If You See This, You're Being Lied To

If you can't tell when someone is lying, it opens you up to being manipulated, cheated on, or stolen from, and having no idea until it's too late. So in today's video, we'll go through nine tricks to spot a liar. We'll do this by breaking down some clips of actors lying about the movie. No Way Home. Fair warning, there will be minor spoilers. Now, this may surprise you, but most unpracticed liars actually try to avoid outright lying. Watch this quick clip of Tom Holland to see what I mean and. And notice his body language.

Any chance there's a multiverse in which Andrew Garfield's Spider man and Tobey Maguire's Spider man and Uber's Spider man all meet together, clashing?

That'd be dope.

And then you can sort of just say that everyone just comes from a different universe.

But would you want that, though?

Would you want that? Maybe that's a better question.

Yeah, would we want that?

Tom tries to avoid lying by avoiding answering at all. But while it's easy to hold back your words, it's much harder to hide your micro expressions. In this case, Tom fidgets with his hands, which could be a sign that the question makes him nervous. He's also fighting back a smile. When someone's trying to hide something they're excited about, it's not uncommon to see a quick, repressed smile. There's also a darker, more sinister smile that you may see when someone's lying to you. It's known as Duper's delight, a quick smile that comes from the thrill of deceiving you. This next clip is of a mother who killed her own children. In an interview from before she was the suspect. Notice how out of place her smile is given her words.

When I go to bed, I cry at night. Even now, I still cry. I dream about Cheryl.

That is a bizarre sentence to say with a smile. Look for it again in this next clip. She's talking about how much she allegedly loved her children, yet she has to fight back a smile right after she lies and says, they took it from me.

They give me satisfaction, they give me stability. They give me a reason to live and a reason to be happy. And that's gone. They took it from me. But children are so easy to conceive.

If you see someone bite back a smile when it seems inappropriate, you may have caught Duper's delight. Some other signs to look for are increased blinking, rapid, shallow breathing, a leg shaking, or hard swallows. But before you assume someone is lying based on their body language, it is extremely important to establish a baseline of their normal behavior first. This is why FBI investigators will start with questions completely unrelated to the case. You need to understand what someone looks like normally before you can catch them lying. So to dive into the next way to spot a lie, let's start by looking at an honest answer from Andrew Garfield just to establish a baseline for how he acts during interviews.

Have you seen the trailer? Have you seen. Are you. I know you're a Spider man fan because we've talked about when you were Spider man, but have you seen the trailer to this new one?

I have, and I'm excited. And I think that Tom Holland is just the perfect Peter Parker and Spider.

Man you saw there. He answered definitively and with no hesitation. Now contrast that with this next clip when he's asked if he's in no.

Way home photo going around on the Internet of you and Tobey Maguire on the set of Spider Man. Yeah, the new Spider man movie. And. And. And I was like, wow.

Not sure about that.

Andrew gives a soft response with way less conviction than normal. He's also hesitating and dragging out his words, which are both ways to buy time to figure what to say next. A soft denial alone doesn't prove someone's lying, but he quickly follows up with another sign of deception testing. Deception testing is when someone changes the details of their story as they try to find the most convincing lie. As an example, listen to how Andrew first answers this next question.

Have you seen the photo?

What? What are you talking about? Well, if you show me the photo, I can tell you whether it's it's me or whether it's a real thing.

So that's his first try. Then he realizes it's unrealistic. He wouldn't have seen such a viral photo of himself. So he changes his story.

Yeah, yeah, it's been erased. But it was around and we all saw it and I heard about it.

And I did see it.

And it's a Photoshop in your own life. When you suspect someone is lying, ask them questions that get them to repeat different aspects of their story and. And then take note of what details change. When this soft denial on Jimmy Fallon didn't convince people, Andrew actually switched to Tom's approach and avoided answering at all.

This Spider Man Photoshop thing that we talked about on Jimmy Fallon. Listen, at this point, people just like, I'm done. Like, we'll all find out when the movie comes out.

This is a strategy you may see in your own life. Someone will act annoyed by a question in order to avoid answering the question. Take it as a red flag if someone tries to get you to stop asking questions by making you feel like the bad guy for asking them. In addition to a soft response, you also want to look out for what's called an indirect response. So again, just have something to compare to. Take a look at this clip from Emma Stone. This is a direct denial.

There also are rumors that you're going to be involved. Have you heard these rumors?

I have heard those rumors. I don't know if I'm supposed to say anything, but I'm enough.

That's what Andrew said, too. So you're in good company.

I mean, what you're supposed to respond as a.

As an alumnus, you saw a change of tone, but she gives a very straightforward no, I'm not. Compare that to Andrew, who uses an analogy to avoid directly saying he isn't in the movie.

I feel like I'm in a game of fucking Werewolf or Mafia, where I'm like, I'm not the werewolf. I promise you, I am not the werewolf. And everyone's like, you're the werewolf, you're.

The f ing werewolf.

One indirect response on its own isn't always a tell, but keep an eye out for if someone will only give you indirect responses.

For the record, my friend, on a stack of. Whatever you have there, you are not, as of this taping in or have any knowledge of being in the next Spider man movie.

I feel like, like. I feel. I feel like. I like. Haven't I just said that?

You also probably noticed he stammers in his answer, which he doesn't normally do. See if you can spot the next sign of deception yourself. Since we've isolated it to this clip, it should be obvious.

I want to get really clear. This is the unequivocal yes, no answer.

I did not get a call.

Does that sound familiar?

I did not have sexual relations with that woman.

We'll call this the Bill Clinton method. It's when someone technically tells the truth while they're trying to deceive you. In Bill's case, he argued sexual relations didn't include receiving oral sex. In Andrew's case, maybe he found out from his agent via text or email. In either case, if someone uses slippery language or answers a question other than the one you asked, it should make your ears perk up. There's one more sign most people don't consider when trying to spot a lie, and that is a bigger laugh than normal, especially when it's in response to a question. Again, it's all about comparison to baseline. Let's compare two laughs from Andrew Garfield. First, a genuine laugh and second, an over the top laugh.

Anything ever happened to you during a live performance that was a mess up? Where you're like, oof, this is gonna be tough to work through. We know what's up. Do you know what's up? What I'm telling you is you're gonna be. You're in the new Spider man no.

Way Home on its own, a big laugh doesn't automatically mean someone is hiding something. Maybe they just found it funny. But it should pique your curiosity if you see a big laugh after a sensitive question. Big laughs before a lie happen for two to release nervous tension and to stall while they think of a response. The last potential tell to look for is shrinking body language. This can be things like hunching forward, looking down, or hiding your hands. In Andrew's case, you see him look down a lot in interviews when talking about no Way Home, but he does this in other interviews as well. So while avoiding eye contact could mean someone is hiding something, in Andrew's case it's more of an overall habit. That's something in general that you want to be aware of. A lot of these tells that make you look like a liar could just come from a lack of confidence. Speaking hesitantly and without conviction, Looking down, fidgeting. No one thing in this video guarantees that someone is lying. But if you catch several of these in the same conversation, let it be a red flag. Now on the other side of things, if these are nervous habits you worry you might have, especially in moments like when you're talking to someone you really admire or are very attracted to, then you may like our program Charisma University. It has a one week step by step guide specifically designed to help you build strong, confident body language habits, and another one week guide to help you build a deep, unshakeable confidence you'll feel even in situations that used to make you nervous. Overall, it is the fastest way I know of to become more confident and charismatic. You can read all the details in the link below, but I figured the best way to let you know what the program's about is to have past members speak for themselves. So here are just a few things that people have written in the first is from a guy who was interviewing for new jobs. He says, I interviewed at dozens of places for jobs after medical school. At the end of one of my interview days, the doctor pulled me aside and said that I had hands down, the best interview out of everybody and that they would love to have me at their program. They ranked me number one and it's my current job. Another person wrote in about their social life saying, it has truly been incredible. I've instantly had results that seem insane. More meaningful connections. My friendships have improved and my interactions with total strangers are a new, exciting, fulfilling thing. I want to recommend this to everyone. This should be in our basic education system and this last one is from someone who says it's been life changing. Your course has been life changing to the point where I wake up in the morning feeling like I've transferred to a new person's body. The person I kept dreaming about becoming before I found charisma on command. It is incredible. I've found myself and I've found what makes me happy. If you want to join but you're not sure if it's right for you, you should know it comes with a 60 day money back guarantee. It's 60 days even though the whole course is only 30 days, because we want to make sure that every single member truly feels like they're getting massive value from the course. So you can take the whole program and then decide if it's worth the investment. If you want to learn more, go ahead and click the link on screen now or below in the description. Either way, I hope you enjoyed this video and I look forward to seeing you in the next one.