How To Make A Disrespectful Person Look Insecure For Insulting You

What's up, everybody? This is Charlie from Charisma on Command. And today I want to help you deal with people in your life who are being passive aggressive. You can use this from anyone, from a friend to a co worker, someone that you've just met at a bar or a party. One simple caveat that I'll give you. This will work. But be careful when using this on people who have leverage over your life. For instance, your boss. Because as you'll see, one of the steps, and several of the steps are to call it out, one, walk away and basically remove that person from your life. Difficult to do if it's your boss. So we'll have other strategies for dealing with conflict when it's with superiors, but this is one that you can use in many, many situations. That said, this is an interview with Robert Downey Jr. He's doing a press junket for Age of Ultron. And in this interview, the interviewer out of left field starts asking him questions about his drug history, his relationship with his father, stuff that is just inappropriate and directed to get a rise out of him. So I want to start where the interview is still copacetic, still cool, and you can watch it devolve in the first 15 seconds.

He's becoming a much more likable character as well, isn't he, I suppose, a better man. Yeah, he's becoming a better guy, you know, in a way that you are.

As well, I suppose, surely nervous, you know what you're doing, I know what's up. Get through this.

You. The reason I'm asking about the past is that you. You've talked in other interviews again about your relationship with your father.

And stuttering and stammering, the guy continues to go. So right now, if you watch his chest, Robert Downeys Jr. Is breathing very, very heavy. He is entering like fight or flight mode, which is common when somebody comes at you, even if it's not in a physical way. This is clearly a pointed attack. He is trying to get a rise out of him. He knows what's going on. So you see, he starts to breathe deep. He goes into fight, or some people might freak out here, but notably he doesn't.

The role of all of that in the dark periods you entered and taking drugs and drinking and all of that. And I just wondered whether you think you're free of all of that or whether that's still something. I'm sorry, I really don't. What are we doing?

And this is the most overt call out. This is step three, four, where You've gone through, you've given them the eye contact. You said you know what's up. You've given them the benefit of the doubt, done the warning shot. You've overtly called out the foot or whatever it is. He very clearly in plain English says, what is going on here? This is appropriate. If you've given the person so many subtle warnings with the passive aggressiveness. What are you doing? Is a perfectly fine question in this situation. Maintain eye contact, See what the guy says.

Well, I'm just asking questions, that's all.

Guy ducks it again, goes with the passive way. Bye. And that's it. Walk away. This is the big thing and this is why I said that can be tricky to do when you're with your boss or something like this. You do not need people in your life who are going to behave like this. You do not have to sit through and stomach any sort of passive aggressive attack on you. Even if it doesn't feel like an attack or look like an attack on the outside. This person with the way that they have interacted is trying to get a rise out of you. Do not freak out. Do not take it from. Remove yourself from the situation. Once you've called it out and you can look at it, he does it in a very fine, friendly, good natured way. He doesn't walk away screaming, cursing at the guy. That is the way to handle this situation.

Are you. I'm sorry. It's okay. Yeah, you're right. Thank you. Do you see what. Okay, it's just getting a little dinosaur in your. No, no, look, I don't want to do that. Thank you.

And then this guy looks at him like what an idiot you are. And he is so hope that has been hanging.