Discover your purpose BEFORE you attract your man!

Well, hello there, Facebook! Hello there, Instagram! I hope I found everybody doing wonderful on this Friday. And if you are new to me, I'm April Mason, your number one femininity and dating coach for the successful woman, and for the fellas too, because you guys are always here. So we might as well go ahead and welcome you all up and through these parts, okay? So I'm gonna wait for a moment on Facebook for you guys to come on in so I can talk to you about something. Instagram, I can't wait till they allow us to actually add a title to what we're talking about. Um, but today it's all about discovering your purpose before you attract your man. Now there's some things I want to talk about when it comes to this, and I think it's very important. Let me know on Facebook if you could hear me because I'm doing something a little bit different. I added a microphone and I want to know if my microphone is working. Okay, let me know. Just say I can hear you if you can hear me. Okay. Hey Tiffany and Bowlegged Girl 24 and, uh, Pure Romance Tea, good morning darling, good morning, good morning. Hey V Ross and hey Anthony David, darling, when you're doing a concert, you need to come do a concert for me at my house in my living room. I'm just saying, you know, I'm a fan of your music, darling. Um, okay, awesome, awesome, you guys can hear me. So let's get right into what I wanted to talk to you about this morning. Um, discovering your purpose before you attract your man. Now here's the thing, people ask all— I mean, y'all stay in my inbox, y'all stay in my inbox and asking certain questions, and it reminded me of where I was when I first got started. Now for those of you that don't know, I was married and I divorced, and now my daughter, she's 24 years old and she's married and she's a mom. And people ask all the time, April, how is it that you teach this stuff but yet you haven't chosen to jump the broom yet? So this is what I really want you to understand, something. What I teach is to help you break down the barriers that have been given to you, that have been taught to you, that have, you know, you heard from your mama, that your grandma, that you've seen, right? Well, see, the reason why my daughter was able to get married at 24 is because I helped her find her purpose before she allowed a man into her life. These are the things that I was not taught, and this is so important. So although a lot of you are doing the work, you're listening to Ms. Mason and you're like, okay, Ms. Mason, I'm listening what you're saying and I'm, I'm going through a few things. I want you to understand, just because you're learning it now does not mean it's going to be a magic thing that just happens overnight just because learned it today. There's still years of barriers and thought processes and, and things that you've been learning that has to be broken down. Whereas my daughter, who was 24, she doesn't have to go through all of those barriers that needed to be broken, broke down, because I actually shifted my life in enough time to catch her before she turned into a me. Am I making sense? The old me. Let's say that. Let's say that. Am I making sense? Hmm. So people always think just because you know a thing or you learn it today that there is not a psychological and emotional process that you have to go through before you can actually start seeing it totally manifest into your life. You stay on the right track, you stay on it, but there are some things that has to be discombobulated and dismantled within you just you know, even though you have this newfound piece of information. But if you start working on yourself, what you're going to do is you're going to work on your children so they don't have to go through all of the dismantling that in your 30s and 40s that you have to go through right now. Because you can pick up a book today and you can pick the book up and you can read what it says, it's like, dang, these are the missing pieces to my life. Just because you learned that piece of information right now, it doesn't mean that you're going to automatically make that shift because you're dealing with years of information that has caused you to transform into the person that you are today. Thank you guys so much on Facebook for sharing. Too bad you guys can't share on, um, on Instagram just yet, but hopefully they'll work that out. So one of the things that I taught my daughter is don't make the same mistake that I made. Find your purpose first, then attract your purpose mate. Put my glasses on so I can see. Then attract your purpose mate. And so many of us, what we've done is we go after people because we, we have that longing to be in a relationship. We want the companionship. We want to be booed up. The fall is getting ready to come and we want somebody there to be booed up by the fireplace, right? So the desire to be in a meaningful relationship takes, um, outweighs us finding our purpose. It's so important that you find your purpose first. If you are single, baby, do not trip out. Do not feel sad about this. This is the perfect time for you to get to know you if you do not know what your purpose is. And so at that point, once you find your purpose, you can now have a great, uh, understanding as well as know exactly, okay, I need a person like this because this is my purpose. I don't need anyone that is lackadaisical, that might not be as driven, or it might not have any ambition, or might not really want anything out of life because I am this kind of person. Or I am a person that's kind of laid back, I'm content working my 8 to 5, I'm good, I need someone that's not going to always try to have me driven and doing extra things, you know. And so that's the things that I had to learn, or because first of all, to be honest with you, I would have never got married in the first place if I would have known what my purpose was in life. Because our purpose and where we were going in life just did not match. So in my effort to help you discover your purpose, then attract your man, is I'm doing a free live training in my, um, I'm an Asset Woman's Network Facebook group. If you are a lady and you are not in that group, we have over 6,000 women in that group who are on the same journey as you. And what I'm going to do is not just tell you that you need to find your purpose, I'm going to show you how you need to, uh, show you the steps and how you can Find Your Purpose. So it's going down on Tuesday, July— no, we ain't in July— Tuesday, August 21st. Make sure that's right. Whatever this upcoming Tuesday is, is when it's going down, on the 21st at 1 PM Eastern Standard Time. There will be a replay for a short amount of time, but go over to the I'm An Asset Women's Network and I'll post the link, um, right now for you so you can make sure that you are a part of that training, because the worst thing you can do is go after someone or say, I really want to be in a relationship, but you have no idea who you are, which means you have no idea what you need. Thank you so much, um, uh, Tasha— or I hope I'm saying it right— Tasha— Tisha, thank you so much, uh, for posting that. August 21st at 1 PM. So I'm going to post the link right now so you go over there and you join the group. Of ladies who are on the same journey as you. But I asked the ladies, what is it that you're having the biggest issue with? And it was finding your purpose. So I don't want you to be like me and go out there and say, you know what, I want a relationship, but you have not discovered who you actually are just yet, because you are going to totally mess up, okay? There we go. I just posted the link, um, in the group. Can I pin it? Will they allow me to pin it? They won't allow me to pin it, but I just posted the link in the group. And for those of you on Instagram, it's the I'm an Asset Women's Network. On Facebook, it's Asset Network. Go look that up and, um, send a request to join the group. So I don't want you guys to make the mistake that I made, especially if you are doing it over again. If you, you know, you desire to get married again, or if you've never been married, find out what your purpose is first, and in turn it will tell you what it is that— the type of person that you need. Because my ex-husband, although he was a, you know, a good man for who he was, he was not good for me. And I should have known that, but I didn't know it because I wasn't trained that way. I was trained, if he loves God, he will love you. And it's more to it than a spiritual thing. You have to understand your purpose in life, because if you don't know who you are and what your purpose in life is, and you connect with somebody just because they cute Oh, he got a lot of money, you know, or whatnot. He's driving a nice Corolla. And once you get on your road to having an awakening moment and finding out what you're supposed to be doing, you're not going to like them no matter how attractive they are or how much money that they have. Okay, so it's so important for you to make the decision to say, I want to know what my purpose is in life. And to do that, in my effort to help you do that, I'm doing a free training called Discover Your Purpose. And ladies, it's so important because someone— so many of you are on jobs that you don't like. You are just doing things just to be doing them. You know there's a longing and there's a— there's something inside of you, things that people say that you're good at that you're not doing. And you just sitting back just taking what the world gives you. It's time out for just taking what's given. It's time to create what it is that you want. So that's what I wanted to share with you today. Make sure you go to the I'm An Asset Women's Network. And join, join, join so you don't miss out on this free training. Just log into the group, one of myself or my admin will accept you, and then we can go from there. Okay, IG, is y'all gonna do that? Going over there. So I'm gonna make this video over here, 10 minutes right here on IG, so that, uh, I can upload it to my IGTV. Love y'all, bye IG. Let's see. I said that about my ex-wife. She wasn't a bad person, but she wasn't good for me. And that's okay, you know, everybody's not going to be, um, everybody's not going to be for you. But you have to know what you need. And a lot of times we'll hear people say that, you know, and I know I've heard it in the past, men will say, you just don't want a good man, you just don't want a good man because you won't date me. It's not that I don't want a good man, and I'm not saying that you're not a good man, it's that You're not the proper man for me. That's all that is. And it's okay that someone may not be the right fit for you, but once you— a woman knows who she is, you know what works best for you. So fellas, stop telling them ladies you just want somebody that's gonna beat you, you know, you want somebody that's gonna be treat you wrong. No, it's not that we want that, but a wise woman reserves herself for her purpose mate because she understands that she's not just on this planet. Just for herself. She has an assignment on the planet, and the best way you can live out that is by connecting with someone who is— whose purpose actually complements yours. So you guys could be a dynamic duo and living out your purpose together, not trying to pull someone along, or somebody's on the caboose and they're holding up the train because they don't get it and they're not where you are. And it's so important to do that. So join me on Tuesday, this upcoming Tuesday, August 21st at 1 PM Eastern Standard Time. If you'll be at work, don't worry about it. There will be a replay up for a short amount of time and you have time to rewatch it. But I don't want you to miss this training. So go to the I'm an Asset Women's Network. I'll post the link again right now and join us and someone will actually, um, accept you into the group. Okay, that's all I wanted to share today on this Friday. It's my day off. I don't work on Fridays. I set my life up where Fridays are my day off, darlings. And so I'm gonna chill out, and it looks like in Atlanta is getting ready to pour down a raining. I had a concert or something to go to tonight, but it looks like Grandma will be on Grandma duty because my babies is coming by to hang out with me. So I'll just sit here and chill out on this Friday. Patrick said, I am single and I have a girlfriend that I love, but she doesn't want— she doesn't return the love. What can I do? Well, it's up— see, Patrick, now this is something else, and I'll say this before I go because this is a different video. All I ask— I mean, not all I— all I ever ask my clients is this main question when they ask me stuff like this: would your ideal partner treat you the way they're treating you? Why would you decide to deal with someone that cannot reciprocate the love that you give? So you really don't need me to answer that. You really need look within, Patrick, and ask yourself, is this the type of relationship that I want? Does the pain of staying hurt me, uh, hurt me more than the pain of going to go through the emotional pain of change to go get what it is that I want? So those are the questions that you have to always ask yourself. And you're discovering your purpose plays a huge part in what you will and will not tolerate. With once you identify your purpose, you have a low tolerance for people that do not meet your purpose when it comes to— oh well, does not complement your purpose when it comes to being in a romantic relationship. Now you might have people around you that you guys' journey are not the same, but when it comes to that interpersonal spot, when it comes to, um, bringing someone to you and your life to build with or to amplify with, you will not tolerate the same things that you tolerate when you know your purpose. Because you're not just fumbling through life. You are, you are targeted. You're laser targeted. You know what you want. So you have to ask yourself those hard questions. Does this person meet or complements my purpose in life? And if you don't know your purpose in life, honestly, in my opinion, you shouldn't even be in a relationship anyway. Because once you have that aha awakening moment, you might look up and say I've been in this thing for a minute and I finally know who I am, and this person does not meet that. So you have to ask yourself, um, that question. So for those of you that need more advice from me, you can go download the Magnify app if you have an iPhone. M-A-G-N-I-F-I, the Magnify app. And I'll put it here, and you can talk to me directly. I'm not working, working today, but I am taking advice phone calls today, so you can call and I will answer the phone directly and talk to you. So I will put, put the link in the comment section and you can call me. Call me, we can talk, we can talk. The only day I don't do any talking is on Sunday. I think it's Sunday, but you can call me and we can chitchat and talk about your problem, whatever you need to talk about, whether it's relationship, whether it's business, whether it's finding your purpose, whatever it is that you want to talk to Ms. Mason about. Go and download the app and call me today. Alright, so see you ladies August 21st. August 21st at 1 PM for Discover Your Purpose. And it's so important to discover your purpose before you attract your man. See you guys, have a great day.