Ashley Koff discusses how society's obsession with thinness creates triggers around weight, and argues we should reframe them as health signals instead. She wrote a book to help people decode what their body is actually telling them, and emphasizes teaching kids to value strength over appearance.
Society is triggering, and there is nothing more triggering, I think, than weight and external appearance. My whole life I wanted to be tall, skinny, and have long blonde hair. I have curly hair. I'm like an athlete build. I mean, I have always wanted to be that other person until I figured out and got to a place where I'm like, I want to be Ashley. Now, if there's a trigger, that trigger should be, why is my body creating excess fat? Why am I not able to make butt muscle? Why am I losing bone? Why are my bowels not moving? Why does my skin look like this? If you you personally have any signal on you that you don't feel better about for your body, then the opportunity is to work with us. This is why I wrote my book, and to start to decode those messages. It is so hard, but we have to put up a force field between that and being triggered, and we need to do it with our kids. We need to turn around and say, yes, that person may have lost weight. There are times when somebody loses weight where they're sick. There are times when people lose weight because they're changing the way they're eating, and that doesn't necessarily mean for a good thing. We don't necessarily want to be thin. We We want to be strong.
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