If You’re Trapped in an Awkward Conversation, Say THIS

He shut her down.

Now this look communicates. Oh, what is going on here? This guy is crazy. Most of the time I smell like a foot. I can barely get myself out of my robe. You knew I liked you. You've been on the show. Yeah. That pause right there, that is letting awkwardness sit. With the power of AI and hindsight, we are going to dive into some of the most awkward celebrity interviews and fix them. And hopefully, if you watch this and take a few mental notes, you, you will learn how to avoid these awkward situations in your own life as well. Let's dive in using the powers of artificial intelligence and unawkward this interaction. This is a good one. First of all, congrats on your little bump. Congrats on your little bump. In this scenario, you guys may have seen this video. Basically what happens is Blake Lively is pregnant. She's beginning to show. My understanding is this was a public knowledge thing at this point. The interviewer comments, congrats on your little bump. Congrats on your pregnancy. To which Blake replies, congratulations, Congrats on not being pregnant. Or maybe you're fat or the implication is not totally clear, but it is not kind. And she will go on for the rest of this interview to ignore the host or the interviewer. Most of the time she'll be making eye contact mostly with her co star in this situation. We can fix it though. We can make it not awkward because Blake is now catching a lot of crap for this interview. And I'm just going to show you with the power of AI how we would do that. First of all, congrats on your little bump. Thank you. Problem solved. The rest of this interview doesn't have to go the way that it went. This problem doesn't come back to bite Blake Lively years in the future. It is generally the most charismatic and prudent thing to do when you receive a communication from someone that feels like it might be an attack is to project positive intent onto that. And what I often tell people is take any ambiguous communication, especially early in an interaction, and assume that it's positive, even if they were trying to take a shot at you. When you read positivity into what people say, it kind of can just derail that whole negative train they were going down and flip things to the positive. And now you're in the place you want to be anyway, so that's what you can do. Let's say that you are insecure about this and you don't want people pointing that out. Speak to that insecurity. Own the insecurity and make a bit of a light joke. This will let somebody know. Please don't continue going down this particular route. If you speak your insecurity rather than allowing it to come through passive aggressively, that's going to be much more effective. Let's assume that you're on the flip side. You're in the interviewer shoes. And we get to this moment here. Do you guys love wearing those kind.

Of clothes that you.

Yeah, yeah.

And, you know, working in digital.

Wants to talk about the clothes, but I wonder if they would ask the men about the clothes.

I would.

So at this moment, one of the things that you can do when someone is being passive aggressive towards you is invite them to take that passive aggression and make it active. And you do that with a question that speaks directly to the thing that they're not directly saying. Wants to talk about the clothes, but I wonder if they would ask the men about the clothes. Would you prefer that I didn't ask you questions about clothes? You stop the hiding behind. I wonder if people would ask other people about this. And you bring you and I into this and ask them their preference. One of two things is going to happen here. They're going to say, yeah, you know, I would like that. Or they're going to say, no, no, no. And now they're sort of backtracking and undoing the thing that they said and will probably wind up apologizing in some form to you or stopping with that continued passive aggression because you've invited it to come out directly. So let's move on to another sort of situation that could be read as a passive aggressive dig that made a moment of awkwardness. This one, another famous one.

First of all, you smell good, which is surprising.

There's your little big. Why is that surprising?

I don't know. I just wouldn't think of a guy who would have a nice scent on.

I'm gonna really work hard to not take that as a shot.

You know what I mean?

So Jonah is actually in this moment doing an externalization of the internal monologue that I just described, which is because I think you would smell nice.

No, but I don't. I don't have. Let's dissect that.

No, no, no, let's go back first.

Okay, let's go back.

So the nice thing here is that Jonas sort of calls it out, but then he releases it. He doesn't continue to punish Jimmy over and over and over again. This is not a very uncommon way for men to interact or these comedians to start conversations like this with some sort of a joke that is not necessarily the implication is not the nicest to the guest. The way to handle this most of the time is to agree and exaggerate and just let it go. So what that would look like here, something like this.

First of all, you smell good, which is surprising.

Most of the time I smell like a foot. I can barely get myself out of my robe. So this is a really important occasion for me to agree and exaggerate. That moment would let it go just as quickly. In fact, more quickly than calling it out and inviting an awkwardness. And here's a great example of Robert Downey Jr. Doing that same tip on the same show just a few years earlier.

Who's the biggest diva in the whole cast? Who do you think? Oh, you think it's Robert? Get that off the monitor.

I do think what was happening here is that Jonah was always the butt of the joke in any sort of group. He was like, made fun of for being the Hollywood fat guy.

Are you the fat guy in Hollywood.

Still, or do you have any other questions that are smart? He came back after years and having done therapy and was working on asserting boundaries so that that habit of being made the butt of the joke wasn't something that continued to happen to him all of the time. And I think he was a bit sensitive to it here, which is why he handled it the way that he did. This is a totally viable, reasonable way to handle a situation where you don't like the comment that somebody made to you and it will put them on notice that they probably shouldn't do that to you in advance because it's gay, that is expectations. We can get vicarious cringe in those situations. What you want to learn to do is to sit back and allow that awkwardness to exist without feeling that it is your job to. To fix it. And even these moments where somebody's being absurd as long as they're not hurting anyone, can actually be enjoyable and fun to watch. If you don't take on this burden of I have to make this social arrangement work in the way that I'm used to. In her case, it's, I have to talk about fashion and why it's important. In this particular interview, just sit back and let a guy who is one of the most famous comedians in the world just talk shit.

Icons. What do you. Do you believe in icons? I don't believe in personalities. I don't believe that you exist. But there is a wonderful fragrance in the air.

This is a wonderful opportunity. Opportunity for what? We talked about earlier, which is agree and exaggerate. So he just said something. The effect of I don't believe you exist, but there's a wonderful fragrance in the air. How could you agree and exaggerate on that and start to play with this energy rather than fight it? Which is what the interviewer continues to do and let a guy who is one of the most famous comedians in the world just talk shit.

Icons. What do you. Do you believe in icons? I believe in personalities. I don't believe that you exist, but there is a wonderful fragrance in the air.

This is a wonderful opportunity for what we talked about earlier, which is agree and exaggerate. So he just said something. The effect of I don't believe you exist, but there's a wonderful fragrance in the air. How could you agree and exaggerate on that and start to play with this energy rather than fight it? Which is what the interviewer continues to do.

I don't believe that you exist, but there is a wonderful fragrance in the air.

You're right, Jim. You don't exist. We're all just monkeys wearing rags, wandering the world. Sounded furious, signifying nothing. What does it mean? You know, just, just nonsense. Because the problem was I was sitting here trying to think of like a clever way to respond. And if you watch the rest of this, which is, yeah, he's, he's. While he is alluding to some philosophical and spiritual ideas of no self, he's also just making noise.

Shut her down.

Now the underlying thing here for awkwardness is that we often take so seriously what we're doing. And it's easy for us sitting on the outside to look at this woman at a fashion show and say, yeah, obviously this doesn't matter, just enjoy the conversation. But it's very hard to see those opportunities in our own life to just take it a bit easier and not allow the awkwardness to exist because it's not supposed to go any differently because than it is. These are what I have for you today. If you've enjoyed this style of video, let me know in the comments. I can do more of them. I'm going to be trying different kinds of formats and talking heads and breakdowns and all kind of stuff. So let me know what you thought in the comments. If you want to work on your own awkwardness and turn it into confidence and charisma, you might want to check out our course, Charisma University. It's our step by step program that is designed to help you master the skills of confidence and charisma in just a few minutes a day so that you stop feeling awkward and start feeling powerfully in control socially. Thousands of people have used Charisma University to transform their social lives, overcome any awkwardness they have, advance their careers and build stronger relationships, including in dating. And you can too. The best part is that Charisma University is completely risk free. It comes with a 60 day money back guarantee and if you're not happy with the course for any reason, you can get a full refund right from inside the program, no questions asked. So if you're ready to take your confidence, your charisma to the next level, click the link on the screen now to get started. Either way, hope you enjoyed this video and I will see you in the next one.