Achiever’s Curse: 3 Lessons I Learned at Tony Robbins

What's up guys, welcome back to the podcast. I am so excited for today's episode. I had something totally different planned for this week, but after I got back from Tony Robbins, I went to UPW, which is Unleash the Power Within. Um, he was doing it live, which he doesn't do as often anymore after the pandemic. They do a lot of virtual events, but this was the only live one that he was doing this year, and it was in West Palm, which is pretty close to where I live. So I just had to drive about an hour north along the coast of Florida, and it was a 4-day event, and it was just so incredible. I mean, truly life-changing. I know people say that about literally anything these days, but like, actually, actually life-changing. Um, I've just followed Tony's work for so long, and I'm such a fan of him and everything that he teaches and everything that he does. And all that he gives back. And it was incredible to just be in that room and witness his power and his presence and his voice. And I know there's lots of people in the personal development space that know how legendary Tony Robbins is. I mean, he's been teaching all of the things that you've ever heard from anyone else ever, any coach, any podcaster. It's probably come from Tony at some point. I mean, he's been in the game for over 45 years. He's advised some of the most elite people in the world, world leaders, multiple presidents of the United States, celebrities, the top athletes. Um, I mean, his work is just untouchable and it was so powerful to be in that room, especially just with the magnitude of people and getting to see the impact. You know, there was, I think, over 10,000 people in the room and another 3,000 people online, something like that. But it was just insane. Um, so yeah, it was a really incredible experience. My voice is not fully back to normal after 4 days of jumping up and down and screaming and celebrating, and the energy was so intense. We were in that room for 15 hours a day at least, uh, for 4 days straight. So I was sleeping for about 5 hours a night, and then, you know, every 20 to 30 minutes you're getting up and you are raving, like strobe lights, jumping up and down, celebrating, partying, dancing. Um, so it was very, very high energy, but it was, it was so much fun. And there were so many like deep transformative moments as well. Like just things that really, yeah, just helped me even just reflect and, and learn more about myself and go deeper into this work. And that's something that I was really excited to do and that I think sometimes people people lose their ability to have a beginner's mindset. And, you know, they go into things thinking, I already know all of this, or I've already heard all of this, or I read that before, or someone else said that before. And then you miss the magic of what is actually available to you in that moment had you gone in just being completely open to receive whatever it is that was there for you. And so I really set that intention at the beginning of this event that You know, I knew there was going to be a lot of stuff that I knew or had heard before or had even learned from Tony himself before, just through other, other forms of his teaching. But I didn't want to let that get in the way of it being an incredible experience for me. And I'm so glad that I was able to really just like humble myself and walk into that room and go, every single person who comes on stage and, and every single segment and every single closed-eye guided process. Every single everything has something to teach me, and I'm going to find it. I'm determined to find everything that I need here in this room. And of course, I walked away with, with so much. And so I had something different planned for the podcast for you guys this week, but I just feel like this energy is really alive and I'm really excited and I feel lit up and expanded. And so I just wanted to scrap whatever I was going to do before and just record this. It's like, I mean, this episode is due to be out in like 5 hours and I'm just recording it right now. But so it's very real time. Hello. Hi. This is my raspy voice. Hopefully we'll be healed in a few days. But I wanted to share with you guys some of the major takeaways from this event that I'm so excited about. Obviously, there was so much. I mean, when you, when you look at it, it's 4 days, 15 hours plus per day of intense training. And like every single moment you're learning something, experiencing something, there's something to be taken away. So it would be impossible for me to like do a whole episode where I just summarize the event or here's everything that I learned. But, you know, I'm going to obviously take all of that with me as I move forward in my business and in my coaching and with my private clients and with my groups and and pour all of that into what I do from, from here forward. Because like I said, again, it's just life-changing stuff. So, but I did want to do an episode, 3 kind of major takeaways I'm going to share with you guys. There's obviously so many more, but these are just the first 3. I scrolled through my notes and I just, I just decided to pause on the first 3 things that kind of like popped out to me. So I'm pretty sure all of these things are from day one. So, you know, we're not even like scratching the surface here. Obviously it was a 4-day thing, but these are— I just couldn't not share them with you. So I'm going to share some, a couple of things that really stood out to me and then I'll expand on each one and kind of share my perspective and what I've learned from it. Um, but one of the main things is this idea around achiever's curse, which we will get into. So stick around for that. Before we dive in, I just want to remind you guys really quickly that Wealth Calibration is now open for enrollment. The doors are closing this Sunday, November 13th. So that will be the very last day to enroll for this next live round of Wealth Calibration. I'm very excited about this program and I was feeling so lit up at Tony Robbins because everything that he teaches is really about the principles behind why I created Wealth Calibration. Everything that he teaches is about the physiology of the body and using that as a way to accelerate your journey. You know, if you followed any of his work, he talks a lot about peak state and the reason why we're jumping and dancing and celebrating and there's strobe lights and loud music and everything all the time, every 20 to 30 minutes for 4 days straight in this event is because you learn faster, you integrate deeper, you're more likely to take action and actually maintain what it is that you are learning when you can access it while you're in a peak state. Right. And so I even had a coaching call tonight with the women that are inside my business mastermind, Abundant and Ambitious. And I've been doing this since the very beginning of that program. So there's been 3 rounds of it now, and I've done it since the very beginning, sort of, sort of just because it's how I roll, but also because I know it's really powerful. And so at the beginning of those calls, we always start with like a pump-up song and we, we dance and we jam out and we vibe together and then we begin the mastermind call. And I do that on purpose because getting ourselves into a peak state before we do something is going to allow us to do it more powerfully or to integrate it better or to actually take that information and turn it into action. We're just more likely to do those things when we are in a high energy state. When it's happening. And so obviously Wealth Calibration is this program that's about money, but it's really about the embodiment of success. And so everything that we do in that program for 4 weeks is about creating the experience of wealth, abundance, overflow, and success inside of the body. Right? And so, you know, there's a lot of money mindset work out there, and I have my own programs around money mindset. And I think mindset is so important. It's key. It's foundational. It definitely is an important part. But this is just another— it's another prong of this like multi-pronged approach that we can take to actually maximize our abundance. And what I've found in my journey is that the embodiment work is sometimes often more powerful than the mindset work. And the reason that that is, is because when you know something in your body, when your body knows something, you become more certain about it. And I'll talk about this when we get into the episode, because I'm going to talk a lot about this idea of certainty. And why that's so important. But the body is the subconscious mind, right? And so if we can get our body to know something, it means that we're more likely to change what is happening in our subconscious programming. And so that's why embodiment work is so crazy powerful. And I was so excited, like, earlier this year I created this program in 2022. So it's a very, like, recent, up-to-date sort of program on my approach and my realizations around wealth and how to create that experience in the body. Um, but the reason why, um, I love it so much is because it's made a huge difference for me. I've been doing the mindset stuff for a long time, but once you add in that piece, it's like the missing ingredient. Once you add in that piece of getting it programmed into your body and impl— like implanting that feeling almost of wealth in the body, it's like your body remembers it faster than your mind will, because our mind is so complex and it's always telling us all these stories and it's always trying to change the narrative and the ego co— always comes through. And so you could be really good at this like abundance mindset and positive thinking and all of that stuff surface level, but you're still going to have this level of doubt and uncertainty that pops up inevitably. We all do, right? It's not a problem, it's not a you thing, it's just thing, right? And so the way that we can kind of move through that more successfully is by bringing the body online and actually getting the body involved in this experience. So Wealth Calibration is really the place that you go to when you've decided that you're done with this way of like kind of pushing and forcing and trying to make the money and you're ready to actually just relax. Into wealth. So it's a relaxation into wealth rather than a force or a push towards wealth. And that is so powerful because we're all seeking this, you know, the codes for money and success. But a lot of it is inside of these, you know, masculine ways. And the masculine has its place, 100%. We need that. We need to be action takers. We need to be ambitious. But also We need that other element. And so Wealth Calibration is the money and the success codes that you're seeking, but it's wrapped in this warm embrace of divine feminine flow. And what I know to be true for me and for so many of my clients, and probably for so many of you, is that we've spent most of our lives approaching money from the masculine, right? This chasing energy, this gotta go get it, gotta figure it out. It's up to me. I want to make it happen. And we know that that has gotten us so far. But how do we get beyond that? Right. That's the next question. And so if the masculine or whatever approach you've been taking so far has gotten you to a certain point, how can we then integrate something new that breaks that glass ceiling for us and helps us ascend beyond that into a new level of wealth and ease of manifesting money? Right. And so this is for me, this is really the key to unlocking your innate magnetism and not just you. Utilizing the power of the mind, which we know is so insanely powerful, but really going into the body and having this kind of all-encompassing sensory experience. That's what this program is. We work on all of the 5 senses throughout the program and we really focus on the body so that we can stop chasing wealth and start becoming it. So it's an incredible program. I'm obsessed with it. It is so fucking cool. You also get access to some of the most amazing female facilitators in the space, and we're going to be doing hypno breathwork that is like more powerful than plant medicine. I've even had my clients that have gone through it say that to me, like, I can't believe the state that I was able to access in that session was not me being on some sort of psychedelic drug like that. My body just did that through the breath. So we're going to do hypno breathwork that's all around— obviously everything is centered around this idea of money, wealth, and success. But you're also going to get hypnotherapy, sound healing. We're going to do a pleasure workshop all about sex magic and kind of tapping into how the body and the way that we can use pleasure to get closer to wealth. So that's very, very cool. 4 interactive money healing workshops with me, plus all those guest sessions. We're going to do a live welcome call. We're going to do a closing alchemy ceremony, which is going to be very cool. And it's just going to be a really fun time. And I love this course because it's really quick and it's concise. It's 4 weeks. It's no bullshit. You get in, you get out, you get what you came for. So if you guys want to join us, just know that the doors close on Sunday, November 13th. You can also upgrade to the money bundle if you would like to. And this is a really insane deal. So when you join Wealth Calibration, if you upgrade to the bundle, you'll actually get all 3 of my money courses. So you'll be in this round of Wealth Calibration with us, but— and you'll get lifetime access to that, which is the only way to get lifetime access to Wealth Calibration is to do the bundle. And then you'll also get lifetime access to Cosmic Cash, which is, you know, this another 4-week journey. But it's really a lot more about those foundational mindset pieces and your astrological prosperity placement. So it's a totally different vibe when it comes to the money work, but it's also very, very valuable. And then you also get the Energy of Money Masterclass. Which is a 2.5-hour masterclass that's really designed to kickstart your wealth consciousness journey. So we're going to, you know, help you stop spinning your wheels and really learn the foundations of magnetism when it comes to money. So that's the bundle and you get an insane deal when you do that. So if you guys want to check it out, I will leave a link in the show notes for you. And if you want to save some money, you can sign up before Friday the 11th. So 11/11. You will save $111. We love it. We love the angel numbers. Come on. I mean, it's honestly chef's kiss. So you're going to save $111 if you sign up on or before 11/11 with the code CALIBRATE. So it's all caps. Just use the word CALIBRATE at checkout and that code will work on both just Wealth Calibration by itself and on the money bundle and on the payment plan. So if you want to do Wealth Calibration but you want to do the monthly payment plan, that code will also save you $111 on that. So we love it, right? Making it accessible. Okay. Without further ado, I'm so freaking excited for this episode, you guys. Let's dive in.

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Okay, so the first little nugget of wisdom is that you are not stuck. You are just low energy. And this may sound weird at first, so we'll kind of unpack it a little bit. But essentially, when you are in a high energy state, like we were talking about, when you're in a peak state, as Tony would call it, right, you can change anything quickly. But when you're in a low energy state, you are bound to just feel overwhelmed, uncertain, unable, or this overall feeling of like stuckness, right? Of not knowing what to do or how to do it. God, the frustration, right? When you're in a low energy state. So what this means to me and how I'm kind of like integrating this into my life and my business especially is that high energy equals high income. And this is something that one of the other speakers at the event, Nick Santonastasso, talked about. He is an incredible, incredible man. He has a rare condition where he has no legs and he only has one arm, and his story is just one of pure resilience and inspiration, obviously. But he's also really talented in so many other things. And anyway, he was talking about this as well, this idea of high energy equals high income. And when you have high income, you have high impact, or you're able to have high impact, right? It depends what you do with your money. But all of us here listening to this podcast, we're going to assume you're a great person, you're heart-centered, you want to do good things in the world. The reason that you would want to be rich or wealthy is so that you can live an amazing life, obviously. Yes, give yourself beautiful things and beautiful experiences and take care of your family, but also help others and really truly be in a state of overflow where you can afford to help others in a big way, right? And so if we have high energy, we can have high income. And if we can have high income, then we can have high impact. And if we can have high impact, we are guaranteed to have high fulfillment. Because there's only two things that are required in your life to feel just amazing and to be in an incredible state, and that's Growing and giving. And so if we are following this formula of high energy equals high income equals high impact equals high fulfillment, well, of course, throughout that journey, we're going to be growing and we're also going to be giving. So we are going to be deeply happy and fulfilled in our lives. And so this just reminds us again that we have to take care of our energy in both the micro and the macro, right? We talk about taking care of our energy, um, in so many ways, but So really thinking about this from, you know, what are the small things that you can do to really guard, protect, shape, increase your energy? And also, what are the bigger parts of our lives that also impact our energy? So it's not only about the small things, like the things that you do on a daily basis that determine your energy, right? Drinking enough water and moving your body. What are your routines, your habits, your rituals? Are you meditating? Are you journaling? Not that you have to do all of those things, but those are just examples of some things that people do in the micro to kind of take care of their energy on a daily basis, right? It's not only those things, it's also, you know, the— our workplaces and our relationships and the social settings that we put ourselves in and the coaching containers that we put ourselves in. All of that stuff also helps us get back to that high energy state. Or, or they can suck the life out of us if we're not discerning and careful about what— where, where we're put, where we're sharing our time and space with, who we're sharing our time and space with. Right. And so looking at how you're taking care of your energy in both the micro and the macro, that's kind of what I am taking away from this overarching message of you're not stuck, you're just low energy is looking at, okay, if I'm feeling stuck or I'm more inclined to be like frustrated or feeling stuck in my head, overwhelmed, feeling like it's hard to just take the next move, or not knowing what the right step is, or I can't take action— it's not that I, I'm stuck and I actually don't know. It's that I'm actually in a low energy state. Because from a high energy state, it becomes very clear what the next action step is. It becomes exciting what the next action step is. It becomes very easily accessible for you to know and understand and actually do the next thing that you need to do to continue making progress, right? So that's the first one. You're not stuck, you're just low energy. And so looking at how we can get back to those high energy states, not only from our daily routines and the small things that we chip away at, at a daily basis, but also in the bigger arenas, in our, in our work, in our relationships, in our social lives, in the coaching containers that we join and who we surround ourselves with, all the things like that. Okay. The second little nugget that I want to share with you guys is, oh my God, I love this quote. Holy shit. This is like bold, all caps, like highlighted in my notes. It says, a belief is a poor substitute for an experience. And if we have no greater context, we would be like, okay, maybe that didn't shake your soul right now, me just reading that quote. But when you really think about it, a belief is a poor substitute for an experience. To me, this means that we can consciously think something, we can consciously believe something.

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But until we actually develop an experience around it, we will still have levels of uncertainty and doubt. A belief is a poor substitute for an experience. The experience is the thing that catapults you so much further. Creating an experience in your body is going to give you 10 times the certainty that it's possible for you than if you were to just think about it alone, right? If you were to just think about the belief of, I know it's possible for me, creating an experience in your body that proves to you, holy shit, this is possible for me. That is going to create 10 times the certainty for you than if you were just to think about that belief alone. And this is why, like I was talking about earlier, the embodiment piece of this inner work is so powerful, because if you don't have certainty, you will not execute. And this is something that we learned as well. If you don't have certainty, you will not execute. So you must be certain because knowledge is not actually power. Execution is. The knowledge does nothing for you if you are not actually executing and taking the action on it. And so if we know that we're not going to take action and execute, if we're not certain, then we need to create certainty. And how do we create bigger, stronger levels of certainty? We build experiences within the body that remind us that our beliefs are actually real. And not only are they thoughts in the mind, but holy shit, they are true. Because when you feel something in your body, it becomes real. It becomes true. It becomes factual because the body is the subconscious. Is this all making sense? Okay, let's keep going. So, I mean, if we talk about like Wealth Calibration, for example, like we were talking about this program. Yeah. A 4-week journey that takes you in and through the body. And it is designed to bypass the conscious mind and really create this experience of certainty around wealth and success, not in the mind, but deep in your bones. So that when everyone else tells you no about something, you will already be primed and ready to listen and follow your own knowing instead of the nos from other people. That's something that Jamie Kern Lima talked about. Jamie Kern Lima. I said that really fast. I think I messed up one of the letters. Um, so she's the founder of IT Cosmetics. She built an incredible makeup brand, but it was such a struggle. 3 years of rejection, of being said no to all of the time, left, right, and center. Nobody wanted to stock her products. They didn't believe that she could sell makeup with real people, with images of real skin, women that have skin conditions, rosacea, acne, women that are overweight, that are old, that have wrinkles. She— that was her mission. That was her knowing, was that that was the way to sell her makeup brand. And everybody said no. Everybody said that it wasn't possible. Everybody turned her away over and over and over again until she was basically on the verge of bankruptcy, had no money left, until she finally got her first yes. And she was able to share her makeup products on QVC, and they sold out. And from there on, she kind of built up this brand. Eventually, L'Oréal bought her for $1.2 billion in cash. And now she is, you know, one of the most powerful female CEOs. She's a billionaire, all of these things. She talks about listening to your knowing instead of the nos. So when we're creating this experience in the body, it allows us to actually already be primed and ready to follow that knowing instead of listening to the nos. If all we've done is the mindset work, if all we've done is worked on, you know, the, the mental plane, we are more likely to get sucked into the doubt, to the frustration, to the imposter syndrome, to people saying no, to saying that's not possible. You can't earn that much money. This is your industry. This is what you're set at. This is what everybody else is charging. That's all you can make. We are more likely to get caught up in that narrative if we have not created the certainty in the body, right? Are we following? And so lots of people will tell you that the wealth or the success or the impact that you want to create is unrealistic. And it might even be, it might even be you that's telling yourself that. You might have those stories of, oh, well, you know, this is my job and this is how much people earn in this industry and this is just the way it is. Or this is, I don't have a degree, or I do have a degree, but it You know, this is all that I can earn and I'm capped at this amount and nobody, all of my peers are only doing this and that's what I'm, what I'm limited to, right? Lots of people, including yourself, are probably gonna tell you that, you know, your dreams or goals for the wealth that you wanna create or the success or the impact or whatever it is, is unrealistic or that it's not possible. But when your body knows different, better, bigger, It changes the game because uncertainty is what breeds our inaction, right? If you've ever really wanted to build a business or quit your job or start something new or literally do fucking anything and you didn't do it, the reason that you didn't do it was probably uncertainty because you were like, oh, I don't know if it's going to work, or I don't know what people will say, or I don't know if I'll make money, or I don't know if that's a good idea, or I don't know if my parents will support me, or I don't know what my friends will say, or— right? It's uncertainty. It's uncertainty that keeps us trapped in this vicious cycle of wanting to do things and then not fucking doing them. And so if we are only working with the mind, we are more likely to succumb to that pattern, to the doubt and the fear and the uncertainty. So this takeaway of a belief is a poor substitute for an experience is so powerful because it just reminds us how important the experiences are. Get this, think about it in terms of like retreats or in-person events, right? Have you ever learned something through a book or a podcast or even like a coaching program or, or something of that nature? And you've learned it and you know it, right? Consciously, but you don't actually know it in your body, right? There's, it's two different things. Knowing it and embodying it are two very different things. And so you may have learned it somewhere and you know it and you talk about it and you think that you're being about it in your life, but then you go and you have some sort of immersive in-person experience of some kind. You go to a live event, you go to a retreat, you do an in-person VIP day with your coach, something that gets you like in an actual experience. And then you're like, whoa. Or you go to Tony Robbins, right? We can take my weekend as an example. And it's all the things that you already knew and that you already talked about and that were already in your mind, but now you fucking know it. Now it's in your soul. Now it's been implanted in your body. It is deep in your bones and it has become unshakable. It's so much stronger. So that— it was huge for me, right? A belief is a poor substitute for an experience. And that's why in so much of the work that I do, I'm obsessed with creating experiences. I love using music and movement and getting the body involved. And obviously Wealth Calibration is a whole program about wealth that's surrounded around this idea of getting it into your body and the retreat and all of this stuff. It's invitations for us to really create experiences so that we can know something on a deeper level, not just in the mind, but in the body. Okay. And then number 3, number 3 is where we're going to talk about the achiever's curse. So this is, this is something that, that Tony gave us, and he said there's 3 decisions that we are making at every moment that we're alive. The first one is, what am I going to focus on? The second one is, what does it mean? And the third one is, what am I going to do? Those 3 things, every moment that we're alive. We're making these 3 decisions. What am I going to focus on in this moment? What am I going to make it mean? And what am I going to do about it? Right? And so the first question, what am I going to focus on? What we know is that where you focus creates a feeling. And so whatever you focus on, you will feel regardless of if that thing was true or not. Right? So if you focus on the fact that someone pissed you off or was rude to you or crossed a boundary or is being mean or nasty or whatever, if you focus on those things, you are going to create the feeling of anger or judgment or frustration or resentment, regardless of if what actually happened or what you're saying happened. Happened, right? Because a lot of times we're interpreting things— well, all the time we're interpreting everything through our reticular activating system. It's running through this filter. And so if we're looking for reasons to be upset, we're going to constantly feel upset, even if those reasons that we think are reasons weren't actually factually true, or in reality, or in somebody else's reality, they happened in a different way than how you perceived it or how you felt it, right? So Whatever you focus on, you're going to feel regardless of if it's true or not. So where you put your focus is very, very important. And the second one about what does it mean, right? Meaning is what then creates the emotion, and emotion is what colors your whole life. So this is something that was so crazy that he said that just you kind of— it's like one of those mind fucks, right? And he said this a lot. So we had a lot of time to kind of like think about it over and over again. But Basically, he said, you're not experiencing life right now. None of us are actually experiencing life. What we are experiencing is what we choose to focus on and the meaning that we give it. And then that is what we call life. But when none of us are actually experiencing life, we're experiencing what we individually choose to focus on and the meaning that we provide to that thing. And then of course, how that makes us feel, right? And then the last question, obviously, is what are you gonna do about it? Because that's the next thing. Okay, I focused on this thing, I created this meaning, it made me feel this way, and now what's my next step? What's my next action? And so then he asked us these 3 questions, right? What do you focus on more? Returning to question 1, what do you focus on? What do you focus on more, what you have already or what's missing?

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What do you focus on more, what you can control or what you can't control? What do you focus on more? Your past, your present, or your future? And again, it would be very easy for all of us who are in this work and really thrive off of personal development content to know the quote unquote right answers to these questions, right? Like, what do you focus on more, what you have or what's missing? What I have. And what do you focus on more, what you can control or what you can't control? What I can control, right? And I'm totally in my present all the time. It's very easy to know what the quote unquote right answers are, but it's more important to just actually be fucking honest with yourself. And so it was interesting, he was talking about high achievers and he said high achievers tend to focus on what's missing. What they can control actually, and the future. This is the combination of a high achiever, someone who's looking for the gaps of like, okay, what's missing in my life or in my career or in my business? And how can I fix that? Right there, they are focused on what they can control, what's within their control. And they're obviously looking outward to the future of, of the outcomes that they wanna create in the life that they wanna live. That's the recipe for high achievers, right? But high achievers are then not as happy as they could be because with this recipe, it's never enough. And that is the achiever's curse, is the feeling of it's never enough. And so for— if you are someone listening to this podcast that's like, yes, that's me, oh my God, I'm always focusing on, you know, what's missing or what the gaps are, what I can do better, what I can create more of, what's next for me. And I'm looking, I'm trying to look at what's within my control, right? What action do I need to take? And I'm, I'm looking at the future of where I want to go and who I want to be and what I want to do in this world. But I'm not as happy. That's the achiever's curse, right? And I resonate with this so much. I've had this experience in my life like to a T, right? So I'm sitting in that seat being like, holy fuck, like someone finally is putting words to the experience that so many of us are having. And what this invites us to, to learn is that happiness has to be a priority. At least that was my personal takeaway. Happiness has to be a priority. And, you know, like in the first phase of, of my journey, I was really in hustle mode. You guys know this. I talk about this all the time, right? Oh, so in my masculine, yada yada. You get the picture. In the first phase of my journey, I was really in hustle mode, always pushing and trying and get to the next level. And in many ways, I still can easily return to hustle mode because it's my nature, right? I have, I have that, I don't know, I just have that drive and that ambition and, and that's so good and it served me in so many ways, but it's this, this balance that we have to create, right? And so that was my kind of like natural default was, push, force, get to the next level, high achiever, all the things. And then at the end of 2020, I started to realize that if I didn't find a better way to do things, that I would be burnt out really soon. I was like getting, I was approaching the burnout, right? Which was fucking so ironic because my signature program at the time was From Burnt Out to Badass. So imagine me, I'm serving all these clients in my program that's called From Burnt Out to Badass, and that is the thing that's burning me out. Out. Kind of hilarious when you think about it. So I knew, I was like, okay, if, if, if I keep following the, the way that I'm currently doing things, if I run everything in this, in this same way without making any changes, I am going to get to a place of burnout for sure. And so I decided to make some changes. I hired a new mentor, I learned new skills, and I've integrated so much in my life and in my business since then. That really helps me dance between the masculine and the feminine, or as Tony called it, the science of achievement, which is kind of like this masculine energy, right? And the art of fulfillment, which is more of the feminine. And so, you know, finding that, that balance. But I'm not perfect, obviously, right? It's a practice. And like I said, if I'm, you know, my natural kind of like default default to go back to would be the Achiever Mode, the Hustle Mode, right? The push, force, ah, let's make it happen mode, right? I mean, the podcast is called Makeshift Happen. This is just, you know, it's, it all makes perfect sense, right? So I'm not perfect. Like, it, this is so a practice and I will be a lifelong student of this work, uh, continuing to just adjust and adapt as every new level of my life presents a newer, more elevated, or more complex version of the same challenges that come with this. But something Tony said that really stuck out to me is another quote that you guys can take with you. All suffering starts with the illusion of loss. And the key word here that we're looking at is illusion, right? So interesting when you really think about that. All suffering starts with the illusion of loss. And so he said, high achievers don't actually get fearful, they just get stressed. Which, if any of you are listening to this and you, you resonate with the, the idea of being one of these high achievers, you will totally resonate with that. You will get that. High achievers don't really get fearful, they just get stressed. But the suffering is the same. Because there's this illusion of loss, right? Of losing money, of losing time, of losing people in your life, of losing opportunities. It's the— this, this idea we're making up in our head. Oh my gosh, if I do this, I might lose X, Y, or Z. And so we tend to speed up when we are afraid. Fear is what makes us go, okay, faster, faster, faster. And that is where the pushing and the forcing and the controlling comes into play, because we are trying to forge an outcome fast so that we can escape our own suffering. That's why we want it so quickly, because we want to get out. We want to get out of this state of frustration, of sadness, of fear, of whatever the illusion of suffering is that we created, right? We want to get rid of it. We want to escape it. So we're like, okay, let me hustle towards towards this next outcome, and that will fix it for me. That will remove— that will get me out of the state of suffering. And this has been the way to make money for so many people for so long. Hurry up, go faster, find the quickest way, try something. Oh, doesn't work? Okay, throw it out, switch it, something else, new business. Okay, starting over again. This doesn't work? Whatever, pivoting, changing. Multiply that, do more of that, hustle towards that, hire someone, fire them, hire someone different. All of these like frantic action steps that are taken from a place of uncertainty and of the illusion of loss. So we're in a state of suffering, and this is really not a long-term strategy for generating wealth or creating financial freedom or growing a business or even just being happy. And so the question that I have for you guys is, you know, what if the answer was to actually shift gears and find a way to slow down this process for getting closer to wealth, financial freedom, success, all the things, right? To actually relax into it rather than chase it. And so this is just felt so, so aligned. I was sitting in my chair like with my jaw open half the time, like, holy shit. Like, Yes, this is what I've been teaching. Like just giving words and life and fire to all the things that I knew to be true, that I knew in my body, that I teach my clients. I was like, oh my God, like it's so crazy that I'm in a launch for Wealth Calibration right now as we are learning this because the two things are just So aligned. They're so connected. I tried to share a few stories while I was at the event because I was like just getting mind blown, like, holy shit, like, this is such divine timing. But obviously, you know, we were in there for 15-hour days and I didn't have a lot of time and space to update you guys and share the things. But so I'm sharing it now. This is what Wealth Calibration is all about. It's the money and the success codes again, but just kind of taking this, this slowed down feminine approach to it and really working with the physiology of the body through all 5 senses to prime and prepare your system for wealth, freedom, and success. And so we're going to work through— we're going to work with sight, smell, sound, touch, taste, like literally all of it. Like I've never taught money in this way in any other program. It's, it's so cool. And I think every woman who is desiring financial freedom in her life needs to learn these tools and experience wealth in this way because it accelerates the journey so much. It's been such a cornerstone of my own experience of, you know, working towards financial freedom and gaining more wealth for myself and scaling my business to half a million dollars. Like, this stuff doesn't happen to people by accident. You know, I hope everybody knows that there's obviously a lot of work involved. But there's also a lot of embodiment and a lot of behind-the-scenes things that go into how, how women are doing this. And if you see that other women are creating things that you're also desiring, just always remember to use that as your proof that it's possible for you as well. Because no one is, you know, extraordinarily special, or they found this one secret formula that nobody else knows about and it's impossible to access. In fact, in the coaching industry, when we do find formulas that we feel like are kind of secretive that everybody should know about, we fucking create a program about it and we share it with the whole world, right? And we give access to it for everybody. And so it's available, right? What you're seeing other people create that you would like to have in your life as well is the proof. It's all the proof that you need that it's possible. So I'm so excited about going on this journey with all the women that, you know, ultimately say yes to this opportunity. You guys can do Wealth Calibration by itself, um, or you can upgrade to the Money Bundle, which is an awesome deal. You get access to all three of my money programs. So when you upgrade to the bundle, you basically just get an awesome deal. So you save a bunch of money, like it's way cheaper than if you were to purchase everything, all three of those programs separately. And then also, because I was so deep in the event and I was away from my phone, and we also had like no phone service and my phone died literally every day while we were there. Oh my God, um, funny story. Jaime actually called the police the first day that we were there because he hadn't heard from me in like hours and hours and hours and hours and hours, and it was like 1 in the morning, and he was like panicking, and I hadn't posted stories, and he was like starting to freak out. And it's because, A, there was such shitty service inside the convention center likely because there's 10,000 people in there trying to use their phones. Um, and also my phone died and we were there until almost 2 in the morning on the first night because that was the night that we did the firewalk and it was just such a long freaking day. But he actually called the police and he was like, I think my girlfriend might be missing. Like that was probably traumatic for him. So maybe it's not a funny story. Um, Um, but yeah, I don't know where— I don't know where I was going with that. Oh yes, because I was literally so MIA, I wasn't able to update you guys on everything that was happening with Wealth Calibration and when the early bird discounts were ending and all that stuff. So we decided to extend the code. So you have a discount code that's going to save you $111 on the program or on the money bundle, whichever you choose to sign up for, and that's valid until Friday, 11/11, November 11th. So you can use the code CALIBRATE in all caps to save $111 on either one— Wealth Calibration by itself or the Money Bundle. And then you have until Sunday the 13th to sign up because we will be commencing with our first live call on Monday, November 14th. So that's all of my updates. For today. Thank you guys so much for tuning into the podcast. I hope you loved this one. So many nuggets. I'll definitely— like I said, I'm gonna be integrating everything that we learned and actually like implementing it into my life, into my business. And I'm sure so much of what happened this weekend will come through in my future content and podcasts and programs and with my clients and all that stuff. So I'm really, really, really excited to share. It was such a beautiful experience. Um, thank you guys for following along also on stories. Everybody was like so encouraging and just so excited for me to be there. And I love seeing that, like just having people in your community that are actually happy for you and excited for you and are lifting you up and they're feeling the energy through the screen and, you know, they're living the experience kind of vicariously through you and cheering you along along the way was just so, so beautiful. I'm so grateful to each and every one of you. Seriously, if you guys listen to this podcast, like, I, I pray for you, I think about you, I set intentions for you, I love you so much. I really hope that this show helps bring some value to your life. I hope that at the very least it inspires you, or it makes you laugh, or it motivates you, or it just gives you something nice to listen to while you walk the dog, or do your makeup, or cook your dinner, or whatever it is. So thank you for sharing a piece of your day and your time with me every time that you tune in. I love you and I appreciate you so much. If you enjoyed this episode, I know there are so many good nuggets in here. Please take a screenshot, share it to your stories, tag me at Samantha Daily and the podcast at Makeshift Happen Podcast. If you guys aren't following our podcast account, also we're posting amazing content recently, like it's so fire. So head over, follow us on the podcast Instagram at Makeshift Happen, and I will see you guys hopefully inside of Wealth Calibration. This is the program that I am running for the year. So I won't see you guys until 2023 then. Still kind of plotting and planning what we're going to do, what the, what the schedule is going to be for 2023. So stay tuned for that. But I will leave it there. I love you guys so much. Thank you for listening and I hope to see you inside Wealth Calibration. Mwah!