Subtle Tactics To Outsmart Anyone

Littlefinger is probably the single best player in the Game of Thrones. He's indirectly led to the downfall of at least three major houses and has advanced his own station at every opportunity. In this video, we're going to explore what it is that he does that makes him win and how deviating from his strategy may lead to the end of his winning streak. Two caveats before we begin. First, spoilers through season six and some speculation into season seven and two don't do the things that Littlefinger does. It's fun to analyze Littlefinger's manipulations and learn how you can avoid them in your own life, but don't be a liar or a backstabber. It's just not cool. So let's begin. Game of Thrones is all about power. Some people, like Cersei, use their position to command others.

Seize him. Cut his throat.

Stop.

Await. I've changed my mind. Let him go. Power is power.

Then there's people like the Mountain who literally just dominate through physical brute force. But in the long run, it's those who wield power more subtly that excel in the game. And perhaps no one is more subtle than Peter. He is the ultimate player in the game because he gets other people to do exactly what he wants to without them even knowing that he has influenced them. How does he do this? Well, first off, Peter is able to hide his influence because he doesn't try to convince anyone of anything. He may make a few persuasive points, but he very quickly drops the discussion when he senses that someone is digging in their heels. Watch how quickly he allows Sansa to stay in King's Landing after offering her help escaping and having her deny him.

I can see so much of her. And you. She was like a sister to me. For her sake, I'll help get you home.

King's Landing is my home now.

Look around you. We're all liars here and every one of us is better than you.

Instead of insisting, he just plants the seed of doubt in Sansa's head and then lets her ponder it until later on. She literally begs for his help.

You said you'd take me home.

You said King's Landing was your home. Were the property of the crown. Stealing you would be treason if you were to tell just one.

I won't tell anyone.

How do I know?

Because I'm a terrible liar. You said so. You'll see. Please, Lord Baelish, tell me what to do. Tell me when.

In addition, once Littlefinger has made his case to persuade someone, he will immediately make it clear that the decision is theirs. Listen to what he says to Sansa after informing her that he plans to wed her to the Boltons. Side note, I know that book Littlefinger probably never would have made this move because it's kind of ridiculous to give Sansa a Sansa, Sansa, who knows? But this conversation is still still indicative of Peter's general strategy of not being pushy when trying to persuade someone. Sansa, no, you can't make me. I will starve myself. I will die before I have to go there.

I won't force you to do anything. Don't you know by now how much I care for you? Say the word and we'll turn the horses round. But listen to me. Listen. You've been running all your life so.

Why does Littlefinger do this? Wouldn't it just be faster to tell people what to do now? It might seem that way, but when people agree to what you want out of pressure, they don't own the decision. And when they don't own the decision, they might go along with it for a bit, but they're unlikely to stick with it in the long run. That's because one of the fundamental drivers of all human action is the need to feel in control. When people feel like they've made a decision on their own, they're much more likely to stick with it. So as counterintuitive as it may seem, when you try to talk someone into something and are non stop persistent, you decrease the odds that they'll do that thing even if it's good for them, simply because they want to feel in control. Littlefinger gets this so everything that he does is intended to make other people feel like their decisions are their own, when in reality he's pulling the strings behind the scenes. By the way, if you want to see more on how people like Tyrion and Daenerys and the Starks differ in their use of power, I set up a Game of Thrones playlist that analyzes each of them. Just click the link in the description or the white button in the upper right hand corner to watch. But back to Peter with regards to his subtlety. In the next scene he's dealing with Robin, who is simple minded and he can get him to focus on the fact that Sansa isn't safe, which lets him come to his own obvious conclusion.

Friends in the north tell me Sansa has escaped Winterfell. I expect she's headed to Castle Black where her brother serves as Lord Commander, but she won't be safe there, not with the Boltons. After Her? She's my cousin. We should help her. That was my instinct as well.

This is very similar to what Littlefinger does with Ned when it comes to convincing him to pursue Jon Arryn's path of inquiry. If Littlefinger were to insist that Ned stay in Kinn's Landing and play detective, Ned probably would have dug in his heels, become suspicious of Littlefinger's motives and then refused him. But instead, by peaking Ned's curiosity, telling him it would only take an hour to explore, and then stepping out of the room, Littlefinger gets Ned to own this decision, which ultimately, ultimately leads to his death.

When do you return to Winterfell? Why? What do you care? If you're still here come nightfall, I'll take you to see the last person John Aaron spoke with before falling ill. If that sort of thing still interests you. I don't have the time. It won't take more than an hour. But as you please, round the pool of men we have.

There is another benefit to influencing in this subtle way, which is that people don't ever know what you want. As Littlefinger says, a man with no.

Motive is a man no one suspects. Always keep your foes confused. If they don't know who you are or what you want, they can't know what you plan to do next.

So that's the first and biggest lesson of Littlefinger's influence. When people sense that someone is wielding power over them, they can feel the ulterior motive and they resist. But when they feel that they've come to their own conclusions, they're more likely to move forward. So Littlefinger is always careful to make sure that people with status never feel that he is wielding power over them. The second big thing is that Littlefinger does not let his ego get in the way of his goals. People insult him, talk down to him, and underestimate him all the time. But Littlefinger, and especially book Littlefinger, do not rise to these taunts. He knows that it's going to eventually just raise his profile and create an enemy down the line. So instead, he shows no signs of outward animosity when people slight him.

Flooded the gutters with wine, smashed the false idols and set the godless on the run. Well done. I'm here on urgent business for the Queen Mother. Should I send word that I'll be delayed?

This turn the other cheek, at least outwardly, mentality is the opposite of what Cersei does. She makes situations worse for herself by running her mouth to protect her ego, for instance. There is no strategic play to insult your jailer in front of other people. If anything, it's just going to get you worse treatment. But Cersei lets her ego get in the way of her interests and winds up running her mouth as soon as she is taken by the Faith Militant.

Look at me. Look at my face. It's the last thing you'll see before you die.

Speaking of Cersei, I'm thinking of doing a video on her in the future, so let me know if you're interested or if there's another character that you'd prefer in the comments. Back to Littlefinger, though. He also does a good job of keeping his ego in check when it comes to allowing others to think that they control him. Listen how Lysa discusses Littlefinger's plans to capture Sansa as if it's something that she let him do. Now we know better. Clearly he was the mastermind, but most people of status wouldn't tolerate that slightly. Littlefinger, though, stays silent, happy to have Lysa feign that she is in charge of decisions.

Don't you think I know who you are? You think I'd let my intended leave the eerie and urgent business without knowing what that business was? I let him go so he could bring you here to me.

It's true in our own lives too. People don't necessarily want to be in charge. They want to feel like they're in charge and they want others to recognize them as being the leader. In the same vein, Petyr Baelish has no problem letting other people take credit for his hard work. He leaks information to people around him, always leaving them grateful and proud that they get to sit in the limelight and receive praise, when in reality they only get the information that he wants them to have because he knows what they're going to do with it. In the case of telling Cersei about the Tyrell's plans to marry Sansa to Loras, Littlefinger correctly predicts that the Lannisters will respond with sneaky marriages of their own.

Stop that. You're making me uncomfortable.

Your sister has learned that your new friends the Tyrells are plotting to marry Sansa Stark to Ser Loras. We find Sansa Stark a different husband.

Wonderful.

Yes, it is. You should be thanking the gods for this. This is more than you deserve.

Tyrion will do as he's bid. As will you. What do you mean you'll marry Ser Loras?

I will not.

So Cersei feels good initially because she gets the praise from Tywin and she gets to tell him all this new information, but ultimately she doesn't get what she wants. And this is what makes Littlefinger unique. Because while everyone else is pursuing the trappings of power, like respect, titles, praise, the ability to mouth off and not worry about the consequences, Peter only wants the big wins. He has one singular goal in mind, and everything else, including his ego, is just a distraction. There is a lesson here to be applied in your own life, which is that if you prioritize your ego and you prioritize being shown respect, you deprioritize your other goals. Like the person who gets in a verbal altercation because someone called him a name rather than realizing they'd be much better off to just let it go and continue to enjoy their day. Serving your ego might seem like a good idea in the moment, but it usually takes you farther away from the things that you really want in life. And that brings us to the third major piece of Littlefinger's game, which is that he has a complete lack of sentimentality. For instance, he has absolutely no issue lying.

I swear on my life. I swear to all the gods. Let her go, Lysa.

He also doesn't feel any obligation to keep pawns in his game alive once they have served their purpose. And he is especially willing to kill people when they know enough about his plans that they could undermine him if they spoke to the wrong, wrong person. Just look what he did to Dontos after he delivered Sansa.

I should get back before someone thinks to look for me. First, you'll want your pay. 10,000, was it? 10,000? Wait.

For Littlefinger, nothing is sacred. And that means that he is even more able to focus on his goals without being distracted by honor or moral goodness. So, in sum, Littlefinger doesn't try to convince people. He allows his ego to be bruised in service of his goals. And he has no notions of sentimentality that would distract him from his aims. All of those things make Littlefinger a patient master player of the game that is won NonStop through season six and book five. But at least one of those pillars is getting wobbly. Specifically, his sentimentality when it comes to Sansa. Not only has he done his best to train her to become a player, he's encouraged her to acquire power and basically laid out his deepest desires to her.

A picture of me on the Iron Throne and you by my side.

Never before has Littlefinger let someone with so much power know so much about his ultimate goal. And that seems to me to be a massive tactical error that will cost him in the end. But that doesn't mean that his strategies have completely fallen apart he still doesn't insist or try to convince Sansa and he's still dropping subtle hints to drive a rift between her and Jon.

The time may come when you need an army loyal to you.

I have an army.

Your brother's army half brother. You my love are the future of House Stark who should the north rally behind? Trueborn daughter of Ned and Catelyn Stark born here at Winterfell or a motherless bastard born in the South?

So it seems that Littlefinger isn't quite out of the game and may even be successful at turning Sansa against Jon for a time but I think that he has sown the seeds of his own destruction in making Sansa such a knowledgeable player especially as to his own ambitions. And given how it looks like the Starks are about to collide back in the north my guess is that some combination of Sansa, Arya and Jon will finish him off by the end of season seven and I for one cannot wait to watch that happen.