The Power of Energy and Intention with Matt Campoli

Everything is energy, particles. And it is our awareness that collapses energy into matter. So if our awareness can alter energy to collapse into matter, then we can truly create anything we want, because everything is energy. Welcome to the Path to Purpose podcast where I share incredible conversations with amazing humans who went through a pivotal shift in their lives that have put them on their path of purpose, profit and impact. My name is Zarek Fatah. I'm a serial entrepreneur and life coach. I went through my own 180 degree shift where I am now committed to living a life of inspiration, education and empowerment. My intention is to share these conversations so they inspire you to also walk your path of purpose. So today's guest is someone who I met couple years ago and he reached out to me when he realized his vibe was off. And over the last couple years, we've traveled together, coached together, hung out together. We haven't danced together yet.

No, not like that.

Not yet. I'm looking forward to sharing the story of Matthew Jerry Campoli.

Oh, wow. Middle name too. Let's do it. Let's do it.

You know, someone who, pretty well known in the Toronto real estate industry, now expanding into Miami, someone who many other Realtors in the city look up to. And because I know him on a pretty deep level, you know, I know your backstory, I know what it took for you to become this authentic, inspiring, empowered version of yourself. And I'm excited to share your journey and your path because you are the example of what happens when you commit to doing the work. So thank you, Matt, for being here today on the Path podcast.

Thank you for having me.

This is. And Matt also is the host of the Price to Sell podcast. And yeah, looking forward to sitting down, chat with you in a couple of weeks as well.

I'm excited to have you again.

Yeah. Big podcast guy. You know, so many times people that I speak to, they're like, yeah, you know, Matt, I just, I love his content, I love his messaging, you know, and I just love how real and authentic he is. And people think that comes naturally.

Yeah.

But the truth is, is it takes something to get to that point where you can just open up and not give a shit and just be real. So, you know, I'd love for you to share a bit about, you know, your backstory about.

Yeah.

Just kind of your origins and where. Where did the journey of Matt Campoli begins?

Yeah. So, well, thank you for having me. I love what you're up to. It's always a pleasure.

Thank you. Thank you.

Working alongside you. And if you guys are Looking for coaching out there. Highly recommend it. I'll put that in there right now. Plug. But the origin story of Matt. So I was. I came into this earth February 5th, 1992. Birthday's coming up on Monday, actually.

Okay.

I'll be 32 years old. Okay. Yeah. Getting there.

Young pun.

Thank you. Yeah. Mom. And my mom and dad divorced when I was little, three years old. So I never knew them together really. Just like, really, like, blurry memories, I guess you can say, of, like, our first house and then them together and things like that. And so lived with my mom. Majority saw my dad on weekends. And me and my mom grew up, she was always renting, so we did the basement apartment thing quite a bit. So we lived in my nunna's basement for a bit. And you can imagine they're. They're 33 years old, my age, actually, which is thinking about that, and have a kid going through a divorce. Obviously it's going to rip you apart a little bit. So I was with my dad, moved in with my grandparents, and my mom moved in with her mom, and we lived in the basement. And then we did an apartment thing, and they still put me in a private school. So I was pretty smart, actually. I got asked to skip a grade, so I guess you can call that gifted at the time. And then I just went down a whole other path after. But started off good in terms of knowledge, I think, smarts. My stay with my mom majority of the time. But. But growing up, I lived in Vaughan. So pretty, you know, nice suburban area, wealthy people. A lot of. Lot of money in Vaughan, for sure. So living in a basement was hard for me. And my dad just was in, like, a typical, like, regular sales job, and he was kind of in between, like, different. Different jobs. My mom was a teacher, but I never understood the, I guess, the financials. So I was always like, why the hell do I live in a basement? I was very embarrassed about that. And so all my friends had, like, these big houses, and especially my best friends at the time were pretty wealthy, so they had, like, an even bigger house and, like, the pool and all that stuff. So I was, like, really comparing. Like, that contrast was big. And, you know, I had no siblings, only child. There's a lot of, like, you know, animosity, I guess, between the parents and stuff like that, too. So I feel like I was maybe unintentionally put in the middle of things a lot. So that took a toll on me, as I've learned now. So I think a lot was repressed Because I don't remember much in my early life, to be honest. I feel like a lot of that was repressed. And then, yeah, just, you know, that I feel that growing up like that a bit of a disadvantage in my eyes. And then I was bullied in school, too, so because my eyes droop a bit and they're big.

Okay.

I had to go into that. So people used to call me, like, big eyes and, like, compare me to, like, cartoons and. And so then I would actually blame my parents a little bit more, like, why do I look like this? You know? So, like, a lot. A lot going on growing up, like, definitely behind the. The eight ball in terms of, like, where everyone else at was at. So long story short, grew up, continued the bullying, continued in high school. You know, it was just never really fit in. And when I got older, like, exiting high school, my mom, like, when I got to university, she finally bought her first house. And I actually took a year off school to, like, figure my shit out. And at 19, I picked up a book, and it was Rich dad, Poor Dad. And I started to realize, like, learn about the self development game a little bit. And that woke me up a little bit. And when I. When she finally bought her first house, I accidentally fell into barbering, so. And I started working out. Working out was huge for me, actually. 18 hit the gym. That's where the confidence started to come, you know, it's like, Now I'm like, 140 pounds. I kick your ass. Don't bully me, right? I couldn't kick anyone's ass. Just put it out there. Now I can, though. Yeah. 195. There you go. There we go. But the barbering thing happened by accident. My boys and I say this all the time, and they hate when I say this, but they were cheap and they wanted a free haircut. My mom taught hairdressing in high school, so she had all this equipment. And then my boy Gabe's like, matt, you shaved my head? I was like, sure. I was always into the hairstyles. Had, like, the funky hair, the lines and all that, all that stuff growing up. So I shaved his head, and I enjoyed it. The lineup and stuff. I actually took, like. I was creative with it. And then my boy Luca hit me up, too. He's like, I want a Mohawk. So I winged it. Me and my boy Dylan were, like, in his bathroom just, like, doing the thing. And then my other boy started to hit me up, like, okay, now I want to fade. I'm like, I don't know how to Fade. But we started hitting the clubs. 19 maison.

Nice.

And yeah. And people started going up to my friends, like, oh, like, decent haircuts. Like, where'd you get it? Like, matt. They're like, matt, can you cut my hair? I'm like, what? Like, I guess. How much you charge? I'm like, I don't charge, but maybe I should. Five bucks. Like, I'm like, what do I. How do I do this? What do I do? Like, where do I cut these guys? So we took a chair. My mom got me a chair, and I set up in her. In her basement. And then started doing like $5 haircuts and started posting on Facebook. Like, the haircuts actually.

$5.

$5. Yeah. Yeah. I don't know how to cut hair. Okay. Yeah.

Start somewhere.

Yeah. I remember the first guy came for a bald fit. I'm like, how the hell do I do this? I literally watch a YouTube video before he got to my house. And like, just with that YouTube video fresh on my mind, I'm like, like sweating buckets. Like, how? Like, okay, like zero. Okay. Point five.

I guess the good thing is when.

You charge it five bucks if you mess up. I did shave a guy's eyebrow off once. That was my only mess up. I actually know I've done worse.

Okay.

Done worse. But yeah. Five bucks. Can't complain. Your eyeballs gone. Sorry, man. Five bucks. You know, so what that did was people started to really, like, start come to me. And I got. I got like this. This whole shift of energy. Like, people started to need me. Now it was always opposite growing up. Like, I was always like, felt like I needed to, like, prove myself because no one wanted a piece of me. Now everyone wants a piece of me. It was interesting for me, still in the gym, still getting bigger. So these things started to happen. And then bar business blew up. 200 clients ultimately became really good at it. Wow. And then what I learned from that was. And my self development journey never stopped thinking, grow rich, supreme influence. Like, all these books I started to read. And then through my hair clients, I started to learn about spirituality. So my one. My one good friend, Blue Wall, he's like, I'm. I'm learning about spirituality. And I'm like, what the hell is that? He's like, I feel like you're an empath. I'm like, what's that? So I started to dive into that. And then another friend of mine started to talk to me about law of attraction, like numerology and all these things. Like, what's that? So through the hair clients, I started to have these conversations and learn. Right. Because I had different age groups, interests, and at the same time, I became a chameleon in terms of I can just fit in with any of my clients, hold down a conversation, whatever.

They're into that emotional intelligence.

Yeah. So all this, all this, all these traits were just being built up and that built the confidence for me and I became very personable. And now you're jacked. Jacked a bit.

Going maison, you look stylish on.

I got my first girlfriend.

Okay.

You know, and yeah, going to maison, looking stylish with my vest with man rosary. Right. You know, and yeah, that just like totally shifted me a little bit. Really dove into Law of Attraction. And I was selling TVs at Best Buy. I really liked the sales and people like always complimented me. Like, I talked to your manager, you're amazing experience. I'm like, customer service. This is good. So then it's like I was studying history in university. It's like, what can I do with history? This new mind of mine started to question things. So I volunteered at my mom's high school because I was gonna be a teacher. And first thing I did was ask the teachers I felt comfortable with, how much can you make? What's the max? They're like x amount. After 10 years, I was like, no, I can't do that. So I told my mom, like, nope, this is not happening. I gotta figure it out. So it's like, how can I leverage my network of 200 people? It's like, okay, I can either literally sell drugs on my basement, run party buses from Vaughn to downtown club promote. And when my mom bought her first house, when she pulled up to the house, I came for the showing and the realtor pulled up and in his Mustang and he starts showing the house. And she bought the house. So I'm like, what's this real estate job? Like, he deleted nothing. Not, not knocking realtors, but like he didn't do much. Like, hey, this is the kitchen, here's the bedroom. Like obvious stuff. Yeah. I check commissions. I'm like, okay, commission based model. I have. All my friends are about to buy their first house. I'm gonna become a realtor and get ahead of it. So that's what I did. Got my real estate license, didn't know what an interest rate was. No business experience at all. Just people experience. And here we are, quite the fascinating.

Journey from going from Vaughn cutting base, cutting hair in basement, to now, you know, selling multi million dollar properties all over the gta.

Yeah. People biggest asset. Yeah.

Now there's, you know, the few things you shared that I just want to go back to. First off, many parallels between your story and mine. Getting picked on, bullied, racism. Well, not so much racism, but not feeling as abundant. You know, I grew up in Scarborough and grew up in neighborhood with some pretty mean kids.

Yeah.

In the projects and all that. Your desire to go out and earn more than a teacher, your desire to become entrepreneurial, would you say that was a trauma response to the conditions that you grew up with? Like, where did you develop that mindset to want to push yourself and invest into your education and your personal development?

Yeah, big time. So, I mean, I saw my parents struggle, Right. And I kind of made a subconscious agreement with myself. Like I never want to be in this position. So I think it's the older over compensation of like becoming like that false self, like those inner child wounds. Right. And putting on this face of. Of over compensation to like never experience those, those hit those traumas ever again. The financial struggle, the. The bullying, like, it got to a point where anywhere I went, if people were just having a conversation and looked at me, I instantly thought they were making fun of me anywhere I went.

Right.

So I was like literally just in a shell all the time. So the way I look physically right now and being on top of my game in terms of like my image, over compensation, trying to make as much money as possible over compensation, just to like never experience that lacquer hit those wounds again.

Yeah.

You know, which I. I acknowledge now I have an awareness around that. So.

But so let me ask you with the, you know, developing the false self, this identity to create a version of Matt that will hide that young, awkward, insecure young boy from them. This identity of Matt, what has it cost you?

What I am now?

Yeah. Because I know it's benefited you many ways.

Oh, it's.

What's it cost?

It's been. I mean, I. I don't know. It's only. There's been a lot of benefit, obviously, but I feel like there was times of burnout for sure, and then times where I just felt lost because I just feel like I just took a huge leap. I never dealt with anything, you know.

Yeah.

So there was always like that, like things coming up subconsciously or whatever. However, as I'm going about my day to day relationships, whatever it may be. But even with like my parents and stuff too, like with my mom, I do extremely well. Like, one of my goals is to retire her and my dad. But when I'm with her. I'm always on my phone or doing something like I can't even like sit there and have a conversation. So it's like, how do I unpack that? So great, I'm successful and all this. But like, you know, there's definitely some, some areas where it's like I've probably totally lost myself on. Yeah.

And I asked a question because I see this often with entrepreneurs of all kinds. That trauma response, that identity that they develop to hustle, grind. I'm never going back to living in a basement again. Become so ingrained in us that yes, it's the catalyst for our success and the fuel behind our drive, but we almost don't know how to stop it. And it brings us a lot of rewards and a lot of abundance. But then it also costs us things that the money can't ever buy back. Like you said, time with your parents, they're only going to be here for so long. Right. With certain relationships and even just the mental health. Right. I remember when you reached out to me a couple years ago because you understand energy and you understand manifestation and how important it is to make sure your frequency is high so that you're able to attract, you know, abundance and the things that you desire. You had, you had gone through something where you'd kind of fallen off. And I feel for a lot of people, they're not aware of the impact of their frequency, their vibration on what they're creating in life. So when they are neglecting what's important to them, like quality time with their family, taking care of their health, resting, recharging, their frequency is off. And no matter how hard they work grind, they're still not able to produce the results that they want. So when you had reached out to me, you had been going through something in your life and you had self awareness to recognize that you're not in your highest vibrational state.

Yeah, yeah.

So how, how do you manage that with all the things that you got going on between work with travel, with relationships, with just, you know, dealing with your day to day struggles.

Yeah. I remember when I came to you, I'm like, I want to be a big ball of vibe.

Big ball of vibe.

That was my goal. Probably a big ball of vibe. I wasn't, it's like, so through the, through the process and the learning, it's become easy again. I think it's just the power of like not being attached. Absolutely. You know, and just going about your day without attachment and like everything's going to be okay. It's very freeing, you know. And so obviously I have my practices and all that to really like, help me get into my vibe or like I'll have little things, like little sticky notes in my condo where it's like, okay, the reminder, you know, think about some certain things. But it wasn't easy to get, to get to that point. But I feel like now and like people, people you're around too, man. Like, absolutely. You know, we're always, we're always together. Shout out Nick, like big brother to me now. Because you. Thank you for the intro. Ernesto, Anthony, like all these, all these guys around me, girls, everyone. Rick. It really helps because they're just vibrating like that. So you're naturally just want to do the same, you know. So I think it's. It's the environment and just having that, that, that knowing and confidence with yourself to just like let it go and, and be okay with whatever it is.

Yeah. And getting to that point of no. Of non. Attachment requires a lot of trust and surrender. And it requires believing that God, universe, source, whatever name you want to call, you know, the higher power wants us to win, wants us to succeed, and is ready to give us everything, has already given us everything that we desire. It's our belief that it's ours. And trusting the process and being very driven, being very focused. I would imagine it was probably a bit of a challenge to. To just let go, trust the process and just surrender into the unknown. Because for guys like us, guys and girls like us, we want to know the plan, we want to know the formula as to how to get there. Right.

Yeah.

So was there a certain incident or something that happened where the synchronicities just start to show up?

I mean, when, when I was barbering and I started to learn about synchronicities, Law of attraction, all that I was. There's like 2016, 2017. There's this one podcast I always listen to. Too Weird was happening. Right. And in a good way. And I was like, this has to be like, there's no other way to explain this stuff. So that's when I really started to believe in it. And you know, I go through my different peaks and valleys throughout my journey, but there's. I. I've experienced so much of it that I just know it's undeniable. It's undeniable. And the more I study the Joe Dispenza's, all these different people, like the manifestations and just really like every sort of visualization, manifestation, meditation that I do in the morning, it's around the same principles. And over time, I'm like, this is just the secret sauce here. Like, this is clearly how it works.

Yes.

Right. It's just like, you think feelingly. I heard that the other day.

Think feelingly.

Think feelingly. I want to get that tatted on me, actually. But you. You feel your emotions, like when you're. When you're thinking about that future. You, like, you feel it and you embody it. Yes. And everybody preaches that. Right. Even. And, you know, you could take that from, like, ancient scriptures, like, yeah, it's just been around forever, so it's hard to deny. And then when you can tap into and you actually see the results happening for yourself, it's like, I want more.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And as Dr. Joe Dispenza says, you know, the mind sets the intention. We're putting the. That message out to the universe. But then it's our heart that feels into the emotion of that outcome, Visualizing yourself in that scenario. So for myself, I see myself with my wife, with my two kids. I see them in my prayer every morning. They're running to me with their arms open, and I could feel them hugging me and wrapping their little arms around me. I can feel that somatically. I can feel it emotionally and energetically. I am shifting to that future version of me that has my children. And when you can visualize it and feel into it and call that experience to you, you are training your mind and body for that. That future. You're preparing yourself before it's happened. And everything is energy particles, and it is our awareness that collapses energy into matter. So if our awareness can alter energy to collapse into matter, then we can truly create anything we want. Because everything is energy. Right. And where people get stuck is they don't actually believe it's possible for them. So they can't connect to the visualization and feel into the emotions because they have a belief, a limiting belief or a blockage, an old story that has them not be able to see that it's real for them. And that's where the work is. Like, people think, oh, yeah, just visualize and manifest. And the secret, it is what it is. You have to work through your shadow. You have to work through the dark shit that you've been through so that you can clear that away, so you can hold that vision so strong that there's no blockages to feel that emotion. Yeah, right.

I've done shadow work too. For me, is my limiting beliefs. I'm not enough. Yeah, Ultimately, yeah, That's what it's done down to. Yeah.

I mean, as humans.

Yeah.

I'm not lovable and I have an odd enough. Those are our two worst fears.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So. But the just what I've. What I've. I can like sum it up for everyone listening. What I've learned is just like you have your intention of where you want to be and then that future you, what are you feeling? How. How is that, how is that person operating when you step into that future you are you. What are the feelings you're experiencing? All your emotions and you just got to feel that throughout the day. Yes. And one thing I struggle with too is in the morning I would just do my meditation finish, go to the gym and go through my day and think, oh, cool, I manifested today. I manifested but 90 of my day, I was stressed, deals weren't going well. People call me off the hook. All these things happening that brought forward my triggers of like, lack financial stress, all this. So I'm operating in that for 90 of the day, but thinking that that first 10% is enough to manifest. Yeah. So throughout the day I make sure to just like take a step back, sit with myself and again, think about that future. Mean, how am I feeling when I am reaching, attain this goal, this goal, this goal, this goal. Have everything I want. Yeah. And keep that consistent throughout the day. So then that ups the vibe too.

Yeah.

Right.

And what I found to be very helpful is when challenges do happen, if a deal doesn't go through or a client cancels or what, whatever it could be, I always ask myself, okay, what is God trying to teach me right now? Or what is God saving me from right now? What is the lesson for me to learn here? You know, this client canceled or something went sideways with the project. Okay. So either God is throwing me a curveball because that's not meant for me, or there's something for me to learn here that is going to help me to evolve and elevate, you know, in what I do. And when you could look at every like quote unquote negative experience as a necessary lesson that's being provided to you for you to grow and evolve again, then you could have gratitude for it rather than being resentful being why the. How'd that happen? Be like, okay, there's a lesson here. Let me like drop in, let me feel into this lesson. Okay. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Yeah, that makes sense. And sometimes you may not get the lesson right away, but that's when trust and non attachment is required to say, okay, this sucks right now. I think this Sucks.

Yeah.

And I don't know why it's happening, but I'm going to breathe and I'm just going to trust that for whatever reason, this is happening for my highest good.

Yeah.

And I'm just not going to let it throw me off. And of course, it takes time. It takes practice, it takes the mindset to shift to that. But that is how I have learned to maintain that high vibrational energy, by shifting to an empowering perspective. Right. And. And it takes time because often somebody says something or, you know, something happens that all sudden, as you said, that emotional reaction of but my money or why, why are they doing that to me? You know, that emotional reaction causes that pain to come out. And that's why doing the shadow work and doing the inner work to resolve those wounds, as they say. Our triggers are teachers. So when we get triggered. Okay, what is the story that I'm making up about the situation? What is the belief I have? Okay, well, when did I develop that belief? Because this is belief even true? Oh, no, of course it's not true. I got bullied in the schoolyard in grade three. But those were a bunch of kids that were angry. I don't need to get bullied anymore. I don't need to feel that way. Right. So it's about being able to step away from that emotional reaction, pause, and then look at the situation from an elevated level of consciousness.

Yeah.

And unpack it. Yeah.

Big.

It's, you know, it, it, it's easier said than done.

Yeah.

But with practice, you. Then it just becomes second nature. You know, there's a quote by Viktor Frankl, I quote all the time. It says, between the stimulus and the response, there is a pause. There's a space. And in that pause lies our growth and our freedom.

Right.

Because when we emotionally react, sometimes we say things we don't mean, sometimes we do things that don't align with that future version ourself. And then we go into regret and shame and guilt. So we're giving away our growth, we're giving away our power, our freedom. And that's why, you know, being able to use a conscious communication.

Yeah.

You know, and being able to just. Not everything needs to be said right away. Take a breath, pause, collect yourself, and then come back to the conversation when you're grounded. Yeah, I know. Conscious communication is something that was big for me. Yeah.

And it's not. It's not a boxing match, it's a dance.

Yes, exactly. Yeah.

But. And, and the other thing too is like some people, sometimes you're talking to someone, you just can't control that. There's nothing you can do to change how they are.

No.

So you have to be aware of that too and accept that too, because you might want to, like, fight them and argue with them, but they're just like, in their ways and it's like, yeah, you know what? Yeah, just like unconditional. Yeah, it's fine. I accept you how you are.

Yeah. And, you know, going back to a boxing match, like, you know, sometimes the guy's up on the ropes and swinging and swinging and swinging and swinging. Eventually he's going to tire out. So in that situation, you can just keep asking questions, keep listening, stay curious, hold space for them. And then once they've said everything they've needed to say, then you can, then you can engage and then you can share and then you can, you know, I. You don't have to agree with the person, but you can choose to understand them. And then in understanding that person, you can have compassion and empathy for where they're at. Because obviously when you're in this work, you're on the path. You are, let's say, of an elevated consciousness and you have these tools. It's up to us to be in our highest self, regardless of how that person's behaving. Now, of course, if they're crossing your boundaries, if they're being offensive, if they're, if their energy is toxic for you, then it's necessary to set those boundaries and step away. However, it's in our leadership of being conscious and being empathetic and holding space for them that we can also inspire them to want to shift as well.

Yeah.

You know, because many people don't do this work because they don't understand it, or they're just so caught up in their programming, trapped in their wounds, that they don't even know what it means to go within, to face their shadow, to know that life can be different.

Yeah, right. That's important.

So I would love to know, like, what does your morning routine. What does your. What is your, I guess, process that allows you to kind of start your day in empowered way, carry it on. Like how, you know, for somebody who's listening or watching this, who says, yeah, you know, I'd like to kind of begin my path as well. Like, what would be, what would be the seven starting points for them?

Yeah. Like, it's not like I woke up one day and read an article on the morning routine. And I guess what I'm going to do, it's just I kind of piece mine together over time, taking from different things. So listening to like Tony Robbins or the Joe Dispenza or, you know, I had the five minute journal and I just, I just knew kind of what my setup needed to be during COVID was, was the most interesting and biggest growth for me because I had time. Real estate was off, it was on hold. No one was doing anything. No other realtors are selling houses. I wasn't scared. Like, I was like, okay, cool, I can chill every morning, two hours. You ask my mom. I didn't leave my room. I literally just meditated and did like crazy ass like visualizations. I uncovered so much that I tapped in so hard that I began to like, I'm not even kidding. I think I started to download when I was writing. Things were just going.

Yeah.

You know, that was like a huge spiritual thing for me. Like I'm like, holy. I'm really tapped in right now obviously because I had the time and no distractions. But what I've done for myself over time. So what I'm saying is like, you know, it's not a one, one stop, one all, be all, whatever for how you need to do your morning routine. You find what works for you. And for me, I just wake up early. I try not to go into my phone right away and I'll just put on a meditation, Usually guided, but it's visualizations. So a quick like 25, 30 minute visualization meditation. And just tapping into my future self, embodying those emotions. I make sure I'm feeling it, you know, holding my chest and stuff like that, Always coming out with tears in my eyes. And then I take that energy where I'm, where I'm at and I go journal in a blank journal. I call it my dream journal. And I just literally write out affirmations I've developed over time and then what the future me looks like. And then at the end of my journaling, it's all the feelings I'm feeling, which again just reinvigorates all the emotions in my body as I'm ending. And it's just like my words get bigger. I start writing capitals. Like I start, you know, drawing things. And like, like it's just a really cool feeling. And then I'm done and I go work out. Have a nice espresso.

Yeah.

Pet my cat, hit the gym. But that's my mornings.

So your process of journaling and just writing down all your thoughts. In the coaching world, we call that the emotional dump.

Oh.

And when you're writing your emotions Are you also sharing, like, you're feeling stressed, angry, sad?

I do that separately in my notes.

Okay.

And my phone. So my computer, I have like, literally I have a. A section where it's just a dump.

Okay.

And if I'm feeling triggered, like the stuff I'm aware of, if I'm really triggered or something's like really bothering me, I just. I'd have to write it out.

Yeah.

You know, I find that helps.

Absolutely.

So, yeah. But that. The morning journaling is strictly just manifestation.

Got it.

Goals, good energy, good emotions.

Yeah. Okay. Because the. The concept of the emotional dump is often when we're feeling anxious, stressed, frustrated, sad, whatever, as men, and some women, but, you know, a lot of men, we keep that bottled up.

Yeah.

We don't speak to anybody about it. And when you journal about it and you write down, okay, I'm sad. Okay. What am I sad about? I'm sad because I'm missing my. My friends. Okay, well, what is my belief? I have around that. Okay. That my friends don't want to see me. Okay, well, is that true? Well, I mean, not really. It's true. I might. Could I do something about that? Oh, yeah. I can't. So it's about processing your emotions on your own by journaling. Just acknowledging, I feel sad, I feel angry, I feel resentful, or whatever emotions there may be. Because if we don't process those emotions, you know, trauma is essentially unprocessed emotions. So when we hold on to emotions, especially if it's game, game, guilt, shame, anger, frustration, resentment, hate, these are all low vibrational emotions. This is what's going to keep you from being able to manifest what you want, because you can't feel gratitude and guilt at the same time. Just. It doesn't work. So when you recognize that you're feeling these low vibrational emotions, it's essential if you want to call in abundance, if you want to manifest your dream partner, if you want to create that new opportunity to be able to recognize where are you holding on to low vibration emotions? And how can you take ownership of that, to really feel into it, to process the experience, to unpack it, to change your perspective so that you can go from guilt to gratitude. Right. And that is really the process of transmutation of emotions to raise your vibration. Again, easier said than done, but you got to go through some difficult things to get there.

Yeah. Yeah. Years.

Yeah.

Like, when did I start? 2016 to now? Eight years.

Okay.

Eight years of this.

Nice.

Yeah.

And, you know, that's why I wanted to Share your story is because many people see your success and they think it's because of, you know, your cool content and, you know, your style and all of that. But beyond your ability to be personable and outgoing and funny, there's the back. The back end process of how you set yourself up for the day energetically that allows you to take aligned action with what you're calling in to set the tone, set that vibration, and put out that energy. And then it's not like you're just manifesting and going out there and, you know, sit in a cafe all day. You're taking aligned action that will. That your future self would approve of. You know, so you're connecting with your future self. You know who he is, you know, he acts how he thinks, and you're choosing from that place of alignment.

Yeah.

Right. So it's about having the visualization, but things don't manifest on their own. You got to get up and you got to take action every day, big time. Yeah.

I could. I could have very well still been in my victim mindset. Everyone's bullying me. I'm not good enough. No one likes me. Women aren't attracted to me. Like, all these little. All these things. I could. I could have lived. I could still be living in that for sure. I decided to reprogram myself. I just knew. I just had, like, this boom epiphany, like, okay, shit's got to change.

Yeah.

And we just got to do the total opposite. So. Yeah. The guy you see online right now was not me, you know, younger, twenties.

Yeah.

At all.

Yeah. Because to be as authentic as you are, you have to be. You have to be willing to say, I don't really care what people think of me because I like myself.

And that's the thing. I thought I cared way too much. Yeah. Because of the bullying and stuff. It's just like, you know, So I. I find I found myself trying to fit in with, like, the cooler group, trying to be like them and not myself. And it just was a total repel. Yeah, Right. Trying to dress like them, not myself. Repel. There's zero attraction wanting to be around me. And when I finally gained the confidence to be myself, not give a What I wore, not give a shit what people think. I. I even stopped caring if my hair was done or not. That was, like, a thing for me when I'm doing my videos and it's like, didn't get a haircut for two weeks. I don't care.

Yeah.

My. My neck's all grown in with. I Don't give a. Yeah. People love it.

People recognize authenticity.

Yeah. And I just don't give a shit. Yeah. And I have so much fun. I'm in play.

Yeah, you are in play. You look like you're having fun.

Yeah.

And that's the key to life. Play with life. Don't take things too seriously. Non attachment. Have fun just knowing that. I mean, after all, we are just in a simulation. We are just avatars in a video game. I mean, you and I, we aren't even really sitting here right now.

We're not.

You know, it's just all a hologram of our consciousness.

Who are you?

Yeah. I am whoever you think I am. Matt.

Yes. I'm Geraldo.

I am only here to teach you what you need to learn. You know, just going back to your childhood and reflecting on the bullying, the things that were said to you. Have you gotten to a point where you have gratitude for all of it?

Yeah, big time. It's funny because a lot of the. The people who I wanted to be around or I thought were cool and like wanted to hang out with, ask me for advice and help. Now I love them to death. I've actually gotten so much closer with them because now they actually want to be with the real Matt.

Yeah.

Not this guy trying to fit in.

Right.

You know, so it's. It's super interesting. What was your question?

So, about having gratitude for what you've been through and just add something to that. Would you change what happened to you?

No, no, no, I reckon every little bit of it. I wouldn't at all.

Yeah.

And now, like I said, I'm taking it under my control to change the lives of my parents too. Beautiful. Because, you know, they were raised the way they were raised and have access to information we have today. It's just the time that they were brought up in this world and it's not their fault and.

And they did the best they could.

Do the best they could literally try super hard.

Yeah.

Right. And they've sacrificed everything for me. Truly. I was only. Only child. So now it's my turn to step up and just give back. And it's going to take some time. You know, there is 62 now, but it will happen. And I wouldn't be able to do this if I didn't grow up like that or experience those things. So I wouldn't change it for the world.

Yeah. Beautiful.

Yeah.

One last question for you.

Yeah.

Young Matthew Campoli. Feeling isolated, feeling not good enough. Walking home, crying from school, knowing what you know now. Visualizing him, you know, dragging his feet, coming home, feeling sad. If you could walk up to him, put your arm around him, tell them anything from your heart, what would that be?

You're the most powerful. Go out there, show people who you are, truly, because they're going to love you. And don't give a what people think. Like, go show people your gift. You. You're super gifted. Go out there and. And share that with people and lead them.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Beautiful. Yeah. You know, to anybody out there listening or watching, who's going through a tough time, or maybe your children are dealing with bullying. You know, kids can be mean. This is just a phase. This is just a year or two of your life. You know, these lessons, these challenges is what builds our character. It's what teaches us how to survive, how to adapt, how to evolve. And neither you or I would be where we were, where we are, if we hadn't gone through the bullying and not feeling good enough. But there comes a point where we need to take off the mask. We need to put that identity to rest and say, you know what? Thank you. You served me. You got me to where I am. But for me to get to my next level, I got to be the real me. And that's, I think, the beginning of the path is when you decide that I don't have to pretend to be someone else anymore. Anymore. Yeah, I can be. I can just be me.

Can I share something? Absolutely.

Of course.

So that basement apartment I lived in, it got to a point where I was. I was embarrassed to take the garbage out because I don't want people to see me coming from the side of the house and out the front, and I don't want people to walk by and see me come from the side of the house to take the garbage out. Like, this guy lives in a basement. The full circle story is I ended up selling that house with my sign on the lawn and my face right on the open so all the cars can see that this is my place. And it was crazy. Yeah. Like, I literally went from being embarrassed to live there to reconnect with my landlords a decade later, to selling that house and, like, putting my face right on that lawn so everyone can see me when I didn't want anyone to see me in the past. So, yeah, beautiful.

Cool. Thanks for sharing your story, brother.

Yeah, of course. Thanks for having me.

Yeah, man. I'm sure many people are going to hear this story.

They're going to.

They're going to learn about a different side of you that they. You know, don't see on Instagram. And I have no doubt that your story is going to inspire many others. So thank you for being on this beautiful path with me. You know, thank you for all the work that you do. And yeah, brother, thank you for sharing.

Everything with me because I want to be here without you.

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