awkward. But after you get a bit comfortable, while looking in the mirror, while looking at yourself, say out loud, "I got this." It probably won't feel so powerful. So look in the mirror, look in your eyes, and say it. A little stronger. I got this. Mm. Better. Look in the mirror again. Look deeper into your eyes. Look deep into your pupils. Say it. I got this. You got this. I'm Thomas Anglero. I love you. I believe in you. Until next time.