If You Want Respect, Speak Like This

Joe Rogan is so good in conversation, he just got $100 million to license his podcast to Spotify. And a big part of Joe's success comes from his ability to command respect from a broad range of people, from fighters to movie stars to academics. For an example of the kind of respect he commands from people, check out this clip of him and Jordan Peterson. You're a lot smarter than anyone might think, which is quite interesting. So you're a weird combination because you know, your Persona doesn't shout intellectual, but you're damn smart and you're tough as a bloody boot, and you ask really provocative questions. Now, most of the time, respect is something you have to earn over time. But in this video, we're going to go over four things you can do in conversation to immediately command more respect from the people around you. And while Joe may be helped by factors like the way he looks and his fame, the habits we're about to discuss will work for anyone who tries them. The first thing that we'll just touch on briefly that immediately helps Joe command respect is the way he speaks. As an example, listen to him discuss the physical difference between men and women in sports.

Most sports involve speed and power.

We have an entire video on how to create an attractive voice, so I'll link to that at the end of this video. And I won't touch on the strength or timbre of his voice, but three things you'll notice with Joe that help him instantly command respect is he does not rush. He emphasizes his words, and he uses pauses between words to hold your attention. Now compare that to Adam Conover, who he's debating at that moment.

I was talking to some people about.

This, and in sports. Not to pick on Adam here, but that moment is a nice example. If you use filler words like that, it can make you seem either uncomfortable or afraid that if you stop talking, you won't get to finish your thought. There are tactical things you can do vocally to command more respect, like putting emphasis on your last word. But the most important thing is your mindset. If you can remove the fear that you may lose someone's interest or get cut off, and you will naturally start to speak more slowly and with more presence. Joe is able to do this incredibly well because he does not allow other people to derail him if he has something important to say. We've all known someone who regularly gets steamrolled in conversation. It makes them look meek, even if they're a good person who potentially has interesting things to say. Joe refuses to let that happen if he's sharing something important to him. For example, watch in this clip as Joe confronts Jamie Kilstein about. About challenging someone to a fight over a political disagreement.

And you said you would like to enact violence on him and kickbox with him. You know he's not skillful at it.

Agreed upon.

Let me just say agreed upon kickboxing. That's not fair at all.

I'm jumping him in an alley.

Even if he's a. Even if he's 100 pounds heavier than you, if you're a skilled fighter, and you are, and you've been training for.

A long time, this unfazed delivery is a great way to handle it. The first time someone tries to interrupt you. He does this again later in the interview, ironically, while talking about Daniel Tosh being interrupted by a heckler.

100% uncensored ride through the mind and imagination of Daniel Tosh. Not to be interrupted by a moron, but. And when that moron does interrupt with something completely non ironic ridiculous.

But sometimes simply continuing to speak isn't enough to stop someone from interrupting you. So in certain situations where you feel the person has repeatedly tried to cut you off, you can call it out like Joe does here.

Not only is it not fair, it's kind of creepy. It's kind of creepy. Hold on a second, man. For real, As a martial artist, you're not picking on another martial artist.

Importantly, notice that he doesn't yell. It's important to remain calm when you call out the interruption. This is a great way to take control of a situation if things have gotten a bit heated. For instance, in his interview with Milo Yiannopoulos, Joe and Milo are constantly interrupting each other. But by calling it out, Joe takes command of the conversation and Milo shows respect for the call out by ceding the floor to Joe.

You also think there's the only way that a person could have ethics and morals and treat each other well.

I didn't say the only way.

Don't you think that people understand what's good and what's bad? Listen, if we're gonna have a conversation, we can't keep talking over each other like this. When someone is trying to make a point about something that's complex like this.

This isn't to say Joe will never let himself get interrupted. In fact, he often allows friends to speak over him when they're just messing around. If calling out an interruption feels a bit aggressive for you, there's a the. And then continue with your original thought. For example, here's a clip of Joe talking to Alex Jones about weatherperson and what they've said and then return back to what you were saying. This is a great way to command respect in a conversation and make the person you're talking to feel respected and heard. Now that said, Joe is not a people pleaser. He doesn't spend every second of the conversation trying to get people to like him. In fact, one of the strongest habits he has that immediately commands respect is that he will share his honest thoughts, even if he knows some people might not like them. Joe explains his mindset to Jamie Kilstein after Jamie claims he can't speak freely.

For fear of cancel culture and I couldn't say that. Crazy.

I couldn't say, why couldn't you say that?

Because it would be fat shame in the box that I had put myself in. I couldn't say that I was capable of saying it. I thought it, I said it off the air.

But why wouldn't you? See, this is where it gets real problematic when it comes to expressing your ideology. It's like if you can't be honest about your actual thoughts, then what you're.

Doing is for your own self esteem and integrity. You should be honest all the time. That said, there are three areas in particular where proactive honesty will instantly help you command more respect from the people around you. The the first is your own motivations for doing things. Most people try to pretend to be more charitable or angelic than they actually are, which can come off as unlikable or try hard. By contrast, watch Joe explain why he returned to Fear Factor. The reasoning to go back to it it's for the fu Money, right?

Oh yeah, 100% yeah, it's all for money.

This gets a laugh because of how blunt he is about it, especially since many people would pretend that money isn't the major motivator for their work. Even if it was. If you stand out from the crowd by sharing something about yourself that other people might not be comfortable sharing, you immediately get respect for your honesty, even if people don't like the motivation itself. The second area where honesty instantly commands respect is when you call someone else out for bad behavior. This is especially powerful in situations where the people around you are likely thinking the same thing but wouldn't have the confidence to say it. For example, watch him call out Jamie here for abusing the word like Google me.

It's like sexual misconduct stuff. And like that's really scary. And again, I don't want to be like, you know who the real victim of Harvey Weinstein is? Jamie Kilstein.

But, like, let me just stop you right here. If you say, like, one more time, head's gonna explode, dude.

I get comments like that.

It's brutal.

This clearly went over well with the audience. It's one of the top comments, but you don't want to get respect from people around you at the expense of your relationship with the person you're talking to. Joe understands this, so watch how he softens the call out.

I do it too, man. A lot of people do it. It's an easy one to do.

I'm gonna hit this.

I'm not perfect either. Is a great way to earn respect for your honesty and help maintain your relationship with the person you called out. The third area where Joe's honesty earns him respect is when he shares his opinions in the two no go topics of polite society, politics, and religion. These are topics many of us have been told to avoid, but Joe will buck that advice and share his honest opinions here, too, even when he knows he might get backlash for it. For example, here he is in 2013 discussing transgender MMA fighter Fallon Fox fighting in women's MMA, and she wants to.

Be able to fight women. He in mma, I say no way.

This can be a scary prospect for most people. One thing you can do to make this much easier for yourself is to proactively address ways you might be misunderstood. If you go out of your way to build common ground and answer their objections before they even say them, you'll feel much more confident doing this and it will be better received. For instance, watch how Joe makes it clear his issue is with Fallon fighting women, not the fact that she's transgender. He builds a bridge for people to agree with him on Fallon Fox without being transphobic.

You know, you want to be a woman and you want to take female hormones. You want to get a boob job. That's all fine. I support your life to live your right to live as a woman.

Joe later said this podcast caused some of the worst backlash he's ever faced online, but he was also respected for it by many people who agreed with him. When you're confidently honest about who you are and what you believe, you become like a magnet. Some people may be repelled, but you also attract people to you in a powerful way. The danger here is if you're receiving respect and praise from people you agree with, it can be easy to want to avoid anyone who disagrees with you and get caught in an echo chamber. Many people today are guilty of this. By contrast, Joe actively seeks to break the Echo chamber. He often brings on guests who have opposing viewpoints, and he's willing to change his mind on even his long held beliefs. For example, he. He was once vocal that the moon landings were fake, but after hearing opposing views, he changed his mind.

Married to, like, ideas and opinions like that, because they're not you, but we think that they are. They're like an extension of us. So we want to win these arguments. Yeah, we want to be right. I think it gets real scary when you want to be right and then you're willing to ignore evidence that might show that you're wrong. That's how I felt about myself.

Another example is when MMA coach Firaz Zahabi told Joe, who's been an athlete since childhood, that he's been working out wrong all his life.

If you're sore, you overdid it.

Whoa.

Because I can't train the next day if I'm sore. I open the wound every time I work out. Then what's that? I said I've overdone it every time I worked out. You may have, you may have. You gotta. There's a lot of people listening to this right now. Wait a minute.

Many people would let their ego get the best of them here and try to defend the way they've been doing something their entire life. Instead, Joe just laughs. This willingness to really consider alternative opinions is one of the things that makes Joe so fascinating to listen to in conversation, and it allows him to connect with a wide variety of people from all different backgrounds and all over the political spectrum. Now, one thing that helps Joe do all these things is that he seems to have a deep rooted confidence in himself. If you feel like you don't have the confidence to pull off some of this advice, I recommend checking out our program, Charisma University. It's the fastest way I know to build your charisma and confidence, and it's literally guaranteed to work in just 30 days. And it's structured with a daily action guide, so there's no guesswork when it comes to learning these habits. Now, you can read all about the details in the link below, but I figure the best way to let you know what this is all about is just to let the members speak for themselves. So here are just a few of the things that CU members have written in via email or the course comments. The first one comes from a guy who got promoted to a senior position early in his career. And he says, I don't even have a bachelor diploma yet. They want me to fill this position. And when asked why? This was the answer. You have great social skills which is rare for an engineer. You can then quick on your feet and you are open and self assured in your demeanor. Thank you so much for all that you taught me. You have truly changed my life because without CU I wouldn't have qualified for that position in a million lifetimes. Now this next one comes from another person who started a new job saying, I wanted to let you know that I nailed those first days at work. Everything that I needed was right there at the moment. The confidence, the energy, the smile, the positive mindset. And with all your tips from last Tuesday in mind, it just could not go wrong. And he finishes by saying I just wanted to emphasize that what I did the previous days would not even have come to my mind and if I had not discovered that Charisma is a skill that can be learned thanks to your YouTube channel and university program. And this last one is a comment in the course from someone who used it mainly to improve their social and dating life. And he says life changing in six weeks. I went from being socially awkward with few friends to the life of every event I attend. I also went from having serious girl problems to dating the girl of my dreams. Charisma University transformed me from a lonely introvert hoping to connect better with people to an energy filled extrovert who makes new friends everywhere I go. And there are more success stories like those in the comments if you decide to join the course. If you do join, it comes with a 60 day money back guarantee which is 100% for any reason at all. And it's 60 days even though the course is only 30 days because we want to make sure that every single person truly feels like they're getting a ton of value from the course. Otherwise you can just get a refund. So if you want to check the course out, go ahead and click the link on screen now or below in the description. We've had thousands of members go through this course and get a ton out of it and I hope that you decide to join if this is an area of your life that you're looking to improve. Either way, you deserve to feel respected and I hope this video has helped you and I look forward to seeing you in the next one.