Hadley and others teach introverts how to be charming and confident in social situations without changing who they are. The video covers four social skills quiet people need, with examples from celebrities like Zendaya and a look at Charisma University.
If you're an introvert, you may think that you're destined to suffer socially, but one of today's most popular celebrities is a self proclaimed introvert.
I think they know this, but I'm a very shy, introverted person.
Even more amazing, Zendaya captivates people without pretending to be extroverted, which can feel exhausting and fake. So today you'll learn four easy tricks to be charming as an introvert without changing your personality. Our writing assistant and resident introvert, Hadley will walk you through them. Take it away, Hadley.
So the first mistake some introverts make in conversation is forcing themselves to be outgoing all the time. Doing this will drain your social battery fast. So instead, learn to frontload your enthusiasm. This means using your social energy in the moments that matter most. Entrances and introductions. For example, watch how Zendaya starts this interview. Now, this doesn't mean you need to go dancing into every room. You can do this by being a big hugger or even just a big smiler. Bring energy and enthusiasm to those first few minutes of conversation, and later you can transition to whatever energy level feels natural to you. Now, when you do become a bit low energy, it can be tough to get a word in over those louder extroverts. But there's a trick you can use to get people to listen to you without raising your voice. Use hand signals to capture attention. We talked in the past about how Keanu Reeves will move his hands a few seconds before he speaks to grab attention despite his quiet voice. Zendaya does a variant of this to stop people from cutting her off. She holds her pointer finger up to show that she's not done speaking.
Doing this, this, this, this thing where I'm basically up in the air and I spin down and I get caught and I heard a fart.
Now wait, we all heard the fart.
We all heard the fart. Hold your pointer finger up while pausing mid sentence. And you can really captivate people without needing to be loud. Here's a great example you can model from Steven Yeun.
I think he started doing that because of you, though.
This simple trick can help you captivate people and avoid getting cut off without needing to raise your voice. So now that you've got their attention, let's cover a super easy trick to make people enjoy talking to you even more. And that's speak through a smile. Watch how endearing Zendaya is as she smiles while she speaks.
He speaks English and it weirded everybody out.
Yeah.
Did you know that Neti Pot was.
Gonna be, you know, what's so funny now? If you're not the talkative type, you can still make people love being around you just by being a likable listener. One fantastic habit for making conversation more fun for for yourself and for making people like you is to listen with the intention of laughing. Zendaya laughs easily in conversation, and it makes the people she's talking to feel amazing.
Madrid is also in Spain, right?
Slithering all day. Sometimes the thing that makes people like you most is not when you are funny, but when you make them feel funny. Watch how Tom can't help but smile as Zendaya cracks up beside him.
Oh, my. It's definitely. You'd have to take avocados.
Yeah.
You'D have to, like. From a pure logistical standpoint, it'd have to be avocados.
Yes.
If you've ever had a friend who laughs at literally everything you say, you know how amazing this feels. Now, one quick warning. Never fake a laugh. Doing this will backfire and make people immediately distrust you. If you've ever suspected someone of faking a laugh around you, you've probably felt like this before.
She's got a fake laugh and a real laugh. They are very close. And it took me one day of working with her when I was like, that's bull. Like, I literally was like, I wasn't that funny.
So rather than fake laughter, you want to cultivate the ability to laugh freely whenever you do find something funny. If you currently struggle to laugh when you're in conversation, that's totally fine. Laughing is a habit that gets easier the more you do it. So a good practice is to watch something you know will make you laugh right before going out. This prime will help you be in a better state to laugh when you're actually conversation. And that's four tricks to be charming as an Introvert. Now, if you enjoy these videos, but find it hard to put it all into practice when you're actually in conversation, you may like our program, Charisma University. It takes just 20 to 30 minutes a day, and each day comes with a daily action guide so you know exactly how to put what you're learning into practice. If, for whatever reason, you don't like the program, you can get a full refund just by pushing a button inside the course. I could go on and on about the program, but rather than tell you what I think, let's take a look at what some of the members have said about their experience after the program. Thank you. You changed my life. It's so much easier for me to connect with people. All my relationships have improved and I'm able to make new friends anywhere and in any situation. I never expected such remarkable outcomes from a simple online routine. This course completely changed my mindset on how to approach people and think about myself, and it has undoubtedly made a significant impact on my life. If you're interested in a 30 day program to become more confident and charismatic, click the link on the screen now or in the description below. Either way, I hope you enjoyed today's video.
