3 Common Jokes That Make People INSTANTLY Like You Less

Ellen DeGeneres has been getting a lot of hate on the Internet recently. This video isn't meant to be a commentary on her one way or the other. But after seeing those hate videos, we thought you'd like to know the common types of jokes that make people dislike you and some of the jokes you can make instead that will make people like you. The first type of joke that will make someone dislike you is sharing their sensitive information to get a laugh. For example, watch Taylor Swift's reaction after Ellen tries to get her to say who the song we are Never ever Getting back Together is about.

You're supposed to ring, but I don't want to.

I don't want to because they'll send me angry emails, but I don't want to get them.

I'll hold it for you.

Now, not everyone is uncomfortable talking about their exes, so this isn't immediately a bad idea for a gag. But Taylor is obviously uncomfortable with it. Despite this, Ellen plows ahead to try to get a laugh.

What are you doing? Okay, all right, all right.

This makes me feel so bad about myself. In this scenario, it's pretty obvious early on that Taylor wants Ellen to stop. But normally you. You won't get such clear feedback. So there are two signs of discomfort you should look out for if you're going to make jokes about potentially sensitive areas of someone else's life. If you see these signs, it's time to pull back and pivot topics. The first sign you want to look for is verbal hesitation. Check out this clip of Ariana Grande and notice how she repeatedly cuts herself off mid sentence.

Let's talk about your love life. Can we?

Oh, my God.

Do you mind?

Oh, God, I do. I don't know, man. This is so crazy. But the only.

The second sign is that Ariana shows shrinking and self soothing body language. First hugging herself, then covering and touching various parts of her face.

He was a dancer. No, he's a rapper. He was with you.

We performed together on your show.

We were babies.

Body language like that is a clear cue to pull back and pivot to a different topic. But instead, Ellen plows ahead so she can tell her joke. And while the audience laughs, notice Ariana does not.

I asked you something about him and you said, oh, you know, I'm his homie, and now he's living in your homie.

There's that, right?

It seems like Ellen wanted to tell that joke no matter how Ariana reacted. And maybe as a talk show host, that's okay, but in your life, if you plow through these signs of discomfort, you'll end up hurting your relationship with the person you're talking about, even if you get a laugh from other people. In this next clip, take note of Cara Delevingne's self soothing body language as Graham Norton starts to share a potentially sensitive sex story of hers.

I think your embarrassment threshold's quite high.

What?

Well, and we're talking backstage. No, we're talking backstage. The thing about having sex on a plane.

Clearly Graham thinks this is a funny story and wants to share it with the audience. And maybe he thinks that since Kara shared it with him, she won't mind him telling it. And that's all good. There's no harm in bringing it up. But when you see these early signs of discomfort in your own life, like breaking eye contact and self soothing neck or face touches, that's your cue to change topics. Don't continue to force the issue like Graham does.

So you were having sex with women and someone was watching you?

Yes.

Um, the pilot?

No.

If you notice someone nervously touching their face or suddenly closing off their body, take it upon yourself to stop and redirect the conversation. One great way to do this is to turn the joke back on yourself. For example, watch this awkward clip of Ellen trying to out Mariah Carey as pregnant by showing she won't drink alcohol.

The other thing is that people are saying that. That you're pregnant. There's rumors.

Don't discuss that.

You want to taste it.

I can't believe you did this to me, Ellen. What? No. Are you trying.

I'm not going to ask you if you're pregnant.

This is peer pressure. You see what Ellen is doing? This is peer pressure.

Right then, if Ellen had realized Mariah wasn't comfortable sharing and said something like, oh, you don't want to drink? Great. That means two for me. It would have gotten the laugh she wanted from the audience plus a laugh from Mariah, and then she could have segued into Mariah's upcoming album. Mariah would have appreciated Ellen in that moment for taking the pressure off of her and inviting her to talk about something she actually wants to discuss. When telling jokes, you should aim to make the other person feel good. Any negative emotion they experience will be linked back to you. This is the second mistake people sometimes make, making jokes designed to make the other person feel guilty. For example, in this clip, you'll see Ellen attempt to jokingly make Dakota Johnson feel guilty for not inviting her to a party. It does not go over well.

How was the party? I wasn't Invited?

Actually, no, that's not the truth. Ellen, you were invited last. No, last time I was on the show last year, you gave me a bunch of about not inviting you, but I didn't even know you wanted to be invited.

Well, who doesn't want to be invited to a party?

Well, I didn't even know you liked me.

Of course I like you.

But I did invite you, and you didn't come.

This is a surprisingly common joke that most people make when they're hurt or don't know how to communicate their frustration. But ironically, all you do with this joke is make the person want to spend less time with you than they already do. Ellen continues the joke after Dakota Johnson's co star Zach mentions how great of a friend Dakota is. From Dakota's expression, you can see she's not enjoying this style of humor.

That's good to hear. She's not a good friend of mine, but she's a good friend to you, and that's what matters.

For another example, here's Jimmy Fallon trying the same joke with Robert Downey Jr.

Crazy blowout from what I read. I guess my invitation lost in the mail. It's fine. But you know how to. You know where I am pretty much every now. It's no big deal.

You can tell from Robert's face he does not love the joke. And instead of responding with something apologetic, he fires back with a burn.

You had a lot of people there. Probably over 30 people were there.

Probably right.

Yeah.

What's 31?

You know, when you think about it, yeah, you weren't invited.

These jokes often become habits, which is why you want to be careful. You say them unthinkingly and then they backfire. If you catch yourself making jokes like this, your best bet is to change them out for jokes that make the other person feel good. The examples in this video aren't the norm for Ellen. She's actually quite good at making jokes that pretend to be teasing or but are really meant to elevate the other person. Like here with Amy Adams.

You're an amazing actress. You're not one, but two nominated films tonight you were in that's just. That is so. What is the word for it? Selfish, I guess.

If you want help learning how to build this positive habit, you can check out our other video on Ellen, which we'll link to in the description. That said, not every joke has to be a compliment in order to be well received. There's. There's nothing inherently wrong with teasing. In fact, this is how some of the closest friends interact with each other. But one situation that will often get you in trouble is when you're teasing someone of lower status than you. For a solid example of how social status affects the reception of your jokes, check out these two clips. The first clip is Jimmy Kimmel, a famous TV show host poking fun at Markiplier and Mrs. May, two YouTubers who he doesn't know very well and who are, by contrast, less famous than him. Markiplier in particular, doesn't seem to like it. Well, this is an awkward hug.

You know what you guys should do?

Try being around other humans every once in a while, because humans don't hug like this. I don't care what is going on with you. It's likely Markiplier felt Jimmy was coming from a mean place and mocking him. Contrast that with this clip of Sofia Vergara effectively making the same joke, saying her husband has a nerdy personality.

I've heard you accuse him of being a nerd. In what way is. Hold on. In what way is that?

He is inside of him. He was just put in the wrong body. I tell him you're trapped in the wrong body.

Sophia can get away with calling her husband a nerd because they have a close relationship and because Joe is an incredibly handsome movie star, so he's very unlikely to feel sensitive about this or take offense. And as overkill, she even makes sure to compliment him each time before calling him a nerd.

Even when I met him, I almost didn't go out with him because he was too handsome. And he is a nerd. All he does is read, play Dungeons and Dragons.

No way.

Yeah, that's his name.

No way.

That's a great way to tease someone and still make them feel good. So feel free to tease people you're close to, especially about things they're unlikely to be sensitive about. But be aware that those exact same jokes can come off as hurtful or mocking if you direct them to people who you don't know well, who aren't as high on the social totem pole, like lower classmen at school or people below you on the org chart at work. And especially avoid teasing those people about something they care about. If you follow this advice, you'll avoid alienating people with these common types of jokes. But unfortunately, there's no guarantee that everyone will like you, especially if you plan to live a life where you take risks and try to be exceptional. You're going to acquire haters and doubters along the way. That's why we created a program designed to help you develop deep and authentic confidence. It's a 30 day program that will give you emotional mastery so that even if you say the wrong thing in conversation, make a mistake at work or don't have things go the way you planned, you're able to pick yourself up with confidence and continue to feel great about yourself. No self doubt, no beating yourself up. The way this works is by focusing first and foremost on your relationship with yourself. This means exercises that put an end to those moments where you're controlled by fear of rejection, failure or conflict. A very common outcome is that members realize they deeply want to share what they've learned and help other people on their own personal development journeys. So we've added a bonus section that is a crash course in starting a YouTube channel. It's one we made at the very beginning of our channel when we had about 20,000 subscribers. So it's a very tactical explanation of how to build a following from zero. Now, this is only the third time we've spoken about emotional mastery on the YouTube channel. In the past, we only offered it to people who had joined our email list or Charisma University program. And that means there's no page explaining the course, just a checkout page. So if you're intrigued and want to know more, the best thing to do is check out the course directly with the link below. You can do that knowing that it comes with a 60 day money back guarantee. There's nothing you need to do, no worksheets to fill out to get the refund, you just go to billing and refund and you'll get every penny back. But I do hope you try it because it addresses how to live with more joy and be less controlled by worrying about what other people think of you. If you'd like to join, click the link below. Either way, I really hope you enjoyed this video and I look forward to seeing you in the next.