How To Never Be Boring In Conversation

In today's video, we'll go over eight conversational habits that make people love being around you. The first habit is the false completion technique. That's when you finish someone's incomplete sentence with a joke. To see what this looks like, watch this interview with Dwayne Johnson and Emily Blunt. Dwayne's just been asked if he plans to run for president one day.

I think in time, if that's the decision we make. We see. We'll see. Yeah.

But nothing yet?

No.

Have you started campaigning against him? No. Yes, I have.

Oh, my God. That was good. Cutting someone off to genuinely finish their sentence for them can be. But by doing it with a joke, you make them laugh and instantly create a more playful vibe. And as you'll see in this next clip, it's easier for them to retake the conversation so they can finish their thought.

That's a great kind of marching order. Very, you know, actionable for us and easy to understand. And every day I was like, all right, how can I help that?

And how can I get more lines?

How can I get more lines? But watching the two of them, because.

It really is the key to getting a big laugh is to finish their sentence with something ridiculous that they clearly weren't going to say. Here's another example where Dwayne does this to Emily after they're asked what they would take to try to survive stranded in the jungle.

I would take a sleeping bag and a tent. And I would take food. And I would take Vagisil. Vagisil. And I would take.

These fake sentence completions can take any conversation and instantly make it more fun. If you're with someone who has a good sense of humor, it can also create opportunities to connect by bantering back and forth.

You know what I would take?

I would take the.

I've been saying this, but this is true. I would take the thing that's most important to me. Cause I'm a good human being.

Anal beads.

If someone starts to joke back with you, that's them attempting to connect. If you want a good relationship with this person, then accept those bids for connection. One way you can do this is by playing along with their jokes. For example, some people would get offended if you tease their outfit. But watch how Emily Blunt responds in this next clip.

You could put some football pads underneath there and just.

I. I actually. This is all me. I don't know if you.

You bulked up for the Jungle Cruise.

Doubling down on someone's joke makes them feel heard and shows that you think they're Funny, they'll feel good about themselves, and they'll associate that positive feeling with you.

Look where you put your cup. That was real power move. You put it on top. This is when you know a guest doesn't want to answer any more questions. Put it on top of the card.

You need your nerves.

You know what? You know what? That's. That's a lot.

If you can't think of a clever way to play along, there's an even simpler way you can make someone feel good for joking around with you. A big laugh. What made you guys decide to sign up?

Um, money.

Your goal here isn't to fake laugh, but to allow yourself to laugh freely whenever you do find something funny. If you currently struggle to laugh when you're in conversation, that's totally fine. Laughing is a habit that gets easier the more you do it. So a good practice is to watch something you know will make you laugh right before going out. This will prime you to be in a better state to laugh when you're in conversation. Another way to increase the connection you have with someone is to add a touch during conversational high points. For instance, when you're both laughing, you.

Are known as this kind of the positive force on set. You know, we can do this. The kind of, yeah, we can do this. Is it true that Emily Blunt did break your spirits?

It was a particularly calm day, I will say.

You can also use touch to strengthen the connection created by a sincere compliment.

Larry Mark. I did the Oscars, and he produced, and he said, man, people know you as Wolverine, but they've just seen you. You should do a movie musical.

You crushed the Oscars.

Now, while many people like being touched, not everyone does. So you want to start with a small touch and see how the person reacts before you decide to move on to bigger, warmer touches. Also, one other warning with touch, it can make people think you're flirting with them. There's three ways you can minimize this if this is something you're worried about. First, keep your touches to just one to two seconds rather than linger. Second, touch everyone in the conversation so that it's obviously not specific to just one person. Third, avoid their core. Touching someone's knee, forearm, or shoulder is friendlier and less intimate than areas like the thigh, waist, or lower back. There's a great, charismatic habit you can add on top of what we've covered so far, and that's friendly teasing. When you're a nice person, adding in light, playful teasing like this can make it more interesting to talk to you because it makes It a bit more unpredictable. What you're going to say, Millie?

I've never seen 28 Days Later. I'm so sorry.

Now I have no idea.

No one has to say.

Some people worry that playfully teasing someone might accidentally offend them. But there's two easy tricks to avoid this mistake and make sure people laugh at your teases, like Killian in those last clips. First, use teases that are obviously untrue. From the clips we just saw, Killian isn't old and 28 days later was actually a box office success. And second, tease yourself as well so people know you're not picking on them. You're just being playful. For example, listen to Emily poke fun at her own film, the Adjustment Bureau.

Did you meet on the Adjustment Bureau?

Yeah.

Yes, we did. Sometimes we just see each other across the street and we go like that. That's like what fans want to hear. So thank you for saying Matt clamoring for Adjustment Bureau too. Just crying out for sex.

There's one more thing in today's video that will make you a fantastic conversationalist. People love being around, and that's knowing how to tell captivating stories. So let's go through four quick storytelling tips that will you have people fascinated, laughing out loud, or both. The first trick is to act out your characters. In this next clip, Emily tells the story of trying to remember the French she learned in school while she was visiting Paris. The story itself is not remarkable, but by acting out a character, she makes people laugh.

I could say everything apart from the word taxi, apparently. So I went.

And he went, taxi.

And I went, yes. And he went, taxi.

SIMEON ENGLISH Simon French Keep your voice unchanged. For example, watch Emily talk about what it was like, like to act in Mary Poppins. At the same time, her husband was working on the horror script for Quiet.

Place at the Top of the House.

Mary Poppins. He was right.

He was just birthing this hideous, wow, frightening movie. So I'd come home from work and be like, I danced with penguins. And he was like, I killed a kid on page four.

Our second storytelling tip is to pause when you hear laughter. Giving people space to laugh makes you look even funnier. And make sure the rest of your story gets heard.

Are your kids getting your accent or are they getting your husband's accent?

Well, Hazel had my accent for a really long time and would say things like, water, which I was really proud of. And then. And then the other day, she goes, can I have some water? And I went, it's water. And she was like, no, it's water?

No. Another good time to pause is before your punchline. Take a three second punchline pause. Here's a fun example with Emily talking about filming Edge of Tomorrow with Tom Cruise. For context, Tom is notorious for being positive on set and refusing to say anything negative.

He was pouring with sweat. I remember looking at him and he was like, guys, please, please roll, please roll. And I just looked at him and I just went, ooh, this sucks. Like that. And he looked at me and he goes, it's a challenge.

Pausing builds anticipation, creating a bigger impact when you deliver your punchline. One thing that can help you focus on your delivery is having a few Go to stories. Once you find a story that gets a laugh, you can use it again so you already have a rough idea of what you're going to say. Here's an example with Emily telling the story of the birth of her first child.

We were in the recovery room afterwards and we had this amazing nurse who came in and she said, damn, your baby is so cute. And I went, oh really? She went, she is gorgeous. And I went, mabel, I think you say that to all the mothers. She went, no I don't. She went. She went, when I know a baby ugly, I say you had a baby.

Having a handful of stories, you know, get a laugh will instantly improve your conversations. Just be mindful you don't use the same story over and over with the same people. Now, there's a lot going on in this video and you may be wondering, how do you remember all this when you're in conversation, especially if you're speaking to someone who makes you nervous. That's why we put together our 30 day program, Charisma University. It's the fastest way I know of to become more confident and charismatic and it comes with a daily action guide that tells you exactly what to do every day to take what you're learning and turn it into unthinking habit. Thousands of people have gone through Charisma University so far and had great results. Here's what just a few of them have said. Thank you. You changed my life. It's so much easier for me to connect with people. All my relationships have improved and I'm able to make new friends anywhere in any situation. I never expected such remarkable outcomes from a simple online routine. This course completely changed my mindset on how to approach people and think about myself. It is unbelievable. Undoubtedly made a significant impact on my life. After Charisma University. I've made more friends, have higher self esteem, and can more easily talk to people I don't know. If you're interested in becoming more confident and charismatic in the next 30 days, click the link on screen now. Either way, I hope you enjoyed today's video and I'll see you in the next one.