What is Single No More?

Greeting and thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to watch this video. My name is April and I'm an author, speaker, entrepreneur, activist, and a minister. And I wanted to come to you today to talk to you about why I decided to do the Single No More project. Single No More is all based off of all the books, singles books, the conferences, the workshops, the seminars, and things that I've attended. And what I found that's common across the board is that people are tired of being single, but they don't have the fundamentals of, or the how-tos of positioning themselves to be found. We're taught so much that We are, as women, we are supposed to wait on a man to pick us. You know, growing up with my background, I grew up in church all my life, and I was always told, he who finds a wife finds a good thing. And that's all fine and dandy, that's great. However, we were never taught how to position ourselves just so we can be found. Oftentimes we hear in church that, girl, go get your boy, your boy is gonna come get you. But he found Ruth working, she was working in the field. So stay busy, stay busy, stay stay on your grind, you know, just do you. However, after really taking the time to read the book of Ruth, I found some very fundamental and key things that I would like to share with you. Number 1, Ruth positioned herself on purpose to be found by Boaz. A lot of women, they're out there trying to be found, but either they're in the wrong man's field or they're not in the field at all. But Ruth, strategically placed herself. If you start in the, in the book of Ruth chapter 2 and you kind of read it a little bit and you go down and it says, round chapter 2, it says Ruth told Naomi, I'm going to go to Boaz's field and glean ears of corn so I can find favor in his sight. So right there she had enough sense to go and positioned herself to be in the path of this man. Year after year after year, we aren't taught how to do this, or we're taught that, oh, you're just being fast, or you're too grown, or, or, you know, you just stay in your place and you just wait to be picked. Hello? Ruth didn't do that. Neither did Esther. I'm not even going to go into Esther's story, but she didn't do that either. But she did position herself, um, to be in front of the king. Over in verse 3 Naomi, her mother-in-law told her how to hook, line, and sink the man. She told her what to— what perfume to wear, what to do, what not to do, you know, how to lay at his feet. Now, I'm not telling you to go lay at a man's feet, but what I am going to say is that everything was done in a strategic manner. People always say love happens and just, you know, just think about love and it'll just happen for you. And to be honest with you, that was the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Don't look for love and love will find you. When it rains, it seems like rain is a natural thing, right? But even before the rain can fall, there has to be some combustions and some things that happen above the clouds to even create the rain. So which means something has to happen, some initiation has to happen. And sometimes as women, we kind of think that a man owes us, owes us a compliment, or he's supposed to approach us and he's supposed to be the one to initiate, when actually It's okay to approach a man. It's all about how you do it. But we're taught no, no, no, that, that you're just being too grown. And that's not necessarily the case. And I think a lot of these teachings, even though some of them have some validity to them, and I know they were trying to keep us in, you know, safe and out of harm's way, but they hurt us. A lot of women from all different walks of life are tired of being single. And I kind of keyed in a little bit on the African American community. And it said that 70% of women in church will never get married. Can you believe that? Now think about it. Church across the board, whether, uh, whenever, whatever your nationality is, you see a lot of single women in church. They have that faith, they have the hope, and they're, they're believing, but they're not taking action. And action starts with you dealing with you first. A lot of times we hear women say, I hear them say, and I used to be, I used to say it too. I would I like this, I want that, I want this. But yet I was not the person that I needed to be in order to attract that. I looked the part on the outside. I bought— I had— before I started my business 8 years ago, I worked in corporate America, so I looked the part. I had my heels, my hair was together, my makeup was right, the suit, the briefcase. However, I was still attracting jerks. I'm like, why am I not attracting these type of corporate men that I'm working with, and these, these successful guys? Because my core was jacked up. So if you find yourself in that same situation that I found myself in, It's time for you to get your core right, and Single No More is going to help you get your core right. Um, as well as sometimes as women we, we try to overcompensate with our degrees and with our jobs and with our material things. So when a person asks you who you are, first thing you're talking about is the degree, the degree you have, the sorority that you belong to. That's what you do. That's not who you are. Single No More is going to help you identify those key things as well as to show you how to really position your whole life. Yes, I am a single mom. I've been married, I've been divorced, my kids are teenagers and, you know, in high school, junior high and high school, getting ready to, you know, be on out of the house. However, it wasn't until I decided not just with my mouth but with my heart, okay, April, it's time for you to get back in the game. It's time for you to get back in, you know, in the dating game and, you know, have a good time. I not only started to position, say it with my mouth, but I started to position my whole life. A lot of times we just want people to come into our lives and accept me as I am. And either you come in with the flow or, you know, all of that. You don't have room for anything. So it's changing your mindset. You wouldn't start a business without a business plan. So you shouldn't start a relationship or even have, uh, proceed to start a whole relationship with anyone without a plan of action, period. I know some of you are like, oh my God, I can't believe she said you have to have a plan for dating and plan for love. Absolutely. Know what you want, know who you are. There's a lot of different things that I'm going to show you how to create a plan. I have a plan. Yes, I have a dating plan and I'm going to show you how to create your dating plan. So yes, I may be single, but I have a great time dating. And I hear a lot of women that say, I hate dating. I just want to get to know— it's either one, the first guy you meet, You're all over. And then what happens is you put all of your eggs in one basket with this one guy. And then what happens? He finally goes, turns up to me, turn out to be a jerk 3 months later. Now your heart is broke. All men are dogs and you're bitter and you sit at home and you're looking at cats in the Discovery Channel. Come on. It's time to position yourself. And it starts with opening your mind, opening your heart to receive something new. Single No More is sassy. It's fun. It's energetic. It's educational. And it's very entertaining. And not only are we doing this Single No More DVD, but we're also doing the Single No More Experience coming to a city near you. And our first stop is April 26th in Atlanta, Georgia. You gotta be there. Go to SingleNoMoreOnline.com to make sure you register for the Single No More Experience. No, before you ask, it's not just me getting up there talking about my life and being a single mom and being divorced and being married and all. No, no, no. I want to touch on it brief, but I'm going to show you how I got over all of those humps. So it doesn't matter if you're overweight, if you're single, if you're divorced, if you're widowed— it doesn't matter. You can have the love that you want, but it all starts with you. And what I'm going to teach you is probably something you never heard before, because we've heard the same old stuff and it seems not work— to not work. And What I'm going to teach you is going to— you're going to have an aha moment. I didn't look at it that way. So Single No More is here, it's been birthed, and I'm so excited to be able to bring it to you because I know so many single people that are just frustrated because you have these single guys over here that say, I'm a single and I'm a good man. And you have single women, I'm a good woman and I have my stuff together, why aren't they connecting? And a lot of that has to do with nobody wants to make, um, the adjustments. As women, sometimes we don't want to make those adjustments. It's like, I'm a woman, hear me roar, you owe me. You know, none of that. I'm not fixing to sit here and position myself or maybe come off of my high horse just a little bit. I'm not saying settle, but I'm saying change the way you do things and how you operate. It's all about positioning, being strategic. So Single No More is here. I hope to get to see you at one of our events. Also go to SingleNoMoreOnline.com and register for one of our free teleconferences. We have one coming up called the 5 Keys to Jumpstart Your Dating Game. Dating is fun, and let me say this: dating is nothing more than collecting data. Dating has nothing to do with sex. I know society makes you think that whoever you're with, you have to sleep with them. Dating has nothing to do with sex. Dating is a checklist, and what you'll find with dating is not only will you find out the type of individual that you want, but you'll find out what you thought was important was not important. So we're going to get— help people get rid of all of those rejection issues, abandonment issues, the my type syndrome. And one key that I really want to touch on is for the women that have been sexually abused like myself. Uh, for some of you that know my story, I dealt with molestation from the age of 5 to 17, and it was really hard for me to even let anyone get close to me. And for a lot of the women, the hundreds and thousands of millions of women that have gone through, and men that have gone through sexual abuse, I'm going to show you how to get over that hurdle so you can break that wall down. Because a lot of times when a quality person does come into your life, you think that all they want to do is come and take from you. And that's not the case. So we're going to help you get over all of those humps. And when I tell you, you're going to be so refreshed, so renewed, so revived. And trust me, at the Single No More Experience, you're going to have homework, you're going to have activities to do. And I even have a commitment and, uh, accountability program that you must be a part of. Because I'm gonna hold you accountable for the actions that you take. If you really want to desire and desire to love and be in love and relationship, got to be at the Single No More Experience. You have to make sure you're in the building. And if you would like the Single No More Experience to come to your city, go to singlenomoreonline.com and look at the top, at the top of the page, and click on host package. It'll give you everything you need to be able to host a Single No More in your city. So I'm totally, totally excited to be able to bring to you this information and the how-tos because I'm always one to how-to, show me how. I got tired of reading books and books and books saying the same thing, but nobody was really showing you how. I'm a hands-on, for those of you that have been supporting me for years, thank you so much first for your support, but you know, I'm a solutions-based person, solutions-based, solutions-based, solutions-based. All the 5 books that I've written, once again, are all about how-tos. Because I need to know when I get to the red light, do I need to make a left or a right? Don't give me all of the hoopla. Give me the how-to. Give me principles. Give me keys. Give me tips. Show me how to do it. So I'm going to show you how to become the individual that is a magnet for quality men. And when I tell you I attract quality men, the men that women say are not available, I attract them like flies. You got— ladies, you know the single, never been married, no kids, great jobs, great careers. And add up everything else, they want to get married. Hmm. But society tells us that those men are not available, but yet on a regular basis I meet them. Hmm. So I'm going to teach you my strategies, my secrets of how to position yourself to be found and show you how to— it's not a rush. It's not— you don't have to rush into it. My biological clock is ticking. When you understand positioning, You understand, oh, you have the upper hand. It's not— you're not pressed. So I'm going to show you all of the fundamentals. And even if you're not ready to get married right now, but you still haven't had a quality date in a long time, I'm going to show you, show you how to make sure you start at least dating quality guys. So when you do decide that you want to settle down, you've already had an experience with quality guys, so you know what you should be looking for. SingleNoMoreOnline.com. I'm April Mason, and I'm signing out, and I Hope to see you very soon. Join me at the Single No More Experience. Come into a city near you.