The Surprising Parenting Habit That Transforms Behavior & Improves Your Bond

There is a habit that can be an absolute game changer for parents, and I bet most of you aren't doing it consistently. When parents tell me they're experiencing resistance or defiance or a lack of cooperation from their kids, I always find that they are not utilizing the power of this simple habit. It's called collect before you direct, and it's based on the fact that children are not wired to listen to someone if they don't feel connected to them in the moment. This is an instinct designed to keep your children safe. You want your children to have this instinct. The problem is, parents usually just assume connection is there with their kids, and that's not how it works. We cannot take connection for granted. Instead of just telling your children what to do or barking orders at them, you join your child's world for a moment. Get down at their level, share a smile, chat about what they're doing. This connection makes them feel seen and heard. And that's when they'll be much more likely to listen. If you want a deeper dive on this topic, check out the full length video on our transformative parenting YouTube channel.