3 Simple Mindsets That Drive You Towards Success

Whether you realize it or not, every single action that you take is generated by your mindset. And those actions add up to give you the life that you have. Which is why in this video we are going to cover three counterintuitive mindsets for changing your life. And these come straight from Tim Ferriss, who I am a huge fan of. And I'm going to tell you how I use these to change my life. But before we get into it, one little thing. Stick around to the end because we are making a hire at Charisma on Command. I'm going to tell you about that and how you can make some money from referring that that person. But let's just jump into it. The first mindset is to ask ridiculous questions. Here's what Tim has to say about it.

I find that levels of success in almost any industry or area correlate to a person asking great questions. In some cases they seem absurd. In fact, the hallmark in a way of great questions is that sound completely ridiculous.

Now, Charisma on command actually started with me asking myself a completely absurd question, which was, what would I do if I woke up tomorrow morning with $100 million in my bank account? Now, obviously this wasn't going to happen, but it completely shifted how I approached my life. You see, at that time I was working as a consultant. I wasn't completely in love with it and I was looking for other avenues. And at this time I was just thinking, well, what jobs can I get? What sort of diagonal move can I make to maybe make a bit more money and do something different? But when I asked myself what would I do If I had $100 million if money was no object, that changed everything. All of a sudden I didn't want to get a job. I wanted to go to Brazil and I wanted to live on the beach. I wanted to spend time with my friends. I wanted to learn something new every day and I wanted to find a way to try to teach other people. And it was about a year from first asking that question to when I was on an airplane on the way to Brazil with six of my closest friends to run Charisma on Command. So these questions are powerful, but you have to get crazy with them because that breaks you out of the old stuck ways of, of thinking. So for business, that one is great. Your career. What would I do if I had $100 million? It's not about jumping right into that thing. It's about orienting your actions around your dream for relationships. You could ask yourself, what kind of person would I want to be with if I knew that I could attract anyone. I see oftentimes that both men and women will just kind of take the first boyfriend or girlfriend that they can get or settle for someone that they're not crazy about because they don't think that they can have the kind of connection that they truly might dream of. So if you ask yourself these orienting questions, you're going to get more from your life. Which brings us to the second piece, which is something that was huge for me and is actually very counterintuitive to the people who practice positive psychology. And I count myself amongst that group. And it is to define very clearly the worst case scenario from pursuing the dream that comes out of that first question. And Tim Ferriss actually talks about the power of doing this in his next clip.

And I can trace all of my biggest wins and all of my biggest disasters averted back to doing fear setting at least once a quarter.

Now this exercise of fear setting is something that Tim covers very deeply in his TED Talk. I'm gonna link to that below. Here's the basic gist of it. You got three parts. You define your fears, you talk about how to prevent them, and then what you could do to repair them. So take my fear of going to Brazil. Almost always when you have a dream and you're not going for it, there's this really amorphous fear that is holding you back. And in my case it was, if I went to Brazil and this business doesn't work out, my life's over. And what you realize when you have to write it down is that actually your life isn't over. I mean, what would happen in my case is, okay, I couldn't afford rent, that would really stink. I'd have to beg someone that I knew to let me sleep on their couch. I'd have to save the last of my money to fly back home and maybe go to my parents house. That'd be really embarrassing. But I wasn't going to starve to death. And this is something I'm very fortunate to have in my life. But I assume a lot of people watching have someone or something that would prevent them from sleeping outside, literally, or from actually starving to death. So the worst case scenario of death isn't on the table. Realistically. The second step then is how can I prevent this thing? And I wrote down, oh my gosh, there's all these ways that I could not run out of money even if the business fails. I mean, one, I can work really hard on the business. But two, I Could go outside and busk. I could play with the guitar, or I could Airbnb my room. I could take some rent, sleep on the couch for a couple of months or weeks or whatever it took, and then I could spend that on food and rent. I could tutor, right? I was pretty good on the SATs. I could volunteer to tutor kids. Now, the repair part, if it all failed, if it all fell apart, I thought, you know what? The worst case scenario, I save up enough money, I get a flight back, I call up my boss and I beg him to let me get my old job back at like a 25 or 50% discount just so I can get back on my feet. And I had to imagine that he would take that. If not, I would be flipping burgers and I would survive. The point is, the downside was, you know, measurable, and I could handle it. But the upside of going to Brazil and living with my friends and starting this business that I loved was so inspiring. So, as Tim puts it, I was looking at an upside if it worked, of like 8, 9, or 10. And a very temporary downside of call it a negative 3 or a negative 4 if things didn't work out, which pushed me over the edge.

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So when you ask yourself the questions from number one with your absurd questions, apply fear setting to it. And if you want a longer explanation, check out the TED talk in the description. But I'm gonna hop onto the third mindset again, which is very counterintuitive, and this is very counterintuitive amongst our culture nowadays, which is all about hustledoitbeverywhere, and it's set before you go to bed. One thing that if you accomplish it tomorrow, would make the entire day a win, here is Tim talking about it himself.

In other words, if I have 10 things on my to do list or 10 potential projects, I could pursue what to do in that situation. And what I ask myself is, which one of these, if done, will make the rest irrelevant or easier? This is a key question I ask all the time.

No matter what your goal is, the truth is, at any given time, you could probably be doing a million things to take you closer, but it's only, like, one or two things that are really, really going to make strides towards hitting that goal. Everything else is a distraction, and we know this implicitly, but we hide and we stay really busy because those one or two things are often very uncomfortable. So in my business, it would be very easy. And I've wasted entire days replying to emails back and forth, getting in there, in the comments. And I love it and it's fun and it's engaging. But I know deep down that the most valuable thing I can be doing is, is to create a video. And I will find ways to avoid doing it all week. Which is why today, and I did this last night, I wrote down before I went to bed, the one thing you need to do tomorrow is film this video. Prior to that it was come up with the topic that I was going to cover. And I realized even though this might take just a little bit of time to shoot this video, it's the most valuable thing that I can be doing. And this is true of your life as well. I see people fill up their time so that they I have no time, I can't do anything. And that is a subconscious distraction to avoid doing the hard thing. So for instance, in business, ask yourself your career, what's one thing that if I just did this today would make the entire day win? Like if I went home after it, it would still be a win. Sometimes that's weird things like asking for a raise. Just a heads up when it comes to relationships, if you're not in a relationship, I see a lot of people keeping those really busy with self improvement, going to the gym clothes, haircut, they're getting all the pieces in order. If you said what's the one thing you could do today to get closer to the type of relationship that you want, it's oftentimes to ask that person out that they've been avoiding. They're trying to make themselves better for. Just go ask them out. So if you before right now for today, if it's early or if it's late for tomorrow, write down one thing and one key project that if you just did that tomorrow, the entire day would be a win in that area. You do this for a day, it takes about, I don't know, three, four days to see really, really massive results. And it's how I run business. It's how I don't actually spend a ton of time but get the really valuable things done. So that is it for the mindsets. And I want to touch back on that third one which is I need to be making more videos. Which is why we are hiring at Charisma on command. I and Ben have been running the digital marketing side of things. It has been going, eh, okay. It's not my skill set and it's not his. So we are looking for someone who can be that kind of digital marketing manager for us. This is someone who has run operations before, who is familiar with digital marketing and who has probably worked at a company that's a sales seven or eight figure business. So if that's you, click below. But if it's not, we actually have an opportunity for you to make $5,000 for referring this person. If you refer them, we hire them and they stay for six months. We're going to pay you $5,000 because this is really, really important to our business. This is someone who's going to work very closely with me and Ben. They're going to help us to grow this thing so that I can make more content and do what I really want to do, which is focus on more.