4 Habits For Nice Guys To Be More Attractive

Chris Evans is incredibly charming. He's an interesting combination of kind, funny, and humble.

So people really come up to you and say, wait a second, oh, yeah, I've accepted the fact that I'm a huge physical disappointment. In reality, that's just the way my life is.

So in this video, we'll go through four habits you can steal from Chris that will help you to be charming in any conversation. And because Chris's charisma is so nice, we'll also go over a few nuances around flirting so you can create attraction as more than just a friend. Let's start with a couple of Chris's body language tricks. The first is to speak through a smile. This is a simple yet powerful way to influence how people perceive you. Here's a quick example where Chris gets asked about a Super bowl after party. Did you meet Tom? Did you get to touch him? Because I know last time you were.

There, you said you didn't. Oh, no, I've yet to meet him. He didn't go to the. I mean, he might have made an appearance, but he, you know, cut out his Tom. He had to go rule the world. I didn't meet Tom.

The key to a genuine smile is to smile with your eyes. When speaking through a smile, you'll likely notice a natural uptick in energy and movement as well. Here's another example where Chris is reacting to his Avengers clip on Seth Meyers. Notice when Seth and the audience laugh. Chris's words aren't especially funny, but he primes them with his smile, eyes and tone.

All right, I don't know much about it, but I mean, I have one line in the clip. Like, typically when you come to a thing like this, you bring something to showcase whatever. Yeah, they sent me the clip and I was like, is this what I'm bringing to Seth Meyers?

When people first try to build this habit, they make a common mistake of thinking you have to speak through a smile all the time. But the charm comes from being emotionally expressive, not from plastering a smile. On 24 7, for example, watch Chris talk about endgame and notice how he starts serious before ending by speaking through a smile.

The secret the scripts are so lock and key, but they had given me the scene where I pass the shield to Mackie. Oh, it's so nice to be able to say that. It doesn't have to be. It's like therapy. It's so lay down on the couch and be honest. Talk about the Marvel secrets.

Some people worry that their smile will come off as fake and that's a great point to consider. While speaking through a genuine smile instantly makes you more charming, if the smile seems fake, it'll have the opposite effect. So don't try to put your biggest grin on for every conversation. Instead, try to guide the conversation to things that genuinely make you smile or laugh. Try the second body language trick you can steal from Chris is to own the space around you. The most basic way to do this is to use your hands when you speak, and Chris is fantastic at this. But beyond that, Chris does something you can steal to be charming. Even when you're not the one speaking, he takes up space when he laughs. Here's an example. During an Avengers interview hearing the end.

Of your contract and a lot of people are actually legitimately concerned and they want to hear from what you could possibly do. So back to cleaning breast pumps.

If you watch most people in social situations, they look very spatially constrained. It's like they have an invisible box around them that they're scared to cross over. This subconsciously communicates to other people that you're nervous to draw attention to yourself, which instantly hurts how confident and attractive you look. This doesn't mean you have to manspread to assert dominance or anything weird like that. The simple act of taking up space when you laugh by throwing your head back or putting your hand on someone's shoulder is enough to show you're comfortable owning the space around you. Here's another quick example.

You bring new aspects to him, and with Captain America, it's like as we've seen, nuance.

Yes, here's one more quick example. Notice the leg touch and side lean.

And then we see Captain America evolving into his leadership role. But we also see you evolving more and more as we see more on.

Screen owning the role.

Right?

In all three clips, you also saw Chris gives a small tagging touch to the person who made him laugh. These little platonic touches on the leg or arm are great in almost any situation. They're especially important in flirting because they let you calibrate your touch. If someone isn't comfortable with a touch on the shoulder, you know they won't be comfortable with you leaning in for a kiss. In addition to gauging comfort levels, going from a shoulder touch to a knee touch to an arm around the shoulder while you walk and is an easy way to build increased physical comfort with someone. This is nice because even if a date went really well, it can feel awkward to lean in for a kiss. If you spent the entire date with an invisible force field separating you one side Note about laughter in general and specifically when flirting, don't try to force a big laugh at everything the person says. One of the cringiest flirting mistakes is to pretend that everything someone says is hilarious or fascinating. That fakeness will be a big turn off to most people.

How did that happen? Because it's cold out. Yes, yes. This bit. Nipply out. I mean, nippy out.

What did I say, Nipple?

There is a nip in the air, though.

Okay, so now let's talk about what to say. Whether you're flirting or just having a conversation with a potential friend, most people have one of two strategies. One is to tease the other person and give them a hard time, hoping to make them laugh. The other is to be kind and complimentary all the time or hoping to make them feel good. The problem that most people run into is that if you only tease, you can come off as a jerk or even just someone trying too hard to entertain people. And if you're nothing but kind, you run the risk of being boring or, in the case of flirting, being put in the friend zone. What's unique about Chris is that he's comfortable bouncing back and forth between kind compliments and playful teases. This is often referred to as Push pull. Here's two quick clips so you can see how Chris balances the two. In the first, he's playing a game where he's meant to guess which Avengers cast member the photo is of.

What do you got, Hemsworth?

In this next clip, Chris is talking about which other famous Chrises he gets confused for in public.

No, I get Prad. I get. I never get Hemsworth, which is really upsetting. Please think I'm Hemsworth. Please think I'm Hemsworth.

Chris Hemsworth is great at Push pull as well. Watch him go back and forth in this next clip while talking about Captain America.

Actually, what is it you like about him? Just the fact that it's kind of boring and predictable. He's just kind of, you know, you're the sexiest man. I just wanted to hurt you. I love, by the way, he's my favorite character.

By bouncing between the two instead of just doing one or the other, you make yourself less predictable, which makes you more fun to talk to. You basically get the upside of both strategies and the downside of neither. It also makes you more attractive, especially if the person you're flirting with is someone who's used to people only pulling on them with a lot of compliments or flattery. Those are the people who are most likely to enjoy being playfully Teased. But like everything else, calibrate this to the individual person. Also, since Chris and Chris are just platonic friends, here are a few examples of more flirtatious push, pull.

Do you like this one?

I really.

I picked a dress for you. No, it's really very, very sexy. It's got a kind of corset y feel, and then it's. Is that a. Oh, it's a microphone. All right. Rosemary's Pizza. Do you go there? No, I don't. I don't. Where do we go? I have a gluten allergy, so I can't really eat. You have a gluten allergy? That's so unusual to hear from an actress.

No, it's for real.

I'm putting spells on you. Yeah, you've already done that. You did that when you did the knee. That's right. You see me move back like that? I did, yes. Crawling away. No, no, I. Your distance is hurting me. No, it's. Listen, it has to be fair enough. No, no, I'll just lean.

I thought you were very sexy the.

First time I came on.

I did, and then I found out.

You were sober and I was like, oh, forget it. Oh, come on.

The last thing we'll touch on is a mindset that will help you to make a better impression and feel more confident in conversation. Whether talking to a friend, boss, or person they're attracted to, most people try to present themselves as perfectly as they can and hide their flaws. Because of this, they become nervous about how they are being perceived by contrast. Watch Chris talk about his past work. Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you have to go ask people to come see a movie that you don't like?

Well, yeah, if anyone. Yeah, I mean, if you can look at my IMDb page to know that.

That rather than being nervous about how he's perceived as an actor, Chris just owns the fact that he's been in some bad movies. Here's another quick example of him talking about skydiving.

When I was. I did it once when I was 20, and it was great. And you don't think twice and you land and you're like, I can't wait to do it again. And this time I. I was terrified. I was really scared the whole time, and the second I landed, I was like, great. Never again.

Admitting to being scared is something most men would try to avoid because they think it makes them seem weak or not masculine. Ironically, it's by being willing to laugh at yourself for your mistakes or fears that you show true confidence. It shows you're centered in yourself and unworried about other people judging you. In Mick's next clip, you can see in real time the impact of Chris being honest about an emotion most men would try to hide.

3, 2, 1. Oh sh t. I panicked.

As soon as Chris laughs and admits he panicked, he gets a big laugh from the crew. By laughing, you show that this thing that would bother most people has no power over you. Now, whether you want to be charming because you're looking for a new mentor, more friends, or more dates, there's obviously a lot more to meeting someone than just what we've covered so far. You have to be able to confidently start a conversation, hook them in the first few minutes so that they want to learn more about you, and then build a real connection so they want to see you again. If you'd like a step by step guide that lays out how to quickly master those skills, you may like our program Charisma University. It's the fastest way I know to become confident and charismatic. You can read all the details in the link below, but I figure the strongest way to let you know what it's about is just to let the members speak for themselves. So here are a few things that CU members have written in this first one is from a guy who joined after a breakup. He says, thank you so much for Charisma University. I thought that after completing this course I'd become a smooth talker and be able to take over a room. What I didn't realize is that I get that and feel so confident in myself. I feel liberated. Thank you for creating this course. This next one is from a woman who works as a clinical psychologist. She says, I absolutely love the content and I am happy to pay for the modules. I'm a clinical psychologist looking for material that could help my clients who have social anxiety. Charlie's material is exactly what I was looking for. So excited to be a member of Charisma University. And this last one comes from a guy who got promoted to a senior position early in his career. He says, I don't even have a bachelor diploma yet. They want me to fill this position. And when asked why this was the answer. You have great social skills, which is rare for an engineer. You can think quick on your feet and you are open and self assured in your demeanor. Thank you so much for all that you have taught me. You have truly changed my life because without cu, I wouldn't have qualified for that position in a million lifetimes. You'll see more success stories like these in the comments if you decide to join the course. If you do join, it comes with a 60 day money back guarantee, which is 100% for any reason at all. We make it 60 days even though the course is only 30 days, because we want to make sure that every single member truly feels like they're getting a ton of value from the course. So if you want to check the course out, go ahead and click the link on screen now or below in the description. We've had over 5,000 members go through this course and get a ton out of it, and I'd love for you to do the same. Either way, I hope you enjoyed this video and I look forward to seeing you in the next one.