How to discipline without causing more problems #transformativeparenting #parentingtips #shorts

Another common mistake that parents make when disciplining their children is taking away something that their child needs. This is not a good practice and usually just leads to more problems over time. Sometimes, like when a child isn't listening, a parent will threaten to take away their favorite toy or an experience that they were looking forward to like a friend's birthday party. Sometimes a parent can threaten to take away or does take away a bedtime story when it's been a tough night with their kids. The problem is that children have very strong instincts of attachment and when we use the things that they're attached to against them to try to encourage good behavior, it actually teaches them to not care about those things they're attached to so much. When kids stop caring about the things that they were attached to because they were being used as leverage against them, they start using language like I don't care and whatever. And when they're in that place they're usually much, much harder to parent.