How To Be Someone People LOVE To Be Around

Chris Pratt is one of the most charming people I've ever seen. And that's after doing dozens of celebrity breakdowns in a hundred Charisma on Command videos. So in honor of Guardians of the Galaxy 2, I wanted to do a breakdown of what it is that makes him so engaging and likable. In his case, there's a powerful aura of positivity because nearly everything that he says and does is so upbeat, and the effect is contagious.

This is the craziest thing. Every year since I turned 30 has been the best year of my life.

Now, it's far easier to say be positive than to actually put that into practice. That's why we're going to take a look at some of the foundations of Chris Pratt's positivity. Because when you can bring that into your own life, being confident and charismatic comes so much more easily. Let's start with one of the most important habits. First, self amusement. Check out this video. Chris filmed a bunch of these for Instagram while losing weight for Guardians of the Galaxy and Jurassic World. And he called them what's my Snack? And in every episode, it's just him being silly about the snack that his trainer gave him to eat that day.

What's up? It's your boy Chris Pratt, coming back with an episode of what's my Snack? Last chapter. You ain't seen nothing. What's my snack? It's a carrot cake muffin. It's so good. Can I be honest with you? This is my snack for tomorrow.

This is the foundation of self amusement. You start by doing it alone. And this means that you might talk to yourself while you're in your house. It means you might make goofy Instagram videos playing with your food. Or it might mean that you dance around your place like Star Lord. The point is that the best way to be amusing to others and to connect with them is by first having fun alone by yourself. Then you can bring that energy and that mentality to whoever happens to be around you, whether that's a cashier, an old friend, or even a baby who can't talk back.

How y' all doing? All? Yeah. All right, all right. Yo, yo, yo. Throw your feet in the air. Throw your feet in the air. Yeah. Can I get everybody? Clap your feet. Yeah.

So self amusement doesn't begin when someone you like is present and you really want to impress them. You do it for you, because it makes your life more fun. And if you start there, the energy that you bring into all of your interactions with other people will be much More positive and goofy. You're going to become more clever because you won't answer everything so seriously. Instead, you'll be in the habit of treating the random and boring parts of life in a sillier manner. Like this.

What's the deal with swearing? Can we swear? Go for it. Yep, you can swear.

You can have fun with it.

We'll bleep you out. Uh, hello? Showtime, mother.

Now, maybe in your workplace, it's not always a good idea to swear. So it is helpful to know when it might be a good idea to not take things so seriously. And one situation where it is almost always appropriate is during that get to know you question and answer phase of an interaction. So if you look at Chris Pratt's interviews, he does this all the time, consistently taking the questions that he receives that most people tend to answer literally and playing around in his answers for his own amusement and, of course, for the people around him. Your outlaw name in the film is Star Lord.

Mm.

Okay, so in real life, if you had to pick a name to represent you as an outlaw in outer space, what would you. What would you pick?

The boner doctor. Hey. Now to contact Jennifer Lawrence agent.

Well, I don't want to tell you that.

Here's what you do. You pick up your phone, you dial 91 1, and you say quickly, I need to talk to Jennifer Lawrence. I need to talk to Jennifer Lawrence. It's an emergency. And then whisper, there's someone in my house. My agents will come in droves. Yeah, the agent will show up, you'll get to meet Jen and everything.

To be clear, this doesn't mean that you never answer those getting to know you questions or that you are unable to connect with people more deeply because you constantly deflect with humor. It just means that you typically find ways to make yourself laugh. Do during casual conversation rather than allowing that conversation to devolve into a boring question and answer. Ping pong that leaves no impression whatsoever on the person that you're talking to. So here's another example where Chris amuses himself rather than answering the questions literally. Just to give you another idea, he's four months old.

He was born premature, so we went through some. Some emotional times. But he's healthy and he's happy, and. And he does his exercises every day, and he's just. What exercises do you do? Well, you know, just like, bench. I put him on the bench. He's putting up like. No, he is doing well. He's really thriving. He's super strong. Wow.

Another thing that is going to Help train your positivity is reframing ambiguous or negative situations in a positive life. Put simply, it's taking the glass half full approach to life. And in conversation, it comes through in your attitude. For instance, when someone asks you about an old job that you had flipping burgers, you can talk about the parts that sucked or you can talk about the funny parts that you liked. Here's what Chris Pratt tends to do.

I got a job at, I worked at a place called the Viking Drive in. I worked, I like flipped burgers at a little tiny drive through burger joint. Fun. It was awesome. Yeah, it was great. I could walk, I could rollerblade there. I rollerbladed everywhere as a kid. I mean, I'm painting a pretty awesome picture.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Who I was as a kid.

The cool side effect here is that when you get in the habit of reframing things to the positive side, being funny comes much more easily because that creates comedic moments when the negativity of the situation is juxtaposed with your relentless positive spin. For an example, watch here as Chris Pratt immediately assumes that whatever Stephen Colbert says is a good thing, even if it's clearly not intended that way. In this case, Chris is telling Steven how he used to do door to door sales. And Steven is pretending to be one of the people that he'd sell to. Who is rejecting.

No, no, you got to do it. I only got about 20 of these to give out. So you just fill this card out, we settle the 20 today. Cash, check, credit card.

I'm gonna call the police if you don't get off my porch.

Do it. Call some police because they have cars and we'd be happy to service their cars too. I'll do it.

I'll do it. To cultivate this habit in your own life, practice it when seemingly negative things happen to you. So if you lose your job, you just got a new opportunity and more time to spend with your community. If you step in mud, you just got a new pair of brown shoes. And yes, I stole those lines from the song Everything is Awesome from the Lego Movie. And listening to that song is also a great way to stay positive. Now, I can't play more because of copyright law, which is awesome because you can go listen to the whole thing yourself. I'll put the link in the description. Anyway, this takes us to our last point, because one of the most open ended things in the world is comedy. You can make people laugh with cutting, sarcastic humor, or you can do it with absurdly complimentary humor. And I've made this point before, but it bears repeating. Stick to the absurdly complimentary humor if you want to make better impressions on people and have them feel good around you. So take a look again how it's done.

If you left Earth to go to.

Another planet, what are three things you would take with you?

Hunger Games box set, my Jennifer Lawrence trading cards, and my authentic Katniss bow and my Mystique toys. How many do I get? 30.

Chris Pratt is flat out amazing at this. He has a knack for reviving jokes that other people start to take down a negative path. For instance, check out this next clip where his interviewer jokingly implies that Chris is calling her a. A man, which he was not doing. Rather than apologizing and saying, no, that's not what I meant, or taking the joke further by saying, yeah, she does look like a man, he's able to completely save the joke and put a positive complimentary spin on it.

Sexiest Man Alive 2015. Is that what you think? Yes. Oh, my God. Don't be modest. Oh, don't be modest.

I deserve it.

Dadgum it, if anyone deserves it, get his eye. No. Yes. It is you. I think we're gonna go saying I.

Look like a man.

No, I think it's. It. Now is time. It's finally time that they crown a woman as sexiest Man.

Now, I gotta say, the first time that I watched that clip, I was struck by how comedically brilliant it is. And it's not something that we can all just come up with after watching one YouTube video. But the good news is that you can build up to that level of quickness if you work on your comedy chops. And if you train your brain towards finding the positive, reframe with the steps that we covered in this video.

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And those steps, again, are. First, self amuse. Be in that goofy positive state. Second, practice reframing negative situations in a positive light, even if it's just to yourself. And then, of course, out loud to friends. And third, crack jokes that build other people up rather than tear them down. I'm also going to put together a comedy breakdown playlist of videos that we've done in the past if you want to train the other most important comedic habits. So this. There you go. If you like this video and you want to know how to use these skills to make an amazing first impression every single time. I've also set up a video that covers four emotions that create a great first impression in anyone, from your boss to a first date, to whoever. And the order of these emotions is very important because while most people do eventually create these emotions, they do it in the wrong order and that makes them much more forgettable in their interactions. So if you want to know what those emotions are and the best order to commit them in, click the link on the screen Now. It's going to take you to another page where you can drop your email and get access to that video immediately. If you like this video and you want to see more, make sure to subscribe. We cover how to be your best, most confident and charismatic self, even in situations where you might hesitate. So if you want to get more, click subscribe. Hit that notification bell to make sure that you see us on the YouTube homepage. Let me know of course, if you have any topics or individuals you would like me to cover in the comments. I personally am very excited because in one week I'm heading back to the United States. I will miss Brazil, but I will be so much closer to having a permanent studio so that I can do non breakdown style videos which I haven't really been able to do in a good way for a long time and I have a lot that I want to share and I've just kind of been waiting for the right space to do it, so hopefully that comes together soon. I'm also going to be doing more shorter clips on my personal Instagram when I'm back in the usa, so if you're into that kind of stuff, my name is harleyhooper. I hope that you've enjoyed this video and I will see you in the next one.