Stop Doing These: 8 Things Sabotaging Your Success

What's up, you guys? Welcome back to the podcast. In today's episode, we're gonna be talking about 8 things that are sabotaging your success and things that you need to stop doing immediately. Now, these are not going to be surface-level things like, oh, you know, you're not following up with your leads or whatever, which probably you also need to be doing that more. But this episode is way deeper than that. This is about your identity as a CEO. It's about the things that you're afraid of, how you're showing up or not showing up in your content, where you're moving too slow, and maybe The things that you're putting more importance on when you should really be focusing on something else. So if you're down for this type of episode, if you are an entrepreneurial girly, stick around, you're gonna love this one. Let's dive in. Welcome to the Makeshift Happen Podcast. I'm your host, Samantha Daly, entrepreneur, life coach, and your no BS bestie here to bring you all things mindset, manifestation, and personal development. This podcast is designed to help you expand your mind and uplevel your life. So turn the volume up and roll the windows down if you're coming along for the ride. Let's go make shift happen. All right, number 1, starting off strong with things to stop doing. The first one on our list is being slow. Slow to decide. This is killing so much momentum for you and so much money. We know that money loves speed, but I want to talk to you about the two different types of decisions from Jeff Bezos's 2015 Amazon shareholder letter. So he talks about Type 1 versus Type 2 decisions. Type 1 decisions are the one-way doors. These are things that are quote unquote irreversible or nearly irreversible. So once you make the decision and you walk through that door, you can't really go back to how things were before. And if you make that decision wrong, that could have detrimental effects on the business for the long term. So these types of decisions should be made really slowly, methodically, and carefully with a lot of deliberation and usually consultation with other people, mentors, or high-level members of the business. Now, there's an extremely small percentage of decisions that actually qualify as Type 1. The majority of decisions that you're gonna face in your business are Type 2 decisions. And these are the two-way doors, which means that these decisions are kind of reversible. You can go through the doorway, you can make that choice, but you can also walk it back if you needed to. If you made one of these Type 2 decisions and you walk through that door and you don't like what you find on the other side, or it's not really working out, you don't have to live with those consequences for very too long. And the impact might be relatively small or at least repairable. So you can reopen that door, you can walk back through it, and you could make a different choice. You can kind of start over, you can pivot. So these types of decisions should be made more quickly from the high judgment individuals in the business, or maybe like a small group of people. But most decisions that you are going to be faced with are going to qualify as Type 2 decisions. So what is the biggest killer of growth and progress in most people's businesses right now? It's that they're treating all of their decisions like Type 1 decisions when really they're Type 2. So as an organization grows and gets larger, maybe you've experienced this, you hire on some team or you're building an agency and now there's all these moving parts when things start start to get bigger and they grow a little bit more out of hand, you can even look at corporations and just like corporate America, like the level of bureaucracy and how many hands things have to pass through and this person's approval, okay, and then the document has to go here and we have to get this signed and we have to get that approved. As an organization grows and gets bigger, the decisions tend to get really slowed down because there are more of those tedious type 1 decisions and there's just more hands in the pie. So the beauty of having your own personal brand or a startup business or being a solo entrepreneur is that you can make decisions really, really fast. You don't You don't have shareholders. You don't have all this other bullshit that you have to go through. You actually can move with so much more speed than what you're probably allowing yourself. And also, I think the more that you allow yourself to sit on and marinate with decisions for a long period of time, the more that it creates and allows that spaciousness for doubt or fear to creep in. You open the door to overthinking. When you sit and you marinate for too long in a decision, you open the door for overthinking, and then suddenly you have more problems than you started with. You're more confused than when it began, and it's It's not putting you in a good place. It's killing your momentum. It's not helping you move forward more quickly. And I said something about this on social media probably years ago, but I was like, what takes you 2 weeks to decide takes me literally 2 minutes. And that's why some people will get further is because they're willing to move faster. So stop kinking the energetic hose in your business by being indecisive and overthinking every move that you make. Just fucking do it. Just follow your gut. Just go for it. You already know in your bones half the time your intuition is already telling you from the moment something comes across your desk, whether it's a yes or a no, whether you want to do it or don't. The overthinking and the logic comes in when you feel like you should do something or you have to do something. You already know. You already know what would be expansive for you or not as the business owner. So just stop judging yourself. Stop judging it. Stop doubting it. Stop picking it apart and going back and forth, making pro and cons lists, talking about it with everyone around you. Just fucking do it. Make your move. Like, success is really not going to wait for us. And I think the biggest cost is really not if an idea or a strategy fails, it's if you miss an opportunity to grow. And every time that you don't shoot your shot on something, even these small decisions of like, should I run ads or not? Should I post this or not? Should I go in this direction? Should I start talking about these topics? All that type of stuff. If you don't make those decisions and you don't just go for it and go with your gut and move in the moment, those are missed opportunities to grow because even if they flop or they don't work out or you don't love the result, that was information that you could have received about, oh, okay, actually yes. Ooh, this really worked. I wanna double down on that. Or, ooh, okay, that's not really feeling good. I've done that several times now. I've rinsed and repeat the process. Even with content and just everything in business, you have to just go, go, go and do things to get data. So it's not failure, it's really like data collection. And so the biggest cost to your business is not if you make the wrong choice and something doesn't work, but it's like you miss that opportunity to collect all of that data and to actually figure out what would work so that you could grow. Failures truly are what the billion-dollar brands are built on and their pile is just bigger than yours. So make decisions quicker, fail faster. I think that is such a success hack. Okay, what else should we stop doing? Number 2, trying to not trigger people in your content. Ooh, this is a big one. I want to go in on this one, but I, I want you to think about what it actually means to be an exclusive brand because you hear this a lot nowadays, people talking about, you know, you want to attract premium buyers, you want to have high-level clients. Okay, what does it mean to really be an exclusive brand? Think about the word exclusive. Exclusivity. You might think luxury, premium, but it really means to exclude. Exclusive brands exclude people, and that is not going to fly well if you're, you know, a Susie Softie and you can't handle what that actually means. Now, excluding people, when we're talking about exclusivity of brands, doesn't have to mean in a mean way. But when you are speaking to a very specific demographic and you are solid in your values and your opinions, it is naturally going to repel some people, and that is what you want. You should be repelling people. I should land on your page and I should be able to tell right away all of the reasons that the Karens on the internet are going to hate you. It should be very obvious why I should hate you. You should be giving me reasons to hate you. Not saying that you're actively trying to create haters, but like kind of lowkey. I've also done a video like that before. I'm like, you guys, where are the fucking haters? I'm worried about my polarization right now because I'm not seeing you guys in the comments. But something that I also shared recently was this idea that I do not market to the girls who want a soft life. And I do this intentionally because they are never going to be my highest performing clients. Now, this is a take I've been talking about this more recently about the masculine versus feminine energy dynamic and how I think a lot of the things that are sold to us in the package of feminine energy, especially as entrepreneurs, are marketing lies. They're tropes, they're fake news, and they're designed to sell you shit that doesn't actually get you results. I've been being a lot more firm on that recently. Why? Because it can create some polarization in my audience. And again, that is what we want. We want to be having such a strong presence and strong opinions that we're triggering some people. Now, there are certain niches where this is a lot easier to do this because people are just naturally more triggered by those topics. Things like health or fitness, anything that has to do with our bodies or mental health or motherhood. Oh my goodness. Like you could say literally anything about motherhood. It doesn't even have to be that polarizing. And you would get people in the comments being like, well, what about, and just wait until, and right? So there are certain niches and topics that naturally it's gonna be easier to do this within those spaces because people are super, super sensitive in those areas already. I've found this a little bit challenging to do, not gonna lie, within the business space. I think people who are in it to be entrepreneurs and are in business generally are a little bit more thick-skinned. Also, we understand to some, to varying degrees, the ideas around marketing content, you know, actively trying to be polarizing or triggering people. So I think it's a little bit more difficult of a demographic to actually get them like spiced up and riled up and feeling something. But this is one of the topics that I've chosen recently because it, it is true for me. And it's not just like picking random shit that you can say just to make people mad, but it's like, what do you actually believe? And then can we double down on that belief so much and frame it in a way that we know is going to be highly polarizing? And you're going to get those people that want to disagree with you or want to continue the conversation or say, but what about this in the comments? Because ultimately that creates more engagement and it creates more polarization. There's going to be people that going to fucking love it and there's going to be people that fucking hate it. And that is the exact result that you want. And so I picked this kind of concept recently of the masculine versus the feminine and, you know, not really leaning into or marketing to the soft life girlies and how those types of women are going to naturally be more enticed by like the energetic offers, the manifesty type offers, because of the fact that those things are selling them comfort. It's selling them, you can have this big amazing result and you don't actually have to do that much for it. That is ultimately the idea that those things are selling them. That's that marketing. And those girls want the Porsche Pilates lifestyle. They want all of the things. They want the luxury, but they don't actually want to grind for it. And unfortunately, that is actually not the real world. And I'm really sorry to be the one reporting this, but this whole idea of like getting paid to exist, that is a marketing lie. And that was made up so that other people could profit off of your laziness and your stupidity. So stop buying it. Stop buying it. That is fake news. Okay. Okay, so I have something I think you're really gonna love, and your business is gonna love it even more. Do you want to steal the strategy I've been using to seduce premium buyers and sell out my offers on Instagram Stories? Chances are you're already posting, you're already making sales, but if your Instagram Stories aren't working as hard as you are, you're leaving money on the table. 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Moving on in this idea of like, yeah, what— thinking about what can you pick? What in your space is gonna be the thing that allows you to be a little bit more polarizing, that allows you to say, hey, actually I think I'm ready. To finally trigger some people. I'm ready to make some bitches mad, you know, because that's really what we should be doing. I just told one of my clients the other day, I was like, your next unlock is going to be leaning into your edges more around being willing to piss people off. And so instead of saying things like birth control isn't the only option for someone who's like in holistic health, you should try saying birth control is a scam because you can always add context and you can elaborate and you can explain more later. But your hook is not that good of a hook if it's already appeasing to the nuance of the situation by saying, oh, birth control isn't the only option. What does that imply? That implies that I'm a very balanced individual, that I could see it as an option, but it's not the only option. So what is it giving? It's giving fucking vanilla. It's giving fucking limp dick. It's not giving anything that someone's going, whoa, wait, hang on, hang on a second, I gotta be a keyword, keyboard warrior and type in the comments on this one. And that's actually kind of what you want. And I know everybody hates rage bait, But I do think that there's a difference between just straight up rage bait, like trying to make people mad for no reason and actually just doubling down on the things that you truly believe. If you truly believe the way and the manner in which birth control has been sold to us as women is a scam, even though you still support women's rights and their right to choose and whatever the fuck else all the people are going to be me, me, me, me about, then you should be able to say in a really polarizing way, I think birth control is a scam. Birth control is a fucking scam. Your doctor lied to you. And then you can go into more explanations. But that's kind of the idea around this.. And so one thing that you wanna try and stop is trying to like tiptoe and, and not trigger people in your content. It's not serving you. It's not taking you to the next level. If you're asking yourself, well, what happens if people get mad? Or what if they disagree? Or what if I trigger people? That is the point. That is the motherfucking point. Okay. I was just watching one of Shelby Sapp's videos earlier this week. She was making some sort of like bone broth turmeric type shot because she was feeling under the weather. And there was absolutely no reason for this to be the onscreen hook, but the text on screen said, being sick is for poor people. Those things open your eyes and you go, oh, I get it now. Like, there's no reason for you to say that because the video isn't even actually about rich people or poor people. But it's on brand with how she presents herself. It's on brand with her being the girl who's teaching women how to make so much money in sales. It's on brand with her being someone who makes $5 million a month. And it's polarizing and it's triggering. And that is the point. That's why it works. Okay, number 3 thing to stop doing is staying in the same place your whole life. For the love of God, I feel like I'm the poster child of this message, so I do feel embodied in being able to give it. Get out of your hometown. Get out. If you have never moved away, not just went and traveled, if you've never moved away from your hometown and lived for over a year somewhere else, my God, that will change your life. That is an unlock. And for those of you who have lived abroad in other countries, I really think that you have a serious advantage in your journey as an entrepreneur or creating any type of success for yourself in the world because you have had to do so much. You've had to figure out so much about yourself. You've had to solve so many problems. You've had to be so resourceful. Like, people don't understand what it takes to be the type of person that picks up their life, packs it into two suitcases, moves to a foreign country where you don't know anybody, where you can't speak the language, lives with a host family, or does any of these crazy things like that level of discomfort. Is a level of discomfort that very few human beings are ever willing to put themselves through. And so that means you have a serious advantage in the landscape of creating success for yourself, building a business, doing anything fucking hard, because anything after that is like, okay, well, it can't be that bad. It can't be that challenging. You've had to figure out so much stuff. And so it's not just that. It's not just the problem solving or the getting out of your comfort zone in a major, major way, but it's also aggressively changing your environment. And actually intentionally moving to places that are going to help brainwash you into thinking that new levels of wealth and success are normal for you. This is one of the things that I love about living in South Florida. It is impossible not to be brainwashed into obscene levels of wealth by living here, because when I go to walk my dog in this neighborhood, I'm walking by $40 million beachfront properties. Fort Lauderdale is the yachting capital of the world, so there are mansions and yachts everywhere here. Every second person has a supercar. Like, driving a Porsche is basically like driving a Toyota Okay. Like even people that seem like they're kind of regular, they're low-key rich. Like they have to be to live here. And so when you surround yourself by that, it starts to program you and you, you become brainwashed. You think, oh, this is all normal. And suddenly $5,000 a month, $10,000 a month, that is baseline. That's expenses. That is not a wealthy lifestyle. And it's not to poo-poo that, but it's like if you are the person who wants to be making millions and millions of dollars, you want to do really incredible things in your life, you have to start to normalize that. And so you do have to intentionally put yourself into environments, rooms, masterminds, whatever it is, places where you're going to think, oh my God, $100K a month is baseline. That is normal. That is average. That is what everybody is making. And it's not to say that that is across the board true in all of the world. Obviously not. But if you're trying to live like the 1%, you need to live around the 1% because it tricks your brain into thinking that obscene levels of success and wealth are actually very, very, very normal, average, okay, safe. And that is what you need to believe on a subconscious level in order to make that easier for you. I think that moving to a place that naturally brainwashes you into higher levels of wealth is going to work faster for you than any of these other mindset hacks like subconscious reprogramming, EFT, hypnosis, meditation, like any of that. You could do all of the tools or you could just move somewhere where every fucking day Everywhere you go, everywhere you look, everywhere you drive, everything you do, every house you see is like boom, boom, boom. It's all proof. You are living amongst the proof that this type of life and lifestyle and money is possible. That shit works fast. So I couldn't recommend it enough. Living in a place that activates you, that inspires you, that doesn't give you seasonal depression. That is very, very important cuz you're gonna have way more energy. You're gonna have way more creativity. It's gonna unlock so much for you. These are the things that true entrepreneurs think about. They don't just stay in one place and go, oh, woe is me. I have to be here for these reasons. No, they understand the leverage. They understand the invisible infinite ROI of going, I got to get the fuck out of here. I got to live somewhere where it's sunny, where it's warm, where I'm consistently activated, inspired, where every day I drive with the sunroof open, there's blue skies, there's palm trees, there's rich people, there's houses, mansions. All the— every day is an inspiration. Every day is an activation. Your life is the vision board. When you live in the vision board, you don't need to make a vision board. And that is how you brainwash yourself so much faster. Okay. Number 4, things we need to stop doing: fearing more responsibility. This is a really big one, and it's one that people don't often realize. I think that one of the biggest blocks to inviting more money, wealth, revenue, income into your life is the fear of more responsibility. It's not the fear of money. It's not, oh, my nervous system doesn't know how to hold it. I mean, maybe a little bit, but I really think for most people, it's actually the fear of more responsibility. Of holding what it means to be a millionaire. What does that come with? The taxes, the liabilities, the lawsuits, people asking you for money. You've got to manage it. This count, this account, this account. You've got to grow your money. I mean, it's, it's a lot more responsibility to hold. And so whether we've admitted it to ourselves consciously or not, oftentimes there is this subconscious feeling and resistance contraction of like, oh, I don't want it. I don't actually want that. I don't actually want to do the work to have to figure all of that out, to have to be the leader that I would have to become to actually do that with ease and to know where things go and to know how to manage the money and to put it here or the other place and be okay with all of that. Fearing more responsibility blocks you from more money, and it also blocks you from being a better leader, and it's going to block you from outsourcing and hiring the support that you need. Because when you think about bringing someone on or adding more team, it feels like a chore where it's like, oh, you know, I've got to be responsible for these people. I have to manage more people. I have to make sure they're okay. I have to make sure they know what they're doing. I have to check in on their It's more responsibility because you don't want it. You have a contraction around it, you resist it. So you don't hire, so you don't outsource, so you don't add people to your team. And you continue to grind and grind and grind and do everything by yourself. And you limit yourself and you live under this ceiling. And then you're like, why am I not breaking through? Why am I not making more money? Maybe, maybe it's because you fear responsibility. And maybe it's because you don't actually want to become the person you would have to become in order to delegate, outsource, hire, make more money. Number 5 thing to stop doing is being too nice. I love that people have been distinguishing more lately the difference between being a nice person and being a kind person. I think being kind person is someone who values truth and honesty, and being a nice person is someone who values people pleasing and upholding images and appearing in a way that makes other people look upon you with favor, regardless of whether that's your truth or it's real. And so there is a difference between being nice and being kind. But something that I think blocks people from success is wanting to uphold that appearance, wanting everyone to think that you are this Miss Nice Girl. And so you let clients jerk you around, you let them miss payments, you let people make excuses, you allow fraudulent chargebacks to be happening in the back end of your business, you let people plagiarize your work or your content. I've told you guys the story before about how someone came into my DMs wanting to join a mastermind, and I went to their page to be like, oh cool, like, who is this potential new client? Let me check her out. She was totally plagiarizing plagiarizing one of my courses, like the whole thing, word for word. She stole my entire sales page, ripped off all of the names and details of all of the modules. Like, I don't know what was inside the course because I wasn't going to buy it from her because it was fucking mine. But like, that's when you go, oh my God, I've been being way too nice. And you got to lawyer up, you got to file your trademarks, and you got to send cease and desists. You have to be a big girl. And it's kind of a sad lesson to learn. It's really hard. But in the last couple years of business, you know, I, I've had to really learn that lesson that in order to be taken seriously, you have to take yourself seriously. And in order to take yourself seriously, sometimes you have to do things where it's actually the kindest thing and the most respectful thing that you could do for your business and honoring your life's work and your mission and everything that you've poured your heart and soul into and protecting it. You have to be the protector of your business. That is kind, that is responsible. It's not kind and, and responsible and protective of your business to just let people walk all over you all the time. So I've spent more money on legal fees before than even what the amount was going to be that I would make back by pursuing the issue. Because at some point it's about the principle of being a real business with real policies and contractual agreements that will be upheld. And at some point it's not enough to just say, oh, you know, I'll let it go. It's not worth my energy or my peace, which is a really big piece of advice that I think we've all received and given and also utilized at some point because sometimes it is just that. It's like, oh, okay, this isn't really worth my energy or my time. Like, whatever, just let it go. But at some point that is like, it's, it's, there's been too many lines that are crossed. If you allow that for too long, that's gonna rob all of your sense of peace from your business because the brand now has no spine and people know it. And that is not good. You can't have clients treating your business like they're Venmoing a friend and they keep forgetting about it. And you know, they're, oh, I'll make this payment later. And oh, I ran out of money and I'm looking at— blah, blah, blah. Does your phone company allow that? Does your mortgage company allow that? Are you allowed to just do that with your car payments? Like, no, we respect legitimate companies that have policies because we know that they will be enforced. We trust that they will say, hey, we're shutting off all of your services or whatever. They're going to come for you, right? And instead, this is human nature. We take advantage of nice people who we know will give us that wiggle room. And so at some point you gotta stand on business in your business and be like, this shit's a real company, dog. I'm sorry, but like, I gotta send you this notice from a lawyer. And that is probably one of the saddest lessons that I had to learn because I am a really kind person and I never wanted to have to do those types of things. And I'm, you know, I think still in a lot of ways a person who gives people too many chances and I'm overwhelmingly understanding and have a lot of grace before I would ever take legal action on something. But I think this is something that is plaguing especially women in business is the being too nice thing. Okay. The next thing that is sabotaging your success is keeping your content creation at the end of your to-do list. This is such an unlock if you can change this. I remember years ago in my business when my content was consistently the last thing on my to-do list for the day. What would happen every day is then I would run out of time, of course, and I would move that time block or move that task over to the next day and the next day and the next day. And so I only ever ended up posting 2 or 3 times a week. And it was starting to piss me off that I would get to the end of my night, it would be like 8, 9, 10:00 PM sometimes, and I'm like, oh my God, I really wanted to post today. Fuck. But then of course you don't have the brain power. You're, you have so much decision fatigue, especially if you've been running your business full-time. It's just not sustainable. There is a lack of intentional planning and strategizing, and that is automatically going to mean that you post less. And so you have to start treating your content like it's an income-producing activity. Too many people, when they're focused on the service of their business, when you're not just a content creator or an influencer where that is the core focus of your, of your business, but when the core focus of your business is actually like your products and your services and your clients and, and delivery of those things, it can be really easy to think of content as just a side thing or it's helpful or it's a marketing activity, but it's kind of over here in this other box. You have to start telling yourself that content is an income-producing activity. Because newsflash, it fucking is. A lot of your clients and future clients are going to find you and be nurtured through your content. So if you are not posting, if you're posting less, if you're posting late, if you're posting with low intention or not any strategy, that is going to impact the revenue of your business, point blank period, especially if you're trying to build any kind of personal brand. So my advice would be to try your best to post every day. I used to think that this was so much, it was incessant, it was too big. But once you start doing it, you realize that it's not that crazy. So I want to encourage you, if you're listening to this, if you feel like, oh, this has been me and I really want to break out of this, aim for posting at least 5 to 7 times a week. I swear, just stick with it. Do it. Force it. Make time blocks. Be strategic. Figure out for yourself, like, when and how am I going to prioritize content? You can't just say that you're going to post every day and then not change anything at all and hope that that's going to happen. It's not going to happen. So you've got to figure out, maybe I have to take a 2-hour time block on my weekend where I ideate and I write out some ideas or I script some talking head videos. You've got to figure it out, but you've got to put it in the calendar, make a plan, and then decide this actually— this activity generates revenue in my business. And so if I'm not doing it, it means I'm going to be making less money. Because whether you make money right away from a post or you make it 3 weeks, 6 weeks, 10 weeks, 4 months later because someone has been consistently nurtured by you posting, every single day, that is revenue generating. That is a revenue generating activity in your business. And so you should be doing it more. You should be placing way more importance on it and you should be really, really focused on that, especially in 2026. Consistency is one of the best ways to beat other people because so many people are not willing to do it. Okay, next up, I think we're on number 7, is not upskilling fast enough. You have to put yourself in positions and rooms that feel uncomfortable. For you. You've got to apply for spaces that you want to be in before you feel fully ready. Before. Not, oh, I'm almost ready, or I feel ready, or I've been ready, or I've been wanting to join this, or I've been waiting to— before. Be for. Apply for spaces that you want to be in before you feel fully ready. That's the unlock. Everybody else does it when they're ready or after they're ready. If you do it before, you beat everybody else.. Some of my clients who have had the biggest results inside of TopTier, they came in when they were only making like $5,000 a month and they were scared shitless to be in there, but they finished by making $20K weeks. When you are the underdog, when you are the small fish in a big pond, when you are surrounded by people who are doing incredible things, it's exactly like we talked about with environment. It's going to brainwash you to move faster. To make quicker decisions, to learn the skills that people ahead of you are already implementing. You get to ask questions to all these people that have already done what you're trying to do. Like, that is the best spot to be in. I want to be the stupidest person in every single room. I don't want to go into spaces where like I'm helping everybody out and it feels like we're all at the same level. Like, that's why I go to acquisition.com. I like being in that room because I like sitting next to someone who's making $80 million a year and feeling like a dumb fuck. Like, I truly, when I go there, I'm like shaking in my boots. I'm like, oh my God, And I'm like kind of embarrassed and I like don't know if I wanna like how I wanna describe my business and like what I do. That is good for you. That shit is so good for you. That is what you want. You wanna upskill faster, move faster. Or what I'll also see is people who do that, they do it sometimes, but they do it like once every 3 years. And so they take these really big pauses and it's almost like they can't, their nervous system isn't calibrating to it. Like they do the big leap or they do this scary thing, or they put themselves in a really scary room, or, you know, they have this big kind of stretchy experience. Maybe they buy a house, or, you know, they go to some crazy like retreat or mastermind or whatever it is, and then they retract and they pull back and they pause their learning or their investments for like a year or two. And you can just kind of tell energetically and, and through what they're doing that they're stagnating. And this isn't just talking about coaching, right? It's, it's about everything. But I do think that Consistent upskilling is what gives you an edge and it kind of keeps you ahead of your competition. And lastly, number 8, something that I really think is sabotaging people's success is being a kind of transactional business owner or being a transactional person, treating people as commodities rather than relationships that can genuinely be built. You know, I think I was fortunate enough to come up in the online space during a time where the creator economy wasn't what it is now. Influencing wasn't what it is now. Coaching wasn't what it is now. I mean, it was— yes, it was alive, but like back in 2018, 2019, like things were just so different. And I'm really grateful for the time in which I came into the industry because I was learning from people and witnessing people and just seeing how much it was relationship building. And it was genuinely like you could make friends with people online and you could cross-collaborate and, you know, people wanted to do stuff for free and they wanted to come teach in your communities and they wanted to go live together and they wanted to— oh my God, what was the name of that frickin' audio platform that came out during the pandemic that we all freaked out about because we thought it was going to be like the next big social media platform? Oh my God, what the fuck was that called? Okay, I just had to look it up. It was called Clubhouse. You guys remember? Maybe, maybe you don't, but we were all on Clubhouse and we were in these rooms and we were raising our hands and like we were collaborating with people and just having all these conversations. Doing so much shit for free, you guys. And that really, really helped with the come up. And so I think nowadays it's unfortunate, but like people are always thinking like, what can I get from this and how am I going to get a client from this? And even like with affiliates and stuff like that, like people who are in my world, clients or, you know, people that I hire to do certain things for my, for, for my communities, if they have a really great product or service and they're like, oh, I'm looking for more clients, I'm like, I'll shout you out in my stories. Like, I'll send an email to my community. And they're like, oh, okay, like, how much should I pay you for every person that like comes from you? I'm like, I don't even really care. Like, I don't need to get paid for every person that buys your thing from me. Like, I do love being an affiliate for certain things that I think are great. Like, I'm an affiliate for Kajabi. If you ever want to download or use Kajabi, like, let me know. I have an affiliate code. I'm an affiliate for Creator College because that was a really cool thing that I did to help me with my content last year. So like, I see the value in it, but I just think that like like sometimes people take it a little bit too far and it's like every tiny little favor also has to have an invoice attached to it. And that just feels really transactional. People are just constantly like, what can I get from this? What's in it for me? Like the people who will only do a podcast collaboration if it's a swap and it's like, if you do mine, like I'll do yours. And like, okay, podcast swaps are great. Like I do them, but it's like, you can feel when the energy is like that. Like when you can feel when it's this very like transactional energy, people who are fake nice to you and they're hyping up your work just because they have an ask and they want something from you. Or the people who were like, they will never guest teach for free. They'll never just drop into your community and do a Q&A or teach something like so many of the women who have guest taught inside of my programs and masterminds. They have done it for free because it's built on relationships, genuine relationships that we have with each other. And they understand the invisible long-term ROI. And those same people they've ended up being featured multiple times in my programs. They've been featured multiple times on my podcast. Like, we've grown relationships together. They've grown relationships with my clients. Some of my clients have hired my other clients. Like, it actually becomes a community and a circle where I'm not on a stage being like, oh, I'm the pinnacle and everybody needs to pay me for every minute of my time and everything that I say and everything that I ever do. But it's like, no, we're sitting in a circle and we can all pass the bread basket around and we can all eat. And there's enough for everybody and we can all help each other. And by doing that, you actually get more. And so I'm just kind of bothered by this new sort of energy where like everything has an invoice and everything needs to be a charge. And like, you're not actually seeing the value of what it is. If you want to come into my community and you want to teach my clients, like you're probably going to sign clients, you're getting in front of a really curated group of premium buyers, high-level women. There's a trust factor there because they know that I love your work, that I trust you, that I'm I'm willing to put you on that platform. And so automatically they trust you more. Like, people just have forgotten about that kind of stuff. And so I think that is one of the big success blocks that I'm seeing right now in the industry and just kind of like in our environment today is people being too transactional. And when you meet actual wealthy people, like millionaires and billionaires, what you will realize is that they mentor people for free, they give out their phone number,. They share resources. They don't have these weird frickin rules of like, oh, you can only send 2 bullet points and— but you guys, they are not doing that stuff. They're extremely helpful to the people in their network. They're not these gatekeeping losers because money actually isn't the highest currency that can set them apart anymore. It's reputation. Okay? Once you're already wealthy and you're in the— in that kind of level, it's not money that is the thing that's going to make you win. It's reputation.. And so you're not looking for a paycheck for everything that you do. You're, you're thinking about what is the legacy that I can leave? How can I be giving? How can I be of service? How can I trade my experience? How can I, you know, pour into these people? How can I go and speak and help other people succeed? And also that's more rewarding, that's more fulfilling. And so I think if you can leverage relationships and the reputation that you're building on the come up, like while you're rising, not just when you've already arrived, then you will be better than so many people. And this is not to say don't charge for your services, like charge a premium for your services. Just there's certain things that we get to do and can do that are helpful and service-based and just relationship building where we can share and collaborate. And it doesn't always have to have an invoice. And I think if more people did that, they would actually get themselves farther faster. All right. There you have it, you guys. Those are the 8 things that I think you should stop doing right now so that you don't sabotage your success anymore. If you enjoyed this episode, please please copy the link, send it to a friend who you know might enjoy it. 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