Juicy Relationship Q&A: How we Fight, Manifest, Share Money, & More

I don't know if people will understand me. Do you think they're going to understand me? I need another beer.

Welcome to the Makeshift Happen Podcast. I'm your host, Samantha Daly, entrepreneur, life coach, and your no BS bestie here to bring you all things mindset, manifestation, and personal development. This podcast is designed to help you expand your mind and uplevel your life. So turn the volume up and roll the windows down if you're coming along for the ride. Let's go make shift happen.

What's up guys, welcome back to the podcast. Today's a super special episode because Jaime is making his debut on the show. This is the first time he's ever been on the Makeshift Happen podcast, and it's been a long time coming. I think the first thing that we should talk about is how we ended up here with you recording for the podcast, because there's been some lies told about when you were going to come on to the podcast. What do you have to say for yourself? You told me a long time ago that you would come on.

I always told you that I was going to, to come here for St. Valentine's episode. So here we are.

Yeah, but before you said St. Valentine's Day, you said when you hit 100,000 downloads, I'll come on the podcast.

And then I said 1 million.

No, what?

No, you need to add another zero.

No, you said when I hit 100,000, and then I hit 100,000 and you were like, I'm not ready yet, not yet. And then we said 500,000, and we're well past that as well.

So, so here we are.

So here we are.

That's it. Yeah.

So for anybody that's newer to the podcast or maybe is just not familiar with our story, I met Jaime when I was 21 years old and I was studying abroad in Madrid, Spain, which is where he was born and raised. It's where he's from. Now we live together in the US. We just bought a house and we're kind of starting this new chapter of our lives in America together. But we were together for We lived together for over 4 years, almost 5 years, in our apartment that we had in Madrid. Um, so yeah, after we met when I was studying abroad, I went back to school because I had to finish my last year of university.

Me too, I was studying the master's degree.

Yeah, well, you graduated your undergrad and then you were going to do your master's degree. But so we were both studying at the time. Yeah, and we were long-distance for a year. And then after that year, I decided to— that's when I— the whole like story of Samantha Daley begins, which is where I like declined my corporate job offer and moved to Spain and all of that. And that's like where our relationship started to like really flourish, because before that we had only known each other in person for like 4 months, 3, 4 months when I was studying abroad. And then we were long-distance for a year. And then I moved to Madrid.

It was painful that year though.

Yeah, that year was hard.

It was a long distance.

Yeah, it was, but it was also— I also remember it being like so much fun, like when we would get to see each other.

Yeah, it was so fun. It was so fun.

It was like—

I mean, we're like traveling together. Like, we went to Chicago and Ohio. We're like partying, drinking, having like dinners, lunch.

We went to Madrid and Sevilla when I went to meet your family at Christmas that year, and it was fun.

Yeah, you came to my parents' house in North Carolina, but I was living in New York City in that moment.

Yeah, because you did 4 months, 4 or 5 months. Yeah, in New York City. Yeah, as part of your— yeah, as part of your master's degree. So anyway, that's just kind of a little bit of the backstory of like how we met and everything. Obviously Jaime is Spanish. He's from Spain, so he does have an accent.

Um, if you guys don't like my accent, totally fine. You can play another episode, and I totally understand it.

I— no hard feelings.

I hate, I hate other accents.

Yeah, so, um, he has an accent. He's European. I don't know what you want, but I speak 3 languages. You, you do speak 3 languages. That's right. What are the 3 languages that you speak?

Hey, Italian, Spanish, and a little bit of English.

A little bit of English? Stop. And I love how you said Italian first, as if that's like your first language. No, stop. Okay, so he speaks 3 languages. He has an accent. If it's hard for you guys to understand, we totally get it. We totally get it. Probably the reason why he's delayed coming on the podcast for so long, because you're a little bit—

totally—

you're a little bit shy about your accent.

My accent is strong. I don't really like it.

Yeah, but it's fine, it's fine. You're here, you're doing something brave.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, totally.

Okay, so be nice, guys. Okay, so let's start. We have like 20 questions from you guys. Um, I posted on Instagram a little story and lots of you had questions, so we're just going to kind of go through and answer all these. There's 20 here, and these are not even all the ones that you asked, but I pulled like the 20 most common ones or best ones that I think we could riff on. And we will see how far we get. So the first one that we'll start with is people want to know the story of how we met, but from your perspective. Like if you were to tell the story about how we met.

I mean, you probably told the story so many times, but—

Yeah, you don't have to— not like so, so long, but like tell the story of how we met.

We met through Tinder. I still remember your photos. Yeah, they were like in Paris.

In Paris.

In Paris with your friend Molly. Yeah, yeah, I remember. And yeah, I really liked you, so we, we matched. We matched and we talked for a little bit. Yeah, I guess. Yeah, we had the first date that it was horrible. Yeah, because I didn't even speak any English and you didn't speak any Spanish.

Well, let's be fair, give me some credit. I spoke some Spanish. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I mean, yeah, yeah, she spoke some Spanish.

And you did speak some English.

Yeah, but not to have like fluent conversations.

Yeah, yeah, right. So the first date was horrible. We both agreed that— yeah, after the fact, we didn't say each other— say it to each other that day, but like now that we've been been together for a long time, we can both say the date was bad because we just struggled to be able to communicate. I think that's why it was bad. Like, there was physical attraction.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure.

That's probably why we were there. Yeah, it was physical attraction.

And what— and that's why, right, we had another—

another— yes. So that was always my question, was because at the end of our first date, we— I'll never forget, you dropped— you— because you drove me back to my host family's house because I was living with a host family in Spain at the time. You drove me back to the host family's house and you dropped me off and I was like in the car thinking like, is he going to like try to kiss me or are we going to hug or like what is this going to be like? Cuz we've just had the weirdest date, right? Yeah, where we were like trying to be like fun and like cute and bantery together, but like it was just very hard with the language barrier. And I was like, I wonder what's going to happen right now when he drops me off.

And then, I mean, I'm not a weirdo, you know. The date was weird, so I didn't want like to kiss you or— yeah, doing something.

No, it wasn't, it wasn't really the vibe to kiss me, so I totally get it. But you just dropped me off and you're like, bye. Yeah, you just said ciao. That was it. Like, we got to my house and you put it in like park or whatever, and you were like, okay, ciao. And I just like got out of the car and I was like cringing, like, oh my God, this was so bad. And I was like immediately texting all of my friends because I had texted everyone that I was going on a date with you because I thought you were so cute. So they all knew, they all knew that I was going on a date with you.

Okay.

And it was like my mission to hook up with you because I was like, he's so beautiful.

That was your goal?

It was my goal. Didn't achieve it, not yet. Give me time. Um, so I, I was like texting my friends and stuff like, oh my God, it was so awkward, like horrible. He probably thinks I'm an idiot. Like, I thought that I could have a date in Spanish, but like, I definitely cannot. I am so not ready for this like communication level. He definitely thinks I'm so stupid.

And I never thought— I never thought that though.

But I was like, he's never gonna talk to me again. Like, there's no reason. There's no reason for him to talk to me again. So what was the reason? Why do you think you talked to me again? Because after that, shortly after that first date, I went to London for spring break. I met a bunch of my friends from college who you know, Lindsay and Molly.

I know, I know.

I have to say, and on that trip you texted me.

I have to say, because it was like Easter time.

Yes. Yeah.

So I was in Cádiz with my friends, and I remember talking with—

Cádiz is in southern Spain.

Yeah, in Andalusia. So I was talking with my friend Álvaro, and I was like, I really like this girl, so I would try to like chat with her again. Like, I would try, you know, like I, I already have the no So I texted you back and I said, did you want to have another date?

I know.

And you were in London, I was like in Andalusia, and you said yeah. Yeah. So we tried again.

Yeah.

And it was so much better.

It was. The second date was better.

I don't know how, but it was better.

Yeah. And then the third date, do you remember what we did on our third date?

You kissed me.

No, stop. You kissed me on this, on the second date.

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In the third— in the third date, I kissed you.

No, the third date was when we went to La Latina.

Okay, in the second date— the second date, I remember where I kissed you.

I remember in the park, on Paseo del Prado.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

But we just like— I don't even remember what else we did that night.

We just walked around and yeah, having some drinks or whatever and walking through the city.

Yeah, walking through the city. And then the third date was a really fun date because we went to Tura Latina.

I mean, we got so drunk, we were wasted.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that was a lot. We were like running through the city with like open wine bottles.

And yeah, I always say that I speak better in English when I'm drunk, and you probably can say the same when you speak Spanish when you are drunk.

Well, because you don't care anymore about the mistakes, so you're like more fluid. Yeah, so we missed one step of how we met, which was— I want to— I want you to tell the story of when you first saw me in the Irish pub.

Okay, it was— this was St. Patrick's Day.

It was St. Patrick's Day, and this was before the first, like, horrible date. This was the first time we tried to meet up in person, and I saw you for 30 seconds. Yeah, so I, I'll give some backstory. I invited Jaime We had been talking for a while, like back and forth texting after we matched on Tinder, and it was getting to that point where it's like you're either gonna meet them in person or you're not gonna talk to them anymore. So like it has to move to the next phase. So yeah, yeah, yeah, or else it's friend zone. So I told him that a bunch of my American friends that I was with in my study abroad group, we were going to this like famous Irish pub in the center of Madrid, Dubliners. For St. Patrick's Day. In the downtown. I invited you. I said a bunch of our friends are going to this Irish pub and if you want to come, like, I'll see you there. But the problem was that the St. Patrick's Day party like started at like 8 PM and it was just supposed to be like a whole, like a whole day/night like drinking thing. And so we went pretty early, like going out at 8 PM is way too early for Spain. Like, in Spain you don't really go out until 11, 11, 12.

You do the pregame or later, or later.

You guys don't go to like bars or clubs until like 1 AM.

No, I know, until 3. I don't enter in a club until 3 AM. 3 AM, yeah. Okay, you do the pregame from 11, 12 to 3, right?

So not going out, that's just starting to drink at 11. Yeah, but you don't even go anywhere until 3 AM.

No.

So anyway, I'm at the Irish pub with my friends.

I was in the gym at 8 when you text me, like, I'm here, and I'm like, I'm in the gym. So I remember I was in the gym and I texted some of my friends and they said, yeah, why not, we can go to the, to the center. And I said, okay, whatever. So I work out, I took a shower, so relaxed, you know, so slow. Yeah, Spanish style. Yeah, I got my friends in the car, we went to the center, we had some beers before, and then we said, okay, I think it's kind of time to start entering, to go inside to the club. And when I was—

it wasn't even a club, it was like a bar. Yeah, but I was there since 8 and we were drinking pretty heavily. And when I got there at 8, it was so busy because it was all the foreign people that were in Madrid, right? So they, they have a different time schedule. Schedule of going out. So it was packed, it was so full. And then I think I was there until like midnight or 1, and at that point I was so drunk. I was like— and half of my friends had left.

You were so wasted.

Yeah, half of my friends had left already because they were so wasted. And I remember I was like holding my cheeks of my face because I was like laughing so much that night, and my face literally hurt from laughing so much. And then I was like, okay, I'm leaving. I didn't know when you were coming or if you were ever coming, so I was like—

I was outside, I was drinking outside, you know, like so stupid.

Yeah. So then I'm walking out the door to leave, and I— at the same time, at the same exact time that you were walking through the door, and I hear my name. You were like, Sam, or I don't know if you said Sam or Samantha, but you were like— and I looked up because I was like, who's 'Who's saying my name right now?' And I was really drunk, so I was like, 'What the fuck?' And then you have to tell this part because I don't even remember.

I mean, I was speaking in Spanish to you. I was like, 'Are you coming back?' Because you're like—

like, 'Are you leaving?' Yeah.

And you were like saying, 'Sí, sí, sí, sí.' And then I was like, 'Are you getting a taxi?' And you were saying no. So I asked you again, like, 'Are you coming back?' And you said, "Sí, sí, sí, sí," like, "Yes, yes, yes." And I said, "Okay, I will wait for you," you know. And you never came back because you were so wasted. You were like saying, "Sí, sí, no, no, no." You never told me that part of the story.

You, you asked if I was coming back and I said yes, and then I just left.

I was asking if you were leaving or you were coming back. You were getting a taxi and you were saying like, "Sí, sí, sí." I was just saying yes, yes, yes, no, no, no. It was not making any sense. Right, because you were saying sí, yes, for one question, and the next one, like, getting a taxi, was like no or whatever, you know? Yeah, yeah. So my answers weren't making sense. Yeah, so we're like, okay.

So I literally walked out the door, I saw you for 5 seconds, I probably gave you a double kiss on the—

I don't remember.

Yeah, the Spanish greeting. And then I said yes, yes, no, no, no to all of your questions. And then I I immediately flagged a taxi and took myself home. So what did you do after that? Did you stay there?

I don't remember. I probably—

you probably had a few drinks with your friends at least.

Probably, yeah. It was a weird Tuesday. Yeah, it was so random.

It was a random weekday because it was St. Patrick's Day.

I was in university, so I was not like working.

Yeah. What were you thinking in your head after I just like left?

I don't remember. I don't know. I don't really know.

Trust me, you don't remember. I think, I think that was my best move. It was so unintentional. Yeah, because it's a first night, but I think it was my best move because it made you like interested. Like it was, it was almost like I was hard to get.

Probably, probably.

Yeah. So then you were like, okay, what is this girl doing?

Yeah, she's a player.

She's a player.

That's right. Okay, next one, because we can be forever with this one.

Oh my God, we're taking this long on every question. So someone asked about like your childhood and your kind of like perspective of the world. I feel like this could be like so long, but if we just like summarize a little bit, where did you grow up?

Okay, I'm from Madrid, Spain. I don't have any sister, any brother.

You're an only child.

Yeah. So I love it. I really love it.

Do you though?

Everybody ask me like, do you wish you had brothers? Yeah, yeah. Like, no, I have all the attention from my parents and from my family. Everything is for me. I mean, probably when I was a kid you wanted brothers and sisters. I want— yeah, because I mean, I think I like to, to, to speak with people. Um, I'm social and everything because I was the only one So I always had to find new friends for every moment from my life.

Yeah. So yeah, you are really social. You talk to everybody. Yeah, I don't care. Friends with anybody. When you would go on vacations with your parents as a kid, you would just have to find kids on the beach and like make friends.

Yeah. I studied law. I met you. I finished my degree. Yeah. And I had to start—

Your graduation was the day that you were leaving. The day I left Madrid. Yeah, I left Madrid on this— on the same day that you graduated.

We saw each other the day before. I remember on Friday.

I know, I remember because we had a quote-unquote date. We were seeing each other for the last time because I knew, yeah, I was leaving.

We're not going to see each other. Do you remember our lives forever?

And that's what we thought.

Yeah.

Do you remember that you took me to Corte Inglés?

Because you had to pee? No, no, you have to go to the restroom.

No. Okay, Corte Inglés is like a department store in Spain, but you took me to Corte Inglés.

The Macy's, right?

Yeah, kind of like a Macy's, because you need—

I had to buy socks for my suit.

Yes.

Yeah, because they had to match with my suits.

Yeah, yeah, for your graduation.

Yeah, yep. But I mean, we're, we're in the same—

multitasking.

Yeah, you know, I can do everything at the same time.

So, so at then— okay, so we met, then you started your master's degree for law.

I mean, I went to Rome to do an internship in a law firm.

Yeah, and that was the summer when I was interning in Chicago.

Yeah.

And I was like realizing, oh my God, I cannot go into corporate America. This this is not the vibe.

We're talking a lot by WhatsApp, a lot.

Yeah, WhatsApp. WhatsApp, that was good.

Okay, WhatsApp. Yeah. And, and it's where like I asked you if I can go to visit you.

Yeah.

And I was going to be my first time in America.

Oh yeah, you'd never been to America before.

You invited me to go to see you. To Ohio.

So I want to clarify something, because when I left Spain the day of your graduation, I left— I was kind of under the understanding that like we would never see each other.

I gave you a book.

Okay, we can talk about the book in a second, but that was before that.

Okay, it was a good move.

It was a good move.

Yeah.

So when I, when I left, I really thought that I was never going to see you again. What did you think? Did you think we'd ever see each other again? No, right? It was like the end, right?

Yeah, totally, totally the end. I mean, like, were you— I would, I would have like a friend in another part of the world, like a friend. Yeah, keeping her on Instagram. Yeah, you know, that's it, you know.

Yeah. So I laughed and I was like, I kind of just was thinking about that it would be like a fun story to like tell.

I mean, you were living, you were living your best life in Madrid. You were traveling around Europe every weekend.

When I was studying abroad, I was having the best time of my life. I was really— it was really— and that's like what I talk about sometimes on the podcast too, of like the moment that I— that we met was like I attracted someone into my life in that moment because I was in my like highest vibration.

Same as me. I was— I was coming back from Italy doing the same thing. And I recommend to everyone who is listening this podcast and is in the college or whatever, try to do an exchange program.

Yeah, to study abroad.

Yeah, study abroad, like leave your comfort zone and go alone. Don't go with friends, go alone, meet new people, new culture. Say it again. Culture. Okay. And, um, yeah, and have fun. Have fun. Like, don't think about the grades or whatever. Let's have fun and live the life. Yeah, that was like 4 or 5 months.

That was our best, our best season of life. So we attracted each other, and— but then, okay, my point to saying this was I thought that I would never see you again, and so did you. So we left, and I went to go do my internship in Chicago, and you went to go do your internship in Rome. Yeah. And then we kept texting, we kept talking, and then it was like very obvious that we like— yeah, we had feelings for each other and that we wanted to keep talking. And then you wanted to come see me, and it was your first time to America. We like planned a trip. You came to visit me in Ohio, and you met all of my college friends, and I took you to a fraternity party.

I have to say, I didn't speak any English at that time.

You did though, but nothing compared to how you do now.

No one could understand me. Like, you can ask your friends. I was not understanding anything. I was studying the verbs the week before going to America.

You were studying verbs? I was studying verbs in my room in my, like, host family's house before our first date. I'm not kidding you, I was studying the past tense of the verbs. Yeah, the same as me, like, because I was like, oh my God, I'm so nervous. Yeah. Okay, so the book that you gave me, we'll mention that for a second. So the whole time that I was like dating, quote unquote— I'm putting dating in air quotes because when Jaime and I were seeing each other in Madrid while I was studying abroad, I didn't feel like it was like we weren't dating each other to like find a boyfriend or a girlfriend or like have a long-term relationship. I don't think that was either of our goals. That wasn't your goal, right? No. We were 21. So the goal was like—

And also with, with a 4 in it, you know?

Right, it didn't make sense. It wasn't like logical.

Yeah.

So the goal was just to like meet someone new, like have a fling, have fun, and see what happens, and then that's it. So the whole time that— and I could, I could tell that Jaime had this like player type energy.

I had it.

I know, I know you did, hun. So I could tell that he had this like player energy. So the whole time I kind of like had my guard up with him in terms of like, I don't know how many other girls he's potentially seeing. I don't know if like he's taking other foreign girls on dates like this. Not saying that you were, I just— I know that you weren't now, but I, in my mind at the time, I was like, I don't know who this guy is and I don't know what his game is, but like obviously he's a playboy. So I was not— I was trying not to like fall for you. I was trying not to like be too attached or be too like emotionally involved. And I remember two specific things. One was on one of our dates you said to me, why do you never text me first? I remember you asked me that straight to my face.

Yeah, because I don't know, maybe in America is different, but In Spain, the girl sometimes texts first.

Yeah, I think now that would be like more normal for me, and I would do that. But at the time, I was 21, and I do think there is like a culture of like expecting the guy to text first all the time, which now—

all the time. That's the thing.

All the time.

That's the thing, like I didn't like that, you know, because I was texting you and you were like responding. It was totally fine, but I liked as, as a human being to receive a text message first, you know, from you. So, so like, why don't you like text me? And the thing, the, the first time you text me, like, it was like to ask me, uh, for having some tickets to go to the Real Madrid Stadium with your friends. I'm like, what the fuck, this bitch, she just want me to, to give her like tickets from the— for the soccer and everything, but not like for really talking to me.

Oh my God.

And I read the— I remember I read the message and you didn't respond. I didn't respond. And then you were like texting back saying like, hey, one of my friends wants to go there, whatever.

And then I literally do not remember that because it wasn't significant to me, but it obviously was significant to you. Yeah. Um, yeah, I don't— I didn't remember that that was the first time that I texted you first was to ask you for something. So I'm sorry for that. Yeah, I will say that when I was 21, I obviously was— didn't have the same mindset that I do now, and I was in like a different phase. And I also think American culture of what I learned about dating was different, like all of my girlfriends at the time, like, we would wait for guys to text us. It was like desperate energy if you were texting him first. I wouldn't say that now. Like, now that I know more about like healthy relationships and communication, I would say like, yeah, definitely you should both be reciprocating and like both messaging first at some times. But so that's one of the things that I remembered was you were like, hey, why don't you ever message me first? And I was like, oh, maybe he—

and then the book Yeah, I'm talking about the book next.

The second thing was the book. We were on a date and you were like, I have something for you, and I had no idea what it could be. And it was like a legitimate present and it was wrapped and everything. And you gave me—

I remember your poker face when I gave it to you.

My poker face? Really? Yeah. Stop.

What the fuck are you giving to me?

I was trying, like I said, I was trying not to fall for you. I was trying not to have feelings for you. So I really felt like you were this player, like you were probably seeing other people. Like, I had no idea what you were doing, but you gave me this book and it was 100 Things to See in Madrid Before You Die. And then you like wrote on the inside cover this like really nice note about how you loved getting to know me and you were going to miss me and you hope that I return to Madrid and it would be like the only thing that makes you happy. Is to like see me come back to Madrid. And I was like, oh my God, my heart like exploded in that moment. I was like, oh shit, like I think I've totally misread this person. Like I thought you were so like cold and hard and just like a player, and you were like so sweet and romantic. Yeah, you are. Okay, anyway, that was supposed to be us talking about your perspective.

Okay, there are so many questions.

I think I know— going to— okay, we won't get to all of them, but we'll try our best.

How did we manage the long distance?

I don't really remember because it's like a long time ago, but I think—

okay, I think how we meant to be— to be honest, how we managed the long distance was you are much better at like at initiating communication or conversation than I am. So you would always make an effort to say like, let's Skype this week, like I want to see you.

Oh yeah, we're doing Skype. I don't even remember that.

Yeah, we were doing Skype at that time. Yeah, this is ancient, ancient, you guys. 2015. So you would, you would— I remember because if it, you know, when it's up to me, even like with my own family and my friends, I just suck. I'm like not very good at it. Yeah, I'm not good at reaching out.

I'm not good.

Yeah, I don't call my mom or your friends.

I know, I know. With the phone, speaking with my friends, and you call everybody all the time.

So I think the distance worked really well because of you, because you initiated a lot of like making sure that we saw each other and like talking and having dates and stuff. And then we did visits, so yeah, yeah, but we did go— we would usually go around like 5 months without seeing each other, and then we would do like a big trip. You would come to America or I would go, yeah, to Spain. And then you—

I was there in New York City, you came to visit me, I went to Ohio.

Yeah, yeah. All of that, which we kind of talked about. Um, how do you feel about moving to America?

A lot of stress, man. It was the COVID situation when it was like hard. It was like moving to another place is stressful, moving to another country is crazy. Like, we had 6 or 7 suitcases, the dog.

Yeah, traveling with the dog was a lot.

Yeah. It was hard. It was hard.

I remember. But like, what about like being in America?

I like it. I like it because also we are in a place that we love, you know. If I were in a farm, yeah, I would not like it, you know. But, but I, I mean, we stayed in your family's place and, and we're totally fine, you know.

Yeah, we did live on a farm for 7 months.

Yeah, I mean, it's true, we're with your parents, so it was like easier. Yeah, yeah, because your parents are like easy and happy and they love us and they took care of us.

Yeah, they did so much for us.

Yeah, thank you so much, guys.

Yeah, that was really— yeah, that was really good. Um, okay, what do you think of the business? That I built. Someone asked, what does Jaime think of the amazing business you've built empowering people?

So from the first day when you had clients for— I don't remember the price, so cheap— you were starting, like, you had calls every week with 6, 7 of them. I was like seeing you so excited. You were working in a, in a school Teaching English.

I was teaching.

And you were coming back from school at 6, and then you were starting to, to create your business.

Yeah.

And you were like going to sleep at 11 PM.

Yeah.

And I could see in your face that you were happy even you were working a lot. So like, okay, if you are happy with this, like keep doing it, keep doing it. I support you. And I always did it from the first day. You did?

Yeah, even when I was doing network marketing, like before I did my own business, when I was doing network marketing, like you were so on my team and like supporting me. You're just like, you were into it, like you always were. You never like questioned it or like felt like it was dumb.

No, I always— I mean, I think in couples, people like have to support to, to the partners like a team. So, so it's— I, I always like what Samantha does and, and I, I will always support her.

Yeah.

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One thing that is like I love so much about you is like no matter what I do, you're like, yes!

Yeah, yeah, totally.

You're like my cheerleader, so that was super helpful. Yeah, that was the next question actually, was how did you— how did we support each other like while I was growing my business? And I think what I'll say about this is like there were a lot of times in throughout that journey when I was living in Spain where I didn't really know necessarily what I was gonna do next, or there were times where I was like unemployed between teaching jobs, or when I quit my job at the academy, and it was toxic. Yeah, because it was so bad for me, but I didn't have another job yet. And you like—

I said like, yeah, just quit. Yeah, you were taking a shower and you were like crying. I know, I remember. And I said quit, and you quit.

I know. I was taking a shower and I was listening to The Universe Has Your Back by Gabby Bernstein, and she was talking about the universal tests, and I just like started crying because I was like, this is my universal test. Like, I have to leave this job. It's like draining the life out of me. And I told you, I was like, I'm, I'm gonna go to work today and I'm gonna quit. And I said, we're like, yeah, do it.

You are not happy, do it. It's not worth it.

Yeah.

And you left.

I know. So you supported us during those like ups and downs of me like building my business and transitioning from different jobs and being unemployed, because in those times where I wasn't making money, you like made sure that we had everything that we needed, you know, like you would, you would pay for our bills and groceries and things like that. And so you really supported us.

Yeah, but I was totally fine, you know.

Yeah, no, but that's, that's a big part of like how that happened, of me being able to do what I'm doing now, is that I had a partner who was like willing to pick up the slack when I was in my like ups and downs of not knowing what I was doing. Okay, how are you handling it that Sam is the breadwinner? So breadwinner means the person in the household who makes more money.

So how do you know, guys? But she makes more money than me. No, really, it's true. Totally fine. I help more with the house, with the dog. I know she works a lot, so yeah, I try to support, like, making lunch, dinner, cleaning, being with the dog.

Yeah, we split our— we split our— like, we hold our weight in different ways. So since I'm making more money and I'm doing more work, I guess you could say, you have like really helped out with like picking up with all the other stuff. Yeah. You do the laundry and you help clean the house and you are like the main caretaker of Storm. He takes him out like most of the time.

Yeah, all the time. 95%.

95% of the time. Yeah, so that's like how we kind of balance it right now. But you're also like working on building your own thing and that's like a challenge of its own and I will probably have to like step in at some point and like support you in like that journey when you're like really taking off with your things. So it's just a balance of like whatever.

Balance.

Yeah, whoever needs—

we'll have to support each other.

Yeah. Yeah. How do you split or share money? So when we were living in Spain, all our money was always separate. Like I had my bank accounts and you had your bank accounts.

And still we have that. Like we don't have—

yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, but okay, so our money is separate. Jaime has his accounts and I have mine, but when we spend money, I feel like we don't really have like a method necessarily of like who pays for what. No, like sometimes you pay for dinners and sometimes I pay for random things, and it's not like you only—

I pay more like the typical thing like gas Yeah, you pay for gas a lot. I mean, I use the car more than you, you know. Yeah, but whatever.

Like, if I had to buy something for the dog, we don't like keep track of like, oh, you owe me this amount because I paid for this. Really, it's just kind of like we share our expenses.

Yeah, I mean, we should have.

You think so?

I don't know, we never had it.

Whatever.

Do you think it's working fine or I mean, right now you make more money than me, so, and you are paying more than me.

Do you think you would, do you think you would feel different if you were making more money and I was like spending your money doing things?

Would you be like, no, because I had that, that moment in, in our life.

Yeah, because I was making more money at one point, so it evens out.

Yeah, when I was making—

I just feel like it evens out.

Yeah, I was— when I was making more money than you and you were unemployed, right?

You were paying for things.

I was paying for things.

Yeah. And you weren't like, oh, now you owe me, Sam, for 3 months of groceries when you were unemployed. Like, we never did that. No. But when we were in Madrid, I will say that we kind of like went— we took turns like paying for groceries and things like that. Yeah, we tried to make it even, but we weren't like mathematically like calculating, like, you owe me $2.57.

For that thing, no. But for, for bills and everything, I remember I was like counting and we're like splitting at the end of the month.

We did split our bills. Yeah, in Madrid, like 50/50. Yeah, but now—

but you were working. I mean, when you were unemployed, I was not doing that.

That's right. Yeah, yeah. But now it's different. Now, yeah, because I pay for most of our bills.

Yeah, Samantha is the sugar mommy.

Sugar mommy. So yeah, no real method to that. We have separate accounts, but we just kind of like—

Living my life, man. The life is for me.

We share. What is mine is yours, hun. How do you keep up with Sam's emotional rollercoaster of entrepreneurship?

I have to say that she's the best with that. And I started my business, and I have to say that the rollercoaster really exists.

Yeah.

And it's crazy.

You're experiencing it for the first time in your life.

Because one day you are like the best.

Yeah, you think you're the best.

Yeah. And the next day you think you are the worst, you know.

You are like—

you're gonna—

yeah, you're gonna fail.

But with you, I don't remember seeing you like with bad moments. I mean, I can say like 2, 3, 4 times, but how many years?

Yeah, but that's also because I've had like support in other areas.

Like I've had coaches that have heard more of my Yeah, you always had coaches. That's the thing, like, so you are a coach. Yeah, but you have a coach.

Yeah.

And I think that's important, you know, because she helps you to grow, she helps you like to be motivated in what you're doing.

She helps me process too, so that all of my emotional roller coaster stuff isn't like— I don't have to handle it all with you, but I do share some of it with you. We just had a conversation the other day.

You share all your projects and everything, and I try to give you advice. My advice, maybe it's not like a big one, but I give my opinion to the next, the next course, the next masterclass.

You've always been like interested in everything that I do and my programs and my projects and all of that. You're like very interested in it.

And I'm part of Samantha Daily.

You are. You're part of Samia of the Daily.

Yeah, totally.

This kind of, these two kind of go together. So what is your experience of dating a spiritual partner? And what do you do like to manifest? So first, like, what did you think of me when I started like sharing with you like my spiritual stuff?

I mean, I have to say that I'm coming from a, from a traditional religious— yeah, Catholic country. No, it's not because I am like that, it's because the whole country is like—

all of Spain is very traditional.

Yeah, it's like Italy or Mexico, I don't Yeah, I mean, I see your crystals.

I see— what did you think when I first started doing like spiritual things?

All the crystals and universe notebooks and—

yeah, what did you think?

Like, it's fine if you like it, you know?

Like, did you think it was weird?

If it works for you and— and no, no, no, no, everybody's different, you know? And if it works for you and everything, I I respect that, you know. And what I do, I mean, I do my prayers and— or whatever, your prayers to the universe, you know. What you teach me? Yeah, in like first level.

What did I teach you?

Yeah, like, what do you say to— like, dear universe, I'm open to receive a miracle today. Yes. And I say it But for example, I don't write anything in a notebook.

My 3 gratitudes for the day, you know what to do, but you're not the best.

Yeah, I don't do that. I, I tried, but I don't keep doing it. I'm pretty bad with that.

You're not consistent with it. But I did teach Jaime the 335 method, and you do— you know how to do it, you just don't do it consistently. But something that you do do consistently is when you walk by the church you say a prayer.

Yeah.

And you ask for guidance and help and support.

Yeah, yeah, I do that.

I know that you do do that like every day. Yeah. So that's like a consistent thing that you do. Okay, how was your self-development journey compared to mine? So I, I feel like when I think about you starting to get into like self-development, like mindset and things like that— you can correct me if you think this is wrong, okay—

but I think when I gave you the Nike book Oh, I really like that book, man.

I know, that was like the first book that I ever saw you like really like reading a lot and like devouring it like fast because you don't really read that much. But then after that book, I started to read so many books. Yes, you started more. I feel like that started your personal development.

Yeah, of like reading money books and yeah, investment books.

You read Rich Dad Poor Dad. Which you love.

I, I read so many books. Like, the only one— the one—

the one thing—

the one thing— the Elon Musk book.

I think I got you that one, didn't I?

Yeah, probably.

The Elon Musk book.

Elon Musk.

Yeah, you've read like, um, biographies of like successful people and money books.

Money books.

More like money books and things like that. But I feel it—

how to invest, real estate. Yeah.

Would you agree that it kind of started when I gave you the Shoe Dog, the Nike book.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think so. And I really like it. I remember we're in Italy and I don't really like to fly a lot, you know. So what I do in the, in the plane is to read, to distract yourself. Yeah, because I cannot, I cannot sleep. Yeah, so I read or I watch movies. So I was like starting to read that and I was like, oh, that's interesting. Also it's like kind of like sports that I like.

Yeah, with It was a mix of like business and a story and sports and success, and it was fun.

Yeah, and since you take like 4 hours to, to get ready for going out, so I have a lot of time to, to read. You were in the makeup or whatever in the hotel.

You were reading the book all the time when I was doing my makeup and getting ready.

Yeah, Samantha Cleopatra, you know, Cleopatra.

Okay, goodbye. Um, okay, how do you maintain a fun and playful connection like over time? Because we've been together for a long time.

I would like, I would like to, to have more connection and playful playfulness. Yeah, right now, but since I'm like trying to get my own business and I'm focused on other things, you know, I would like to to have more like time and quality time with you, like having dinners outside, trips, going out to dinner. Yeah, trips. We like to travel a lot. Yeah, we travel a lot. Yeah, but since we have a big dog, yeah, in Madrid we, we leave him with my parents.

So we left him, yeah, with your parents a lot, and that was nice, but it's harder for us to travel here. Yeah, here. But we like to travel, we like to, to have dinner outside I think the best way that we connect is when we leave the house together, just us, because we actually get to like have real conversations. When we're just like stuck in the house, we're with our phones, or you're answering calls and you're like really working on building your business, and there's like stress and things like that. So we don't have like deeper conversations. But when we get out and we like go and have a date, it's like we have more connection time.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And also You're— you bring so much like playful energy. Like when we're going to bed at night, like you always say it's bothering time.

Yeah.

And you like are becoming—

I thought you would say like—

no, no, you just like get really playful and you try to like bother me and tickle me and do random things to annoy me, and then you end up making me laugh.

Yeah, making— making you laugh is like your purpose in life. Yeah, I like it.

I like it. You do, you do try hard with that.

Yeah, or if not, I force you, you know.

Yeah. Okay, lots of people asked when you're gonna propose and like when we're gonna get married, so we can just—

Samantha deserves a huge ring and I don't have money for it right now, so, oh, so you guys want to like send me a sell or something to buy a big ring.

A Venmo? Is that— we'll set up a GoFundMe.

Yeah, text me, text me through Instagram.

Um, yeah, I think it's—

next question.

Yeah, I think it's all gonna happen in divine timing and just like—

yeah, the right moment.

In the right moment. When we were in Madrid, I was so focused on like hustling and building my business, it was not even on my mind to like get engaged or have a wedding or any of those things. And then we moved to America and there was so much of just— that was like such a big process of, you know, immigration and buying a house and finding our footing here and moving with the dog and yeah, all of that stuff. And now you're trying to start a new career path and build a business and it's just like it hasn't been the right time for us to like— it's another moment and we wouldn't enjoy it if we had it right now because we're so busy with other things.

It's just not I don't want more things in my life.

Yeah, it's just like the idea of like planning a wedding or doing any of that right now, it's just not, um, it's not in alignment right now for either of us. So, but we will someday, right?

Yeah, one day.

Yeah, one day.

One day. A small one though, a small wedding on the beach.

Do we want kids? How many? What genders?

We are not even thinking to get married, so about kids, like We are not— we are not—

but do you want kids?

Maybe, yeah. I, I heard all the time from my friends or, or like family members, whatever, they are so annoying. And they annoy me when I go to restaurants and I can, I can hear their screaming.

Yeah.

Or crying or whatever.

I like, man, I know it makes you question.

Yeah.

My mom always said though, my mom always said like other people's kids are really annoying, but like your own kids, you will love them so much.

I love my dog, and when he cries, it annoys me. So imagine a baby.

So you're not making a really strong case right now for wanting children?

No, no, no, no.

Should we break— should we break up? Should we break up right here and now?

Do you want a baby right now?

No.

That's it, man.

No, I don't want kids right now, but the question was, do you want kids kids someday in the future. Yeah, you know that I do not want a baby right now.

Yeah, yeah, I guess we have the names though.

Yeah, like, stop acting like you're such a hard ass of like, no, no, no, right now I don't want kids right now. But the question was ever. Do you ever want to have children? And the answer is yes, and you know it.

Yeah, one or two maximum.

Yeah, no more. And would you rather have boys or girls, or you don't care?

Boys to play soccer or football or whatever. To play sports.

To play sports. Yeah, because your dad wasn't really into as much sports when you were younger, so I think you're excited about being able to be like a sports dad.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I, I understand more like a boy lifestyle.

Well, I think most men feel like they would bond easier because I, I, I left that life, you know, so Yeah, you can relate.

Yeah, so with, uh, I don't really, I don't really care about clothes, no.

Yeah, and buying clothes, doing all the— I mean, I did all the stuff that my brother did except for like playing organized sports, but yeah, yeah.

But I mean, I don't, I don't know.

So someday, guys, just honestly not soon.

I have a dog.

We have a dog and he's a—

he's difficult.

He's a full-time job, our child. Um, someone wanted to know if you feel like the relationship has been difficult culturally. No. You don't think so?

I mean, communication maybe, but yeah, sometimes we—

sometimes like when you say some— when you're speaking in it in your second language, you say something and you're not intending it for it to sound like harsh or sarcastic, but yeah, or abrupt, but like it comes off that way because because it's a different language. Yeah, yeah. Or it's like, oh, it sounds like so mean or direct or something. And we've had like challenges like that of where it's just like, it sounds like you're— one of us is being rude as fuck, but it's really just because of the language. But about culture or whatever, no, no, we didn't really have any issues with that.

We don't even have arguments. Like the last year, we didn't even have one.

Arguments. Sometimes we argue. That was one of the questions.

Yeah, that's the next question. We're saying that last year, like, we didn't have any argument for a long time.

Yeah, we don't have lots of arguments, it's true, but we do occasionally.

Oh, of course, of course. So, and when we have them, I am in silence because Cesar will write.

Yeah, that's right, girls. I'm always right. No, that is so toxic. But most of the time, to be fair. Okay, so someone wants to know how we resolve conflict or argue healthily.

So as I said, you're always right.

Okay, here is—

I don't say anything, I go to sleep, I forget in 5 minutes, and I'm totally fine. But when I try to do that She's like, no, now I cannot sleep. We have to talk about that. Like, man, I already forgot that situation.

So that's our—

that's our— so I said, okay, whatever, it's fine. I'm sorry. And I didn't even remember what happened.

Yeah, this is Jaime, just forgets about things in like 5 minutes, and he well and truly has moved the fuck on and does not care. And we like haven't even talked about it yet, and I'm like all worked up about it emotionally, and I need to like have a full conversation about it. Yes.

And So serious about that. It's crazy. I want to sleep and see—

No, but do you remember that I told you like you need to stop bringing things up right before we go to sleep? Because that was like the—

I know it bothers you, so I do it too.

Stop. That was the toxic thing that was happening, was like right before we would go to sleep, you would be like, I have to say one thing today when you blah blah blah blah blah, and you would like release something to me, and then you'd be like, okay, good night. And I'm like, sorry, you just want to vent that to me and then go to sleep? Like, we need to talk about it now.

No, I just started the whole conversation. I don't want to have any argument. I don't want to even speak for more than 3 minutes. So I said, okay, it's fine, I'm sorry.

But do you actually feel complete after, or do you feel like you're holding on to the anger because you just don't want to talk about it?

I forget things, so But like, you—

do you feel like you process it? Like you truly like let go of it, or you're like holding on to it?

I know, I did. I let it go.

You really do let it go?

Yeah, I let it go. I don't really care. No, if I hold it, I say to you. I know, and you're good. Once I say it, I'm totally fine.

I know, that's really what it is. It's like you have to say it, and once you voice it, it's like resolved for you. It's gone.

We are so simple. Men are simple.

You know, so we usually just like talk things out, and my strategy is I want to talk about it. His strategy is I just want to tell you what I'm feeling and what was wrong, and then I want to like go to sleep and process it on my own. But we usually just like have a conversation about it. Usually after we like argue or fight, we'll try and like have a hug or something, or, or you'll like, or you're like He'll like give me a face and like make me laugh or something, and then we kind of like come back. Yeah, to connection. Yeah. What's your favorite quality about Sam? What do you love most about her?

She's smart. She's so intelligent, organized. She's successful. She's beautiful. She's a team player. Team member. Team player. Yeah, she listens, she understands. So yeah, like, she has so many positive things.

Yeah, thanks, honey.

You're welcome.

That's so nice. Okay, last question just for fun. What is a movie that one of you loves and the other one can't stand? Like, the other one hates? Wait, I think we should answer at the same time because I think we know the answer. What's a movie that you love that I hate? Do you have it in your mind?

I have so many.

Okay, but you know the one I'm thinking of, right?

The Lord of the Rings.

Yes, the Lord of the Rings.

Like, but to be fair, she doesn't watch any movie because she sleeps in 5 minutes. I do.

I fall asleep. No, I'm not.

And I watch a lot. Yeah, but also you like more like romantic. I just like whatever. And I like like, you know, I get anxiety, drama.

I get anxiety when it's like too much like violence or suspense.

Like, it— like, if there is not blood in the movie, I can't—

you don't want to watch it. I know, you're just like my dad with the war movies, and I can't.

So war movies, drama movies, I mean, it's fine. Like, I love Harry Potter.

I know, and we watched the whole—

I really love Harry Potter series, and I love The Lord of the Rings a lot. Yeah, it's crazy because I'm not like a nerdy guy. But I'm pretty nerdy about The Lord of the Rings and Harry Potter. And I, for example, but I don't like— I mean, I can watch it, but I'm not in love with Star Wars.

You don't love Star Wars?

No, but I mean, I watch the movies.

I don't like any of those.

No, I mean, Harry Potter, they're good, they're good. Star Wars, like, they're good movies, but I don't know, maybe it's because the galaxy or whatever. It's not my vibe, you know, but, but they are good movies. I, I watch them, but I don't, I don't watch them again.

Styles don't really match.

So no, I like nothing, nothing. Like, I even, I even watch cartoons.

You do? You like, like animated movies?

Yeah, like, um, we watch like, you, we, you, you guys watch like Disney movies?

Disney movies?

Oh yeah, they are so good. And they are like for, for adults. Adults.

Yeah, yeah.

Coco, Coco, it's good.

Encanto was really good.

And Encanto, yeah, that was good. And the Hawaiian—

I didn't watch that one. Moana, you watched that one?

That's a good one too.

Okay, there's so many for movies. All right guys, thanks for listening.

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Away, Jake!