Charlie Hubert explains how to win arguments by using psychology and communication tactics instead of just logic. He walks through real examples from personal and business negotiations to show what actually works when you're trying to persuade someone.
In this video, you are going to learn how to win any argument. And I am a trained logician, philosopher, and in debate. But we're not going to use any of that stuff because I have wasted years of time creating the perfect logical argument that should win every time. And I've delivered it to friends and family, only to have them reject that argument and then just to feel a little bit worse about me after I tried to stomp them with logic. If you're dealing with people, you need to consider that there is a psychological aspect of, of them opening up, of being receptive to what it is you have to say. And unfortunately, in arguments, so many of us forget this, we treat the other person like a robot that we can just throw logic at. And of course, you now make your case. Now, typically speaking, when you make your case and you're talking to a friend or family, you're going to want to frame it as a suggestion or an ask. Are there times in business dealings where you're gonna say, look, these are my standards, hard and fast, we can't go below this number. That's where we are. Absolutely. But. But in the case of friends and family, you just would say, what would be really helpful, and I would appreciate if you did, is clean the dishes twice a week to the point where I don't have to ask you. It's just done in the morning. And the more specific you can be here, the better. What is awesome about asking people, right? You lay out all the reasons that you think this is fair and then you ask them is that people hate to feel bullied. They don't want to feel pressured. But when you give them the respect of asking, which says you can say no, I can't stop you, they're going to be open to saying yes. Because you've shown so much ability to work with them, you've put yourself on the same side in steps one through four. Now when you ask, they're going to come through and say, yeah, that's fair, I can do that, I can do the dishes, I can make this change of the contract, I can do whatever this thing is for you. So I know that I spoke a lot about personal relationships, but the truth is business is person to person as well. Are there checks and balances? Absolutely. But if you find yourself in a negotiation for salary, you can still dive in and find what that person wants that isn't just money. I had a situation like this myself. When I was at my first job, there was a scenario where I wanted a remote work arrangement and to leave the city. And on the surface, that didn't work for the company because they don't want that for me. As we dug in and we found out that they didn't mind that I left. They just didn't want to set a standard where everybody got a remote work arrangement. So what we came to is that I would be shifted to not an employee, but a contractor. I got what I wanted. Not everybody got to do the same thing. And it worked out for both people. That's why this understanding, getting to the human aspect is so helpful across the board. So I hope that you take this. If you do find yourself in an argument, take a deep breath and just start by asking yourself, what do I actually want? And what do they actually want? And that's gonna put you right back on track. Hope that you found this helpful. If you did, make sure to subscribe to the channel so that you don't miss more videos like this. We've got them every Monday and Thursday and if you don't subscribe, they might not show up on your homepage. So please go ahead and do that. If you want to follow me On Instagram, I'm CharlieHubert. The business hrysmondcommand, which has more charismatic confidence stuff, is charismoncommand. And Ben, who does the videos on Thursdays, is Mben Altman. I hope that you guys enjoyed this video and I will see you in the next one.
