This Energy Is Missing In Modern Men

Using it has been a core cause of the epidemic of male aimlessness. That missing archetype is the warrior, because it is the warrior that gives men their focus, their drive, and without it, they become weak and harmless in the worst way possible. Well, if you're harmless, you're not virtuous, you're just harmless. So I want to dive into four key aspects of the warrior that will wake that up inside of you so that you can retake control of your life.

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This is where we fight, making sociological factors behind this. But from a psychological perspective, there is one major contributor for all of these issues. Disconnection from the masculine archetypes. Now, you may not know what an archetype is, so let me explain why these are so important. An archetype is the part of your psychology that already knows how to live your highest potential. And each specific archetype unlocks a specific aspect of your highest potential. The king knows how to lead with deep conviction and power. The magician knows how to break through stuckness and create transformation. And the lover knows how to love fully. But most of us are disconnected from these archetypes, and so we don't live up to our highest potentials. That's why we have always told myths and made art that remind us of these archetypes, because those stories wake us up to the version of ourselves that already knows how to live with confidence, courage, and purpose. I've already mentioned the first three masculine archetypes, the king, the magician, and the lover. But it's the final masculine archetype that is the most discouraged by modern society. And I believe that first, the warrior loves his aggression. And it's no secret that modern society does not know what to do with the aggression of boys and men. From a very young age, we talk about being able to sit quietly and regulate your emotions and not be aggressive and not be impulsive. The problem is that aggression can't simply just be turned off or pushed down. It needs to be channeled. Because aggression is the fuel that enables men to draw boundaries. When men are taught how to harness this power from a young age, they learn to assert themselves and defend their boundaries without violence or even needing to raise their voice. And you can see that contained aggression. Here. Here's the thing, Peter. You're stepping over a line now you're stepping over a line. You know you are. I suppose they're questions that people want to know, Peter, you want to know. But if aggression is demonized and never given an opportunity to express itself, it gets Turned inward and shows up as depression. So boys and men need to connect with their aggression and learn to channel it. This is a physical act, which can mean training sports or just yelling your lungs out in private about everything that's pissing you off at first. This can feel frightening because we were taught that aggression always winds up hurting someone. But letting this energy flow in contained environments will help you to set those boundaries that we talked talked about and make you more confident and competent in every area of your life. And this takes us to the second point. The warrior defends sacred solitude. Almost everything in the modern world is fighting to keep you pseudo connected all the time. And I say pseudo connected because it's not true connection as much as it is distracted engagement. What happens when you're just scrolling and strolling and you just can't like stop? Well, social media has essentially taken human connection and turned it into a drug.

The moment you turn it on, it's like playing you a new thing playing. You're like you just sucked into it.

This is why the warrior must create sacred solitude. This is non negotiable daily time alone. And it allows him to connect with what truly matters to him and to apply himself to training that is required to manifest his goals.

Because I know you're into meditation, I know you spend a lot of time in dark rooms. There is something what you can do better. Yeah, every day. And that's my idea of the training life life idea.

Now, for people who are not professional fighters, this looks at least like taking some time every day with your phone on. Do not disturb or leaving it behind entirely. It means that you take dedicated work sessions with no distractions or interruptions. And the productivity gains alone are worth it. But the real value of this solitude is in knowing that you have honored your own priorities. And that takes us to the next point. The warrior seeks out risk.

There is no glory to be had now. Only retreat or surrender or death. That's an easy choice for us Arcadian Spartans never retreat.

So much of our modern safety obsessed world demonizes risk. As young boys, we were encouraged to not do things that might get us hurt. And made to feel reckless if we did. And as adults, well meaning loved ones encourage us to take the path that carries the least possibility of pain.

We're not going to let you ruin your life. Tomorrow I'm withdrawing you from Welton and enrolling you in Braden Military School. You're going to Harvard and you're going to be a doctor.

But what the warrior knows is that without risk he cannot Tap into his deepest capabilities. The ones that are buried beneath self doubt and fear. He knows that the possibility of meaningful failure is actually a gift. So the warrior seeks out risk and makes friends with fear. This relationship means that he knows how to risk wisely in the perfect amount to keep him on his edge.

Why can't you change your thinking? Everybody else does. Because I'm a fighter. That's the way I'm made, Atrian.

Which is unlike the man who never risks anything and then overestimates his abilities. And even if the warrior loses, he grows faster than others, eventually accomplishing what seemed impossible. This takes us to the final point. The warrior embraces the power of death.

Are you a man who once said, death smiles at us all? All a man can do is smile back.

Death is often denied in the modern era. So much of our society is organized around hiding it from ourselves. Our sick and our dying are removed from communal spaces. So that by the time we're adults, most of us have actually only seen maybe a handful of dead bodies. And the death we do encounter is in video games and media, where it's easily surmounted and stripped of its full weight. Or it's something that happens over there in another part of the world to people unlike us. The warrior knows, though, that death walks with him at every moment. And this fills every moment with overwhelming gratitude.

The gods envy us. They envy us because we're mortal. Because any moment might be our last. Everything's more beautiful because we're doomed.

His time on earth is a blessing that will not last forever. And this spurs him to live fully without shame. This is liberating, because so many men are drowning in shame. Don't cry. Don't laugh too loudly. Don't look dumb singing or dancing or enjoying yourself too much. Or God forbid, trying earnestly and failing. But in the face of death, all of those concerns are irrelevant. So the warrior sings, dances, laughs, plays, and fights all out.

It's an honor to die at your side. It's an honor to have lived at yours. And you're already dead, brothers. What we do in life echoes in eternity.

He lives with an open heart because there is nothing to lose. And he is magnetic to others because he is fully alive.

Those who cling to death, live. Those who cling to life, die.

So as you reflect on this, I want you to ask yourself, how do you want to spend your precious time? What have you been holding back in order to feel safe? And what are you willing to live all out for? You don't need to answer with words. Just feel it. If you want to know the best way that I have to get into that place of felt warrior clarity, I've worked with a friend to create a special breathwork session just for that, and I cannot recommend it enough. Breathwork is my sacred solitude every day. And this warrior track is great. You can click here to watch that right now on YouTube. Or if you want to watch my video on the Power of the King archetype, you can click here. Either way, I hope that you've enjoyed this video and I'll see you in the next one.