Speaker A lists her achievementsācollege degree, $70,000 salary, independent livingāto argue she brings value by simply being herself. Speaker B counters that Black women rarely lead with what they offer a partner's peace and legacy, instead defaulting to listing their own accomplishments.
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How many Black men in the comments section saying, oh, you have all these high demands, but what do you bring to the table? Good question. Studies have shown that Black women are the highest paid and the most educated. I myself graduated with my associate's degree at 18 and graduated from college with my bachelor's at 20 with a degree in communication sciences with an emphasis in speech and language pathology. I live on my own, have my own car, make about $70,000 a year, and don't have any kids. So I'll never ask for what I can't offer. And as far as what I'm bringing to the table, I bring me, and you can't sit with us.
So now if you notice when you watch these talk shows and theyā these women come on up, I can't find a man because I am a software engineer and I make this and this and that, the third. You never hear them say, you know what, uh, Tamron Hall, you know what, Steve Harvey or whoever, I am single because I can't find a man who needs a soft and gentler woman, a man that wants a woman who is interdependent, resourceful. She is a woman who knows how to be in the queen and princess energy. She's a woman that is agreeable, but she will challenge you. She's a woman thatā I'm a woman that knows how to be what it means to be a woman. Help me find somebody who needs a woman like that. No, I don't cook all the time, but I can make sure that you eat. I'm a woman that I'm a good for his peace, legacy, and his portfolio. Steve, can you help me find somebody? Do we ever hear that?
Absolutely not.
Because you won't have a hard time connecting with a man if you lead with that.
