WHAAAAT April Mason and Christelyn Karazin!

Surprise!

Hello! Shoot the princess wave.

Yeah.

Stop seeing angles. Surprise!

Hello, darlings!

This is so funny.

Yes, it is. Who would have thought?

So if you guys don't know who I am, I don't know how you found me, but I'm Kris Carrizan. I am the creator of The Pink Pill, and I am sitting next to the gorgeous April Mason. Now, I want to tell you, you're probably shocked right now.

You think they're shocked? I think they're really shocked right now, especially your followers, because you have quite a few of them. No one would have ever put this together.

Would have never put it together. They are shocked right now. They're going to pop some popcorn.

They push pause. Push pause.

Yes, they put a kettle on and they're ready for some tea. They're like, wait.

They're ready for some what?

Some tea. They're ready for some piping hot tea. So just to recap for the people who are on Team Crystalline, you guys know that I encourage interracial relationships. Black women, you get more choices when you expand that field. And April Mason is also in the relationships field, but she has had a focus that has been primarily on people who are #BlackLove.

You said that, what you call it, hashtag?

Hashtag Black Love. We got #BlackLoves over here and we got #Swirling over here.

Yes! And we all can coincide together. Exactly.

So, I'm going to let you tell what happened because I think you can—

Oh, that caused me to be okay.

For us to actually get to be sitting here in Charleston at the lovely hotel that we are. Yes.

Well, the thing was, for those of you that don't know, I was not familiar with your work.

I wasn't familiar with your work.

I was not, because I'm not on YouTube. Facebook is— my haven because my audience, they just, they're a different audience. YouTube can be very savage. Oh my gosh, they are.

That is an understatement.

And I think it's because with Facebook, people have to put a picture up that you know who they kind of are for the most part. Anybody can get an email address and set up a YouTube account. So I stopped being on YouTube, um, as much a long time ago. All I would do is really take my videos from Facebook and just upload them to YouTube and just let believe it, but I left for about a year or so, um, from YouTube. Well, last, what, November, there was an incident with my cousin that was all over the internet because I went on the internet and based upon what she shared with me that happened, she told me something that happened in the community and I went live and it went viral. And the thing was, I think what people missed is what I was actually saying. If we take away what happened to her, I was talking more from the perspective of our men need to protect us. So let's take away all of her particular situation and look at the women that are not being protected by Black men, and those are the ones that should be. But what was interesting to me in this whole entire situation is Black men scream, you know, but as they say, these hoes You ain't my mama.

Yeah, you ain't my sister. And let's, let's really talk about that. How much, how much are they really protecting their mamas and sisters?

Right. And the thing was, I, I'm a person that thinks from— I can push past all of the fluff and look at what it really is. And when I was hearing those things, the funny thing was I was getting that backlash before the police report came out saying that, you know, they didn't think the story, her story was real. And so let's not even start from after the police report. Let's start from what was happening prior to that. And the main thing that I had cognitive dissonance for an entire week. I couldn't believe what was really happening because I had to accept the fact that in this particular situation, the backlash that I got, although Black men screwed scream that the police are their enemy and you can't trust them, they were more willing to side with their enemy before they sided with someone that looked like their mother. That was my bigger issue. So with that, I struggled with that for an entire week, that wait a minute, these are the same group of people, you know, that scream, you know, uh, Black Lives Matter. These are the same people that scream about the brutality and all of this stuff, but coming out of my mouth saying that someone that looks like you was trying to harm someone that looks like your mom and you just try to rip me a new one, that was very, very difficult for me to wrap my mind around. And I'm one of those people that I don't dwell on things, so I gave myself an entire week to woosah. And I was right back on it, but I was back on Facebook because like I said, I was never on YouTube like that anyway. So I was right back on it. A couple people came on Facebook saying, how could you show your face? The police said you lied. I said, but I didn't lie. But you're so quick to believe what you call your enemy has to say, right? That anything that you can do to be against me, even if it means siding with your enemy, you won't do it.

It's like you twisting yourself all in a pretzel. Yes. So it's always, never your fault.

Yes, and I was just like, I've been riding with you, I've been holding you down, and the thing is—

April, April, welcome. Welcome. Welcome. I'm glad that, you know, you woke up, you want some tea.

Yeah. Little green tea is good for your digestive system.

Yes, it is.

What happened was it actually opened up a dialogue between my male friends. Men that, you know, I was dating, they boom, they stepped in. But I had to look at the men.

Notice how she said men, plural, that she's dating.

Oh yeah, yeah. Because I had to understand that, you know, what I was getting, um, the backlash from social media was from males. Um, but the Black men in my life, they didn't respond that way. But interesting thing was the male friends of mine that I thought understood this, it was actually a learning lesson for them because I didn't talk to them for about 3 weeks and they were calling, they were calling. And so I finally said, okay, let me explain. And one in particular, he's like, April, why haven't you been calling? I said, here's the thing. Why is it as a Black woman that I have to get belligerent? I have to get loud. I have to get irate for you to understand I need your protection.

To even be heard. You say— here's the irony. The irony is that they say Black women are loud. Well, you know what? Some of us are loud because that's the only way anyone will hear us.

Yes, and I had to explain that to him, and I gave him the whole story. I said, okay, let's go back to my conference last year. You were one of the 3 men at my conference, right? And he said, yes. And I said, you've shown me twice that you don't get it, even though you are a good person. I said, because you're my friend and I know that this is something that you need to be schooled on. I'm not going to eliminate you from my life, I'm gonna school you. I said, so remember at my conference, I had 3 men on the panel. Another gentleman came in and he started talking about something that was not a part of the conference. And I said, oh no, this is not the place, time or place for this. I said, but he continued to talk. But I had 3 men on the panel. And he said, so April, what are you getting at? I said, what I'm getting at, darling, is it wasn't until 6 minutes in that I had to raise my voice for you to step in. I said, what I need you to understand is, sure enough, a lot of women have done the whole strong independent woman thing and you guys have tuned out to a degree. I said, but what's interesting is when a black woman is not being that way, You still don't respond because you're not accustomed to that. So what I need you to do as my friend— I said, okay, we're friends. I need you to understand that you— we don't have to cuss you out. We don't have to break windows out of your car. We don't have to go off and be combative for you to come to our rescue. I said, part 2 of that is you are my friend, right? He said, yeah, I'm your friend. He said, you can't just, you know, not be my friend because I made a mistake. I said, I get that. I said, but number 2, let me school you. You are the same person that saw me on the same night of the situation with my cousin. I wrote, I said, on my Instagram, you saw my video that said, I don't feel comfortable or safe in my own home. You and a couple of other men that are just platonic friends of mine saw that, but it took you 24 hours to reach out to me to make sure that I was okay, right?

You could have been dead in the gutter.

Yeah. And his thinking was, well, April, I figured you were in your home and you were safe. I said, but did you not hear I said, this is what I mean, but you're not hearing me. I was in my home, I was in my bedroom, but I said, I didn't feel safe and comfortable in my own home. As my friend, as a man that says, I am a protector, even as your friend, you're supposed to kick in. I said, but for men that believe, if it's not my mother, sister, or whoever, I'm not stepping in. What they are doing is setting the stage for something to happen to one of their loved ones and them not being around and everybody do this. Pick up their phones and record it and not help them.

And submit to media takeout.

There it is. So I had to wrap my mind around, it's not all, but by deductive reasoning, it showed the mentality of what we were, a lot of women, you know, was dealing with. Me personally, I had never dealt with that before. For like I said, those that are in my life that are close, close to me, They jumped up the next day. I was like, I'm getting ready to go to the gun range because I would need to make sure my 380 is working. And a friend of mine, he even has a girlfriend. First thing he said, he said, are you going by yourself? I said, yeah. He said, I'm coming with you. So the men that are close, close, they stood up. It was the platonic ones that I had not let that close to me that needed to be schooled and did not understand. As a black man, why do we have to raise our voice to you to be heard? And one of them, he ended up doing a podcast about it and he apologized over the podcast because he said, I didn't even think about it that way. Um, and I, and then his co-host said something like, well, he, cause he asked him, what would you do? He said, well, first of all, I would've said, am I getting paid to stop this man at this conference? Is it, uh, uh, uh, somebody pregnant, old, old lady or whatever? And I told my friend, I said, I said, when I listened to the podcast, first thing came to mind listening to your friend was, why are we the lowest on the totem pole to be protected? Why would I have had to be pregnant? Oh, and old. Um, was anybody dying or anybody getting abused? Why couldn't it—

or have to pay you?

Yeah, why couldn't it just be that April asked the man to leave her conference and you could have said, hey bro, you know what, it's not even worth it. The lady asked you to leave, and you know, let's just not— let's just not even do this. Why does it have to be all of these different levels of criteria before you get to me? And so as I'm explaining this to my friend, he's like, April, I didn't even think about it like that. He said, I apologize to you. And he was willing to hear me, you know, um, but I just didn't feel like talking to the masses about it. I did a couple videos on how I felt about it, and I left it alone. I didn't went on and girl, my following has blown up. It's— what was so funny was everybody was doing these videos, these men, about me, but they weren't showing their faces. But what they were doing was sending people, making people want to go find you. And that's, that's what—

so it's like, thanks for the free publicity. Thank you.

Because the people were like, what they're saying about her, that's not the energy.

Exactly. So I want to back up just a second because the thing that brought us together was that you had an epiphany, and then it became empathy for— because it made you kind of shift what the pool really looks like for many of us.

Yes.

And that the empathy of now understanding how hard it is with not just the, you know, the colorism and texturism hierarchy that we deal with, but also just the mentality of a sense that we don't feel protected. And here's the thing: when a woman feels protected, then she can fall back into femininity.

Yes.

And if you don't protect her, she senses that. Instinctively on a very primal level. And so she's working to fill in what is lacking, and it has nothing to do with race. But so you have this woman, and in my crew, we were saying, wow, April Mason is beautiful. She's the Black love queen. Look at her. And he said, what's wrong with her? And so they were like, well, if that could happen, to the Black love queen, the relationship guru in #BlackLoveland, then what are we really doing here? What's really happening?

And first let me say to you, thank you so much. Like I said, I wasn't familiar with your work or even Chrissy's work, but people were sending me videos saying, April, you got to watch this. It's not negative, because they know I don't flow in that. And so I have to thank you for even sending the message. And I reached out to you because you were like, I know what it's like to be drama. I know what it's like to be drama. You could call me.

Anytime, girl, call me. And I was so delighted because you called.

I was like, yes! I'm like, you know, I didn't— first of all, I didn't know so many people viewed me in that light. Because when you are just doing what you're called to do, you're not really looking for recognition. You're more looking to help those that you— your tribe that you're called to help. So I appreciate you, Chrissy. There was several other ladies that were out there saying no.

Because that's how it's supposed to be.

And that's how it's supposed to be. But the funny thing was they were saying what I was saying. It's like, wait a minute, April is being loyal to her cousin. Like, Black men scream they want loyalty. If you went to jail for something, and even if you did it, you still want me to be loyal. So when I practice loyalty toward the woman that says this happened to her, I got— there's a problem with me now. But if something happened to you, you want me to be loyal.

So what the hell?

Right.

I want you to be loyal only if it benefits me. Um, don't practice the same principles and the women that I'm expecting you to do with men. That really is the double standard, and this is what we've been struggling with. And I gotta tell you, it has been a hard road because it's not just Black men who have been against, you know, what it is that— just asking the questions and saying, hey, maybe there's another way. It's been the women too.

Yes, it's been the women too. But I gotta say, what is that about though? The thing is, I will say this. For as many as men that I had coming negative to me against me, I had an inbox influx of Black men that were supportive and, what do you need me to do? And it's so funny in Atlanta, ever since I did that, I've gotten so many invitations to come to be a part of these events where there's tons of Black men there saying, okay, we didn't understand. Thank you. What can we do to protect our queens? And I said, well, if that was the situation caused this, okay, I'm cool with that. But at the same time, I can't take away that it should have never happened that way. Should have never happened. You know, I shouldn't have had to remind you of who I am to you. I should not have to ask for your protection because once again, the mindset of only me and mine puts your people, your same family members, in a position to where if something's happening to them, nobody's going to come to their rescue.

So, so basically what they're saying is they don't have empathy for Black women. Yes. It's like, okay, because I can't see my sister in you, because that's what empathy would be. I can't see my mother in you, so therefore you are unworthy. So there's, there's a total lack of empathy.

It was a total lack of empathy, and Like I said, it took me 7 days. Normally when I deal with issues, I give myself a good 48 hours because I don't dwell or pity party. I love that idea. I just don't.

I give myself a timeframe and it's like, April, you've got 5 days, 23 minutes and 30 seconds to cry, to yell and scream.

And then yeah, and this was the longest time it's ever taken me because I don't, I don't believe in allowing, um, outside forces to govern how you are going to bounce back, or if you're going to bounce back. It's a choice. But this situation took me 7 days because of the magnitude of the acceptance that I had to have on a whole different level. Um, and it was just kind of interesting.

And then there's a checklist. Well, if, if you want me to protect you, do you wear weave? Uh, do you wear fake eyelashes? Uh, have you ever swirled? Have you ever dated a white man or even thought about dating a white man? I need to have all these answers first before I pick you up in the street, before you get run over by a bus.

Right.

So I need to know. So she needs to be—

I need a resume with me.

She's gotta have it. Yes. Or it has to be like one of those medical bracelets.

Tattoo it on my chest.

Like a medical bracelet, you flip it over. I am not a swirler. This is my hair.

But that's the thing. And it was so interesting when all of this happened. So many women were telling me, one lady in particular, she's a follower, she's been a faithful follower. She said, Ms. April, I remember I got robbed by two black men and two more walked by me sitting on the sidewalk bloody. And all they said was, man, she must have did something. And they left her there. And this is another thing that I noticed on the internet. How often do you see other races of men in the comment section tearing down their women? You don't see that.

You see it a little bit in these like fringe, like, just, you know, disenfranchised, disgruntled nerdy dudes. Like the red— well, I'm not even gonna say their name because I don't want them coming for me, but they know what I'm talking about. But for the most part, you don't.

You don't. And my best friend, you know, he was there with me the whole time. A couple of other guys that I, as I say, that I date, they were there. And it was very interesting because I, with them, I felt like all I had to do was just be. And some lived in town, some didn't. It was like, I'm getting ready to fly in because I want to make sure that you are straight. So I'm not saying all Black men, let me get this straight. However, based upon what I experience, and people will show you who they are on social media because there's nobody to hide the real, you know? So what I see is what I believe it to be as from a deductive reasoning standpoint. I'm open to having the door cracked, you know? I'm like you said, you wide open. And that's fine. I'm one that believes, find now, find love where you can. And the thing was with me, the reason I didn't have to really talk about the host world is because my experience dating black men was exactly like how the guy treated us last night. I don't know what it's like for a black man to ask me to go 50/50, to ask me, you know, what I bring to the table. I don't know that kind of thing. Um, my men, they more looked see what can they do, what can I do to amplify what they have. And a lot of times with women, they go in looking at, oh, can he buy me a purse, right? He buy me some shoes and all of that. But the type of Black men that I date are businessmen, so their mind is not about how much money I had. It was more of, what's your energy like? Can you create a safe place for me? Can you be that support system for me? Not necessarily because they needed you know, they were so beat down and they needed, you know, can you raise me up? And see, I don't know the going to Red Lobster and that's just the struggle and that's the place to go.

Yeah.

So, so now that I, this experience actually with my cousin allowed me to see the other side of what a lot of women deal with. Whereas before I was like, as you say, hashtag Black love, cause I'm thinking everybody got it going on and doing like I'm doing it as they're dating. But the more I started reading the comments, and my Facebook and my DMs on Instagram were just bombarded, I start realizing, okay, April, every woman doesn't get treated the same way that you do. So it's either you need to just keep pushing, or you can empathize with them and say, you know what, go find love where you can, regardless of what that looks like, considering I come from a multiracial family. My grand— one of my grandchildren is biracial, so I don't have a problem with it. It was just, I never had to look outside of me to get what I wanted, even though I had some really bad experiences from father, stepfather, and my domestic violence that I went through at a younger age was at the hands of black men. But it wasn't until I learned to love myself that I started attracting something different. So my story was never the same as what I was hearing, so I really couldn't identify. What you mean he asked you to go 50/50?

I don't know. I mean, what is that? Is that some new language? Is that a 50/50? Is that a casino?

Yeah. And it was interesting.

Are you inviting me to a casino?

Yeah, what are we doing? Because even my ex, you know, the one that I didn't tell you all about, um, when we got together, it was He relocated me from Atlanta back home to California, had the penthouse and everything. I had a weekly allowance. He gave me his keys to his house and a debit card, babe, whatever you need. And he treated me from the protector-provider perspective that it was together. That's why I didn't, I ain't know, you know. And so this situation, and what I like about what you do is that you give women the permission to have options. And what it did for me, it was, it gave me the permission to open up the door, because one of the things you said in the video that stuck out with me is that women follow and they take my lead. And I thought that was very, you know, sincere and sweet of you, because I didn't, I wasn't even looking at it like this. Like, this is what I do and I enjoy teaching the ladies. And you are to some people their whole life, and I didn't know that until the situation happened, and I was like, whoa, and I just turned my computer off, girl. I was traveling, I was going to live my life, and I didn't let it bog me down. But I want them women to know that yes, April Mason says open up the door to love regardless of what it looks like, because I understand now.

Because once again, I never had to look outside because I'm just used to treating True sisterhood comes with you saying that while this is my experience, this isn't going to be everyone's.

Yes.

And I'm not going to be so selfish into thinking that everybody's experience is going to be like mine, or think lesser than, you know, think less because they don't. And that's really what is the true worth. And when people say that they love you, that is the display of what love really is, and you truly do love Black women because you were, you, it's a very powerful thing to give us that permission. A lot of us, we need it. Yeah. We need it because our ties to our family, to the people we look up to and who we're trying, are so strong that we really want their approval. Yes. And so the fact that you did that was just huge. And so I, you know, salute.

Yeah. And I, I just never thought, you know, it was just never a thing for me, but to actually be like, okay, yeah, I'm so, I can go swirl and I can do, yeah, I can, I get in on my all kinds of, oh God, girl, when I go to New York and I always stay in the financial district when I go to New York.

Oh, of course. In the line of sight. Yes.

When we talk about, I tell you, the Italian men, they are just like, Soon as I come off the elevator at the hotel and I'm sitting down in the hotel lobby and having my little glass of champagne or a little tea or anything, they are just like all over me. But like I said, I, I never had a reason to just go from one to the other because my treatment as far as protecting, providing, and financing, all of that, it's always been that way for me with, um, black men. Once I learned how to love Prior to loving myself, yeah, I was getting the dusty. Yes, prior to that. So I think that has a lot to do with it too, whether it's a white man, black man, Asian man, you will be treated according to how much you treat yourself. And so when you level up in your self-love, you will even— for those of you that, ladies, that are black women that have, that have dated raggedy white men, your elevation will exist. They exist. Your elevation, once you love yourself, will go up even in the white, Asian, Italian, German, whatever men, man it is. So I think it has more to do with who you are will always be what you attract.

Absolutely, because a lot of women, the challenge that has been for me is that there are women who really do believe, well, all my problems my problems will be solved if I just date a white guy or somebody who's not black. Anybody not black, my problems will go away. Yeah, the problem is, is that you're bringing you too. And, um, if you haven't dealt with the issues that have caused you to— I always say you need to do a postmortem after these bad relationships and see where he went wrong, where you went wrong, so that you don't repeat these patterns. If you are unaware, if you are not self-aware of what's going on with you and that you really don't feel like you deserve it, then you're going to attract the same Dusty. You're going to attract a black Dusty, you're going to attract a baby powder Dusty, you're going to attract a terracotta Dusty, a rose powder Dusty, a yellow powder Dusty.

And that is so true, and I think A lot of women, they believe that if I just go to the other side, things will be different. And like you said, you're still bringing you. That's why I teach from the inward out. Like, I can teach you what to say. Now, I got the witty banter.

Oh, she does.

I'm the queen of flirts.

So good.

Everything that I teach, I practice. And when I was sitting with Kristalyn, I said, you get to witness this. And she's looking at me like— and she's going— it's like your head was playing tennis. And every time he would say something, I would shoot something back. But I would always say it, I would lower my voice and say it like this, "So what is it that I did that makes you think that, you know, I'm this bad chick, boss bitch," or whatever it is. I said, "Because I don't give that kind of vibe." Right, that was some emotional jiu-jitsu. And he was just, he was just trying to figure it out. He says, "Because you're doing too much." I said, "What actually am I doing? I'm just asking you about you." Right, right. I said, "The problem is you can't figure me out." Right.

He's saying you're doing too much, meanwhile he spent over $500 He's all over you. He can't stop talking about you. He can't stop looking at you. He came and gave me a kiss on the cheek. That's what I'm saying. And he's like, you, you, you, and you're doing too much. But remember what he said. Thou dost protest too much.

What he said was, he said, you told me no.

Mm-hmm.

And I said, so I challenge you.

Exactly.

He says, I'm used to getting what I want. Of course. I said, oh, because you have money. And I looked right at him and I said, darling, let me explain something to you. I'm accustomed to dating men like you, so you spending money, that doesn't impress me.

That's Tuesday.

Yeah, yeah, that was our last— yeah, last week. It's like, it's not a big— it's not a big deal. I said, so you're used to using these tools here, right, to get what you want, but when you see I'm not impressed and I'm just saying thank you for the caviar, you know, thank you for the oysters, for the champagne, thank you, and I'm not like, now let's go up to your room, you're trying to figure And he, like, towards the end of the night, he was starting to brag about his corner suite.

It was like, oh, that's nice.

Yeah, it's like, okay, yeah, okay. He said, oh, you date men like me on a regular basis? I said, I just, I attract wealthy, successful businessmen all the time. I said, so the response you want from me is basic, chick. I said, but I'm not basic. So, and I teach women that Even the men you, um, you, uh, reject should be high value, high quality men. If you're only getting one of those that want to do for you and all of that every blue moon, it has nothing to do with them. It has everything to do with you. Cause every man that I date is like that. I'm the chooser and women don't understand that. They're waiting to be chosen. So when I called off my wedding, um, people were like, well, Why you didn't? I'm like, I get married when I choose to because I'm the chooser. So once I decided, you know what, April, it's time, and I'm not giving you guys too much tea, once I decided it was time, I made the adjustment. It's like, okay, well, you know, I had fun. I'm an empty nester. I've dated all of these men and I know what I like, what I don't like. April, are you ready to get married or do you want to get married? Because you have a really great life. So I, I didn't— I teach women that you don't become, as they say, a a dope woman for a husband. You become a dope woman for you. That's why people can look at you and say, oh my God, you have this and you have that and you're wonderful, why aren't you married? Why do you associate my dopeness and my fabulousness with I only am that because it equals a husband? The husband is the added bonus, right?

He's not the, you know, he's not the— he's not the prize. Yeah, he's the icing.

So that's what I do, and I, I love what I do, and you're, and you, and you're great.

And I want people to be able to know where they can find you and, you know, just a little bit more of what sort of the programs that you offer so that when people are ready to start, you know—

To get out there? Yeah, getting their flirt on? Uh-huh. Well, you can always find me on Instagram, Facebook, under my name, Miss April Mason. I'm gonna just upload all the videos over the last 2 months that I've done to YouTube. But once again, I haven't been on YouTube even prior to my cousin situation. I hadn't been on YouTube like that because YouTube is just a platform I use to— for free publicity. But I— you can always find me on Facebook, and I'm doing more on Instagram. The programs that I have actually starting February 1st, I have the 29 Days to Falling in Love with You program where every day they'll get a video from me on what it looks like and exercises that they can do to learn how to fall in love with themselves. I love that. And sorry ladies, it has nothing to do with a mani-pedi or a massage. That's weekly maintenance. That's not self-love. That's, that's maintenance stuff to me. So the things that I'll have them do is going to make them feel uncomfortable, but in order to get what you say you want, whether it's a better quality of man, more money on your job, a lot of women don't even ask for the, what, for the results that they get when they go to a job. Because someone gives you what they can pay you and you accept it. You don't counter it because you don't value what you bring to the table. And I always use the analogy of, if they can pay LeBron James and all of these big stars all of this money, these athletes all this money, how much money do you think they're making for the owners? So you have to know your value. Value comes from self-love. So I'm not teaching self-love necessarily to attract a better man. I'm teaching it to enhance your entire, you know, life.

So that you know what you deserve. It affects everything. Everything. Your friendships, because there are certain things that you just will no longer tolerate. It will affect your professional life because you're going to know, just, you're not gonna be a doormat, and perhaps you're gonna be a little bit more gregarious, you're gonna be a little bit more confident, and so you're gonna have to work less work less because you're charming more. Yes. And you still get—

wait, say that again, because you're doing what more?

You work less because you're charming more.

Yes. And women, women think that's not something they're supposed to use. Oh, they think it's like you're manipulating men. No. I always say this: God gave men the masculine, gave women the feminine, and the polar opposites are attracted. You cannot even hotwire or jump a car with two positives and two negatives. Right. Absolutely. It's the polarity.

It's the balance. Everything, the entire universe is based on that, the opposite.

Yeah, and people, women, they have a hard time because they're trying to be in the masculine. They don't understand their power is in being different.

Yes, absolutely.

Because the men will always seek out what they do not have. Absolutely. And that's why we can say we can lean back and we can be doted over and we can let these men take care of us, provide for us, because it's not that they're looking for money from us, nor do we feel like we're not bringing anything to the table, because we know just being what a woman is ignites that protector, that provider, that adoration and everything we need. It ignites that. I look at it with my daughter's husband all the time. He caters to that girl, and I'm like, you better be nice to him, because you can be hooked up, because I said, don't I don't take advantage because she'll, sometimes she'll sit too far back. I'm like, okay, you don't have to let him do everything. He did work 16 hours a day. You know, you could. But the fact that he understands that, and he's only 26. So I think we have to make women okay with just being a woman and letting them know that their value does not come from how much money they make, how many degrees they have, what their body looks like, or any of those things. That's not your value. And because think about it, most men don't give two rats' behinds about your stretch marks.

Right. Exactly. It's us.

Exactly.

Well, April, you have been an absolute delight and this is not going to be the last time.

No ma'am.

This is just the beginning. So I know while you are shocked and awed, did you go through all the tea? I hope you didn't burn your mouth. Did the popcorn that you pop— and make sure you don't wipe it on your clothes. Yes, that's not very ladylike. Until next time, thank you so much for watching. Thank you for your subscription. I really love all the support, and all the information about April will be in the description box below so you can follow her and be as delighted as I am.

Oh, thank you, darling.

This was good. You're an honorary— you're an honorary Pinky.

Yes.

So we— I am going to show you the secret hand gesture.

Okay, what's the secret hand gesture?

Pinkies up.

Oh, is that like this?

Just like that.

Pinkies up. Pinkies up.