I need to feel you......

Good morning, darlings! It's April Mason here. Listen, I'm sitting here on my bed in my little bathing suit because I have to go and get my workout on. I do water aerobics, water fitness, and I was sitting here thinking about where I wanted to go today because I don't like going to the same gyms. So I might go do a little traveling and go to another gym today. But this is what crossed my mind as I was sitting here. I logged on Instagram and I see a post that comes up that says, "The best way to call me is to text me." This is where I have a problem. We have become a society where human connection is not what it used to be. There are a lot of people not getting into relationships and connecting with one another because we are not socializing. Everything is quick, text messages. Now you can go to McDonald's and not deal with a human. We're not socializing. You can order your groceries and somebody bring them out to you and you can just keep it moving. We're not having any human connection. So how do we expect to be able to engage with one another when we're choosing not to engage with one another? No one is that busy. I remember back in the day when you had a little boyfriend, a little boy that had a little crush on you or whatnot, when there were no cell phones, he would take a pocket full of change to work, right? And on his 15-minute break, he'll put them quarters in there to call you, and he would leave a voicemail message if you did not, um, respond. Or at lunchtime, he would put them same quarters in there, and then y'all would talk throughout his whole entire our lunch break. There was human communication going on, not digital. We are— we've gotten so bad that you can buy a sex doll that feels and looks like a human without the human connection. That's crazy to me. So now people are like, you know what, I really don't have to, you know, deal with a person if I don't want to. I have this dog, you know, because dogs and animals are really popular, really popular now, and I have this doll, so I don't have to have true companionship. Everything now is fake and engineered, you know, and it's crazy to me. So now I can understand why people aren't getting together, because we're not getting out, going bowling. We're not— all our, all of our dates have to be very expensive. Girl, he gotta take me to this restaurant. We can't just go for a walk in the park and communicate. We can't just go to the amusement park or, you know, go to a museum, something that doesn't cost a lot of money, but yet it costs us our time. Everybody's so busy, busy, busy, busy, but Yet we are the loneliest that we've ever been. We live our lives vicariously through others on social media. We pretend that we have lives that we don't just to make ourselves feel like we're more of importance than we really are. But it's all because we are choosing to be fearful and to not engage with one another. They're, they're slowly killing us. Think about it. If they can keep us from connecting to one another, not knowing our neighbors. When was the last time that you went knocked on your neighbor's door? When was the last time that even living in an apartment complex that you went and introduced yourself to someone, or someone introduced yourself to you? But you can get on social media, you can text and all of that stuff all day, but if something go down, it's gonna be those around you that you should have built a bond with and communicated with that you guys can know that you have each other's backs. But we're not doing that. Men and women aren't connecting because we feel like, you know what, I don't want another woman to do me bad. These women don't want nothing, or these men out here, they ain't this, they ain't that. We're using that as an excuse not to connect. We're allowing our fear, our busyness, and what we got going on in our lives to paralyze us. No more. I made a choice. I ain't living that life. I don't want to live a life through digital means. That's why on Facebook, I seldomly over there. I'm over here a little bit more on Instagram here lately because I know I'm taking a sabbatical at the end of this month. I'm going out to go live life, to meet people, to make connections, because social media is good for, you know, what it's good for. But at the end of the day, there's overindulgence. Like I said, this technology age has taken away human communication. So get out there and go meet somebody, you know. Stop texting folks, you know. A lot of y'all in text relationships. He doesn't call you, she doesn't call you, they text you. And so what happens when you're constantly texting folks is you hear a tone or you hear it the way, and it's filtered through the way you want it to sound versus what's really being said. Well, no, I need to hear your voice. I need to see your body language when you sitting in front of me. I need to see if it's really an LOL or if you're just typing that because it's the right thing to do. Okay, text messages is killing us, y'all. This manufactured communication is, is killing us. We need to get back to the basics of bonding, communicating, and building relationships. Like I constantly say, we all desire human connection, but how can we expect to make human connection when all we're doing is texting, DMing, Facebooking, Snapchatting? What's happened? How do we build that communication, that bond? We don't feel it. I need to feel you. I need to feel you. I need to be in your presence. I need your scent around me. I need to see how you function when you're with me, because I don't know about you, but I've been on dates before where our texting is off the charts. But when we get in front of each other, crickets. I'm like, I need the man that was texting me to show up because I don't know who the hell this is right now. So we can hide behind that and we can have digital courage. We can say things via text message that we would not say verbally. Time out for that. I want that dude to show back up because I liked him. I don't, I don't like you. I, we, I don't, I don't know who was texting for you, baby, because that sure as heck wasn't you. So start picking up the phone. You're not that busy. If you're in your car, you can pick up the phone and talk to somebody. If you are taking a minute out of your day or going to the grocery store, you can pick up the phone and you can call somebody. When I saw that the best way to call me is to text me, and then I saw some shirts in the store that says, 'I hate talking on the phone,' all they're doing is subconsciously programming us to disconnect from one another. That's all they're doing. That's all they're doing. And then they're keeping us to a place— the more disconnected we are, the more we do not trust one another. No, I need you to connect with me, honey. We got to connect. I need to, I need to, I need to feel you. I, I do, because, uh, I'm not gonna live that life. They're constantly showing us what it is. Even these movies now, they got, you know, robots that's taking the place of humans in these movies. I was watching some movie on Netflix and they had a maid and she looked just like a human being We're replacing that. We're replacing human connection. So darlings, let's get back to the basics. Let's get back to the basics. Let's start communicating with one another, um, more. Let's lay off the texting. I know I don't feel like talking, I got so much on my mind. You know what, how about somebody being there for you can help ease a lot of the stresses and the traumas that you're going through? How about that? Let's get back to remember when You used to get a page when you had a little pager, and he would page you, girl, 143, just to let you know he love you. And then later on the day when he had time, he would pick up the phone and y'all would have these long conversations. Remember, fellas, when you used to go pick her up from the house, and— or even if you didn't pick her up from the house, y'all just went by the house and y'all just sat and talked and just had some good time. It didn't cost you no money. Let's engage. Let's engage. Let's engage.