The creator of Charisma on Command explains why he left the channel after a falling out with co-founder Ben. He reflects on personal growth and what comes next for him and his audience.
I have been afraid to make this video before, very, very recently. And I was afraid to make it because I knew that I hadn't gotten to the core of the answer why I quit. I feel like I'm there now and I want to share with you guys. So rather than beat around the bush, because I will give you the long story, the short version is that my co founder and I, Ben, had a large falling out. And that falling out was due to a deep lack of alignment in how we wanted to run the business and how we felt we'd each contributed to the business. And it led to a stalemate between he and I as 5050 partners and essentially the starvation death of charisma on command. The longer version of that story is that for those of you who don't know, Ben and I started this channel over a decade ago. We've been friends for more than two decades. We were best friends in high school. We spoke every day throughout college. Even though we lived in different cities, we were thick as thieves. And when we started this business, the whole idea was that it was going to be us together living our dream life. And it was, it was incredible. We went to Brazil, we started this channel. It was never meant to be the size that it got to, but it happened. And then probably 5ish years ago, I started noticing something about myself that I didn't like. And it was that I was being mean, I was being unkind. When he would die in a team video game, I was frustrated by our interactions together and feeling put upon to call him to go to certain events. And I didn't like that about myself. And for a long time I tried to change and be different and work on whatever was going on inside of me. And it took a long time to see that what was happening there was that resentments from business issues and things I hadn't addressed in other areas of our friendship were surfacing in the areas where it was safe content. He may decide to make something, but right now that's not what he wants to do. If that changes, I will tell you guys, I want you guys to be able to find anything that he makes. I want him to be able to access all the people that might have liked content that he made. Just because I don't necessarily want to do it with him anymore does not mean that I don't want the world to hear his voice. So that's him in terms of me. I'm so excited to get back to creating. It was a self inflicted wound that I stopped making videos in an attempt. It was so backwards to like let him catch up to the contribution that I felt I had contributed by kneecapping my own creative instinct, which just hurt all around. And it was a totally codependent, backwards, unconscious way of dealing with this whole problem. So I'm excited to get to creating again. I'm so excited to share everything that I've learned. These are things like boundaries, codependency, coping mechanisms, projection, all this kind of stuff. And I'm excited to do it in the Charisma on Command way, which is in a way that is fun for you guys, whether it's wrapped with Robert Downey Jr. Or Game of Thrones or whatever school nowadays. I'm so excited to make fun videos about the things that I wish I had known two, three, four, five years ago. So that's number one. Look out for way more videos. Probably at least one a week. Well, I shouldn't say at least look out for one a week. To start some old Charisma on Command videos, some new formats, some podcasts. I'm going to start to incorporate the podcast channel in a more meaningful way and bring segments over to the main Charisma on Command channel. That's one thing. The second thing is I want to make the most powerful program on uncovering the self confidence that you already have that has ever existed. I want it for my fans, I want it for myself. It is truly, it just speaks to me. That's what I want to do. And so I've learned a tremendous amount. That's going to take time. If you're already in Charisma University, look out for improvements. I don't know exactly what those will be, but I just, I want it to be excellent. And also look out for new programs because while Charisma University is an online at your own pace program, I want to have other things that are cohort based and in person where you're interacting with other people. That's been hugely, hugely helpful for me as I've gone through this entire multi year transformation, really. And so I want to offer that in the unique Charisma on Command Way to anyone who has felt connected to this content. And that's what's up. That's why I quit. That's why I'm back. I just want to say at the end of this, thank you guys. If you have ever watched, are watching or will watch a video. It has been a honor and a privilege to share everything that I've learned with you guys. The channel is a thinly veiled diary of mine where I try to share the most meaningful pieces of advice and guidance that have helped me in the struggles that I've had in my life in the hopes that you can move more gracefully through them in yours. And whether that's what do I text this girl, or how do I talk to my boss to get a promotion, or what do I say to keep the conversation going, or how do I deal with all of the stuff that I've been going through in the last couple years? That's what I want to offer. It's truly a gift to do it. And whether you love it or hate it, or idealize it or demonize it or disagree or agree, I so, so appreciate literally all of it. It is an honor and a pleasure, and I'm so excited to.
