Master This And Women Will Naturally Want To Be Around You

In today's video, you'll learn six habits that instantly make you more attractive. We'll do this by breaking down some clips of Jack Harlow because he has an easy, authentic style of flirting that many women find extremely attractive.

You made me nervous. You've been making me nervous this whole interview.

Oh. Oh, Jack. Don't tempt me. I'm a married woman. But I'll leave him.

I'm right.

Now, let's start at the beginning with how to start a conversation. A big part of attraction is confidence. And you can show that confidence in the first 10 seconds of an interaction if you approach without hesitation. Most guys know they should approach without hesitating, but they get too nervous or their mind goes blank and they can't think of anything to say. So you end up circling the venue a few times without talking to anyone or glancing over a bunch of times before you approach, which sabotages your first impression. One thing that helps here is if you have an opening sentence you know you like. This isn't a constraint against being spontaneous. It's a backup plan in case your mind goes blank. Here are Jack's two favorite opening lines.

What's your best chat up line?

Oh, hi.

Is that it?

Undefeated.

Hi.

You know what else is undefeated? Hi, I'm Jack.

Of course, Jack has some big advantages over most people. He's a rich, famous celebrity. Saweetie even says she already knows who he is. But there is a riff on this line that anyone can use to start a conversation, especially at an event where it's possible. You know a lot of people, like a house party or local bar. It's hey, I don't think I've met you yet. I'm Jack. Except say your name. Adding the phrase I don't think I've met you yet helps your approach feel more natural. It explains why you're introducing yourself so it feels less randomly creepy. And it implies that you're social and you know a lot of people at the venue, at least enough that they stand out to you as someone you haven't met yet. This is a super easy way to get into conversation, but it won't magically make someone fall in love with you. In fact, even Saweetie doesn't initially show much interest. Instead playfully making fun of Jack. Watch how he handles it.

Why you shaking, Emma? Yeah.

Nobody'S shaking.

Nobody's shaking, Jacques. Step into the shade room.

So that brings us to habit number two. If someone teases you, assume they're being playful and take it positively. Some people will hear this advice and think it will make them look weak. But it's actually having a defensive response that makes you look reactive and less attractive. What's something that you really hate about a guy?

When I'm trying to go to the bathroom on six straight and they're like, hey, can I ask you a question?

You.

Would have looked more confident if he had been able to laugh along with her joke. Now, if they said something truly offensive to you, then obviously you don't have to stay playful. But at that point, don't worry about being attractive to someone who's genuinely rude to you. Better to find someone else to talk to. Okay, so let's get a bit more specific. What does taking a tease positively actually look like? Here's an easy framework you can steal from Jack. Step one, fake defensiveness. You say something defensive, but with a big smile. This shows that you're actually unfazed. For example, watch how Jack reacts when someone says something that could have been offensive to a lot of rappers at his level.

Here we are. You're nominated tonight. But what I realized is. And I thought you had. I thought you had already won a Grammy before. You haven't. So what would it mean for you to remind me, what would it mean for you though, to win a Grammy tonight? Because tonight can be a huge night for you. I mean, it's an honor to be nominated.

Mean a lot. You know, maybe when I do this interview next year, you won't be able to say that. So I'll feel good.

Step two, you can playfully tease them back.

I like drama.

Yeah. Okay. Okay. You like drama.

Yeah. I'm messy.

I think it's. I. I'm messy too.

No, I'm not messy, but thank you for admitting you are.

Okay, we don't. We're about to be done. Cuz you don't call me out twice on this interview.

You called me first thing happened when I walked over here. You said, you know, you don't have any Grammys. How's it feel?

I mean it in a positive way.

This ties right into habit Number three. Push pull. Use a mix of teases and compliments. Push pull. Makes conversation with you more fun because you're not predictable. Your teasing helps people get laughing and builds attraction. And your compliments make people feel good around you and show that your teasing doesn't mean you dislike them. For example, watch how Jack breaks the tension in that last conversation.

You've been nominated three times, but you haven't won. It could be a huge night for you. Six times. Three times tonight. Come on three times today.

One thing some men struggle with is complimenting a woman in a way that's not creepy. It's much easier to give a compliment and not come off creepy if you give a compliment that you would give regardless of if you're attracted to the person or not.

Hello, Jack Harlow. How you doing?

Y' all know how to make a man smile, that's for sure. Wow, you just brought a smile to my face, brother. You just warmed my soul up.

If you give someone a compliment, especially a physical compliment, you want to say it like you aren't trying to get anything back for it. That's the vibe Jack gives off, is that he's simply saying what he thinks is true without expecting anything in return for the compliment.

Is someone here though that you got your eye on?

Let me see.

I'm right here, Jack. Just kidding.

Don't get me wrong. You're beautiful. I just, you know, I. I thought you meant somebody on this sheet y' all got right here.

Again, this is helped by his experience saying compliments about people he doesn't have sexual interest in.

Can't even name who was on Dante. Murray was on there. Oh my God. Yeah, he's a good player. Take that back.

Oh, nice.

Love me some dejounte, Murray. He's smooth as hell. He's like a jaguar. Love his body. Love how he moves.

This is the second time you've said that you love somebody's body.

What you saying?

I'm showing too much love in your own life. If you want to practice this skill, make it easy for yourself and start with non physical compliments. And don't force yourself to give compliments. You don't mean just to practice. The practice is when you do think of something positive about someone, share it with them. That ties closely to another thing that makes Jack attractive. Honesty. In situations where a lot of guys would lie, you might think he's purposefully saying her opposite. But he's said this in multiple interviews. It's just his truth. Also, did you notice that when he says it, he smiles? There's a playful self amusement in saying something he knows isn't the answer most guys would give. That self amusement is also attractive. Here's one more example.

What like is the most romantic thing you've done for someone?

I bought them a plane ticket.

Was it private Jack?

No, economy. 58C.

Beautiful women are used to guys who will say anything to try to get a date. So ironically, you stand out when you don't seem like you're trying hard to impress Them in general. Jack gives off a cool, calm vibe because he isn't desperate for a romantic connection. You saw that in that earlier clip where the woman says, I'm right here, Jack. And it's consistent in his interviews.

Okay, well, I hear that you got a song called Dua Lipa on the album.

Yeah, it's true.

Do you want to go on a date with her?

I'd be open minded. You know, I just. You know what I really like to do with Dua Lipa.

Yeah.

Was that you shooting your shot at Saweetie?

That was me saying hello. But you can't say hello these days.

I guess you could say hello, but, you know, it was a nice hello. Like a real smooth.

I'm a nice person.

Okay. Would you ever shoot your shot at sweetie?

Nah, that's a friend. That's a friend vibe.

Notice he doesn't say they aren't beautiful. He's not putting them down. He's just not instantly all in. If you show interest in dating someone just because they're attractive, it makes you less attractive to be attractive. Have standards beyond beauty. You'll be more interesting and you'll avoid relationships with people who aren't right for you. One thing that can help you have better dating standards is having other things in your life that you care about. In Jack's case, he's open to dating, but his top priority is his music. It's his career and his passion. And he cares more about it than meeting women or partying.

Even when first class goes number one, how do you celebrate? Everybody was like, come on, let's at least do champagne and sh T. We went to the studio. Everyone in there took. Took some champagne. I didn't drink, but I felt good. I'm just head down right now.

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