Slide in those DM's!

Hello darlings, it's April Mason here, your favorite dating coach and feminine lifestyle strategist. And listen, I wanted to give you a couple tips while you are quarantined. As you saw, the title of this video is Slide in Them DMs. Okay, here's the thing, we have become so disconnected to the point that we don't even communicate. There's so many people that say they want relationships, they say they want love, but yet they don't make the time for it. Well, right now, right now is the perfect time to slide in those DMs and ask actually get to know someone. You can't complain about the time you don't have because we all got a bunch of time. You can't complain about you busy. At this point, it's your time to honor what you said you want. You said you want a good man in your life. You said you want a good woman in your life. So fellas, slide in those DMs, okay? But here's so a couple of rules, right? I guess a couple rules. Rule number 1, make sure you do some FaceTime stuff, okay? Because you don't want to just be getting caught up in somebody, what they say and what they text, and you know, you know, via inbox, right? Once you slide in the DMs and you realize there is a mutual interest, you take it off and have a phone conversation. After you have a phone conversation, y'all start FaceTiming or Marco Poloing, okay? Because what I would want you to do is to do what a lot of people do on not just social networks but dating sites. They get caught up in— they give their emotions over so quickly over what somebody's typing or what somebody's saying. I don't know about you, but in the past I was in love with the text king. My very first video when I started getting into the dating space was in 2011. And I think the first video on YouTube was Help, I've Fallen in Love with the Text King. And that was based upon an experience that I had where, um, we both were busy, but he had great conver— he was like great conversationals via text. But anytime we would show up for a date, I'd be like, where that dude at? I want, I want the dude that I've been texting and, you know, to show up because I don't know this guy right here because I, I started liking this dude right here. So there are some rules. Make sure that you take it off of social media or off of the dating site and have face interaction. FaceTime, Marco Polo, or for those of you that have Androids, I don't know what you use because I have iPhone, so I'm not on FaceTime, but whatever Android users use to communicate via in real time, use that. Matter of fact, you can even go on Facebook and do a video call because what you don't want to do is fall in love with someone's text messages or what they are saying, you know, to you, and you know, you letting it go all and get all in your ear and all in your heart and everything like that, okay? So make sure that you take it off of there. Number 2, fellas, slide into the DMs of the woman that you think is out of your league, okay? Here's the thing, and I see this all the time, and I've experienced this so, so, so, so, so, so much in my life. Listen, fellas, listen, come real close. Let me come close to you so I can tell you. Listen, slide into the DMs of the woman that you think is out of your league because you'll be surprised. Why will you be surprised? Because here's an FYI, and if you saw my Instagram or Facebook stories last night, I talked about it. Here's the thing, most people think the pretty girls are always taken, right? But normally she's not taken because all the other men are thinking the same thing. That she's taken. Fellas, pretty girls need love too, and she just may need it from you. Do not let who— how you view you stop you from reaching out to someone that you're looking at her, you've been admiring her, you think, well man, I don't know if my money right, I don't know if I, I drive the right, um, car, I don't know if, you know, I just don't know. You might be surprised that she might be looking at you like, okay, yeah, I can vibe with that. So ask the woman out, or slide into the DMs of the woman that you think is out of your league, okay? Because you might just be surprised. And I had a third one. It was, um, slide into the DMs of the woman that you think is out of your league. It was also the virtual, um, dating. Oh, and next one is if you find that you are interested in someone, okay? And you, you guys are having these conversations because what I want you to do is start to communicate. Some of you are really great at communicating via text. I want to know what you're about outside of text. So you, like I said, pick up those— pick up the phone, have conversations, and it will also show you if you are really as social or if you have skills, um, you know, if you can talk that talk skills like you think you do. Anybody can say anything and have digital courage, via a text message or via on social media, right? But I want to see how you communicate, you know, verbally. And with that, once you find out, okay, she cool, I'm cool, you know, we have some things in common, plan a date night, a virtual date night. How do you do that? You guys can say, you know what, we gonna Netflix and chill, and you guys can FaceTime while you're both watching a movie. So you gotta— even though it's not in person, you do get the feel of the vibe of that person. How they watch movies, what, what part that they see that you might not have seen, how they process information. This can also help you. It's time to get back to connecting, darlings, connecting. And so I wanted to come on here really quickly and share with you why you should slide in those DMs, but to also not totally give your emotions over to, um, someone in the DMs only, okay? Because like I said, as a dating coach, I see so many men and women that get caught up in what a person is saying, but they're not— via text, but they're not having actual conversations. So this is the perfect time to reconnect because like I keep telling you, we all need human connection. It's all about human connection right now. We are distancing ourselves, but we don't have to distance ourselves from each other. Totally, darling. Okay, so So slide in the DMs. And ladies, let me give you this piece: kill the he thirsty BS, okay? Because I— there's so many great guys that come across that coach with me that'll say, Miss April, I want to talk, I want to, you know, shoot my shot, but I don't want to be perceived as thirsty. Listen, a feminine woman welcomes the attention of a man, okay? She welcomes um, even if she's not interested, she will tell you that in a ladylike way, okay? She don't— what makes you think you can talk to me? Why you in my DMs? She doesn't do that, okay? So fellas, don't let— don't let that stop you. And ladies, stop calling men thirsty that are simply pursuing you. On one hand, you say you want a man that pursue. On the other hand, he thirsty. Which one is gonna be? If he thirsty, baby, quench his thirst, darling. That's all I'm saying. So stop all of this other stuff and actually look at it from the perspective of, I've been saying for a long time that I wanted to have somebody in my life. I've been saying it. My job, fellas, a lot of you, I'm about my grind, I'm on my money, you know, I don't have time to date, I don't have time for all— well, you got ample enough time now, okay? So a lot of times people use that as an excuse because they've been hurt and they do not want to be getting hurt again. So they'll use any excuses, especially the "I'm busy" crew. You know, y'all need to be a part of imbusy.com. So you'll use that. Right now, it's not that time. Think about it. Would you prefer to be quarantined in the house with somebody that you would enjoy their company, or would you want to be out here by yourself? If this happens again, because we will get over this, we've always gotten over the hardships in our country. Would you want to do this life with somebody else? This actually gives you the time to, to really see where you stand. A lot of you are now fearful because, man, you know, if this— if I, if I got the, you know, the virus or something, I wouldn't want to die alone. Well, you don't have to die alone. Right now I'm giving you another alternative to meeting someone by sliding in those DMs, but using wisdom as you slide in DMs. Like I said, fellas, approach a woman that you think is out of your league, because a lot of times the pretty girls are not taken. Because everybody think that the pretty girls are always taken. How could she not be taken? How could— you know, she's all this, she's all that. Yeah, you ain't the only one that see that, Shawty. You ain't the only one. And you ain't the only one that's in your own mind making decisions for her, okay? You are putting yourself in a position to take her choice away from possibly choosing you. This ain't what we want to do, okay? Especially not right now. So fellas, get your courage up. You know we like that. Get your, get your courage up and be like, you know what, slide in there. But let me give you a couple of tips. Let me give you a couple of tips. Do not slide in her DMs with, hey, how you doing, queen? Boring. Do not slide into, hey, how you doing, hell? Boring. Do not slide in with the, what you doing? Boring. Actually, this is what I want you to do if you have the opportunity and her page is not blocked, especially if you do this here on Facebook or Instagram. Look at some of her pictures, okay? I'm hipping y'all on some game today, okay? Look at some of her pictures, look at the things that she write about and see if they intrigue you because I want this to be genuine, not just because she's beautiful or not just because, you know, she got a nice shape and whatnot. If you are a man that's really looking for someone with some substance, bypass all the women that got the booty shots like this, bypass all of the women that are just showing everything. I do believe in being sensual and seductive. Y'all know that's Miss Mason. I do like a little cleavage, but at the same time, there's a difference between doing something with class and be doing something just— you just out here ratchet, okay? So if you're looking for substance— this is, this is only for people that's looking for substance— make sure you go through her page and look at the things that she said. And especially if you are a high-quality man and you're really looking for, you know, alright, I didn't think I was open for nothing, but now I got a little time. Let me, let me see, you know, what, what's what. And look at her pictures, look at what she talks about. You can see if she's family-oriented, you can see if she's about her business, about her career. You can see if she goes on vacations, you can see the kind of things that she likes to do, you know. So you can see what you need to see, and you can kind of gauge, you know. For those of you that are scared, uh, because you don't know what people gonna be online, you don't know what people gonna be at the store that you meet them. This is not for the fearful. This is not for the super skeptical people. This is not for the people that limit themselves to, I can only meet somebody in person. This ain't for that. I can, I can tell a vibe by somebody more, you know, watching their social media and things they post than the man that I just met standing right here next to me. So this is not for the people that are just really scared. This is not for them. So if that's you, this is the wrong video, okay? But if you're somebody that says, you know what, I'm gonna dip my little toe in the water just a little bit, this is the perfect opportunity for you to do so, okay? And I'm all about fellas approaching the ladies. I really am, because that sets the tone of letting a man lead. So fellas, I'm, I'm calling you out. Lead that thing. We've been asking y'all to lead because what happened is y'all will say, well, women can approach men too. Now there's a way that a woman can approach a man. I've approached many men, but they didn't even know they were being approached, but I threw the ball in their court. But here's the thing, fellas, when a woman is constantly coming after you, what will happen is later down on in the relationship when you say she won't let me lead, she, you know, she always taking control, Well, that's because you allowed her to do it from the beginning. How you set things up is how they gonna be. So fellas, I am April Mason, your favorite dating coach, is giving you permission to step up and slide in the ladies' DMs. And ladies, allow them too. You know how I teach you, be a feminine woman. If you are not interested, you say so in a nice manner, in a ladylike Matter. Oh my God, thank you so much, that was such a beautiful compliment. Currently I am involved, but I'm sure that you will meet someone that is exactly what you're looking for. Or currently I'm not open to dating or I'm— or getting to know anyone. I'm focused on whatever it is I'm focused on, but thank you so much for your kind words. That's all you got to say. You don't have to be ugly about it. You don't have to leave it on read or seen, okay? All I'm saying, um, with that, just slide in the DMs, okay? So follow the rules, follow the rules, follow the rules, follow the rules. Make sure you have phone conversations. Get off of texting or DMing, um, rather quickly once you find that you, you know, there's a connection there. You you have some things in common, pick up the phone, have a conversation. Make sure you are— you hold your emotions at bay, but you, you're collecting data. You guys know April Mason always teaches collect data. Dating is nothing more than collecting information. And you can keep your emotions at bay because y'all have not met. Once you start having that vibe over the phone and y'all laughing and joking and all that stuff is good, next thing you know Set up something, a date night. You know, it could be later on that night or the next day. You know what, my favorite show coming on. I love to watch The Voice. Do you like to watch The Voice? Yeah, that's my show. Okay, we about to watch this show tonight. Get your snacks on your end, baby. You get your snacks on your end, and y'all sit there and y'all watch television together. Okay, and then fellas, if she want to watch Netflix— I mean, I was— a girl flick, chick public. You might not want to watch it, but you get— you're not just watching it to, to, uh, just be saying I'm watching. You're trying to gain information on who she is. Let me give y'all this, fellas. Let me, let me give y'all this. If you want to know about a woman, check out her music playlist. It'll tell you just about everything you need to know about where she is in her life. Look at her playlist, okay? I'm, I'm hipping y'all. I'm hipping y'all more than y'all paying for, okay? So look at the movies that she's choosing, um, to watch, all right? And watch them with the ladies. Whether he wants them— he might want to watch some golf, and you'd be like, I don't like golf. But guess what? He can teach you about the game. A guy I dated, he, he was like a golf head, and I was like, okay. But I used to sit there and stroke his ego, and, oh baby, you look so cute with your little— you know how you How you do that? How do you? And I would just sit there and stroke his ego the whole time while he was playing golf. But it was us spending time together, okay? So these are April Mason's tips on how to continue to date and get to know someone during this time where we are social distancing from one another, but we don't want to lose the human connection, alright? Love y'all. I gotta get out here because I'm out here doing some yard work, y'all. I got my saw right here. Don't get, don't get it twisted. Don't, don't, don't get the prissy girl, uh, let her fool you. I know how to do some things. So I gotta get this, um, some of these yard work and stuff done. I gotta get my little blower and blow these leaves, the rest of these leaves. But she out here, she out here. So go and slide in somebody's DMs and have a wonderful, wonderful day. And let me know how it works for you. I hope there's some relationships that come out of this. I hope that you don't just do this because you're lonely, but you're actually interested in meeting someone. This is not just for the lonely hearts, the lonely desperate hearts, or the lonely playing games hearts. This ain't for that. It's okay to be lonely and decide I want to be with someone, but it's not okay to be lonely and say I want to be with someone just because I'm lonely at this moment, but soon as, you know, the borders are back open I'm out doing what I want to do. Okay, this is for those that are truly having that moment of, I really do need to be in something meaningful. I'm ready to be in something meaningful. I hate having to be quarantined, you know, by myself. I hate not having somebody that I can, you know, feel some safety and security with. Okay, okay.