Olivia Jackson shares four texting strategies that make you stand out when dating. She focuses on playful, engaging messages that build emotional connection and increase the odds of meeting in person.
Have you ever met a girl, hit it off, exchanged numbers, texted her to set up plans, and then never seen her again? If you're like me, the answer is yes, and it's probably happened more than once. And that's because there's about a dozen other guys trying to get her attention at the same time. And your texts just don't stand out even if you hit it off in person. You are sunk in this day and age if you can't make her like you over text. So I want to give you five things that you can do that will separate you from the pack, make her more attracted to you, and get you meeting her in person. Person first. When you get her number, save yourself in her phone as something fun. Typically something that reminds her of how you met is best. So say that you met her while out at a dance club. You can save yourself as Dave Amazing Dancer, or even Dave Booty Shaker. It's a little thing, but it makes a big difference every time you contact her because it reminds her of your sense of humor and something that she likes about you. The goal is really just to make her smile when she sees a text from you. Second, after you've added your name into her phone, send yourself a text as her. You do this for a few reasons. One, so that you have her number, but also so that you guys can begin flirting over text right away. Start by sending yourself goofy compliments as her. So you could say, for instance, omg, dream come true. I'm so happy I finally have your number, you handsome devil. Sometimes she won't even realize that you've done this, which is great, because the next day you can respond with something like, aww, you're so sweet. You didn't have to say that. Now you're starting this continued conversation off on a funny note, and it makes it much easier to continue. Third, once you're you're talking, do not make it all logistical. Most guys text things like, hey, this is Jack. I had a really great time meeting you. How is the rest of your night? This is a nice thought, but it is so boring because it's just pure logistics. Instead, send things that create emotion, like, how was your night? Pick up any other handsome gentleman at the bar. In both cases, you're asking about her night, but in one you're being bland. And in the engagement is the one she's more likely to respond to. So in general, a good rule of thumb in texting is to ask yourself, on a scale of 1 to 10, how much emotion does this.
