Dwayne Johnson Has Unbeatable Confidence… HERE’S WHY!

Dwayne the Rock Johnson is a charismatic guy, but perhaps the most interesting thing about him is where his charisma comes from. Like his career, his charisma isn't centered around just one trait. He doesn't have Bill Clinton's eye contact, Russell Brand's way with words, or Neil DeGrasse Tyson's buttery voice. He is doing a lot of things very well, which means there's a lot of things that we can learn from him. So let's go ahead and start with the first one, the most obvious, his commanding physical presence. And it looks like a lot of it actually comes from his training in the wwe.

You ask the Rock to smell what you're cooking. Well, let's just say for argument's sake that the Rock does indeed smell what you're cooking, because a Rock will try anything one time.

Now, obviously this level of gesticulation is too intense for normal conversation, but look at how the same movements down to that hand on hand slap have carried over to his normal conversation, just in a less intense way.

Didn't make it into the NFL at that time. Warren Sapp and all these guys were getting drafted. So I felt like, man, that's my dream. That didn't happen. I went up to the CFL in Canada, in Calgary, and one of the.

Things that you're going to see from Dwayne Johnson and other effective speakers is that they use their hands to illustrate their points. Like in this next clip, and I.

Was like, come here, dude. I gave him a big hug and I was like, I appreciate that so much. He's like, anytime I feel you, I've been shooting this franchise for years, just come to me and we'll just talk it out.

That little hug gesture and those hand slaps are far toned down from his WWE days. But he's still very comfortable making large gestures when he speaks. I've covered the specifics of strong body language in other videos and I'm going to link to those in the description. But for now, just know that those big gestures instantly make him more interesting to watch and they hold your attention while he speaks. But in Dwayne Johnson's case, most of his expressiveness is actually coming from his face and it's particularly when he flashes that big toothy smile. Yes, I never liked Pop Tarts. Being visibly happy like this does a lot for you. First off, it's calling attention to you in a positive way. Want to be surrounded by other people who are having fun. Laughing boisterously is a great way to mark yourself as that kind of a person. And that has a lot to do with the fact that expressive displays of emotion let other people share in your emotions. When you genuinely, genuinely feel something and show it in your body and on your face, people around you can feel that thing as well. So when he laughs loudly, Dwayne becomes someone who makes other people around him feel good. Happiness isn't the only emotion, though, that's contagious. The Rock, Dwayne Johnson, whatever you want to call him, is a captivating speaker because he. He lives in the emotion of his stories and shows us that emotion in his face. And he's done that since his WWE days. You can see in this next clip the way that he engages his whole face to voice different characters and even takes a deep breath as he mentions doing so in the story. Check it out.

Got a phone call from the head coach of the team who cut me. He called me and he said, hey, I know we cut you, but I'd like you to come back. I hung up the phone and my dad said, you're gonna do it, right? I said, no, I don't think so. He said, what are you gonna do? I took a deep breath, I said, I'd like to get into the business.

You just saw it in this last clip. But what this all leads up to are these startling moments of vulnerability in his stories. The Rock is a massive dude, and you expect him to have this hard attitude to match his physique. But not only is he a smiley, expressive guy, he also talks candidly about the soft spots. And I think this is what has made him so likable in his post wrestling career. He's not playing this scowling charact anymore. He's letting people see the emotions that he experiences, even when those emotions might be considered embarrassing. Here he is again, talking about a time that his mom nearly died as she walked into oncoming traffic.

I'll never forget it. She had a glazed look over her eyes that I had never seen before. And she walks right into the middle of i65 and continues to walk down into oncoming traffic. And my heart stopped.

Now I want to make something very clear. Telling sob stories isn't charismatic. Being open, being vulnerable and being real, that's what charisma is. But it's being all of those things, plus genuinely strong that make Dwayne so special. And I don't mean just physically strong. What I mean is that in his interactions, he is a leader in a very, very friendly way. He dictates the tone of the interaction that he's in. So take a look at this next clip and see how he takes friendly control of this interview. I was really excited when I found out you were gonna be in this.

Movie because I thought, hold on a second, dude. Hold on. Hold on a second. Congratulations. I know it's a year, year and a half ago you graduated, dude. Thank you, my friend. Good to see you. You're kicking ass. You're out in the world. You're kicking ass.

Hanging out with you.

You're in Rio.

Let's watch that back again and pay attention this time to the interviewer. See how at first, when the Rock interrupts, he is so nervous. But as soon as he receives his congratulations, he lights up and feels so good about it. I was really excited when I found out you were gonna be in this.

Movie because I thought, hold on a second, dude. Hold on. Congratulations. I know it's a year, year and a half ago you graduated, dude. Thank you, my friend. Good to see you. You're kicking ass. You're out in the world. You're kicking ass.

Hanging out with you.

You're in Rio.

So you see there, Dwayne Johnson takes control of the interaction, but he does it in a very positive and congratulatory way. He's comfortable leading, and he's comfortable talking other people up. That makes him the type of person that you just want to like you. And that's the power of spreading genuine praise. It feels amazing to receive. So people work very, very hard to earn it. I remember I actually had a friend that everybody wanted to be fun because when he told you that, you just told a funny joke, you felt like a million bucks. It seems like the Rock makes people feel the same exact way, but it's not just by praising them randomly. He makes you first care about his opinion by making you realize that he is a leader. Now, I have to admit, his size definitely helps here, but he's also dictating the level of physical intimacy in an interaction. And what I mean here is just watch this next clip and see how he makes Graham Norton hug him when he walks on stage. I've also noticed that he makes his interviewers high five him a whole bunch right now.

I got your carrot top, Reese Witherspoon. Hell, yeah. How badass was that dude?

Now, I personally find the handshake bro hug a really interesting social ritual, and maybe I'll dig deeper into it someday in another video. But for now, just know that when you're leading the topic of conversation or you're dictating the level of physical intimacy in an interaction while still being friendly, you are going to come across as charismatic. So with the Rock, you have this really interesting combination. You have a guy who is a physical beast. He immediately commands respect when he walks into a room and he goes on to demonstrate leadership qualities in interaction. And when you watch him interact with men, it is crazy how quickly they start to follow his lead. But the reason that he's well liked is because on top of all of that dominant personality trait that he shows, he is kind, he talks people up, he reveals weaknesses and stories of depression, and the whole time he is spreading a message that you can overcome difficult times. It's actually really inspiring. So especially with Dwayne, it's not just one of these traits combination that makes it all work. And if you're interested in learning more about this the Four Emotions that Lead to An Amazing First Impression Every time we've set up a different video that covers that. And this is the four emotions that if you hit in this right order, you will make an amazing first impression. It's funny because the rock is actually hitting a lot of them in these videos. So if you're curious what those are in the order that you need to hit them in, go ahead, click the link that'll pop up now. It'll take you to a different page where you can drop your email and get immediate access to that video. So I hope that you have enjoyed this video. If you have not yet done so, subscribe to the channel. We've got new videos every single Monday and I've started to do some on Thursdays. I'm trying to keep up with that pace. If you have any suggestions of people that you'd like to see me cover. The Rock was one I saw a lot of you suggest, so I'm happy to get to do it. Go ahead and write them in the comments. And in fact, I actually have a question for you guys. This week I'm considering doing for the first time fictional characters. And specifically I'm thinking of doing Game of Thrones. I noticed that on HBO's Game of Thrones, which I'm a huge fan of, there's a really, really great understanding of human power dynamics and I think those play out really well on screen even though it is being acted and even though it's in a fake world. So if you guys are curious and would like to see me do fictional characters, I don't want to cram it down your throats, but if that's something you'd like, go ahead, let me know in the comments. And if you think that's a terrible idea, let me know as well. I'll be paying close attention to decide what comes on in the next few weeks. All that to say Definitely. Let me know what you think in the comments about fictional characters and I hope you've enjoyed this video and I will see you in the next one.