How To Short-Circuit The Fear Of Rejection

Do you ever feel like the fear of rejection is holding you back? Like maybe there's someone that you would really like to ask out, someone that you've had your eye on for a long time, but when you think about asking them out, you think about them maybe saying, no, you don't even want to try. Or you're an artist of some kind and you'd like to share your art, you'd like to publish it, you'd like to maybe even pursue it as a career. For me, this was writing. But when you think about being criticized for that art, you don't even want to throw your hat in the ring if that's something you can relate to. The good news is that you don't have to continue to relate to it, because there's people in the world that are basically immune to rejection. They don't feel it in the same way that you might, and they don't fear it. And the only difference between them and someone who has issues with rejection and who kind of fears it is the way that they perceive it in their mind. And that's what we're covering today. How can you make those quick little tweaks that are going to make rejection kind of feel like something that just rolls off your back, like nothing at all? So first thing that you need to do is just think of a time that you've been rejected in the past, or of a fear that you have of being rejected in the future. Asking someone on a date, going for a job interview, whatever it is for you, hold that in your head as we go through these steps. First thing that you want to do with that rejection is disassociate yourself from the rejection. Quick example for charisma on command, love with. These are the things that stop most of the other people that if I continue to run through, I continue to roll the dice, I'm going to hit it eventually. So make the fact that life is a dice roll your competitive advantage, and you will get there and make you feel good about it. Fourth thing that I found very interesting is when I talked to people who had no issue with rejection and people who did. The biggest difference across the board was that the people who had no issue didn't use the word rejection. It just wasn't in their vocabulary. They struggled to think of rejections, even though their past, according to most people, was littered with rejections. And the reason is that the word rejection is tied up with worthiness. When you say, she rejected me, he rejected me, that company rejected me. What that implies is that they looked at you in your totality as a human being, and they said, not worthy. That's why it stings. It's not because they said, you don't have the job prerequisites to get this job that runs off our backs. We don't really care about that. It's when we feel unworthy. And the quickest way to get rid of rejection is to throw that word out and be more specific. So a job doesn't want you. You can say, I, I wasn't a good match for what they were looking for. A girl doesn't like you. A guy doesn't like you. You can say, you know what? They didn't like my joke, or they weren't into the way that I looked, or they didn't simply feel that we matched. Whatever it is, there is a more accurate, descriptive way that kind of comes from that disassociating in step one that will better suit you than saying, I got rejected. Cut that out of your mental talk. Cut that out of your verbal talk. Don't say that to friends. And you'll find that you start to not feel so timid about the idea of being turned down, because it's not about your worthiness. It's just about some skill set. It's just about the way that you're presenting yourself. That is the difference between people who don't have an issue with rejection and people who do. So I hope that you found this helpful. If there's a piece of art you've not published, if there's a person you've not asked out, I hope you've gone through these steps and that you go for it. That would. Honestly, nothing would make me happier than to have this video inspire a couple of you guys to do that. So if that is the case and you do do it, let me know in the comments. Or even if you want to commit to doing that, that would be really, really cool. I hope that you guys have enjoyed this video. But before I go, I should say, of course, subscribe to the channel if you've not yet done so. We have new videos like this every single Monday. We have talking head style or charisma breakdowns. We do the world's most charismatic people and the things that you can learn from them. So that's like Tyrion Lannister, Will Smith, Arnold Schwarzenegger, whoever it is. If you have any suggestions, of course, write those in the comments. But if you subscribe, you're gonna see those people. So now, I hope you guys have enjoyed this video. I hope you take this, go out, go get rejected, but really just learn something from the situation and let me know how it goes. So hope you enjoyed the video and I'll see you in the next one. I hope that you guys have enjoyed this video. I hope you take this, go out, go get rejected, but really just learn something from the situation and let me know how it goes. So hope you enjoyed the video and I'll see you in the next one.